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- 4 Proven Small Talk Topics That Work With Everyone - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyNo matter which type of setting you are in, be it a professional or personal relationship, it would have started with small talk. If you would not take the initiative to talk with somebody, your social circle would not widen and your business opportunities will be limited to those who you ...
Views: 1416 - How To Get People To Stop Ignoring You And Start Listening - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyGetting people to pay attention to what you say: ah, now that is a challenge every school teacher, advertiser, and director of marketing has been trying to figure out since the dawn of time. Anyone who has ever been in a position of authority will realize this can be difficult. So, if you are ...
Views: 1393 - Overcoming Shyness - The 7 Simple Tricks - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany people struggle with overcoming shy. It can effect every aspect of your life, especially your interaction with other people. Being shy can cause you to miss out on friendships, fun experiences and learning new things. Shyness can cause you to have underdeveloped people skills and lacking ...
Views: 1391 - How To Get People To Respect You - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany people around us fail to respect us. Some people use us and take advantage of us, while others talk and behave with us in ways that offend us and hurt us. However, when people fail to respect us it is our own fault. It’s our fault because we have failed to establish boundaries for ...
Views: 1356 - 8 Simple Ways To Overcome Distractions And Stay Focused - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt happens to the best of us: we have a job to do, we get ready to do it… in some cases, even starting it… and then we get a phone call. Or our favorite show comes on. Or someone knocks on the door. We get hungry, sleepy, tired or any one combination of the three. For ...
Views: 1345 - 7 Tips For Unstoppable Motivation And Enduring Success - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from Peter MurphyProcrastination is of no use to you in your quest to fulfill your dreams. Lose those old habits and replace them with habits that lead to self-motivation and control over your life. 1. Success is not achieved accidentally. It is a systematic, deliberate process of deciding what you want to do ...
Views: 1337 - 9 Great Ways To Survive Burn Out - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2008 from Peter MurphyWe have all experienced the familiar sting of burnout: the feeling of being mentally and physically exhausted, the fear that any moment now, you will drop down and not be able to get back up. You've been going a hundred miles a minute and now that shifty, unpredictable rollercoaster is ...
Views: 1337 - The 6 Ways Winners Plan For Success - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2008 from Peter MurphyOnce upon a time, I used to be the messiest person alive. I don't just mean in terms of messy room and messy car. I mean messy plans, too. I would have a general idea of what I wanted to do, but wouldn't be really sure about how I wanted to make it happen. Over the years, through watching ...
Views: 1336 - How To Get Your Man To Talk More - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are in a relationship, there are many things that are important to make it work, to make it grow, and thrive. As with anything else in life, you must strive to build your relationship and make it healthy. And, one of the key aspects to a relationship is communication. For, if you can ...
Views: 1313 - 7 Simple Tips for Cultivating Unstoppable Confidence - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2003 from Peter Murphy1 Spend time each day with confident people. Their energy and inner strength is so inspiring that you will find yourself feeling more empowered just by listening to them talk. And you can get tips from them. All you need to do is ask! Even one good idea could point you in a whole new ...
Views: 1303(1 vote) - 6 Simple Steps To Big Goal Achievement - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you really want to achieve your biggest goals, you have to tart somewhere. Some goals can be long-term, complex goals which may take months or even years to achieve. That can be overwhelming. If you start to get overwhelmed by a task it can unfortunately mean that you get too scared to ...
Views: 1301 - 7 Simple Ways To Be Interesting To People You Meet - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn the world of food, it's said that they first bite is with the eyes. Well, when it comes to meeting new people, a first impression is a lasting impression, and it's important you make a good one. After that, you have to work at holding their interest. Let's look at some steps you can take ...
Views: 1300 - How To Build Rock Solid Self Confidence - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyYou have probably noticed those people at work, school, and in your daily life that always appear to be self confident and on top of world. Everything seems to go right for these people and they always seem to present themselves as calm, collected and successful in everything they do. If you ...
Views: 1283 - 4 Good Topics Of Conversation People Love To Talk About - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhat makes for good topics of conversation? Well, this depends on why you want to have the conversation. But the basic rule is that conversations need to be a two-way process. Pick topics that everyone involved in the conversation is interested in. That way, everyone can feel comfortable and ...
Views: 1275 - How To Win Friends And Influence People In 3 Easy Steps - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyCan you count on the fingers of one hand the number of true friends that you have? Would you like to increase your circle of friends and prove to yourself that you have 'people skills' and you can get more people to like you? This may be easier said than done, especially if you are the loner ...
Views: 1273(1 vote) - 5 Super Topics Of Conversation - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Peter MurphyConversations can be a little difficult and stilted when you first meet someone or start to talk to them online. What you need are topics of conversation that are fun to talk about so that you can both relax and enjoy getting to know each other better. That’s why different forms of ...
