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- Being a Happy Parent – Part of Good Parenting - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2006 from Margaret PaulWhen you were growing up, did you ever wish that your parents were happy? Did you feel safe when they were happy and peaceful? My mother was rarely a happy person. Most of the time she was anxious, angry and felt overburdened, even though I was her only child. She rarely laughed and was often ...
Views: 2433 - Beyond Addictions to Health, It's Not About Willpower - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you say you want to be healthy but continue to turn to various substance addictions? Do you believe that it’s just a matter of will power? As we all know, many people in our country are suffering from obesity and major health issues. It’s interesting to explore this in terms of ...
Views: 884 - Beyond Misery Junk! - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhat creates your misery?Junk!What kind of junk?Junk thoughtsJunk FoodJunk drugsJunk ThoughtsJunk thoughts are any thoughts that create anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, blame, resentment, jealousy, envy – any thoughts that create misery.We all have junk thoughts at times, but many ...
Views: 4100 - Bonding With Your Partner - Without Candles, Wine or Lingerie! - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulA journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond - without candles and wine and expensive lingerie?” Easy ways? Well, it depends on what you mean by easy! Bonding has ...
Views: 3488 - Connecting With Your Higher Self - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Margaret PaulWhen you want to listen to a particular radio station, you tune your radio to that station, tuning in to a particular frequency. Same when you want to watch a particular show on TV. It is the frequency you tune into that determines what you hear and what you see. Our brains operate in very much ...
Views: 4281 - Dating: Why Are People Rejecting Me? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2007 from Margaret PaulAidan decided to consult with me because he wanted to get married and have a family. A handsome man in his mid-30s, it was certainly not obvious at first glance why he could not find a partner. However, it didn't take me long to understand why relationships were not working for Aidan. Being ...
Views: 2506 - Diet, Anxiety and Depression - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Margaret PaulMarianne consulted with me because of anxiety and depression. She had tried various forms of medication but was not reacting well to any of the drugs. She was exhausted from lack of sleep, and from the intense anxiety that kept waking her up. While there were challenges in her life, like in ...
Views: 4459 - Do You Really WANT Responsibility For Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2018 from Margaret PaulDeciding that you WANT responsibility for yourself and your feelings is one of the biggest changes you can make in your life. Miles was stuck. His financial situation was scary and there was constant conflict with his wife and two children. He was in deep despair and he felt angry and very ...
Views: 954 - Do You Tolerate Others Uncaring and Disrespectful Behavior? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you make excuses for others’ uncaring and disrespectful behavior toward you to avoid losing them? I grew up with two parents who constantly lacked caring for my feelings and frequently treated me with deep disrespect. Looking back, I know that neither of them had any idea of how to ...
Views: 1015 - Fear of Commitment - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Susan, 38, sought my help because she was in two relationships at the same ...
Views: 2820 - Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2005 from Margaret PaulEmotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of ...
Views: 2652 - Fears of a New Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2006 from Margaret PaulKatie had not been in a relationship in ten years, and she was scared to death. In her last relationship, she had lost herself completely and then felt devastated when her boyfriend of three years left her for another woman. After working on herself emotionally and spiritually for a number of ...
Views: 2831 - Filling Up Externally, Filling Up Internally - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2006 from Margaret PaulWe all love to feel full inside, which is one of the reasons why eating too much is such a challenge for a lot of people. Yet, as soon as the food digests, many people go back to feeling empty, searching around for more food or something else to fill them up again. Feeling empty feels so awful ...
Views: 2743 - Frequency: Your Spiritual Guidance & The Art of Manifestation - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulNext course - January 9, 2019 This course is offered only once a year Are you ready to experience that you are never alone and to manifest your dreams? A 30-Day Home-Study Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul - to Connect With or Deepen Your Connection With Your Spiritual Guidance and Learn ...
Views: 970 - Guilty And Trapped When Someone Is Needy - by Submitted on May 07, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you want to be in a committed relationship, yet end up feeling shut down and trapped instead? Jackson grew up with a mother who completely emotionally abandoned herself. When she was upset, she would get a long-suffering look on her face, her eyes would fill with tears, and she would ...
Views: 861 - Guilty And Trapped When Someone Is Needy - by Submitted on May 07, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you want to be in a committed relationship, yet end up feeling shut down and trapped instead? Jackson grew up with a mother who completely emotionally abandoned herself. When she was upset, she would get a long-suffering look on her face, her eyes would fill with tears, and she would ...
Views: 896 - Healthy Guilt, Unhealthy Guilt - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2007 from Margaret PaulGuilt is the feeling that results when you tell yourself that you have done something wrong. Healthy Guilt Healthy guilt is the feeling that occurs when you have actually done something wrong - such as deliberately harming someone. This is an important feeling, which results from having ...
