Can you really say that you like yourself? Or that you love yourself?
For many of us, this is a hard thing to do. We are so critical of ourselves.
When we don't have good self esteem, many areas of our life will suffer. We will find it hard to make good relationships and friendships. ... Views: 2112
How do you feel about getting rejected? Does rejection devastate you, or do you shrug it off?
Rejected. It can be such an ugly word.
One of the reasons why rejection can cause us so much difficulty is that in our minds we often tie rejection to so many other ugly words that cause us even ... Views: 2030
When I was doing my research for my special report on making friendly conversation, I discovered that there’s a lot of information out there on the topic of how to start a conversation, and a lot of information about how to keep a conversation going.
On the topic of how to end a conversation, ... Views: 2030
Visualization is a very hot topic these days.
Part of the reason that visualization is so popular is because there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that by use of visualization, we can improve in confidence and performance.
For example, visualization is often used to help elite athletes ... Views: 1985
In every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person we care about; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt.
Hurt feelings will occur in friendships, in intimate relationships, and even between two ... Views: 1877
Are you one of those people who finds it difficult to start up a conversation with somebody new, or someone you barely know?
This is a very common problem. Most of us find it a little bit challenging to start conversations with strangers. When we first meet someone, we don’t know much ... Views: 1874
Maureen worked in an office with twenty other people, processing checks. She didn't particularly like her job, but she didn't particularly dislike it either.
Getting ahead in her career wasn't important to her until the day that her friend and co-worker Betty was promoted to be the boss of ... Views: 1831
One of the most common reasons that friendships and romantic relationships break up is because one of the people involved in the relationship or friendship decides he or she really cannot trust the other person.
It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been ... Views: 1789
Over the centuries, human beings have developed many techniques to gain access to their inner wisdom and improve learning.
One technique that many people have found very beneficial is to have an imaginary guide that they can call on for advice and insight.
A modern variation of this ... Views: 1778
If you’re a student attending classes, do you ever find it hard to make yourself settle down and study? Do you tell yourself that you still have plenty of time before that big exam, and then suddenly you find that it's too late?
Like most students, you probably put off studying until the ... Views: 1713
Have you ever been hurt by someone who says they love you? Have you been treated badly by someone who is your friend? Are abusive relationships a constant pattern in your life?
Sometimes the people who are the closest to us, our friends and our mates, the ones who should be liking us the ... Views: 1680
In the last few years, the herbal product gingko biloba seems to be advertised everywhere, as a new miracle cure for many common ailments. Gingko is reputed to improve thinking, stave off Alzheimer’s disease, preserve memory, and reverse memory loss. In fact, it is one of the most widely ... Views: 1639
Have you ever been in a conversation that seems to be going nowhere, and neither person seems to be able to think of anything to say?
This happens a lot, especially when both people don’t really know each other. It can also happen when both people are lacking in conversational skills. ... Views: 1596
If you are wondering why some people have a lot of friends and why you don’t have many, there can be many reasons for this.
Perhaps the most common reason why people don’t have a lot of friends is shyness.
If you are very shy, or if you have a lot of social anxiety, then being around ... Views: 1545
Do you suffer from a lack of conversation confidence? When you make conversation with other people, is your mind constantly saying a lot of very harsh things to you about your conversation ability? Does your mind criticize every thing you say? Do you put yourself down for being shy or ... Views: 1528
People who are lonely and who have few friends often dread the arrival of evenings and the weekends, because they have nothing to do, and no one to do it with. Weekends can become a long stretch of lonely hours and nothing to do. Why not change that!
Many lonely people stay lonely because ... Views: 1522
Have you ever had a conversation with someone where you start to get nervous and shy, and worry about your conversation performance? Do you start to think that everything you say sounds stupid or awkward or insincere? Do you start to obsess over what other people think about you? Do you ... Views: 1513
What should you do if you realize that you are romantically attracted to one of your friends? Should you risk embarassment and heartache by asking your friend on a date? What are the pitfalls of admitting to your friend that you are attracted to them?
This is a problem that commonly comes up ... Views: 1477
When you are studying for an exam or if you need to learn some material for a presentation, you may be wondering how early you should start to study, and how often you should review the material in order to remember it.
Is it best to study large chunks of the information at a time, or should ... Views: 1464
Do you need help in overcoming shyness? If you suffer from shyness, you probably often wish that your shyness would instantly go away, never to return. For some people, being shy can be a small problem. For others, shyness can be life crippling.
