In today’s world, a lot is said about physical and mental problems, and this is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, a lot used to be said about the former whilst very little was said about the latter.

Taking this into account, it could be said that this shows how far society has come. There is still work to be done, of course, but there is far more support available for people who are not in a good way than there was before.

For Example

When it comes to mental problems, there are the ones that are often spoken about and those that are not. On one hand, there is anxiety, depression, panic attacks and phobias.

On the other hand, there is insomnia, self-harm, eating disorders, obsessive behaviours and psychosis. Along with these, there are numerous others ways in which someone’s ability to handle and enjoy life can be affected.

Two Sides

What this also illustrates is that while one person who is not in a good way might be able to function and be a productive member of society, another that isn’t in a good way won’t be able to function and be a productive member of society. This is why it has been said that even though someone may create the impression that everything is fine, it doesn’t mean that it is.

When someone like this is around others, they can essentially put on an act and, then, when they are by themselves, this act will disappear. The outcome of this is that what is really going on for them is likely to consume them.

A Matter of Time

But, even if someone is in this position, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to behave in this way for long. Sooner or later, their ability to keep it together and function could come to an end.

Consequently, it could seem as if they have simply changed overnight; in reality, this will be the result of what has been going on for them for a little while. What this will illustrate is how well they were able to hide what was going on for them and keep going.

The Focus

Now, if this person was to reach out for support, or anyone else for that matter, the area of focus is likely to be their mind. Therefore, what is going on up top will be the problem, and changing this will be the way for them to change their life.

Additionally, they may be told that they need to go on medication, if only for a short period of time. When it comes to changing what is going on up top, this can primarily be seen as something that will take place by them changing their thoughts and questioning what they believe, for instance.

It’s Faulty

It can be as though this part of them is just playing up and will be sorted out by them changing their software, so to speak. Ultimately, their mind will be the main issue and once this part of them has been sorted out, they will be able to handle and even enjoy life again.

So, by engaging in this process, it might not be long until their inner world changes and they are able to carry on with their life. Then again, this approach might not have much of an effect on them.

Another Angle

However, even if this approach does work, why does it work? Does it work because they are simply using their frontal cortex to unknowingly repress pain that is trying to enter their conscious awareness?

With this in mind, if this approach doesn’t work, is it because their ability to use this part of them to repress this pain is not very effective? Unless they were to step away from the mainstream and even beyond popular self-development material are they likely to consider this.

On The Surface

What this comes down to is that they are likely to live in a very mind centred society and in this society, it will be all about the mind. They are then going to have a mind and a physical body and that will be about it.

If their brain is mentioned, it could be a time when they will be told that this part of them is not functioning as it should due to a chemical imbalance. As for the pain that is trying to enter their conscious awareness, this will be pain that has been held back by their brain.


Upon hearing this, they could wonder where this pain has come from as they are unlikely to live in a society that acknowledges, let alone dismisses that they are carrying pain. This pain will have been held in their brain and body.

Although this pain won’t have fully broken through, hence why they are not aware of it, they will be aware of the effect that it has on them. So, whether they have irrational thoughts, anxiety problems and/or panic attacks, for instance, this can be a sign that their mind is under a lot of pressure and is doing what it can allow them to keep it together.

One Part

The pain that they are carrying can be the result of what they have experienced as an adult, during their formative years, their birth and when they were in their mother’s womb. What took place will be in the past, that much is clear, but the pain that they experienced and repressed won’t be.

Yet, if repressed pain is not taken into consideration, it will naturally just seem as though their mind is just playing up and changing this part of them will be the way forward. The fact that repressed pain is largely ignored in today’s world shows how effective the average person’s brain is at keeping their pain out of their conscious awareness; so effective, in fact, that whole societies have been created that don’t acknowledge this.


If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author of 25 books, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, inner child and inner awareness. With over two thousand, eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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