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  • ***Standing Strong In Your Own Truth - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you? ________________________________________ When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ...
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  • ***Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent? - by Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior? Most of us really don't like it when someone is angry with us. We don't like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We ...
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  • ***The Challenge of Conflict - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Do you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work! Leslie asks: "When I approach my partner to address an issue, he only sees me as controlling and creating 'controversy'. He can barely stand ...
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  • ***Connection: Our Deepest Desire - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? ________________________________________ When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for ...
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  • ***Managing The Pain of Breakups - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you know how to lovingly manage and heal the loneliness and heartbreak of a breakup? Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell ...
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  • ***"When Someone's Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D
    Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    When someone's behavior is affecting you, what can you do, other than blame them? We Are Not Separate Some authors suggest that, when we are healthy enough, we will not be affected by others' unloving verbal behavior. We will rise above it and not take their words personally – that "Sticks ...
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  • ***"It's Not Fair!" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Discover a new way of looking at fairness. ________________________________________ "Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good ...
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  • ***Learn To Love Yourself: Listen To Your Soul NOT Your Mind - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 08, 2016 _____________________________________________________________ Learning to discern the difference between mind and soul communication is essential to learning to love yourself. Learn how to tell when information is truth from Spirit or made up from the ...
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  • ***Self-love or Narcissism? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D
    Submitted on Oct 06, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Discover that self-love and narcissism are actually opposites! ________________________________________ It's interesting to me how often people confuse self-love with narcissism – because they are actually opposites in many ways. Ramona ask a ...
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  • ***Challenges of The Dating Scene - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you. Franklin writes: "I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three ...
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  • ***How Do I Stop Sabotaging Myself? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Discover why you may be sabotaging and punishing yourself with your self-judgment and self-rejection. Would you love to manifest your dreams and have the life you want? Most people would unhesitatingly respond with a resounding "YES!" Yet, do you sometimes find yourself ...
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  • ***"Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you perplexed regarding why you so often feel rejected by others? ________________________________________ Alana asked me the following question: "My whole life I have felt that I don't fit in with others - in my family, school, work - and ...
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  • ***"How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Dealing with critical people, especially a parent, is a challenge for all of us. Here are some options for dealing with a critical mother. ________________________________________ Having a critical mother is a big challenge. I know, because I grew up ...
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  • ***The Way to Happiness - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Are you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? "There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It's hard for ...
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  • ***Can I Change A Narcissist? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 14, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Sometimes we are clueless regarding the subtle ways we are trying to control, while being very aware of a partner's controlling behavior. ________________________________________ Tara asked me the following question: "Dear Dr. Paul, How do you ...
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  • ***Do You Put Pressure on Yourself? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ______________________________________ Pressuring yourself might be causing resistance, stress, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia and even illness. ________________________________________ How many of you put a lot of pressure on yourself? How often do you feel anxious because of this ...
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  • ***"I Want To Open But I'm Scared of Getting Hurt." - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Are you afraid to open your heart to love, for fear of getting hurt? Learn how to lovingly manage the hurt. Is it possible to fully love without getting hurt? The answer is unequivocally NO! Is this because love hurts? Again, the answer is NO! It is not love that hurts. It's ...
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  • ***"I Lose My Cool In Relationships." - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you find that as soon as you really like someone – whether as a friend or as a partner – you 'lose your cool?' ________________________________________ Relationships offer us more opportunities for personal growth than just about anything else in ...
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  • ***Staying Centered in Conflict - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this. ________________________________________ Angela writes: "I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going ...
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  • ***Controlling Behavior: Are Your Eyes On Your Partner's Plate? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 14, 2016 _____________________________________________________________________________________ It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious that they are not taking care of themselves. Discover why this usually backfires and what ...
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  • ***Anger And Other Forms of Control - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line and have control over you? How did you ...
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  • ***Finding The Partner Of My Dreams - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you seeking the formula for attracting the partner of your dreams? Here it is! ________________________________________ Rochelle asks: "If I assess myself quite objectively, if I know my accomplishments as well as my drawbacks, is there a ...
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  • ***Are You Addicted to the Internet? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can't seem to find your way out? ________________________________________ Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet ...
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  • ***The Fear of Being Duped - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Is being duped something you avoid at all costs, or are you willing to be duped in order to keep your heart open? ________________________________________ No one likes being duped. It feels awful to realize that someone has pulled the wool over our ...
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  • ***Are You Confused About Boundaries in Relationships? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Many people confuse boundaries - which are a way of taking loving care of yourself – with controlling behavior toward others. Marilee told me in one of our early phone sessions: "I set a boundary. I told him that he couldn't speak to me that way any more." Jackson said to ...
