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- ***Standing Strong In Your Own Truth - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you? ________________________________________ When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ...
Views: 1365 - *** Why Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it. ________________________________________ Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important ...
Views: 1351 - ***"How Can I Let Love In?" - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you want to share love, but find yourself pulling away or pushing others away? Do you find yourself wanting love but being afraid to really open to it? This is the situation Marley finds herself in: "How can I do a better job of letting love in and sharing love? I seem to ...
Views: 1350 - ***Healing From A Relationship With A Narcissist - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now! ________________________________________ Many of us have been there. You met the person of your dreams – charming, ...
Views: 1350 - ***I'm Not Appreciated - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Learn what you can do when you don't feel appreciated by your partner. ________________________________________ Chris wrote this question for one of my relationship webinars: "What do you do when you feel you are not loved for who you are? How do ...
Views: 1350 - ***Loneliness versus Solitude - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences. ________________________________________ "Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone, and the ...
Views: 1347 - *** "What's The Point of a Relationship?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you sometimes have confusion regarding the value of a relationship? ________________________________________ Jeanine asked me the following question at one of my free webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul, thank you so much for your wonderful work and for ...
Views: 1342 - ***Are You Hiding? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you hide from your feelings when you are challenged by life? Or do you allow your feelings to overwhelm you? You CAN learn to manage them and learn from them. "The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles." ~ Bernard M. Baruch "How ...
Views: 1329 - ***"How Can I Not Get Hurt By Others' Judgments?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have a misconception about what it means to be a strong and emotionally healthy person? ________________________________________ Do you have an expectation that if you were emotionally healthy, you would not feel hurt in the face of others' ...
Views: 1324 - ***My Husband is Not Sexual - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you in a relationship with a man who is not sexual? You are not alone! ________________________________________ In a question to me on one of my webinars, Melanie writes: "My husband is very loving, but not very sexual. I've tried to talk to him ...
Views: 1322 - ***"Why Do I Feel Shame When I'm Being Blamed?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul______________________________________ What's really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling? ________________________________________ What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find ...
Views: 1317 - ***How Are You and Your Partner Doing Together? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulHow is your relationship with your partner? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? When you and your partner are both operating as loving adults, you will experience many positive results. When one ...
Views: 1313 - ***Are You Addicted to Complaining As A Form of Control? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain? In this article, discover the answers to these questions, as well as what to do about it if you are addicted to complaining. ...
Views: 1307 - ***Superheroes vs. Underminers: Are You Supporting Your Personal Power? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit ...
Views: 1305 - ***What to do When Your Partner Lacks Empathy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you found yourself in relationships where you feel empathy for your partner but your partner lacks empathy for you? Were you born with the ability to feel others' feelings? I was, and one of the issues that I had to face was that not everyone is empathic. This was very confusing to ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - ***When You Love Yourself, You Love Others - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you being selfish if you do what brings you joy, even if others don't like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can't really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others? One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, "If I take care of myself and do what brings ...
Views: 1288 - ***Healing Attachment Wounds - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2015 from Margaret PaulInner Bonding is a powerful process for healing attachment wounds. Did you have a secure, reliable loving bond with at least one parent or caregiver? Was one of your parents or caregivers consistently emotionally available and responsive to your needs? If not, then you likely have attachment ...
Views: 1283 - ***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ...
Views: 1282(2 votes) - ***"How Do I Know When The Issue Is Mine?" - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 04, 2016 Do you sometimes get confused regarding whether a relationship issue is about you, about your partner, or about both of you? Alexa asked me the following question: "How do you know when you are self-abandoning and being needy versus setting off ...
Views: 1279 - ***Courage - by Submitted on May 20, 2015 from Margaret Paul___________________________________________________________________Do you have the courage to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you?___________________________________________________________________ "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the ...
Views: 1274 - ***Are You Selling Your Soul? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulYou might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true? What have you given up for money and possessions? Have you given up kindness to get ahead? Have you given up family time for a bigger TV? Have you given up fun for a new car? Have you given up hobbies for a ...
Views: 1262 - ***The Challenge of Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work! Leslie asks: "When I approach my partner to address an issue, he only sees me as controlling and creating 'controversy'. He can barely stand ...
Views: 1262 - ***Connection: Our Deepest Desire - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? ________________________________________ When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for ...
Views: 1258 - ***How Do I Know If I Have Abandonment Issues? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 18, 2016 ____________________________________________________________ Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ...
Views: 1251 - ***Addiction to Convenience - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Is convenience bringing you fulfillment and joy? ________________________________________ How did we get so deeply into instant gratification? How did we get so far away from receiving satisfaction from doing things that take some time? A good ...
Views: 1250 - ***Loving Yourself: A Path To Manifestation - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 03, 2017 Discover how loving yourself can not only lead to the manifestation of your dreams, it can also lead to manifesting kindness and caring on our planet. "Great hearts steadily send forth the secret forces that incessantly draw great events." – ...
Views: 1249 - ***"It's Not Fair!" - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Discover a new way of looking at fairness. ________________________________________ "Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good ...
