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- Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years ...
Views: 498 - Child Abuse: Why Are Some People Not Believed When They Talk About Being Abused? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has been abused as a child they have already gone through enough, without having to prolong the pain of what happened. However, there are certain things that can add to this pain and one of these things is when one finds that the people around them don’t believe them or it could ...
Views: 2227 - Child Abuse: Why Can It Be Hard For Someone To Open Up About Being Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they could be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. What they experienced will have taken place many, many years ago, but they won’t have truly put the past behind them. There is a strong chance that what they went through during this time left a mark ...
Views: 414 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 73 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
Views: 1111 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone was as abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. This can primarily be the result of the defences that their mind has in place. To handle what took place during their early years, so that their life didn’t come to an end, ...
Views: 681 - Child Abuse: Why Has Child Abuse Gone On For So Long? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAwareness around child abuse has gradually increased over the years. This can only be a good thing and something that will help to reduce the amount of child abuse that is in the world. However, in this day and age it may be hard for some people to comprehend why this has gone on for so long ...
Views: 2377 - Child Abuse: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they can be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Like a car that has been in a massive accident, they won’t just have a few scratches; every part of them can be messed up. So, their thoughts and emotions can be all over the place, their brain might ...
Views: 666 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Deny That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused during their early years, it doesn’t mean that what they went through will be validated by the parent who mistreated them. No, what they went through as a child could end up being denied. To take one step back, though, they may have suffered for a ...
Views: 193 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 42 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 41 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Expect Their Parent/s To Give Them What They Couldn't Give Them As A Child? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone may have received the kind of care that they needed during their early years in order to develop in the right way; there is also the chance that this didn’t take place. As a result of this, their early years may have been a time in their life when they experienced a hell of a lot ...
Views: 578 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1374 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Trapped Forever If They Need Their Abusive Parents To Acknowledge What Happened? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be normal for someone to want to talk to their parent or parents about what happened, if they were to see that they were mistreated by them during their formative years. They might want to know why they treated them in this way and for them to express remorse, among ...
Views: 50 - Child Development: Do Mothers Love Unconditionally And Fathers Love Conditionally? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that there is the being and then there is the doing, and that both of these aspects are important. Therefore, if someone can only embrace one of these aspects, they are going to be out of balance. Another way to look at this dynamic would be to be to say that there is the ...
Views: 930 - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1755 - Childhood Development: Are Some People Born To Fulfil A Role That Their Caregivers Had Planned For Them? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn ancient Greece, Sparta was a prominent city-state where boys were trained to be warriors. When a boy reached six or seven, he was removed from his parents home and sent to military school where he began the ’agoge.’ In order for these boys to become fearless warriors, they had to go ...
Views: 784 - Childhood Development: Do Siblings Have The Same Parents? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough siblings can have the same parents, it doesn’t therefore mean that they will up behaving in the same way. As a result of this, they can end up being radically different, and it might be hard for other people to realise that they are related. The Reason If one was to ask someone ...
Views: 1239 - Childhood Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people on this planet who always have enough and then there are others who never have enough. And it doesn’t matter what state the economy is in either; as there will still be the haves and have not’s. When one thinks about people to have what they want, they may start to ...
Views: 1550 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be A Divided Being? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is not connected to themselves and rooted in their body, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, there will be no reason for them to do anything about their life; they can just carry on living in the same way. Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 386 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, feeling safe is just going to be part of life and this is likely to allow them to embrace life. However, for others, this is going to be something that they seldom experience and, due to this, it will be a challenge for them to embrace life. What this illustrates is how ...
Views: 153 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough To Exist? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and secure, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of how they behave and live their life, it will be as though they are living in a very dangerous environment. But, even though this is ...
Views: 377 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear People? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be consciously aware of the fact that they fear their fellow human beings, they can still be aware of the consequences of having this fear. So, if someone in this position was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, what could instantly stand out is how ...
Views: 414 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Like An Empty Vessel? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said in the self-development world is that someone shouldn’t seek approval from others. This is typically seen as something that will hold them back and prevent them from living a fulfilling existence. A quote by Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher and author, goes ...
Views: 430 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Slowly Kill Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said in recent years about the number of people who are taking their own life and how this has got worse over time. Along with this, there are the people who often think about calling it a day. With this in mind, it would be easy to assume that if someone wants their life to ...
Views: 184 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Define What Someone’s Personality Is Like? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to describe themselves, they could end up using a number of different adjectives. Furthermore, this could be a time when they use a number of different labels. Now, if this was something that took place online, and they were able to look through what they had written, ...
Views: 320 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that someone can do when they feel overwhelmed and are unable to handle what is going on. They can get away from what is taking place or they can get away from themselves. If the former takes place, it can show that what is going on externally is the problem. ...
Views: 341 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Realising That They Are Creating Their Life? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deeply traumatised during their early years, they may typically live on the surface of themselves now that they are an adult. As a result of this, they are unlikely to have a strong connection with their feelings and certain needs. However, this could be something that they ...
