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- 4 Guidelines 4 Your Success with Dating and Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from Doron GilI am often surprised to see singles who shoot themselves in the foot in relationships for the simple reason that they are not tuned to themselves or to their date/partner. Time and again I see singles sating others who are incompatible to them. It is apparent to me that they are driven by needs ...
Views: 1570 - Be Aware: When Your Desire for Love is Driven by Neediness & Dependency it Harms the Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction Many “fall for” others who are unavailable, giving themselves totally, as if there is no tomorrow, ignoring warning signs – even the most obvious ones – believing they have found “the love of their life”, only to become disillusioned time and again – and to jump in with another ...
Views: 1570 - Don’t Let Your Anger Sabotage Your Relationships: Allow Yourself to Express it! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilAnger is a natural emotion. However, there are those who, for one reason or another, don’t allow themselves to express it. By doing so they might harm their relationships. If you are a person who doesn’t express anger, you may want to understand why you don’t and teach yourself to express it ...
Views: 1551 - Falling in Love, Romance and Love Poems: Are They Possible via Long-Distance Chat? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Doron GilWho doesn’t dream about falling in love, meeting “the one and only”, having a “once-of-a-life-time connection” like in the fairy tales, the movies, and TV series? At times the modern technology and the social-media provide all these. Just touch the key-board and YOU’RE CONNECTED! When such ...
Views: 1545 - Your Attitude to Love, Dating and Relationships is Crucial in Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Doron GilThe attitude you have while going on dates is crucial to your succeeding or failing to extend a date to a meaningful relationship. The more you take the time to reflect upon your attitude this holiday season and realize whether it sabotages you or not, the more you can change and adopt a healthy ...
Views: 1542(2 votes) - Still Single? Stop Justifying Your Failures! Gain Self-Awareness and Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION If you have been failing in your relationships time and again, you might have resorted to self-manipulations to justify to yourself why you fail. Instead of doing so, become aware of the true reasons behind your failures – and learn how to succeed! JUSTIFICATION YOU USE If ...
Views: 1540 - Can Your Dreams about a Wonderful Intimate Relationship Materialize? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Doron GilIt is wonderful to dream and fantasize about a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person. Who wouldn’t want to be involved with a great intimacy? But often, when you meet someone, even if at the beginning of the relationship you believe you have indeed seen your dream come true, slowly but ...
Views: 1499 - Betrayal, Cheating, Trust & Forgiveness - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Doron GilBetrayal is a common occurrence. Research shows that a large proportion of partners betray their “loved ones”. A person thinking that his/her partner is “unique”, “special” and “exceptional” might stop thinking it after finding the partner has been unfaithful. After all, he/she has become “just ...
Views: 1494 - A Smart New Year Resolution: Develop Self-Awareness & Become Empowered to Have a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2011 from Doron GilSTICK ON TO YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTION & BECOME ABLE TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP New-Year is a time for Resolutions. At times you promise yourself to do such and such in the coming year, but put this intention aside as soon as January 1 is over. The reason is that it is so easy and ...
Views: 1491 - Having a Partner & Being in an Intimate Relationship: Does it Bring More Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2013 from Doron GilIs there a correlation between having a partner and being happy? Some believe that the “trick” to being happy is to have a relationship, as if it will solve all problems: depression, sadness, low self-esteem and so on. Having a relationship – so they believe – will make them satisfied and ...
Views: 1482 - Don’t You At Times Wish that Your Relationship with Your Partner Will be as Good as the One You Have with Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Doron GilHave you ever wished that your relationship with your partner will be at a similar level of friendship like the one you have with your closest friend? That with him you would be able to talk about everything in the open, like really two soul-mates? Hellas, this is often not the case. And when ...
Views: 1467 - Using “Stay-Over Relationships” to Find a Partner & Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Doron GilA “new trend” in dating is on the rise: “THE STAY-OVER RELATIONSHIP”. Men & women pack up their bag and “move in” with their date (“partner”) for two or three days. If you are taking part in this new trend you can make use of your “stay-over relationships” for your personal growth and ...
Views: 1463 - Be “The Artist” of Your Relationships Success Story: “Do” Dating and Relationships YOUR way! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are trying for a long time now to find a partner (if you are still single) with whom to develop a successful relationship, or to develop a satisfying one (if you already have a partner), but are unsuccessful – you are not alone. Many do! And like many others you are probably doing ...
