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- ***Loving Yourself in the Face of Others' Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 07, 2017 How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead! I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ...
Views: 1009 - ***Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy. "Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don't recall what they said or did in that altered state of ...
Views: 1005 - ***Do You Have Patience? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulHas having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience. Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient. I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me ...
Views: 1004 - ***Do You Have Trouble Making Decisions? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Margaret PaulDoes the fear of making a mistake immobilize you when you need to make a decision? Do you ever have trouble making decisions? Which rug to buy for your floor? Which couch to choose? What color to paint your walls? What you feel like doing on your days off? What kind of work you ...
Views: 1004 - ***How To Stay Joyful All The Time - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. These three simple – but not always easy – choices can create such incredible joy! One of the things I love to do is walk every morning out in nature and do my Inner Bonding process. I've been walking almost every morning for at least the last 40 years, and doing ...
Views: 1002 - ***Politicians Need Inner Bonding! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow would our country change if politicians had to learn to love themselves and others before taking office? What if politicians had to be mentally evaluated before running for office? How many of them would pass as being emotionally stable and healthy? What difference might it make ...
Views: 1002 - ***Why Racism? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society. I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding. Those of you who have worked ...
Views: 1001 - ***Are You a Trash Can for Others' Negativity? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 11, 2016 Do you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, judgments, anger, self-centeredness and sense of entitlement - onto you? Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, "I'm no longer willing to be a trash can ...
Views: 1000 - Are These False Beliefs Controlling Your Life? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Margaret PaulWhat limiting beliefs are controlling your life? Do you identify with any of these common false beliefs? All of us absorbed numerous deep false beliefs as we were growing up, and these beliefs now govern much of what occurs in our work and our relationships. It is sometimes challenging to ...
Views: 997 - ***The Gifts Of Laughter And Tears - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 23, 2016 When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ...
Views: 991 - ***Do You Make People Up? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. ________________________________________ Do you often see people as you want them to be rather than as they are? Has this caused you problems in your relationships? ________________________________________ “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ...
Views: 990 - Why Self-Abandonment Can Kill You - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Margaret PaulWhy Self-Abandonment Can Kill You Click here to register for this webinar. This event will be recorded and available free for one week after the webinar - You will receive an email for the link when you register. https://www.innerbonding.com/webinar/3827 Hosted By Dr. Margaret ...
Views: 987 - *** When It's Loving To Share Your Feelings…And When It's Not - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow often have you shared your feelings and the other person became angry and defensive? How often have you heard that it's good to "share your feelings"? How often have you shared your feelings and it backfired on you? Perhaps you find yourself saying "But I'm just ...
Views: 986 - ***Why Loving Yourself Creates Sexual Passion With Your Partner - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 13, 2017 Discover the great benefits to your relationship in learning to love yourself! What creates sexual passion? • First, there needs to be sexual chemistry between two people. Sexual chemistry can sustain passion for a while, but it isn't enough ...
Views: 986 - ***Who Is In Charge of Your Decision Making Process? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 19, 2016 Which part of you – your ego wounded self or your loving adult – is in charge of your decision making process? Which part of you makes your day-to-day decisions, as well as your major decisions - your wounded self or your loving adult? Which ...
Views: 977 - ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Lonely - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD December 13, 2016 Loneliness has much information for us when we open to it rather than judge it or avoid it with various addictions. One of the saddest and most dysfunctional aspects of our current culture is that it fosters loneliness. It's not hard to imagine ...
Views: 976 - ***When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover when compromise is healthy and when it's self-abandoning. Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity? When you think about ...
Views: 976 - ***Loving Yourself Creates Loving Connection With Others - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 10, 2017 How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Learn how loving yourself leads to having much more of this in your life. As humans, we are hard-wired to want to connect with each other. Until 10,000 ...
Views: 973 - *** Loving Yourself Through Holiday Stress - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD December 19, 2016 ________________________________________ Do the holidays and other family events or gatherings stress you out? Discover what might be the underlying cause of this stress and what to do about it. ________________________________________ "OMG, ...
Views: 972 - Jealous? Heres Why. - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2018 from Margaret PaulIn her phone session with me, Katy was completely perplexed about her jealousy. "As you know, I broke up with my boyfriend, Jared, 6 months ago. By the time I broke up with him, I was really done with the relationship, and I have no desire to be with him. But last week I found out that he has ...