Some people suffer from extreme shyness ... Views: 1444
“There’s nothing about me that is interesting. I’m completely average in every way. Nobody is interested in me because I’m not interesting. Tell me what I can do to become a more interesting person so I can have better conversations.”
Over the years I have received several similar ... Views: 1439
How important is perseverance in achieving your goals? Many success gurus tell us constantly that to achieve your goals, you have to keep on going, have faith in yourself, and never give up.
To keep persevering to achieve your goal does not mean that you forge blindly ahead, regardless of ... Views: 1435
Do you get enough sleep? Chances are you don’t. Many people living in modern industrial societies suffer from a chronic, and worsening sleep deficit.
Until a few decades ago, most people lived lives so very different from ours that we would scarcely recognize them. Until fairly recently ... Views: 1378
Many lonely people have trouble making friends because they have low self esteem and because they have never developed good social skills. When people don’t think very much of themselves, they have a hard time making friends with other people. When people don’t like themselves, they are ... Views: 1311
Would you like to enhance your creativity? Do you think that increasing your ability to be creative would be a good idea?
Some of us feel desperate to be more creative, because we want to feel more free to express ourselves, or because we may think a creative life is more glamorous than the ... Views: 1303
Many countries in the world are facing a potential health crisis as the population ages. In North America, millions of Baby Boomers are turning sixty every day.
Aging can bring with it many benefits such as increased wisdom and experience, but aging also increases the risk of serious health ... Views: 1298
How important is perseverance in achieving your goals? Many success gurus tell us constantly that to achieve your goals, you have to keep on going, have faith in yourself, and never give up.
To keep persevering to achieve your goal does not mean that you forge blindly ahead, regardless of ... Views: 1281
Today if anyone asks me, "Who am I ?" I can answer that I am a writer.
It wasn’t always this way. For many, many years, I ran away from being a writer. I was terrified of putting pen to paper, or fingers to computer keyboard, even though I knew since I was a little kid that I was desperate ... Views: 1277
Do you feel like you are always under a lot of stress? Many of us feel as if we are always worried and pressured, but we are so used to feeling stressed that we take it for granted.
Many of us feel stressed because of too little money, and too many urgent things to do, and not enough time ... Views: 1264
In the last couple of years I have written a lot of articles and a special report to tell people how they can improve their small talk and conversations skills.
Quite often, I get compliments from people who tell me that my articles on making conversation have helped them a lot. However, I ... Views: 1264
Are you one of those people who’s very confident, who makes new friends easily, who has no trouble asking someone for a date?
Or are you a person who lacks confidence, who fears rejection, who is constantly worried about whether other people really like him, or will reject him? Does your ... Views: 1263
Today many of us are facing a lot of physical and emotional stress. When we don’t have good ways to deal with all this stress, it can end up hurting us in many ways, physical and mental. If we live with too much stress for too long, it can start to overwhelm us mentally and too much stress can ... Views: 1239
Starting a conversation can be agonizing if you are a shy person. Many people who suffer from shyness have a hard time knowing what to talk about when they encounter someone they don’t know very well. These might be people that they work with, neighbors, and people they would like to be friends ... Views: 1179
A few years ago, the well known American news anchor Peter Jennings died of lung cancer.. Just a few months before his death, he publicly announced that he had the disease and that he was going to fight it with everything he had.
After his death, I read some of the tributes that poured in ... Views: 1117
We know that some senior citizens are able to live into their eighties and nineties with their minds sharp and their bodies still spry. Will we be among the lucky ones?
Will our brains stay mentally sharp as we age? Or will we be among those who fill nursing homes because their minds no ... Views: 1041
Are you too nice? How can anyone be “too nice”? Isn’t being “nice” a good quality to have in a relationship?
Yes, it’s true that people will value niceness in others, but if your way of being nice is to suppress your own needs constantly, you are being too nice for your own good. If you ... Views: 816
Two things have happened to me recently that really affected me a lot.
One event of course was the shocking killings of thirty two students and teachers at Virginia Tech in the United States.
The other thing that happened that affected me a lot this week was an accident that I witnessed ... Views: 813
Do you wish you were more creative in your life, but you don't know where to start? You can reconnect with your inner creative self. Try some of these ideas to help you get in touch with your inner creativity.
How can we become more creative if we think we have lost the spark?
For one ... Views: 788
During the past couple of weeks, like many millions of other people around the world I spent a lot of time watching the horrific events taking place in New Orleans, Louisiana, unable and unwilling to believe that what I was seeing was actually taking place in the United States of America. ... Views: 770