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- ***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ...
Views: 1505(2 votes) - ***How to Talk about Sex - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2012 from Margaret PaulAre you stuck in your relationship not being able to talk about sex, or getting into power struggles about sex? Sean wrote in the following question on one of my free webinars about sexuality: "My wife and I have been married now for eighteen years and for the most part are ...
Views: 1503 - ***Loving Yourself: A Path To Manifestation - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 03, 2017 Discover how loving yourself can not only lead to the manifestation of your dreams, it can also lead to manifesting kindness and caring on our planet. "Great hearts steadily send forth the secret forces that incessantly draw great events." – ...
Views: 1498 - ***When You Love Yourself, You Love Others - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you being selfish if you do what brings you joy, even if others don't like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can't really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others? One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, "If I take care of myself and do what brings ...
Views: 1493 - ***Change Your Life With This Simple Act - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you understand the power of kindness to change your life? "Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same ...
Views: 1491 - *** Letting Go Of A Sugar Addiction - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you tried unsuccessfully to heal a sugar addiction? Here's how! Are you sugar addicted? You are not alone! I used to be intensely sugar addicted. I craved it all the time, and it seems like the more I ate, the more I wanted it. The fact that it made me feel terrible – first ...
Views: 1490 - ***Overweight and Miserable - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you tired of being overweight and food addicted? There is a way to heal. ________________________________________ Pamela writes this question for my webinar on food addiction: "I am a 22-yr old female weighing 220 lbs with a height of 5.9". I ...
Views: 1488 - ***How Do I Know If I Have Abandonment Issues? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 18, 2016 ____________________________________________________________ Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ...
Views: 1487 - ***Where Did The Passion Go? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you love your partner but find that the intensity and intimacy have become muted? Discover why. Patti asked the following question in one of my webinars on sexuality: I am now going out with the man of my dreams. I have wanted to be in relationship with him for so long. We used ...
Views: 1483 - ***Healing From Infidelity - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulInfidelity is a huge challenge, but relationships can heal from this and actually become stronger. Sheldon wrote this question to me during one of my free webinars: "I am trying to repair my 20-year marriage after my infidelity. I was discovered by my wife two years ago. I ...
Views: 1482 - ***The Art of Conversation - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have mostly one-way or two-way conversations? What kind of conversationalist are you? ________________________________________ What happens in your conversations with people? The kind of conversation you have with someone says a lot about both ...
Views: 1482 - ***Greed - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulGreed is wreaking havoc on our planet. "We are in danger of destroying ourselves by our greed and stupidity." ~Stephen Hawking "In a country well-governed, poverty is something to be ashamed of. In a country badly governed, wealth is something to be ashamed of." ~ Confucius What Causes ...
Views: 1478 - *** "What's The Point of a Relationship?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you sometimes have confusion regarding the value of a relationship? ________________________________________ Jeanine asked me the following question at one of my free webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul, thank you so much for your wonderful work and for ...
Views: 1474 - *** Why Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it. ________________________________________ Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important ...
Views: 1472 - ***I'm Not Appreciated - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Learn what you can do when you don't feel appreciated by your partner. ________________________________________ Chris wrote this question for one of my relationship webinars: "What do you do when you feel you are not loved for who you are? How do ...
Views: 1471 - ***The Art of Setting Boundaries - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover what a boundary is and what it isn't. Merilee wrote the following question to me in one of my relationship webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul -- One of my biggest struggles is being open to giving and receiving love, but also setting boundaries. I want to be loving, not ...
Views: 1471 - ***Self-Love vs. Selfless Love - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Margaret PaulIs there a difference between loving yourself and loving others, or are they one and the same? ________________________________________ Have you ever been confused about the boundary between loving yourself and also being loving to others? This is what Rosanna is struggling with. She ...
Views: 1470 - ***"How Can I Let Love In?" - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you want to share love, but find yourself pulling away or pushing others away? Do you find yourself wanting love but being afraid to really open to it? This is the situation Marley finds herself in: "How can I do a better job of letting love in and sharing love? I seem to ...
