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- Alone During the Holidays? Take the Time to Heal Yourself and Become Able to Develop a Successful Relationship Next Year - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Doron GilIt always amazes me to see the ways in which people attempt to ensure they have someone to spend the holidays with. Some SINGLES vehemently look for a partner right before the holidays in order to escape being alone while “everybody else is with loved ones”. Those in a RELATIONSHIP often ...
Views: 1368(1 vote) - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Doron GilYOUR ANXIETY WORKS AGAINST YOU! If you have been wishing for quite some time now to have a stable, successful, satisfying relationship but are finding yourself time and again with the wrong partners and in unsatisfying relationships, what does it mean? Could it really be that “all these men” ...
Views: 1277(1 vote) - Meeting “The Right Person” Is Not a Matter of Luck or Time But of Being “Available and Ready” for a Relationship - by Submitted on May 24, 2011 from Doron GilYou probably know those who, when failing, time and again, in their attempts to develop an intimate relationship, tell you “it’s only a matter of time” until they will; “it is only a matter of meeting ‘the right person’”. What they don’t realize is that meeting “the right person” with whom to ...
Views: 3537(1 vote) - Self-Awareness Exemplifies the Essence of Gestalt Therapy: The Fully-Functioning Person and Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Doron GilTHE FULLY-FUNCTIONING PERSON The Fully-Functioning Person, according to Gestalt Therapy, is one who self-actualizes himself by freeing himself from what prevents him to live life to the fullest. In order to do so it is vital that he develops his Self-Awareness: 1) Gets in touch with his ...
Views: 2722(1 vote) - Stop Sabotaging Yourself in Search for Love and Intimacy: Learn What You Need to Change – and Succeed! - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Doron GilA sad story that often repeats itself regarding one’s search for love and intimacy Her need for attention and appreciation, to be loved and be told how “great” she is has driven her to harm her intimate relationship time and again. She expected too much from her partner; she demanded that he ...
Views: 915(1 vote) - What Is the Best that You Can Do When Wanting to Help Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction There are those who, when confronted with a crisis situation or with a need to change something, get into a “helpless” state of mind. They feel they don’t have control over their lives, that they can’t make decisions and move forward. They might feel stuck in whichever situation ...
Views: 1603(1 vote) - Your Personal Growth and Success with Intimate Relationships Depends on Your Being True to Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Doron GilAre you a person who tells yourself stories in order to justify to yourself why things go one way and not another? Do you convince yourself that whatever happens in your life happens because of such and such reason, unwilling to look reality in the eye and acknowledge that after all, things are ...
Views: 1079(2 votes) - Attraction, Desire, Self-Awareness and Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from Doron GilThere are some surprising similarities between Sexual desire and Self-Awareness with regard to Intimate Relationships, some of which you might have never thought about. And why would you? The two seem to be worlds-apart. But are they? SIMILARITIES BETWEEN SEXUAL DESIRE AND ...
Views: 3433(1 vote) - Love & Friendship in the New Testament: How to Expand Your Ability to Give and Be There for Others - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2011 from Doron GilThe New Testament provides us with many insights and advice-tips about love and relationships. These emphasize, time and again, the importance of loving others and being there for them. HERE ARE 10 SUCH INSIGHTS: 1. A faithful friend is the medicine of life (Ecclesiasticus 6:16). 2. ...
Views: 1859(1 vote) - NOT BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF HARMS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you are not TURE TO YOURSELF you harm your relationships. Finding out what prevents you from being true to yourself is vital for initiating the necessary changes and cultivate a successful intimacy. WHAT DOES IT MEAN “NOT BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF”? When you are NOT ...
Views: 6963(1 vote) - Self-Awareness or Attraction and Desire: Which is More Important for a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2011 from Doron GilMany believe that attraction and desire are some of the most important ingredients of a successful relationship. But a less-known concept – Self-Awareness – is vital to the maintenance of a long-term healthy and satisfying intimacy. INGREDIENT OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP Many perceive sexual ...
Views: 1415(1 vote) - Writing Your “Relationships-Autobiography” Enables you to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilWriting one’s autobiography has become trendy these days. Old people write their autobiographies, looking-back at their life, to “leave something” for the next generations in their family. As they work on their autobiography they “look-back” at their life, remember the high points and ...