Views: 3277 - Help! I don’t Want To Be Like My Family! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Margaret PaulAlexia asked: “My mother and my grandmother and most of the people I learned life from, never loved themselves. I know I don't want to be like them but the reality is I am! I have changed but not as much as I want. Can you please teach me how to fix this suffering from my wounded self?” I ...
Views: 1299 - How Can They Live With Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2018 from Margaret PaulI am outraged. It’s now well known that big pharma pays off doctors regarding the safety of drugs, including opioids, which is causing the high death toll from these drugs. It’s not as well known that the SSRI antidepressant drugs are also partly responsible for the mass shootings. Every ...
Views: 1006 - Instant Healing Of Your Ego Wounded Self? It Doesn't Exist - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you think you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Do you get discouraged when dealing with the same issues over and over? You’re not alone! "How long will it take me to heal?" "I've been practicing Inner Bonding for 6 months now and I still get stuck in my wounded ...
Views: 968 - Intimacy With Yourself - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Margaret PaulOver the 40 years that I have been counseling individual and couples, I have very often worked with people who are considering leaving their marriage. Often they say things like: * I no longer feel close or intimate with my spouse. I love him/her, but I'm no longer in love with him/her. * The ...
Views: 2504 - Jealous? Heres Why. - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2018 from Margaret PaulIn her phone session with me, Katy was completely perplexed about her jealousy. "As you know, I broke up with my boyfriend, Jared, 6 months ago. By the time I broke up with him, I was really done with the relationship, and I have no desire to be with him. But last week I found out that he has ...
Views: 1046 - Leaving An Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2007 from Margaret PaulJennifer consulted with me regarding her 18-year marriage. "I just don't know what to do. I believe in marriage, and I have tried to believe in my marriage. But Jake's drinking has been getting worse and worse for most of our marriage, and so are his rages. Occasionally he has hit me, and last ...
Views: 2291 - Less Talk, More Action! - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2006 from Margaret PaulIt is time for less talk and more action - loving action. Loving actions are those actions that support our highest good and the highest good of others. Loving actions are those actions that are motivated by love rather than by fear. Many people who have been on a path of personal and ...
Views: 2429 - Love Yourself to Weight Loss - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2018 from Margaret PaulEven if you lose weight, do you keep it off? Discover the underlying cause of the cycle of losing and gaining, and what you can do to permanently lose weight. If you ask almost any overweight person, "Do you really want to lose weight?" the answer is likely, "Yes, I would love to lose ...
Views: 893 - Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2019 from Margaret PaulLove Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience The next 'Love Yourself' Course starts February 20th, 2019. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, ...
Views: 864 - Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on May 01, 2019 from Margaret PaulLove Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience The next 'Love Yourself' Course starts May 15th, 2019. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, ...
Views: 888 - Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Margaret PaulThe next 'Love Yourself' Course starts August 7th, 2019. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships. "I can hardly find ...
Views: 977 - Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Margaret PaulThe next 'Love Yourself' Course starts February 26th, 2020. Last time at this price! Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and ...
Views: 796 - Loving Yourself and Others Means Keeping Your Heart Open - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Margaret PaulRobyn and Dennis, together for three years but not married, consulted with me because they couldn’t seem to connect with each other. They loved each other but Dennis felt that Robyn had a wall up that stopped them from getting close. When Dennis stated that he experienced Robyn having a wall ...
Views: 1048 - Loving Yourself By Following Your Guidance - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Margaret PaulA major aspect of loving yourself is taking the loving action suggested by your spiritual guidance. I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I’ve been following the advice of my guidance rather than my ego wounded self. Here are just a few of the changes that have ...
Views: 1430 - Loving Yourself Can Heal Fear - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2017 from Margaret Paul"I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experiences behind him." ~Eleanor Roosevelt I know from my own experiences that what Eleanor Roosevelt said in the above quote is very true. - I ...
Views: 1119 - Loving Yourself Heals An Addiction To Anger - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulThink for a moment about the last time you got angry with someone. At that moment, what was most important to you - getting what you wanted or being caring? Obviously, at the moment that you get really angry at someone, it is more important to you to get what you want than it is to be caring. ...
Views: 930 - Loving Yourself Rather Than Giving Yourself Up - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Margaret PaulMarina asked: “I often go out of my way and do different things for my fiancé. For example if he wants me to stay and do something with him, I cancel what I have to do and stay with him. But he never does the same. He takes care of whatever he feels he needs to. Then I’m filled with ...
Views: 1163 - Loving Yourself When Feeling Overwhelmed - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Margaret PaulIn our stressful society, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel inundated with all we need to do, and besieged when too much is coming at us at once. It’s my experience that overwhelm comes from two different places: -If you are a highly sensitive person – which means that your ...