Views: 1452(1 vote) - Afraid to Develop Self-Awareness? Fail in Your Relationships? Combat the Fear and Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on May 04, 2011 from Doron GilThere are many who, in spite of failing in their relationship over and over and again, are afraid to develop self-awareness and understand what makes them fail. This is unfortunate, since it is only when they will develop Self-Awareness and understand how they shoot themselves in the foot in ...
Views: 1451 - Are You Stuck in an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? Here are 3 Routes for you to Consider - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Doron GilThe increasing number of separations and divorce is an indication that many are not satisfied with their relationships. Yet, those who stay in an unsatisfying relationship might have reasons for doing so. Whatever the reasons are, there are at least 3 routes to making a change. Reasons for ...
Views: 1447 - Relationships Advice: Cultivating an Intimate Relationship is like Taking Care of Precious Plants - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Doron GilThere are those who are so talented at taking care of plants that whichever plant they care for will grow and live forever. But when it comes to cultivating a relationship with a partner, the story is different. Is there anything they can do to change this situation? I've always been ...
Views: 1444 - Valentine’s Day Advice: Expecting Your Partner to Read Your Mind Might Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Doron GilA close relationship is something we all desire: to feel we are “one” with our partner; that we know each other as well as knowing ourselves; that we can communicate without words, like with a telepathic connection. But if we expect this to be the rule – rather than the exception - we might harm ...
Views: 1434 - Do You Have a Burnout from Dating? Take the Time during the Holidays to Heal - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction There is much talking about burnout from work. But burnout also happens when you feel exhausted from endless dating - yet you keep dating nonetheless. This is counter-productive, since you don’t project happiness to your date, but fatigue; not empowerment, but desperation; not ...
Views: 1433 - “Loving Your Partner” or “Loving Too Much” Determines Whether the Relationship Fails or Succeeds - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Doron GilYou may see yourself as someone who loves “taking care” of your partner. You do “all you can” to pamper, give and be there for him/her. But is it really “love” or are you driven by insecurity and a deep unconscious need to be loved? “LOVING” and “LOVING TOO MUCH” Do you, each time you ...
Views: 1432(1 vote) - Are You Capable of Leaving an Unsatisfying Intimacy when You Realize the Relationship Isn’t Good Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Doron GilI once heard someone describing her wish to separate from her partner in the following words: “I’m in the departure lounge at the airport… there’s some waiting before take-off…there might even be some delay…”. She already knew she should separate, but still hesitated about doing it and ...
Views: 1415 - Developing Self-Awareness Enables You to Understand How You Harm Your Relationships – and Change - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Doron GilIt is very likely that your attitudes, reactions and behaviors in a relationship harm it, causing conflicts and arguments. Often, you don’t even know that that’s the case. When your relationship fails, you tend to blame your partners. Developing Self-Awareness will help you notice that many of ...
Views: 1407 - Self-Awareness or Attraction and Desire: Which is More Important for a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2011 from Doron GilMany believe that attraction and desire are some of the most important ingredients of a successful relationship. But a less-known concept – Self-Awareness – is vital to the maintenance of a long-term healthy and satisfying intimacy. INGREDIENT OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP Many perceive sexual ...
Views: 1405(1 vote) - How to Combat the Fear of Being Alone and Become Empowered to Develop a Healthy and Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2011 from Doron GilThe best way to talk about the damage that the fear of being alone causes to those “infected” by it is by bringing up a real-life-anecdote: REBECCA Every evening, instead of going home after a busy day at work, Rebecca meets men on blind dates. What would she do all alone at home anyway? ...
Views: 1400 - Should You Stay or Should You Leave an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Whether you decide to stay in an unsatisfying intimate relationship or leave is up to you. But you can make a proper decision only when you are aware of your fears and needs, of what might keep you hanging on to a partner which is not for you, in a relationship which is not ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - Rushing to Find a Partner by Christmas Might Mislead You. Be Careful Not to Shoot Yourself in the Foot! - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you run the dating-marathon in order to have a relationship by Christmas rather than taking the time to contemplate you past failures and learn what to change, you might fail once again! DON’T SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE FOOT! Is it possible that due to so many dates ...