Views: 1260 - How To Assert Yourself Without Losing Friends - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyOften, people will have trouble making themselves stand out form the crowd. For some people, they can be a bit nervous about voicing their own opinion; maybe they are worried about being wrong or be laughed at. So, trying to stand up for themselves, and really assert themselves can be a problem ...
Views: 1258 - How To Read Body Language To Understand People Better - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyBody language is non-verbal communication, but is used along with verbal communication. Body language expresses our emotions, conveys our attitudes, demonstrates our personality traits and supports out verbal communications. Everyone uses body language whenever we communicate to each other. ...
Views: 1240 - How To Increase Confidence - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyConfidence is an important aspect of our lives which we don't very often pay attention to unless it needs a boost or pick me up but what about increasing your confidence? How to increase your confidence and keep on track with your goals by ensuring you are building up and developing the level of ...
Views: 1235 - Twelve Reasons Why You Should Never Neglect People Skills - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2004 from Peter Murphy1. Exceptional people skills and the ability to start a wonderful conversation with anyone you meet are essential life skills. Your success and happiness are directly related to the development of these social skills. These skills are not optional unless you want to be excluded from what is ...
Views: 1233(1 vote) - 9 Motivation Secrets That Make Dreams Come True - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from Peter MurphyDreams do come true as long as we can stay motivated in the face of setbacks. That´s where most of us get discouraged. So often, reality doesn’t measure up to expectations. We can have all these grand plans, whether it is buying a house, making improvements to your kitchen, or write ...
Views: 1206 - 10 Super Ways To Take Action Right Away With No Hesitation - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt’s easy to give in to doubt and hesitation, but you will no doubt realize that doing so doesn’t get you anywhere. If you have things you need to do, learn how to get started right away and get rid of all your hesitation. 1. Take responsibility for your life Noone up above in the ...
Views: 1204 - The Common Body Language Mistakes That Damage Communication - by Submitted on May 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyOur communications and interactions with others can be weakened by both our verbal communications as well as our non-verbal communications. The use of inappropriate language, for example, can send the listener the message that you don’t have a good command of language and thus also weaken ...
Views: 1201 - 3 Ways To Stay Motivated Despite Movable Deadlines - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is important to know how to find self motivation when you are dealing with unstructured timetables and deadlines that can change from one moment to the next. Unstructured time and changing deadlines can be very frustrating and can cause motivation to dwindle away. Motivation can also ...
Views: 1171 - How To Stay Motivated After Failure - by Submitted on May 28, 2008 from Peter MurphyAchieving our goals is not always easy. Sometimes we hit obstacles along the way that, at first glance seem like failure. Or maybe we feel we are not achieving our goals fast enough. The reality is that, no matter what our life journey is, life does go on around us, and at times, makes progress ...
Views: 1149 - Common Communication Mistakes In Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Peter MurphyPeople often wonder what is the most important aspect of a relationship. Is it compatibility? Having things in common, the same religious or political beliefs? What about honesty, or getting along; never fighting? No, being able to talk is the key; communication, because, as long as you can talk ...
Views: 1146 - 8 Simple Ways To Follow Through On Your Success Plans - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe single most important step in getting somewhere is the knowing where you're going and having a plan for getting there. If you don’t have a goal you won’t be satisfied because you won’t be able to judge when you’ve been successful so you will constantly feel like a ...
Views: 1131 - How To Deal With People Who Dislike You - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you read books on personal development and articles about making your life better the emphasis is generally on the positive. You learn all about deciding what you want and how to get it. However you also need specific guidelines for dealing with situations when nothing seems to be working ...
Views: 1127 - How To Build Self Esteem In Children - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyEvery parent has to learn how to build self esteem in their child. You might think that children do not have a problem with low self esteem but some of them do - and that someone could easily be your child. How does one build self esteem in their child? You may rely on the following steps to ...
Views: 1119 - How to Get Your Partner to Listen - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are in a relationship, communication is one of the fundamental factors in building a lasting bond of affection between the two of you. So, being able to sit and talk, and work things out between you is vitally important to that relationship. And, just talking is not enough, you both ...
Views: 1118 - Do You Make These Common Mistakes When Talking to People? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyMany moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided where possible. At the time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting myself up for failure. I kept making the same mistakes without even noticing what I was doing wrong. You may be doing the same thing. Here are three common ...
Views: 1113(1 vote) - 12 Reasons to Develop Exceptional People Skills - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2004 from Peter MurphyWhy should you bother to spend your valuable time learning how to develop exceptional people skills? Here´s why. Look at the people who seem to have it all - a great job, an active social life and a happy family life. What do these people have in common? They all have excellent communication ...
Views: 1112(1 vote) - Common Mistakes Men Make When Talking With Their Partner - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany relationships today fail because of communication problems. Being able to effectively communicate with your partner is essential to the happiness and success of all relationships. Let us look at some common mistakes men make when communicating with their partner. Not listening to your ...