Views: 968 - Loving Yourself and Others Means Keeping Your Heart Open - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Margaret PaulRobyn and Dennis, together for three years but not married, consulted with me because they couldn’t seem to connect with each other. They loved each other but Dennis felt that Robyn had a wall up that stopped them from getting close. When Dennis stated that he experienced Robyn having a wall ...
Views: 960 - Your Imagination Can Take You Where Knowledge Cannot Go - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Margaret PaulAre you limiting yourself to knowledge gained externally? Try using your imagination and opening to the limitless information available from the universe! "Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the ...
Views: 955 - Do You Tolerate Others Uncaring and Disrespectful Behavior? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you make excuses for others’ uncaring and disrespectful behavior toward you to avoid losing them? I grew up with two parents who constantly lacked caring for my feelings and frequently treated me with deep disrespect. Looking back, I know that neither of them had any idea of how to ...
Views: 951 - ***The Lies We Tell Ourselves - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Dr. Margaret Paul June 27, 2016 Our emotions are an accurate indication of when we are in truth and when we are lying to ourselves. Believe it or not, one of the great gifts we were born with is our emotions. Our emotions infallibly let us know when we are operating from the truth ...
Views: 946 - Passionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2020 from Margaret PaulPassionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul The next course will start on April 15th, 2020, and is offered only once a year. Are you ready to discover your calling, and have the health and vitality to pursue it? Passionate Purpose, Vibrant ...
Views: 943 - The Challenge of Evil - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2018 from Margaret PaulEvil has always been with us. It’s important to understand what it is and what each of us can do to counter it. Evil We are beings of free will, so we get to choose, moment-by-moment, who we want to be. We sometimes choose to put our ego wounded self in charge and act in unloving ways toward ...
Views: 943 - --- Love Yourself: 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Margaret PaulThe next 'Love Yourself' Course starts February 21, 2018. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships. "I feel like I have ...
Views: 941 - The Loneliness Epidemic - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulAre you lonely? Do you believe you just need to learn to live with this? Recent research on loneliness indicates that almost half of Americans experience themselves as lonely, and, surprising, more young people are lonely than the elderly. ...
Views: 928 - ***Sustaining Love: The Importance Of Emotional Intimacy - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 12, 2016 Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship. Discover how to create and nourish this deep connection. Loving coupleThink back to times you felt 'in love.' Aside from chemistry, what was it that drew you to ...
Views: 925 - ***Relationships: Are You A Taker Or A Caretaker – Or Both? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 18, 2016 If your relationships are challenging, you might want to gain awareness and understanding of the taker-caretaker relationship system. As we all know, relationships are generally very challenging, and one of the reasons is that we bring into our ...
Views: 918 - How Can They Live With Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2018 from Margaret PaulI am outraged. It’s now well known that big pharma pays off doctors regarding the safety of drugs, including opioids, which is causing the high death toll from these drugs. It’s not as well known that the SSRI antidepressant drugs are also partly responsible for the mass shootings. Every ...
Views: 917 - ***Self-Care: Are You Resistant to Health and Fitness? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you find yourself resisting or procrastinating taking loving care of yourself? ________________________________________ Of course you want to be healthy and fit! Who doesn't? But are you always motivated and willing to do what you need to do to create health and fitness? Are you ...
Views: 912 - What Makes You Feel Worthy and Lovable? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2018 from Margaret PaulDiscover what makes you feel worthy and lovable and what false beliefs might be in the way of taking this loving action. Take a moment to think about this: What do you believe makes you feel worthy and lovable? Do you believe you are worthy when you receive others’ approval? Do you ...
Views: 909 - Instant Healing Of Your Ego Wounded Self? It Doesn't Exist - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you think you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Do you get discouraged when dealing with the same issues over and over? You’re not alone! "How long will it take me to heal?" "I've been practicing Inner Bonding for 6 months now and I still get stuck in my wounded ...
Views: 906 - ***Relationship Advice: Are You Giving To Get Love? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 04, 2016 Are you giving love to your partner or others for the joy of giving, or are you giving to get love, attention or approval? I received the following email, asking for my help: "Hi, my name is Adam. I am living with my parents and I'm thinking of ...