Views: 1396 - Be “The Artist” of Your Relationship Success Story - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou may be trying for a long time now to find a partner (if you are still single) with whom to develop a successful relationship, or to develop a satisfying one (if you already have a partner). In order to succeed you have probably read advice columns about dating and relationships. Listened ...
Views: 1383 - Self-Observation, Acceptance of What You Notice and Motivation to Change Place You on the Road to a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from Doron GilIt is safe to assume that no one has ever taught you the importance of SELF-OBSERVATION: how to look inwards, contemplate your thoughts, feelings, reactions and behaviors. Observation will help you pay attention to your reactions and behaviors with your partners and become aware of the ways in ...
Views: 1383 - How to Find a Partner and Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Doron GilThe one-million dollar question is: what does it take to find a suitable partner and cultivate a truly successful relationship? My simple answer is: it takes SELF-AWARENESS: identifying and understanding what stands in your way from succeeding. You might be surprised to find out that if ...
Views: 1379 - How to Ensure Personal Growth and a Satisfying Relationship: Getting in Touch with Your Shadow is a Great Beginning! - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Doron GilWe all like to think we have only “good”, “nice”, “elegant”, “friendly” traits. While trying to present a nice “face” to ourselves and our partners, we repress and deny other traits of us, which we think carry “negative” connotations; which are not “socially accepted”; which might bring us ...
Views: 1371 - Predict Your Success or Failure with Relationships – and Make the Best to Succeed! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Doron GilSerious researchers are looking for ways to predict and identify future criminals. Research has shown that criminals serving time for violent acts have already shown violent tendencies in elementary school. By the same token, studies comparing introverts and extroverts have found that such ...
Views: 1361 - Alone During the Holidays? Take the Time to Heal Yourself and Become Able to Develop a Successful Relationship Next Year - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Doron GilIt always amazes me to see the ways in which people attempt to ensure they have someone to spend the holidays with. Some SINGLES vehemently look for a partner right before the holidays in order to escape being alone while “everybody else is with loved ones”. Those in a RELATIONSHIP often ...
Views: 1359(1 vote) - Mindfulness, Self-Awareness & Intimacy: How to Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction When you get up the courage and the motivation to go through the process of mindfulness, observe, pay attention, become aware and accept what you see, the more self-understanding and personal-growth you gain, and the more empowered you become to develop a successful intimate ...
Views: 1353 - How & Why Does Self-Awareness Enable You to Succeed with Your Relationships: Two Examples - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION It isn’t easy to change habits. But when it comes to intimate relationships, sticking-on to your habits is a sure way to fail. When you understand your habits, realize the damage they cause to your relationships and make the necessary effort to change them, you increase your ...
Views: 1349 - Why Many Who Fail in Their Relationships Don’t Develop Awareness to Understand Why They Fail? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2011 from Doron GilMany who fail in their relationships don’t take the time to develop their Self-Awareness and understand the reasons for their failure. Why don’t they? Many think they know themselves well enough to be able to cultivate and maintain a “good” relationship (whatever they mean by “good”). ...
Views: 1349 - Single & Dating? Note that People Who Are Separated or “In the Process” Might Not Be “Available” for a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are taking part in the dating scene you have probably met many who claim to be in the process of divorce/separation or declare that they have just recently separated. Agreeing to go out with them under the assumption that a satisfying relationship might develop is, in most likelihood, a ...
Views: 1344 - Spying on Your Partner OR Learning about Yourself: Which one is Better in the Long Run? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2012 from Doron GilPartners’ spying on each other is not a new phenomenon. What is new is the “James Bond” techniques they use. In different stores in Manhattan you can find, these days, various devises to spy on your “loved one”: a pen, glasses, a key-chain, a tie, a watch, a clock, even a teddy bear - all of ...
Views: 1344 - Research Shows that Couples Are Usually Happier than Singles. If You Are Single Wanting a Relationship, Why Are You Still Alone? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou may have heard experts saying that couples usually feel happier in their life then singles. Indeed, studies show that in spite of the escalating number of divorces and separations, 80% of young adults still say they are looking forward to a good marriage (or living together), a satisfying ...