Views: 3694(1 vote) - “Loving Your Partner” or “Loving Too Much” Determines Whether the Relationship Fails or Succeeds - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Doron GilYou may see yourself as someone who loves “taking care” of your partner. You do “all you can” to pamper, give and be there for him/her. But is it really “love” or are you driven by insecurity and a deep unconscious need to be loved? “LOVING” and “LOVING TOO MUCH” Do you, each time you ...
Views: 1438(1 vote) - If You Want to Meet Your Soul-Mate, Meet Yourself First - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Doron GilIf you haven’t been successful in cultivating an intimate relationship in spite of your continuing attempts, and are tired of disappointments, failed relationships, unfulfilled promises and/or partners who mislead you, you may resort to believing that you haven’t met your soul-mate yet. He/she ...
Views: 2364(2 votes) - Slowing Down Your Search for a Relationship Will Lead You to Finding One Faster - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Doron GilThe pain of failing to find and cultivate a successful intimate relationship must be horrible to endure. Especially if you have been trying for quite some time to find a partner and develop a lasting bond. Maybe the time has come for you to stop the excessive dating-rush and take the time to ...
Views: 1052(2 votes) - Are You Aware that You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Doron GilWe all want to think we know ourselves well enough. That we know who we are, what kind of a relationship we want to have and how to behave with our partner. In all likelihood you are no exception. Yet there might be some things about yourself that you DON’T know. Unfortunately, these ...
Views: 1297(4 votes) - Do You Perceive Yourself to be a “Special” Person, therefore Not Succeeding at Having an Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are unsuccessful in developing an intimate relationship you might – like many others - perceive yourself as being “particular” – hereby justifying to yourself the fact that you are unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter is, “particular” are those who are willing to develop ...
Views: 1324(2 votes) - Does Your Low Self-esteem Stand in Your Way from Developing a Healthy Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2013 from Doron GilA low self-esteem might push you to impress your dates and “potential others” by being “too nice”, “too accommodating”, “too easygoing” and so on, whether when you post your profile on social media or when you meet new people face-to-face. Even though you might be going on endless dates, as long ...
Views: 1799(2 votes) - Facing Yourself via Facebook: An Opportunity to Expand Your Self-Growth & Personal Development - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Doron GilFacebook as a social media offers many functions to its users, from enabling them to connect with friends and family, to develop business liaisons, to dating and meeting others, and on to marketing one’s own expertise and products. Another role that FB can be useful to the individual, which ...
Views: 1063(1 vote) - Healing and Awareness Are Vital for Your Personal Growth - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2012 from Doron GilIt is likely that you, as a grown-up – like so many others - probably have some unfinished businesses to take care of, be it relationships issues, unfulfilled career opportunities, as well as unresolved parents-children issues (with your own parents and/or own children). Taking time to heal ...
Views: 1134(2 votes) - Learning about Yourself While Going on Blind-Dates Will Help You Develop Better Relationships - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Doron GilIf you have been going on blind-dates for quite some time now and haven’t yet succeeded in extending a date into a meaningful relationship, you may want to take a careful look at yourself and understand the reasons. OBSERVE YOURSELF WHILE GOING ON A BLIND-DATE Looking at yourself doesn’t ...
Views: 878(1 vote) - Self-Betrayal is the Most Horrific Betrayal of them All! - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2012 from Doron GilYou probably tend to think – like most people do - that the most horrific betrayal of all is a person’s betrayal of his/her partner. After all, this is what you have been brought up to believe since childhood – from books and movies you have seen; from newspaper reports you have read; from TV ...
Views: 5959(2 votes) - Should You Stay or Should You Leave an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Whether you decide to stay in an unsatisfying intimate relationship or leave is up to you. But you can make a proper decision only when you are aware of your fears and needs, of what might keep you hanging on to a partner which is not for you, in a relationship which is not ...
Views: 1411(1 vote) - Single & Dating? Use New Year to Learn 5 Steps to Finding a Partner and Developing a Satisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2012 from Doron GilThere is no time like New Year to contemplate your successes and failures regarding intimate relationships. If you find you long to have a partner with whom to develop true intimacy and haven’t succeeded until now, why not use New Year as a time to look inwards and see, once and for all, what ...
Views: 1099(2 votes) - Your Attitude to Love, Dating and Relationships is Crucial in Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Doron GilThe attitude you have while going on dates is crucial to your succeeding or failing to extend a date to a meaningful relationship. The more you take the time to reflect upon your attitude this holiday season and realize whether it sabotages you or not, the more you can change and adopt a healthy ...