Views: 904 - Do You Really WANT Responsibility For Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2018 from Margaret PaulDeciding that you WANT responsibility for yourself and your feelings is one of the biggest changes you can make in your life. Miles was stuck. His financial situation was scary and there was constant conflict with his wife and two children. He was in deep despair and he felt angry and very ...
Views: 894 - ***Romance And The Power Of Hugs - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Hugs can be romantic or disconnecting, depending on your intent in hugging. Has the romance gone out of your relationship? Has work and/or parenthood left you no time for romance, connection and intimacy? A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is ...
Views: 892 - Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Margaret PaulThe next 'Love Yourself' Course starts August 7th, 2019. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships. "I can hardly find ...
Views: 888 - ---Loving Yourself by Getting Organized - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2018 from Margaret Paul"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone." - Pablo Picasso Do you struggle with: -Procrastination -Clutter -Overwhelm -Disorganization -Being late -Guilt over not getting things done or not following through with commitments -Anxiety over things ...
Views: 887 - My Guidance’s Directions to Joy - The Secrets to Bliss! - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Margaret PaulFollowing these ‘directions’ from my guidance can bring you much peace, joy and manifestation of your dreams! One of the things I’ve learned to do is follow the directions my guidance gives to me. This has led me to have an amazing life that I love. But since I know that there is always more ...
Views: 884 - A Major Cause of Stress - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2018 from Margaret PaulDiscover that stress is NOT being caused primarily by people or situations, but by your own thoughts and actions. We tend to think of stress as something that occurs because of outside events, such as having financial problems, relationship problems, health problems, or from having too much ...
Views: 880 - Attracting Your Beloved - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2019 from Margaret PaulA 30-Day At-Home Course The next course will start on April 3rd, 2019 https://innerbonding.com/video/mp4/Beloved-Landing-page.mp4 This course is offered twice a year. Are you ready to find the love of your life? Attracting your Beloved: A 30-Day Home-Study Experience With Dr. ...
Views: 878 - Frequency: Your Spiritual Guidance & The Art of Manifestation - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulNext course - January 9, 2019 This course is offered only once a year Are you ready to experience that you are never alone and to manifest your dreams? A 30-Day Home-Study Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul - to Connect With or Deepen Your Connection With Your Spiritual Guidance and Learn ...
Views: 876 - --- Love Yourself: 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Margaret PaulThe next 'Love Yourself' Course starts February 21, 2018. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships. "I feel like I have ...
Views: 873 - ***Speaking Up For Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Do you speak up for your inner child – your feeling self – when someone is judgmental toward you, or they are blaming you or discounting you? What do you generally do when you are in an interaction with someone and you are feeling anxious, scared or lonely from ...
Views: 862 - Loving Yourself Heals An Addiction To Anger - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulThink for a moment about the last time you got angry with someone. At that moment, what was most important to you - getting what you wanted or being caring? Obviously, at the moment that you get really angry at someone, it is more important to you to get what you want than it is to be caring. ...
Views: 856 - ***Staying Connected As A Loving Adult In The Face Of Conflict - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Margaret PaulHave you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Does your wounded self quickly take over, and your conflict resolution skills disappear? Allison asked me the following question: "I practice Inner Bonding when I feel I need it. I basically feel connected and when something is ...
Views: 839 - Procrastination and Loving Yourself are Mutually Exclusive - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you find yourself procrastinating when you have hard or boring stuff to do? Do you then judge yourself for procrastinating? There is a way out of this! What do you do when you have stuff to do that is hard for you, or stuff that may be really boring to you - like studying for an exam, ...
Views: 835 - Guilty And Trapped When Someone Is Needy - by Submitted on May 07, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you want to be in a committed relationship, yet end up feeling shut down and trapped instead? Jackson grew up with a mother who completely emotionally abandoned herself. When she was upset, she would get a long-suffering look on her face, her eyes would fill with tears, and she would ...
Views: 824 - You CAN Learn To Make Yourself Feel Safe - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2018 from Margaret PaulGrowing up, many of us didn't feel at all safe in our households. Many of us had parents or other caregivers who were physically, emotionally, and/or sexually abusive or neglectful. We had to find ways to manage this lack of safety, so we learned to numb out, eat or use other substances, be ...
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