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  • ***"How Can I Manage Overwhelm?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you often feel overwhelmed with demands, tasks and life in general? ________________________________________ Most of us lead very busy lives and it is easy to become overwhelmed with all we need to do. In addition, about 15% to 20% of us are born ...
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  • ***"Why Didn't God Stop The Abuse?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Have you ever wondered why God allows so much abuse, so much pain, so much war? "God has no hands but these." - Mother Theresa I am often asked by my clients, "If God is all powerful, why didn't he stop my father (or mother, or brother, or babysitter, or uncle ...
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  • ***Are You Loving Yourself Or Avoiding Conflict? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    -------------------------------------------------------------- How honest are you willing to be with yourself regarding your intent? -------------------------------------------------------------- Sometimes, when there is conflict in a relationship, it's hard to tell if you are withdrawing ...
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  • ***I Fall Too Hard In Love - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you find yourself getting hurt over and over in relationships? Discover why. ________________________________________ Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the ...
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  • ***Single? What Are Your False Beliefs About Relationships? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ If you are single, do you relate to any of these false beliefs about being in a relationship? ________________________________________ I have discovered that many of the single people I work with have a number of false beliefs about relationships. If ...
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  • ***Do You Know How To Love? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love. ________________________________________ We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ...
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  • ***The Foundation for Abundance - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self? ________________________________________ "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all ...
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  • ***Do You Define Your Adequacy By Looks and/or Performance? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ What was valued and approved of in your family as you were growing up? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, how did you learn to define your worth? Here are some of the things my clients have said to me: • In my ...
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  • ***What Are You Waiting For? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Is there something you've always wanted to do but have never done? What’s stopping you?  “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”  –Chinese Proverb  How often do you say to yourself, "I wish I had…..?" ...
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  • ***When You Love Yourself, You Love Others - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    Are you being selfish if you do what brings you joy, even if others don't like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can't really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others? One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, "If I take care of myself and do what brings ...
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  • ***Why Complain? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Are you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different? "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou Do you complain? If you do, why? ___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ...
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  • ***Are You Hard On Yourself? 9 Reasons to Love Yourself Instead - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    If you are hard on yourself, do you believe that this is helpful to you? You might want to re-evaluate this false belief. Are you hard on yourself? Do you think this is a good thing? Do you believe this motivates you to do better? Think again. If you are doing well, it's likely in ...
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  • ***Healing From A Relationship With A Narcissist - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now! ________________________________________ Many of us have been there. You met the person of your dreams – charming, ...
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  • ***Why Can't I Commit? - by Dr. Margaret Paul
    Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you have problems committing to a relationship, or are you involved with someone who has a fear of commitment? Louis wrote to me: "I have been dating an amazing girl, but recently ended it because I am not sure if she is good for me. Our relationship has ...
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  • ***How Are You and Your Partner Doing Together? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D
    Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    How is your relationship with your partner? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? When you and your partner are both operating as loving adults, you will experience many positive results. When one ...
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  • ***How Relationships Can Be Easy – 4 Keys to Loving Relationships - by By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Margaret Paul
    _______________________________________________________ Creating a loving relationship doesn't have to be as hard as you might think! _______________________________________________________ As most of us know, relationships can be very challenging. We generally enter a relationship with ...
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  • *** Succeeding Through Failure - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. --Michael Jordan, Former Professional Basketball Player and ...
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  • ***"How Can I Get Him To Stop Hurting Me?" - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you aware of the system you have created with your partner that may be causing you pain? ________________________________________ I have worked with couples for 44 years, and one thing I can tell you for sure: relationships are a system, and each ...
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  • ***Are You a Real Friend? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Do you have good friends? Are you a good friend – both with yourself and with others? ________________________________________ "A real friend is one who helps us to think our noblest thoughts, put forth our best efforts, and be our best selves." ...
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  • ***Superheroes vs. Underminers: Are You Supporting Your Personal Power? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit ...
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  • ***Do You Believe You Are Worthy of Love? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Do you sometimes find yourself resisting receiving love because you believe you don't deserve it? Have you ever heard yourself say, "I'm not worthy of love," or "I'm not worth loving," or "I'm unworthy of God's love"? I frequently hear this from my ...
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  • ***Relationships: When To Let Go and Move On - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    ________________________________________ Are you staying in an abusive relationship because you believe you can change it or not be bothered by it? ________________________________________ The question of when to leave a relationship comes up over and over with my clients and with the ...
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  • ***Intimacy With Others Starts From Within - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? "Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas ...
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  • *** Over-Talking: The Need to Talk Too Much - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Margaret Paul
    Are you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this. I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that ...
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  • ***Does Controlling Others Make You Feel Happy? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Margaret Paul
    Are you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself? "I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others." - Thomas ...
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