Views: 1238 - ***Managing The Pain of Breakups - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you know how to lovingly manage and heal the loneliness and heartbreak of a breakup? Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell ...
Views: 1237 - ***The Fear of Being Duped - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Is being duped something you avoid at all costs, or are you willing to be duped in order to keep your heart open? ________________________________________ No one likes being duped. It feels awful to realize that someone has pulled the wool over our ...
Views: 1235 - ***Greed - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulGreed is wreaking havoc on our planet. "We are in danger of destroying ourselves by our greed and stupidity." ~Stephen Hawking "In a country well-governed, poverty is something to be ashamed of. In a country badly governed, wealth is something to be ashamed of." ~ Confucius What Causes ...
Views: 1228 - ***Challenges of The Dating Scene - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Margaret PaulDating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you. Franklin writes: "I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three ...
Views: 1220 - ***"I Want To Open But I'm Scared of Getting Hurt." - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you afraid to open your heart to love, for fear of getting hurt? Learn how to lovingly manage the hurt. Is it possible to fully love without getting hurt? The answer is unequivocally NO! Is this because love hurts? Again, the answer is NO! It is not love that hurts. It's ...
Views: 1219 - ***Can I Change A Narcissist? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Sometimes we are clueless regarding the subtle ways we are trying to control, while being very aware of a partner's controlling behavior. ________________________________________ Tara asked me the following question: "Dear Dr. Paul, How do you ...
Views: 1213 - ***Do You Put Pressure on Yourself? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Margaret Paul______________________________________ Pressuring yourself might be causing resistance, stress, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia and even illness. ________________________________________ How many of you put a lot of pressure on yourself? How often do you feel anxious because of this ...
Views: 1211 - ***"I'm Not Important Enough To Want To Love Myself - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover what to do if you are stuck not being able to love yourself. When you were growing up, did you feel important to your parents? Did they attend to you in loving ways to show you how important you were to them? Or, did you often feel like a bother or a burden to them? Did either of ...
Views: 1207 - ***How Do I Stop Sabotaging Myself? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover why you may be sabotaging and punishing yourself with your self-judgment and self-rejection. Would you love to manifest your dreams and have the life you want? Most people would unhesitatingly respond with a resounding "YES!" Yet, do you sometimes find yourself ...
Views: 1207 - ***Self-Love vs. Selfless Love - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Margaret PaulIs there a difference between loving yourself and loving others, or are they one and the same? ________________________________________ Have you ever been confused about the boundary between loving yourself and also being loving to others? This is what Rosanna is struggling with. She ...
Views: 1207 - ***The Foundation for Abundance - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self? ________________________________________ "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all ...
Views: 1202 - ***The Way to Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? "There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It's hard for ...
Views: 1201(1 vote) - ***Are You Confused About Boundaries in Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulMany people confuse boundaries - which are a way of taking loving care of yourself – with controlling behavior toward others. Marilee told me in one of our early phone sessions: "I set a boundary. I told him that he couldn't speak to me that way any more." Jackson said to ...
Views: 1200 - ***Do You Experience Life As A Burden Or As A Sacred Privilege? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulLearn how to embrace life as the sacred privilege it is rather than be stuck just getting through. Peter experiences life as a burden - a sentence to get through that is filled with suffering. Peter trudges through his life, experiencing little joy. He works hard, makes enough money to feel ...
Views: 1199 - ***"How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?" - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Dealing with critical people, especially a parent, is a challenge for all of us. Here are some options for dealing with a critical mother. ________________________________________ Having a critical mother is a big challenge. I know, because I grew up ...
Views: 1196 - ***The Circle of Love: The Highest Experience in Life - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulA circle of love is the result of people being together with open hearts, and is the most wonderful experience in life. Have you ever experienced a circle of love? A circle of love occurs when two or more people are together with completely open hearts - open with their essence, with each ...
Views: 1195 - ***Do You See Your Essence and The Essences of Your Children? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you really see your children? If you operate from core shame and cannot see the beauty of your own essence, your children will not feel seen by you. Yet they need to be seen by you to truly value themselves. ________________________________________ One of the things I loved doing as a ...
Views: 1191 - ***"Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you perplexed regarding why you so often feel rejected by others? ________________________________________ Alana asked me the following question: "My whole life I have felt that I don't fit in with others - in my family, school, work - and ...
Views: 1189 - ***Why Complain? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different? "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou Do you complain? If you do, why? ___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ...
Views: 1188(1 vote) - ***Longing For Connection - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another. Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply ...
Views: 1187 - ***Why We Take Things Personally - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 18, 2016 __________________________________________________________________ When others are mean or rejecting, do you tend to take their behavior personally? __________________________________________________________________ One of the biggest issues that ...
Views: 1186 - ***Addiction to Spirituality: The Spiritual Bypass - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Dr. Margaret Paul May 16, 2016 Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community ...
Views: 1183 - Loving Yourself By Following Your Guidance - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Margaret PaulA major aspect of loving yourself is taking the loving action suggested by your spiritual guidance. I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I’ve been following the advice of my guidance rather than my ego wounded self. Here are just a few of the changes that have ...
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