Views: 1469 - ***"My Wife Is No Longer In Love With Me" - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you willing to do the inner work you need to do to possibly save your relationship? Many people, like Aaron who asked the following question, seek my help because either their partner is no longer in love with them, or they are no longer in love with their partner. Aaron ...
Views: 1468(1 vote) - ***Healing the Mother Wound - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have a mother wound that plagues you in your life and your relationships? ________________________________________ Many of us have a deep and painful mother wound from not receiving the nurturing we needed. Without adequate healing, this ...
Views: 1461 - ***Standing Strong In Your Own Truth - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you? ________________________________________ When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ...
Views: 1454 - ***Loneliness versus Solitude - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences. ________________________________________ "Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone, and the ...
Views: 1448 - ***Addiction to Spirituality: The Spiritual Bypass - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Dr. Margaret Paul May 16, 2016 Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community ...
Views: 1447 - ***Longing For Connection - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another. Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply ...
Views: 1446 - ***Are You Hiding? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you hide from your feelings when you are challenged by life? Or do you allow your feelings to overwhelm you? You CAN learn to manage them and learn from them. "The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles." ~ Bernard M. Baruch "How ...
Views: 1445 - Loving Yourself By Following Your Guidance - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Margaret PaulA major aspect of loving yourself is taking the loving action suggested by your spiritual guidance. I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I’ve been following the advice of my guidance rather than my ego wounded self. Here are just a few of the changes that have ...
Views: 1444 - ***"I Don't Know How To Give Her What She Wants From Me." - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you sometimes feel like you try to give your partner the connection he or she wants and can't figure out how? ________________________________________ I was having a Skype session with Andrea and Lawrence. Married for 18 years with two teen-age ...
Views: 1438 - ***"How Can I Not Get Hurt By Others' Judgments?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have a misconception about what it means to be a strong and emotionally healthy person? ________________________________________ Do you have an expectation that if you were emotionally healthy, you would not feel hurt in the face of others' ...
Views: 1435 - ***"I'm Not Important Enough To Want To Love Myself - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover what to do if you are stuck not being able to love yourself. When you were growing up, did you feel important to your parents? Did they attend to you in loving ways to show you how important you were to them? Or, did you often feel like a bother or a burden to them? Did either of ...
Views: 1433 - ***My Husband is Not Sexual - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you in a relationship with a man who is not sexual? You are not alone! ________________________________________ In a question to me on one of my webinars, Melanie writes: "My husband is very loving, but not very sexual. I've tried to talk to him ...
Views: 1433 - ***Do You Experience Life As A Burden Or As A Sacred Privilege? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulLearn how to embrace life as the sacred privilege it is rather than be stuck just getting through. Peter experiences life as a burden - a sentence to get through that is filled with suffering. Peter trudges through his life, experiencing little joy. He works hard, makes enough money to feel ...
Views: 1428 - ***The Circle of Love: The Highest Experience in Life - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulA circle of love is the result of people being together with open hearts, and is the most wonderful experience in life. Have you ever experienced a circle of love? A circle of love occurs when two or more people are together with completely open hearts - open with their essence, with each ...
Views: 1428 - ***Loving Yourself - by Submitted on May 07, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you asking your higher self for the loving action and not receiving answers? Ernie was having trouble accessing his higher self. He wanted to know about the loving action toward himself, but he couldn't seem to receive any answers. Because his inner child often felt abandoned and unloved ...
Views: 1425 - ***Why We Take Things Personally - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 18, 2016 __________________________________________________________________ When others are mean or rejecting, do you tend to take their behavior personally? __________________________________________________________________ One of the biggest issues that ...
Views: 1423 - ***Do You See Your Essence and The Essences of Your Children? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you really see your children? If you operate from core shame and cannot see the beauty of your own essence, your children will not feel seen by you. Yet they need to be seen by you to truly value themselves. ________________________________________ One of the things I loved doing as a ...