Views: 1112 - 9 Great Ways To Deal With Nerves When Meeting People - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyEveryone suffers with that nervous feeling whilst meeting someone new; it’s a perfectly normal feeling. It is human nature to get anxious whilst facing the first introduction, that face to face meeting of a stranger. So just why do we get nervous? Because we are trying to impress! No-one ...
Views: 1095 - 6 Great Ways To Improve Your Social Skills - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you are looking for a way to improve your social skills, there are many resources available that will assist you in refining your social skills and improving the way you communicate with others. It's not only possible to learn how to improve your social skills; it's easier than you ...
Views: 1093 - Like Yourself More and Others will Like You Even More - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyA fact of interpersonal relationships is: before others will like you, or even begin to like you, you must like yourself. We can actually call this fact the “Golden Rule” of interpersonal relationships. If you don’t like yourself it becomes difficult for others to like you and, ...
Views: 1092 - How to Improve Communication Skills at Lightning Speed - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2007 from Peter MurphyTalking is the easy part; really communicating so that you say something worthwhile and people listen to understand your message as well can be more of a challenge. If you are to exchange useful information and react with people who are resistant to your communication through fear, anger or ...
Views: 1085 - Successful Communication In The Workplace in 7 Easy Steps - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2007 from Peter MurphyCommunication in the workplace is a very important matter but with so many people involved, all with different personalities and varying levels of understanding – communication can be difficult and misunderstandings can arise. Workplaces can be hectic places where messages are flying ...
Views: 1078 - How To Use Better Communication To Ensure Success In Business - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn today’s world of competitive business it has become very important for companies, and their employees, to communicate effectively and quickly in order to stay in business. The faster and more thoroughly a business can communicate with the consumers that buy their goods and within ...
Views: 1077 - Which Issues To Talk About To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyToo often, people put their relationship aside and do not give it the attention it deserves. Our world has become so high-tech and high speed; we are all rushing around, bound and determined to get things done. The result is, we do more things, but get less done. A relationship, like any other ...
Views: 1066 - 10 Great Ways To Follow Through On A Project Once You Start - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyEveryone starts big projects and gets overwhelmed by them sometimes. They can take a long time to complete and problems crop up so you wonder whether it is worth carrying on. But you know you won’t achieve anything of you give up, so what you have to so is find ways to stick at a ...
Views: 1063 - Common Small Talk Mistakes You Need To Be Aware Of - by Submitted on May 14, 2008 from Peter MurphySmall talk, for many people, can be a difficult undertaking, whereas for others it’s as easy as tying their shoes. Of all the conversational styles however, small talk is the most difficult to negotiate. What do I talk about? This is the basic question we ask ourselves when first meeting ...
Views: 1046 - How to Stay Motivated After Rejection - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is a well-known fact that life is not fair. If it were, we would not need laws and courts, or government agencies and promises of rewards in the hereafter. There will be times when you are going to face rejection; whether it is from a company, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a spouse etc. So, you ...
Views: 1039 - 6 Easy Ways To Develop Social Skills - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Peter MurphyEveryone wants to shine and be accepted by people. If your goal is to achieve a successful life, personal and career, you will need the help of others. And, to feel accepted and get along well with others, you need to focus on developing your social skills to win more attention. For someone who ...
Views: 1022 - What To Do When A Conversation Runs Out Of Steam - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are at a party, or maybe a job interview, there can be points where the conversation wanes and/or falls flat. So, you can use some methods perk things up. Now, the first thing you want to remember is: do not panic! It is common for any conversation to go through peaks and valleys. ...
Views: 1007 - How To Improve Communication In Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyUnless you are a hermit living on a desert island or high on a mountain, you will most likely have to learn how communication in relationships works. You will have relationships with your family members, your neighbors, people in school, colleagues at work - even vendors in the market place. To ...
Views: 1005 - Common Conversation Mistakes To Avoid - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are engaged in a conversation with one or more people, you have to essentially take turns at speaking. If one person is doing all the talking, that is a lecture, not a chat. So, one very common mistake people will make is that they monopolize the conversation and end up doing all of the ...
Views: 1000 - Common Mistakes Women Make When Talking To Their Partners - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyCommunication is the single most important part of an relationship. So long as you can talk, so long as you can respect each other and each other’s point of view; you can overcome just about anything life throws at you. Yet, talking is like anything else in life; there is a right way and a ...
Views: 985 - People Skills Magic In 7 Steps - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Peter MurphyGood people skills come naturally to some and are a struggle for others. Learning people skills is usually a matter of just being a member of society, but to truly understand the proper ways to interact sometimes involves instruction. There are some basic guidelines to cultivate good people ...
Views: 969 - Communication Secrets For Success In Life - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you want to be successful in life you need to communicate effectively. Effective communications can help you in work, in all of your relationships with family and friends, as well as socially. There are many aspects to communications all of which, combined together, can make you successful in ...
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