Views: 1551(2 votes) - Does Your Success with Dating Make You Spin Your Head? Know When to Stop & Develop a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction “Enjoying life” and “winning” date after date might give you a good feeling – a boost to your ego, to your sexual drive, to your availability. But don’t let it distract you from your initial goal of finding a partner with whom to develop a truly intimate relationship. Knowing and ...
Views: 1094(2 votes) - How to Empower Yourself to Find a Suitable Partner with Whom to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Doron GilWhen you see a couple holding hands, does it make you feel unhappy? At times, whether you are single or in an unsatisfying relationship, you feel unhappy when you see others who seem happy in their relationships. You see couples holding hands, even walk embraced, and this makes you think you ...
Views: 1124(2 votes) - Make Your Own Decisions in Finding a Partner & Developing an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction The “choices” you make when choosing a partner as well as when reacting and behaving in a relationship are often unconscious and affected by many factors from the past which control you, and are liable to harm your relationships. Self-awareness enables you to understand which ...
Views: 1203(2 votes) - Are You a Single Mother In Search for a Partner? Awareness is Vital to Your Success - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Single mothers who wish to find a partner with whom to develop a serious and successful relationship need to be aware of their expectations and needs and share these with the prospective partner. If he will do likewise they increase the likelihood of becoming able to develop and ...
Views: 1323(1 vote) - As Long As You Wear Masks You Hinder Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you go on dates wearing masks – not presenting your “real you”, you might stay single. When you become aware of the masks you wear, understand why you wear them and have the courage to remove them you can develop a truly intimate relationship. IF YOU TRICK YOUR ...
Views: 1840(1 vote) - Be Aware of Your Projections: They Might Harm Your Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you project your own traits, emotions and behaviors onto your partner, accusing him/her of owning these, rather than accepting them as part of you, you are harming the relationship. Becoming aware of your projections and taking responsibility for all your traits, ...
Views: 1732(1 vote) - Be “The Artist” of Your Relationships Success Story: “Do” Dating and Relationships YOUR way! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are trying for a long time now to find a partner (if you are still single) with whom to develop a successful relationship, or to develop a satisfying one (if you already have a partner), but are unsuccessful – you are not alone. Many do! And like many others you are probably doing ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - Choosing Partners & Relationships Rather than Escaping Into Them Makes a Difference between Failure & Success - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Doron GilIt always saddens me to see how singles who are UNSUCCESSFUL in their relationships sabotage themselves. Being EAGER to have a partner, they often they jump to have a relationship with whoever asks them out. Not only that, but they often tend to stay in the relationship – even though it might ...
Views: 1116(1 vote) - Don’t Try to Change Your Partner. Change YOURSELF Instead! This Can Help Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Doron GilMen and women alike often try to change their partners. They believe that “only when” their partners will think, feel, react and behave the way they themselves do – the relationship will be satisfying. But how often does it happen that just because they try to change their partners their ...
Views: 5011(1 vote) - How Many Dates Should You Go On Before Settling Down to Develop a Serious Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2013 from Doron GilRecently I came across the following Tweet: “Just what the doctor ordered: date 100 men without getting serious with anyone”. This made me thinking: for what purpose would anyone try to date 100 men (or, for that matter, women) without getting serious with anyone? How much can one learn about ...
Views: 1920(1 vote) - Staying in an Unsatisfying Relationship Rather than Leaving: The Reasons & the Options - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you feel stuck in an unsatisfying relationship but do not dare to leave, “excusing” your stay with various justifications and rationalizations, try to understand what stands in your way from making a change in your situation. You will then be able to make a clear decision ...
Views: 3956(1 vote) - Taking Off Your Masks is a Prerequisite to Succeed in an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Masks you wear might have a heavy toll on your relationships. You are not “who you really are”. You can’t develop a truly intimate bond. Acknowledging the masks and removing them is a prerequisite for a successful intimate relationship. DO YOU PRESENT TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS ...
Views: 2574(1 vote) - Thanksgiving: Learn How to Develop a Successful Relationship and Thank Yourself for Doing So! - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Thanksgiving is a perfect holiday to begin your process of Self-Awareness, learn how to succeed with relationships, and thank yourself for having the courage to doing so. You can attain self-growth each time you go on a date or start a relationship. It is a matter of willing ...