Views: 470 - Childhood Trauma: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Change Their Story If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s ‘story’, this can relate to how they see themselves, what they believe they are capable of and what they believe they are here for. Now, it could be said that the ideal will be for each of these elements to be empowering. As if someone sees themselves in a positive ...
Views: 439 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Fall Apart During Their Adult Years If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can come across as strong and together, it doesn’t mean that they have a strong core and that their sense of self is built on firm foundations. However, not only can this be something that other people are unaware of, one could also be unaware of it. If the people in their ...
Views: 790 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they are able to step back and to reflect on their life, is that they rarely feel emotionally strong and secure. In general, they could feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, fearful and scared. On the outside, then, they will look like an adult but they feel like one ...
Views: 302 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child When Their Childhood Trauma Is Triggered? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be moments in every adult’s life when they will feel like a child. When this takes place, it could be said that they will have regressed to an earlier stage of their life. During this time, someone may feel scared, powerless or helpless, with it being irrelevant that they ...
Views: 488 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Annihilated If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can take place, that’s if someone has experienced childhood trauma, is that they can typically live ‘up top’. This means that their point of focus will primarily be in their head. When their point of focus is in their head, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their ...
Views: 453 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that there is something that absorbs most of their attention. This could be a time when they come to see that they have a strong need for another person to take care of them. Upon closer inspection, they may ...
Views: 319 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Reject Life If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were anything but nurturing, it would have meant that they didn’t receive what needed in order to develop in the right way. To say that this would have been a challenging time in their life will most likely be an understatement. Year after year, it could have been a ...
Views: 358 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Wear An Invisible Straight Jacket If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many needs and one need, a need that is a key part of what will allow them to live a fulfilling existence, is their need to express themselves. This need will include being able to behave how they want to behave, to say what they want to say and to be creative. Each of these ...
Views: 234 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone’s Childhood Trauma Be Triggered During Their Adult Life? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt one point in time, someone could be able to handle life, and, at another, they could be in a very bad way. This could show that they have just experienced a breakup or a loss, or perhaps they have just lost their job. Irrespective of what has taken place, they are not going to be the ...
Views: 316 - Childhood Trauma: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When Their Life Has No Structure? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and ...
Views: 427 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Repressed Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that what took place when they were a child will be over. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced during this stage of their life will be firmly in the past. What could add weight to this view is that if they were to think about this stage ...
Views: 373 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Their Childhood Wounds? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that once someone is an adult, their childhood years will be well and truly behind them. It could be said that this is to be expected, considering that they will look like an adult. That phase of their life will be over and it simply won’t be possible for them to ...
Views: 409 - Chronicle: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing about this film through a friend, I thought it sounded similar to a number of other films that have been released in recent years. The films Push and Jumper came to mind. Now that I have seen the film I believe that it is a metaphor for intention and how intention is what ...
Views: 2002 - Clothes: Does Someone Need To Wear The Right Colours If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, one no longer needs to look the same as other people, and this is partly because there is so much choice when it comes to what they can wear. And, when they want to buy something, they won’t need to go out either. Online Shopping The only thing that one will need to do ...
Views: 1332 - Coaching: Can Someone Use Social Media To Connect With Coaching Clients? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNot only has the internet changed how people communicate with their friends and family, it has also changed how they connect with their clients. In the past, someone may have promoted their business through advertising in a paper and/or a magazine, by giving out business cards and even attending ...
Views: 1441 - Coaching: How Can Someone Start A Blog For A Coaching Business? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are number of ways for someone to promote themselves in today’s world, and one way they can do this is through having their own blog. This will also make it easier for other people to get a deeper understanding of what they have to offer. If someone doesn’t have their own blog, they ...
Views: 1853 - Comments: Why Do Some People Always Leave Negative Comments? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the invention of the internet, people have been given a platform to express their views and opinions. And while this need is nothing new and has not just appeared, it has made it a lot easier for people to speak out and this is due to a number of reasons. When one is expressing their ...
Views: 2809 - Commitment: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Commit? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to achieving something, developing a skill or having an intimate relationship, for instance, it will be essential for someone to make a commitment. Through making a decision to stick with something, they will be able to make progress and to reap the benefits of doing so. If this ...
Views: 435 - Commitment: Why Do Some People Fear Commitment? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may want to commit to a relationship, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable doing so. On one side they may have to have the need to be with someone and at the same time, it could be something they fear. And while this could be something that only has an impact on their ...
Views: 2101 - Communication: Are Manners Important? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past manners were often drilled into children by their parents and then by teachers and as one grew into an adult; it would then have typically become a habit to have manners and the need to be reminded would not be as necessary. However, in the modern day world this process doesn’t ...
Views: 3733 - Communication: Are You Approachable? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might want to be approached by others, it doesn’t mean that this actually happens. And if it does happen, it could be something that doesn’t happen enough or in the right situations. This is going to relate to all kinds of scenarios and the primary areas are often to do with ones ...
Views: 1889 - Communication: Can Someone Use Their Imagination To Improve Their Communication Skills? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to improve their communication skills and to make it easier for them to talk to others, a number of ideas could enter their mind. Firstly, they could think about getting a book on communication, and secondly, they could decide to go to places where they can talk to ...
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