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- Child Abuse: Is Anger An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ...
Views: 2154 - Child Abuse: Is There Something Wrong With People Who Are Abused As Children? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors. ...
Views: 1902 - Abusive Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Create A Tolerance For Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ...
Views: 2104 - Child Abuse: Can Validation Allow Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 2065 - Emotional Regulation: What Happens When Someone Can't Regulate Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world there are all kinds of challenges that people are having to face. And some of these are relatively easy to handle, while others can seem to be more or less impossible to solve. These can range from global, societal and personal problems. In a way, they can all affect each ...
Views: 2358 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away After Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than ...
Views: 11917 - Relationships: Is Looking Good Enough To Attract The Perfect Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about having a relationship, it is often their priority to find the perfect partner. And this can be someone who has qualities and features that are relatively easy to find and go on to include what could be seen by some as, impossible to find. It could be that one has ...
Views: 1487(2 votes) - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Don’t Some Men Break Away From Their Mothers? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men have been seen as being one way and women as being another way. And part of this related to men being the ones who were independent and the women as being dependent. So a man would be an example of the masculine on the outside and on the inside and a women’s outer femininity ...
Views: 4661 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
Views: 2220 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1787 - Boundaries: Who Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Feelings? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be responsible for how one feels is one thing and yet it is quite another to feel responsible for how other people feel. Owning how one feels and not to see other people as being the primary reason that they feel as they do, is a sign of self awareness and emotional maturity. Through ...
Views: 3743 - Faith: Where Does Faith Come From? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one places their attention on achieving something or just on whether something can be done or not, their mind is going to have plenty to say. It could be fairly subtle in its response or it could end up being overwhelming. So the mind could come up with a few reasons as to why something ...
Views: 1836 - Relationships: Can Our Past Relationships Affect Our Present Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses. This could be because of what is ...
Views: 3991 - Emotional Expression: What Can Happen When We Don't Express Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to stop eating and drinking it wouldn’t be long before they would start to experience problems. And if this went on for too long, they would soon die. But while one is likely to be aware of their physical needs in most cases, what they might not be aware of is what is going on for ...
Views: 2000 - Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1786 - Music: Is Music Important? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, music is a vital part of life. It is there when they are feeling up and during those moments when they are feeling down. It is then not just a nice addition and something they simply enjoy, it as much a part of their life as breathing is. And while one can feel let down by ...
Views: 1867 - Feeling Good: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Good? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that just about everyone wants, and that is to feel good. It plays a big part in what someone does and doesn’t do. This can relate to one feeling emotionally centred and at ease internally and/or through having a heightened sense of wellbeing because of what is taking place ...
Views: 1827 - Body Language: Can Trapped Emotions Define Someone’s Body Language? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the words that someone uses, there is the potential for one to cover up what is really going on. Here, one can say what they think they should be saying or what sounds right. And while another person can take this as the truth, it could be just a half truth or a complete ...
Views: 2703 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Feel Trapped In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women prefer to be in relationships more than men do. And while this can sound like the truth, it is not always the case. There are going to be men who appreciate being in one, just as there are going to be men who don’t. Some women will enjoy being in them and then ...
Views: 2350 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1643 - Emotional Instability: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Emotional Instability? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having emotional stability is the ideal, it is not something that everyone can relate to. But this doesn’t mean that the people who do experience emotional stability are always stable and go through life unscathed. To be human means that we are emotional beings and so unless one has ...
Views: 1867 - Emotional Neglect: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one generation passes onto the next, genetics are at the forefront. Some experts say that whatever one generation has, the next are certain to have the same. However, others, through their understanding of epigenetics, have said that their needs to be a trigger in order for ...
Views: 2090 - Relationships: Can We Ever Truly Know Anyone? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThroughout one’s life, they are naturally going to meet people they feel close to and people they don’t. And the people who they don’t feel close to are going to be in the majority. Special connections are going to be rare and this is because one won’t meet people like this all of the time. ...
Views: 1909(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People See Others As Extensions Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a look at their fellow human beings, it would be clear that they are all separate. They each have their own body and this then goes onto to cover their individual preferences, wants and needs. And as well as this, each person has their own personal reality and an ...
