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- ***"Why Do I Feel Shame When I'm Being Blamed?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul______________________________________ What's really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling? ________________________________________ What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find ...
Views: 1285 - ***Standing Strong In Your Own Truth - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you? ________________________________________ When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ...
Views: 1285 - ***Are You Hiding? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you hide from your feelings when you are challenged by life? Or do you allow your feelings to overwhelm you? You CAN learn to manage them and learn from them. "The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles." ~ Bernard M. Baruch "How ...
Views: 1261 - ***"How Can I Not Get Hurt By Others' Judgments?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have a misconception about what it means to be a strong and emotionally healthy person? ________________________________________ Do you have an expectation that if you were emotionally healthy, you would not feel hurt in the face of others' ...
Views: 1259 - ***My Husband is Not Sexual - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you in a relationship with a man who is not sexual? You are not alone! ________________________________________ In a question to me on one of my webinars, Melanie writes: "My husband is very loving, but not very sexual. I've tried to talk to him ...
Views: 1259 - ***Controlling Behavior: Are Your Eyes On Your Partner's Plate? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 14, 2016 _____________________________________________________________________________________ It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious that they are not taking care of themselves. Discover why this usually backfires and what ...
Views: 1258 - *** "What's The Point of a Relationship?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you sometimes have confusion regarding the value of a relationship? ________________________________________ Jeanine asked me the following question at one of my free webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul, thank you so much for your wonderful work and for ...
Views: 1247 - ***Anger And Other Forms of Control - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Margaret PaulIf you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line and have control over you? How did you ...
Views: 1247 - ***The Challenge of Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work! Leslie asks: "When I approach my partner to address an issue, he only sees me as controlling and creating 'controversy'. He can barely stand ...
Views: 1231 - ***How Relationships Can Be Easy – 4 Keys to Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ Creating a loving relationship doesn't have to be as hard as you might think! _______________________________________________________ As most of us know, relationships can be very challenging. We generally enter a relationship with ...
Views: 1224(1 vote) - ***"Why Didn't God Stop The Abuse?" - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you ever wondered why God allows so much abuse, so much pain, so much war? "God has no hands but these." - Mother Theresa I am often asked by my clients, "If God is all powerful, why didn't he stop my father (or mother, or brother, or babysitter, or uncle ...
Views: 1219 - ***Healing From A Relationship With A Narcissist - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now! ________________________________________ Many of us have been there. You met the person of your dreams – charming, ...
Views: 1216 - ***Connection: Our Deepest Desire - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? ________________________________________ When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for ...
Views: 1210 - ***Managing The Pain of Breakups - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you know how to lovingly manage and heal the loneliness and heartbreak of a breakup? Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell ...
Views: 1208 - ***How Are You and Your Partner Doing Together? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulHow is your relationship with your partner? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? When you and your partner are both operating as loving adults, you will experience many positive results. When one ...
Views: 1201 - ***"It's Not Fair!" - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Discover a new way of looking at fairness. ________________________________________ "Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good ...
Views: 1183 - ***When You Love Yourself, You Love Others - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you being selfish if you do what brings you joy, even if others don't like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can't really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others? One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, "If I take care of myself and do what brings ...
Views: 1177 - ***Superheroes vs. Underminers: Are You Supporting Your Personal Power? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit ...
Views: 1169 - ***Challenges of The Dating Scene - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Margaret PaulDating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you. Franklin writes: "I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three ...
Views: 1168 - ***The Way to Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? "There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It's hard for ...
Views: 1168(1 vote) - ***Do You Put Pressure on Yourself? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Margaret Paul______________________________________ Pressuring yourself might be causing resistance, stress, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia and even illness. ________________________________________ How many of you put a lot of pressure on yourself? How often do you feel anxious because of this ...
Views: 1163 - ***Can I Change A Narcissist? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Sometimes we are clueless regarding the subtle ways we are trying to control, while being very aware of a partner's controlling behavior. ________________________________________ Tara asked me the following question: "Dear Dr. Paul, How do you ...
Views: 1162 - ***"How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?" - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Dealing with critical people, especially a parent, is a challenge for all of us. Here are some options for dealing with a critical mother. ________________________________________ Having a critical mother is a big challenge. I know, because I grew up ...
Views: 1161 - ***How Do I Stop Sabotaging Myself? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover why you may be sabotaging and punishing yourself with your self-judgment and self-rejection. Would you love to manifest your dreams and have the life you want? Most people would unhesitatingly respond with a resounding "YES!" Yet, do you sometimes find yourself ...
Views: 1160 - ***"I Want To Open But I'm Scared of Getting Hurt." - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you afraid to open your heart to love, for fear of getting hurt? Learn how to lovingly manage the hurt. Is it possible to fully love without getting hurt? The answer is unequivocally NO! Is this because love hurts? Again, the answer is NO! It is not love that hurts. It's ...