Views: 1018(1 vote) - When You Fail Having a Satisfying Relationship – Denying or Acknowledging it Determines Your Future Success - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2013 from Doron GilThere are those who, in order to feel happy in their relationship, deny and reject all “negative feelings” which have to do with what they don’t like about their bond. But the only way to “be there” in the relationship, to experience it, enjoy it and grow with it (and with your partner) is to ...
Views: 1173(1 vote) - Are You Willing to Receive Feedback from Others in order to Improve Your Success with Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Doron GilA good friend of mine is writing a novel. But he resists getting any feedback from anyone: “Feedback?”- he says – “Anyone knows better than I how I should write my book? No way!” Success at writing a best-seller Just like my friend, so millions of people fantasize about writing and ...
Views: 1295(2 votes) - Can You Help a Friend of Yours who Always “Falls” for the Wrong Man? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Doron GilIt is very likely that you have a friend who always “falls” for the wrong guy. Everybody sees it, except her. You feel sorry for her; you wish you can help her. You even try to show her the “facts”, explain to her how she hurts herself; “predict” the miserable future she’ll have. After all, she ...
Views: 1174(1 vote) - Deciding to Stop Failing in Your Relationships is a Wise Decision: Make the Necessary Changes and Win! - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction The decision to keep failing in your relationships and suffer the painful consequences, or get up the courage to acknowledge what makes you fail and become able to eventually have the relationship you so much desire is yours, and yours alone! ** It might be difficult for you ...
Views: 1334(1 vote) - How to Finally Succeed with Intimacy: Make Sure You Change What Needs a Change Before You Begin a New Relationship - by Submitted on May 29, 2013 from Doron GilAs long as you don’t change whatever it is that you need to change regarding your attitudes about relationships and/or your behaviors with your partners, you will probably end up with similar problems with new partners. The reason being – you always bring yourself into the new relationship. This ...
Views: 1134(1 vote) - Reflecting on Your Intimate Relationship & Your On-going Issues with Your Partner Can Help & Improve Your Bond - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2013 from Doron GilSometimes, as you wonder about your relationship with your partner, you might wonder how it goes with others’ relationships: Are your issues similar to theirs? How do others combat, struggle with and solve their problems? How happy others are? How often do they make love – and whether whatever ...
Views: 1091(1 vote) - Why Do You Fall Time & Again for Prospective Partners whom You Should Have Never Dated? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Doron GilYou might have heard the following from your friend: “Have I known it ahead of time, I wouldn’t even begun going out with him” . The question is: was it possible for her to know it ahead of time? And the answer is: it depends. It depends on signs and hints she might have noticed. On her ...
Views: 1320(1 vote) - 10 New-Year Resolutions Which Will Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship Next Year - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2011 from Doron GilIf you wish wholeheartedly to succeed in cultivating a successful intimate relationship but haven’t been able to doing so this year, here are10 New Year Resolutions which, if you decide to adopt and follow, will empower you to develop the relationship you so much desire: 1. TAKE TIME OFF from ...
Views: 1608 - 136. Thoughts about Being Able to Develop a Healthy and Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Doron GilMany who are not happy with their relationships. They would have loved to make a change for the better, but they are afraid. At times they themselves don’t know what they are afraid of, still they hesitate to take steps leading to a change. They stay stuck in their unsatisfying relationship, ...
Views: 1110 - 17 Tips on How Can Self-Awareness Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2012 from Doron GilIn the following 17 tips I explain HOW BECOMING SELF-AWARE ENABLES YOU TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP. I show how becoming aware of factors which control you and affect the ways in which you react and behave in dating and relationships is essential to learning ...
Views: 3470 - 4 Guidelines 4 Your Success with Dating and Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from Doron GilI am often surprised to see singles who shoot themselves in the foot in relationships for the simple reason that they are not tuned to themselves or to their date/partner. Time and again I see singles sating others who are incompatible to them. It is apparent to me that they are driven by needs ...
Views: 1581 - A Couple Coming towards Each Other: Enhancing Intimacy through Self-Awareness - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2011 from Doron GilIt often happens that couple’s intimacy experiences difficulties for the simple reason that the partners don’t know, or are unwilling, to come towards one another. Each believes his/her way of thinking and doing things is “the right way”. In addition, women in general often feel they are not ...
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