Views: 7386 - Rage: What Causes Rage? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt has recently been reported that rage could be the result of what is going on for someone at a biological level. And while this has been said, they have also wondered if it’s the other way around; with rage causing ones biology to change and not ones biology causing the rage. However, ...
Views: 1907 - Affirmations: Why Don’t Affirmations Always Work? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many ways out there for one to change what is taking place within them and to therefore see themselves differently. With these changes making it possible for them to feel empowered and to be able to live the life they desire. Now, although change can seem instant at times, it ...
Views: 1870 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear That Their Partner Will Cheat? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored. And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ...
Views: 1987 - Back Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Back Pain? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the potential for one to experience pain in all areas of their body. These can relate to one having a headache, stomach problems, tension in their shoulders and/or their lower back for instance. With it being highly likely one has experienced at least one of the above this year, let ...
Views: 2230 - Emotionally Dependent: Why Are Some People Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings, we are interdependent and although someone people can come to the conclusion that they are independent, this is just an illusion. They may well be able to support themselves financially, but they are still reliant on other people paying them money. This is clearly different ...
Views: 2400 - Deceit: Why Are Some People Easily Deceived? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe just about everything that another person says. And then there are others who go to the other extreme, who question and doubt everything they hear. With other people having a balance between the two; so they don’t believe everything that comes out of other ...
Views: 4300 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 2089(2 votes) - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1875 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less ...
Views: 7355 - Communication: Is Eye Contact Important? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences eye contact from another person it can cause them to feel: acknowledged, respected and important. And yet when this doesn’t take place, one can end up feeling: ignored, disrespected and unimportant. Eye contact could be seen as something that is relatively effortless and ...
Views: 2276 - Emotional Growth: Is Emotional Growth Important? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is not uncommon for someone to hear that exercise is vital when it comes to leading a happier, healthier and even a longer life. So if one takes part in some form of exercise a few times a week, then their life will change for the better. And it doesn’t take a genius to ...
Views: 1912 - Regression: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Regress? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ...
Views: 1838 - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 2106(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Our Friends Keep Us Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the people in their life who support them, their friends will typically come to mind. Ideally, these will be the people who one can turn to for advice, encouragement and acceptance for instance. So one is able to be themselves around them and doesn’t feel the need to ...
Views: 1839 - Masculine And Feminine: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Embrace Both Sides? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits. And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ...
Views: 1945 - Relationships: What Causes Jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal. As ...
Views: 1869 - Comments: Why Do Some People Always Leave Negative Comments? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the invention of the internet, people have been given a platform to express their views and opinions. And while this need is nothing new and has not just appeared, it has made it a lot easier for people to speak out and this is due to a number of reasons. When one is expressing their ...
Views: 2990 - Self Doubt: Is Self Doubt A Good Thing? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone having an inner voice that is not supportive or nurturing for instance, there is going to be the need for some kind of change to take place. And if one feels practically paralyzed by this voice, then it is only natural that some kind of solution is going to be ...
Views: 1885 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1954 - The Ego: Is The Ego A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not working in life, it is common for blame to appear. And this can be towards: things, individuals and organisations. The opposite of this would be to take responsibility and to find out what the problems are and then to take the appropriate action. Through doing this, ...
Views: 1664(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in the world today and some these are big and some of them are small. And a lack of boundaries can create all kinds of relationship problems. This is also something that can be seen on a global scale; with certain countries going into other countries. This often ...
Views: 1821 - Emotional Repression: What Happens When Men Repress Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOn a physical level, men and women are clearly very different; with men having features that relate to the masculine and women having features that relate to the feminine. And while this much is obvious and easily recognisable, what they are like within is not as easy to describe. But as a ...
Views: 5970 - Feeling Safe: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each one of us has a body, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels that it is safe to be in their body. It might even sound confusing as to how this could be; especially as one’s body is a big part of who they are. Instead of one being in their body, what they can end up doing is living ...
Views: 1919 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1644 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11131 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
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