Views: 1152 - ***"Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you perplexed regarding why you so often feel rejected by others? ________________________________________ Alana asked me the following question: "My whole life I have felt that I don't fit in with others - in my family, school, work - and ...
Views: 1150 - ***The Fear of Being Duped - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Is being duped something you avoid at all costs, or are you willing to be duped in order to keep your heart open? ________________________________________ No one likes being duped. It feels awful to realize that someone has pulled the wool over our ...
Views: 1149 - ***Are You Confused About Boundaries in Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulMany people confuse boundaries - which are a way of taking loving care of yourself – with controlling behavior toward others. Marilee told me in one of our early phone sessions: "I set a boundary. I told him that he couldn't speak to me that way any more." Jackson said to ...
Views: 1138 - ***What to do When Your Partner Lacks Empathy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you found yourself in relationships where you feel empathy for your partner but your partner lacks empathy for you? Were you born with the ability to feel others' feelings? I was, and one of the issues that I had to face was that not everyone is empathic. This was very confusing to ...
Views: 1135(1 vote) - ***Staying Centered in Conflict - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this. ________________________________________ Angela writes: "I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going ...
Views: 1125 - ***Do You Know How To Love? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love. ________________________________________ We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ...
Views: 1123(1 vote) - ***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ...
Views: 1121(2 votes) - ***How Do I Know If I Have Abandonment Issues? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 18, 2016 ____________________________________________________________ Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ...
Views: 1121 - ***Are You Addicted to the Internet? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can't seem to find your way out? ________________________________________ Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet ...
Views: 1117 - ***Courage - by Submitted on May 20, 2015 from Margaret Paul___________________________________________________________________Do you have the courage to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you?___________________________________________________________________ "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the ...
Views: 1116 - ***Healing Attachment Wounds - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2015 from Margaret PaulInner Bonding is a powerful process for healing attachment wounds. Did you have a secure, reliable loving bond with at least one parent or caregiver? Was one of your parents or caregivers consistently emotionally available and responsive to your needs? If not, then you likely have attachment ...
Views: 1114 - ***Finding The Partner Of My Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you seeking the formula for attracting the partner of your dreams? Here it is! ________________________________________ Rochelle asks: "If I assess myself quite objectively, if I know my accomplishments as well as my drawbacks, is there a ...
Views: 1112 - ***"I Lose My Cool In Relationships." - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you find that as soon as you really like someone – whether as a friend or as a partner – you 'lose your cool?' ________________________________________ Relationships offer us more opportunities for personal growth than just about anything else in ...
Views: 1109 - ***I Fall Too Hard In Love - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you find yourself getting hurt over and over in relationships? Discover why. ________________________________________ Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the ...
Views: 1107 - ***Loving Yourself: A Path To Manifestation - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 03, 2017 Discover how loving yourself can not only lead to the manifestation of your dreams, it can also lead to manifesting kindness and caring on our planet. "Great hearts steadily send forth the secret forces that incessantly draw great events." – ...
Views: 1104 - ***"How Can I Manage Overwhelm?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you often feel overwhelmed with demands, tasks and life in general? ________________________________________ Most of us lead very busy lives and it is easy to become overwhelmed with all we need to do. In addition, about 15% to 20% of us are born ...
Views: 1103 - ***What Are You Waiting For? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulIs there something you've always wanted to do but have never done? What’s stopping you? “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” –Chinese Proverb How often do you say to yourself, "I wish I had…..?" ...
Views: 1103 - ***The Foundation for Abundance - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self? ________________________________________ "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all ...
Views: 1102 - ***Are You Addicted to Complaining As A Form of Control? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain? In this article, discover the answers to these questions, as well as what to do about it if you are addicted to complaining. ...
Views: 1101 - ***Are You Selling Your Soul? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulYou might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true? What have you given up for money and possessions? Have you given up kindness to get ahead? Have you given up family time for a bigger TV? Have you given up fun for a new car? Have you given up hobbies for a ...
Views: 1099 - ***Why Complain? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different? "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou Do you complain? If you do, why? ___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - ***Greed - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulGreed is wreaking havoc on our planet. "We are in danger of destroying ourselves by our greed and stupidity." ~Stephen Hawking "In a country well-governed, poverty is something to be ashamed of. In a country badly governed, wealth is something to be ashamed of." ~ Confucius What Causes ...
Views: 1096 - ***Single? What Are Your False Beliefs About Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ If you are single, do you relate to any of these false beliefs about being in a relationship? ________________________________________ I have discovered that many of the single people I work with have a number of false beliefs about relationships. If ...
Views: 1096 - ***Addiction to Convenience - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Is convenience bringing you fulfillment and joy? ________________________________________ How did we get so deeply into instant gratification? How did we get so far away from receiving satisfaction from doing things that take some time? A good ...
Views: 1086 - ***Do You Define Your Adequacy By Looks and/or Performance? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ What was valued and approved of in your family as you were growing up? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, how did you learn to define your worth? Here are some of the things my clients have said to me: • In my ...
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