Views: 1342 - Be Aware: Traits You Deny and Reject in You, You Project onto Your Partners and Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2011 from Doron GilThere are many traits you are NOT AWARE of which control your attitudes, thinking, reactions and behaviors in your relationships. These usually are traits which you perceive to be “negative”; which you are afraid might bring criticism upon you; disrespect; rejection and abandonment. As long ...
Views: 1335 - Freeing Yourself from Harmful Behaviors within the Relationship Enables You to Succeed with Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2013 from Doron GilAs much as you might want to have a successful, healthy and satisfying relationship, and as much you think you do “all you can” in order to have one, you might still, unconsciously, react and behave in ways which hurt your bond. This is normal and humane, and many share this problem. The ...
Views: 1329 - Deciding to Stop Failing in Your Relationships is a Wise Decision: Make the Necessary Changes and Win! - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction The decision to keep failing in your relationships and suffer the painful consequences, or get up the courage to acknowledge what makes you fail and become able to eventually have the relationship you so much desire is yours, and yours alone! ** It might be difficult for you ...
Views: 1326(1 vote) - Be Aware: Self-Sacrifice, Neediness and “Being there” for Your Partner Might Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are single looking for a partner and your friends ask: “Do you want a relationship?” you certainly answer affirmatively. But often, once you have one, something odd happens: you give up and ignore your own will. You tell yourself: “I have a relationship - and that’s what matters! Do ...
Views: 1325 - Self-manipulations, Justifications and Explanations Singles Use to Justify their Failed Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Doron GilDuring my many years of experience with Self-Awareness and Relationships I’ve witnessed often how many people use self-manipulations to justify to themselves why they AREN’T successful in developing an intimate relationship. These justifications apparently help them feel “good” about themselves. ...
Views: 1321 - Are You Authentic? Learn Why Authenticity is Essential for a Successful Intimate Relationship! - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Doron GilA major component of successful intimate relationship is authenticity: when you are “who you are”, true to yourself and genuine, you can develop, nurture and maintain a healthy and satisfying intimacy. But many fail in their relationships because they are NOT authentic. Getting up the courage to ...
Views: 1319 - Do You Perceive Yourself to be a “Special” Person, therefore Not Succeeding at Having an Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are unsuccessful in developing an intimate relationship you might – like many others - perceive yourself as being “particular” – hereby justifying to yourself the fact that you are unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter is, “particular” are those who are willing to develop ...
Views: 1315(2 votes) - Are You a Single Mother In Search for a Partner? Awareness is Vital to Your Success - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Single mothers who wish to find a partner with whom to develop a serious and successful relationship need to be aware of their expectations and needs and share these with the prospective partner. If he will do likewise they increase the likelihood of becoming able to develop and ...
Views: 1314(1 vote) - Be Your Own Relationships’ Coach and Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2012 from Doron GilEngaging coaches in your personal and professional life has become a trend: more and more seek the advice and services of one coach or another, be it for lack of time, lack of experience, inability to make the right choices by yourself or just a symbol of status (just like having a personal ...
Views: 1314 - A Couple Coming towards Each Other: Enhancing Intimacy through Self-Awareness - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2011 from Doron GilIt often happens that couple’s intimacy experiences difficulties for the simple reason that the partners don’t know, or are unwilling, to come towards one another. Each believes his/her way of thinking and doing things is “the right way”. In addition, women in general often feel they are not ...
Views: 1313 - Why Do You Fall Time & Again for Prospective Partners whom You Should Have Never Dated? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Doron GilYou might have heard the following from your friend: “Have I known it ahead of time, I wouldn’t even begun going out with him” . The question is: was it possible for her to know it ahead of time? And the answer is: it depends. It depends on signs and hints she might have noticed. On her ...
Views: 1309(1 vote) - Are You Willing to Receive Feedback from Others in order to Improve Your Success with Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Doron GilA good friend of mine is writing a novel. But he resists getting any feedback from anyone: “Feedback?”- he says – “Anyone knows better than I how I should write my book? No way!” Success at writing a best-seller Just like my friend, so millions of people fantasize about writing and ...
Views: 1288(2 votes) - Are You Aware that You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Doron GilWe all want to think we know ourselves well enough. That we know who we are, what kind of a relationship we want to have and how to behave with our partner. In all likelihood you are no exception. Yet there might be some things about yourself that you DON’T know. Unfortunately, these ...
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