Views: 1117 - Loving Yourself When Your Partner Is Needy - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2017 from Margaret PaulAre you an empathic person who feels others' pain and then takes responsibility for their feelings in an effort to alleviate their pain? Is it hard for you to feel others' pain without trying to fix them? Often, empathic people become caretakers to try to alleviate others' pain so they don't ...
Views: 1175 - Loving Yourself When Your Partner Shuts You Out - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2017 from Margaret PaulWhat do you do when your partner shuts you out? Do you know that being shut out and stonewalled is even more hurtful than being yelled at? Children would rather get yelled at or even hit than ignored. This is why the worst punishment for prisoners is solitary confinement. Yet, along with ...
Views: 1358 - My Guidance’s Directions to Joy - The Secrets to Bliss! - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Margaret PaulFollowing these ‘directions’ from my guidance can bring you much peace, joy and manifestation of your dreams! One of the things I’ve learned to do is follow the directions my guidance gives to me. This has led me to have an amazing life that I love. But since I know that there is always more ...
Views: 949 - Non-Reactivity - A Major Key to Relationship Health - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2007 from Margaret PaulHow much of your behavior is in reaction to your partner? What do you do when your partner: * gets angry or irritated with you? * withdraws from you? * is blaming or criticizing you? * misunderstands you or is not seeing you accurately? * is always busy? * is complaining, needy, or pouty? * ...
Views: 2482 - Non-Reactivity - A Major Key To Relationship Health - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2007 from Margaret PaulHow much of your behavior is in reaction to your partner? What do you do when your partner: * gets angry or irritated with you? * withdraws from you? * is blaming or criticizing you? * misunderstands you or is not seeing you accurately? * is always busy? * is complaining, needy, or pouty? * ...
Views: 2499 - Parenting: Emotional Incest - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2007 from Margaret PaulJacob, a participant in one of my telephone support groups, was exploring the fact that he generally didn't like to be touched. He was sharing with the group a situation that used to happen with his mother. "She used to sit me on the couch with her and grab my arms and look intently into my ...
Views: 4159 - Passionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2020 from Margaret PaulPassionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul The next course will start on April 15th, 2020, and is offered only once a year. Are you ready to discover your calling, and have the health and vitality to pursue it? Passionate Purpose, Vibrant ...
Views: 1051 - Procrastination and Loving Yourself are Mutually Exclusive - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you find yourself procrastinating when you have hard or boring stuff to do? Do you then judge yourself for procrastinating? There is a way out of this! What do you do when you have stuff to do that is hard for you, or stuff that may be really boring to you - like studying for an exam, ...
Views: 901 - Relationships: Loving Yourself by Taking The Sacred Pause - by Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Margaret PaulAll of us have 'triggers' that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you ...
Views: 1212 - Relationships: Mysteries Of Attraction - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Margaret PaulWe are attracted to each other at our common level of woundedness and our common level of health. What does this mean? For example, Jackson, a very attractive man in his early 50s, had been married three times and had been in many relationships. He consulted with me because he was tired of ...
Views: 3524 - Self-Esteem: Who Do You Want to Be? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2008 from Margaret Paul"We lift ourselves by our thought. If you want to enlarge your life, you must first enlarge your thought of it and of yourself. Hold the ideal of yourself as you long to be, always everywhere." --Orison Sweet Marden, 1850-1924, Author and Founder of Success Magazine How do you see yourself in ...
Views: 2660 - The Challenge of Evil - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2018 from Margaret PaulEvil has always been with us. It’s important to understand what it is and what each of us can do to counter it. Evil We are beings of free will, so we get to choose, moment-by-moment, who we want to be. We sometimes choose to put our ego wounded self in charge and act in unloving ways toward ...
Views: 1014 - The Challenge of Merging Your Lives - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2007 from Margaret PaulLily and Don, both in their 40s, decided to get married after dating each other for a year. Lily’s children were in college, while Don still had children coming to his house every other weekend. They discovered early in their marriage that it was one thing to date and quite another to ...
Views: 2556 - The Loneliness Epidemic - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulAre you lonely? Do you believe you just need to learn to live with this? Recent research on loneliness indicates that almost half of Americans experience themselves as lonely, and, surprising, more young people are lonely than the elderly. ...
Views: 1009 - The Mirror of Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2006 from Margaret PaulNedra, one of my clients, was quite upset when she received an email from her friend, Roxanne, ending their friendship. The email was quite blaming, telling Nedra that she was narcissistic, selfish, and uncaring. Roxanne complained that Nedra just talked about herself and was never there for ...
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