Views: 1417 - ***"If Only You Would Get What You Are Doing!" - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulIs your relationship stuck in a pattern of blame where you both feel like victims of the other person? One of the most common dynamics I see with the couples I work with is that each of them is convinced that if only their partner would see what he or she is doing to cause the relationship ...
Views: 1411(1 vote) - ***"Why Do I Feel Shame When I'm Being Blamed?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul______________________________________ What's really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling? ________________________________________ What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find ...
Views: 1409 - ***Do You Have Problems Bringing Up Issues? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you get stuck in not being able to resolve conflicts because you don't know how to bring up issues in a way that works? Bringing up difficult issues is often a major challenge in relationships. Laurie wrote to me about this issue: "My biggest trigger in relationships is bringing up ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - ***Why Have Animals In Your Life - by Submitted on May 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover the many good reasons for having animals in your life. “Until a person has loved an animal a part of the soul remains unawakened." ~Anatole France People who love animals know that there are many very good reasons to have animals in your life. Love and Presence Animals who ...
Views: 1397 - Moved to Tears and Loving Acts by Witnessing Kindness - by Submitted on May 21, 2018 from Margaret PaulLearn about the feeling of ‘elevation’ and why you might be moved to tears and benevolence by witnessing acts of kindness. Have you ever been moved to tears by acts of kindness? This happens to me all the time and I’ve often wondered about it. I recently read an article by Daniel Burke, ...
Views: 1397(1 vote) - ***Is My Need For Attention Reasonable or Needy? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you ever wondered if your desire to share time with a partner is coming from need or neediness? Sometimes it's a challenge to know what are reasonable relationship needs and when we are being needy. Klarese is asking this important question: "I am currently dating a wonderful ...
Views: 1395 - ***The Aftermath of a Relationship with a Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul Ph.D. February 22, 2016 Have you been in love with a narcissist? Are you now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending? Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist? Many people are very vulnerable to getting into a relationship with a ...
Views: 1380 - ***How to Attract a Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you keep attracting narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partners? You CAN learn to attract a healthy partner! ________________________________________ Have you found yourself continually attracting the same kind of unhealthy person into your ...
Views: 1374 - Loving Yourself When Your Partner Shuts You Out - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2017 from Margaret PaulWhat do you do when your partner shuts you out? Do you know that being shut out and stonewalled is even more hurtful than being yelled at? Children would rather get yelled at or even hit than ignored. This is why the worst punishment for prisoners is solitary confinement. Yet, along with ...
Views: 1374 - ***Loving Yourself As An Introvert in Groups - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 28, 2016 Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Discover how to love yourself in group situations. "She's very shy," my parents used to say to people when I was quiet. From their tone, I thought it wasn't a good thing to be shy. I ...
Views: 1371 - ***Connection: Our Deepest Desire - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? ________________________________________ When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for ...
Views: 1366 - ***Why Complain? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different? "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou Do you complain? If you do, why? ___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ...
Views: 1363(1 vote) - *** Avoiding Emotional Pain Causes Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Margaret PaulWe all learned many ways of avoiding pain as we were growing up, but what once seemed to protect us against pain is now actually causing our pain. We all had to learn many ways of avoiding emotional pain as we were growing up, because we could not have survived the pain of childhood ...
Views: 1359 - ***Learning to Love Your Sacred Being - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you know who you are in your essence? If you knew that your core Self, your essence, was a sacred being, an individualized expression of Spirit, would you treat yourself differently than you currently do? There is a wonderful story about a king who went into a downtrodden village, a ...
Views: 1358 - ***When You Are Being Nice, Are You Loving Or Controlling? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 21, 2016 ________________________________________ There can be a big difference in intent between being nice and being loving. Being nice might be manipulative, while being loving means being authentic. ________________________________________ Our ...
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