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- Self-Worth: Can Someone Realise Their Value By Being Creative? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak, there are others who don’t. When one does experience life in this way, they are likely to have a sense of their own value. Self-Worth Through being in touch with what they bring to the world, they won’t feel ...
Views: 1189 - "This Guy Has Good Boundaries!" - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I look back on my journey, I can see that there have been a number of moments when what I was doing no longer worked. And, when this has happened, it has caused me to look for something else. One of the moments that comes to mind is in the middle of 2009, as this was a time when what I ...
Views: 1188 - The Media: Are Films Better Than The Mainstream Media When It Comes To Conditioning People? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, there has been one source that people look towards to be informed and another when they want to be entertained. This is not to say that someone thinks about one of these sources when they want to be informed/entertained, as it is likely to be something that just ...
Views: 1188 - True-Self: How Can People Respond When Someone Lets Go Of Their False-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one behaves around others, there is the chance that their behaviour generally matches up with their true needs and feelings. What this will then mean is that they won’t have the inclination to put on an act around others. Therefore, if the people they are close to were ...
Views: 1188 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Controlling Behaviour When They Are Emotionally Dependent - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people are in a relationship, they can continue to express who they are and to fulfil their own needs. As a result of this, their time together will have a positive effect on both of them. There will be the effect that this has on their relationship, and there will be the effect ...
Views: 1187 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Please Others In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of someone’s life, their survival would have depended upon their caregivers. As a result of this, they wouldn’t have had much control during this stage of their life. A Different Scenario However, as the years passed and they grew into an adult, their survival would no longer ...
Views: 1186 - Self-Image: Is Someone Who Feels Inferior More Likely To Get Help Than Someone Who Feels Superior? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a challenge in their life, they can think that they don’t need to put in a lot of effort or they may think they need to put in a lot of effort. It can all depend on what part they believe that are playing in what is taking place. However, just because one is playing a part in ...
Views: 1186 - Celebrities: Do Certain Celebrities Normalise Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of ways for someone to become famous, and this has opened the door to people from all walks of life. Said another way, it is no longer necessary for someone to have real talent; they can end up in the public eye for other reasons. Reality TV What has ...
Views: 1185 - Their Arm Was Covered In Cuts! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I saw someone who had all these cuts on their forearm and I thought that this person must self-harm. Over the years, I have seen a number of people with arms that have received a lot of harm. But, whenever I see something like this, I usually feel pain through ...
Views: 1185 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Criticise Their Friends? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can spend time with people that they appreciate, they can also spend time with people who irritate them. As a result of this, not everyone is going to feel the same when they are around their friends. When it relates to the former, one could find that they have the same values ...
Views: 1181 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Message Others And Then Say They Are Busy When It Comes To Getting Together? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not longer necessary for one to be with someone in order to speak to them. It could be said that this is nothing new, as it has been possible to speak to people over the phone for a quiet some time. However, what is relatively new is that this doesn’t need to take place ...
Views: 1181 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Will Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that thanks to social media, how someone looks is even more important than ever before. The average person can feel the need to look their best regardless of if they are in the real world or online. Fortunately, it can be relatively easy for someone to look their best ...
Views: 1180 - Relationships: Are The People Who Rescue Others Healthier Than The People They Rescue? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where they have saved a number of dogs from drowning, it could go even further than this. Perhaps they also work in the fire service, and have then stopped a number of people from losing their life. They could also find that this kind of behaviour appears ...
Views: 1178 - Relationships: Are The People Who Try To Do Everything By Themselves Developmentally Stunted? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who realise that they can’t do everything by themselves, there are others who have a different outlook. When someone can relate to the former, they are going to accept the fact that they are an interdependent human being. Reaching Out As a result of this, there ...
Views: 1177 - “I knew it was over!” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Australia and Bali in 2003, I started to change quite rapidly. Before I had been away, I had only read a few books, and these were books that I had to read for school. But after being drawn to a book whilst I was in Australia, I was now reading on a regular basis. ...
Views: 1177 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can cause one to experience a lot of emotional pain. In fact, it can feel as though their whole life has come to an end, and one might then wonder how they are going to cope. Two Extremes How they feel at this point in their life can then be ...
Views: 1176 - Anger: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a number of people were asked what they think about anger, some of them might say that it is a ‘bad’ emotion. This is then going to be something that is black and white, meaning that it is not open for debate. Someone like this could talk about how this is an emotion that only causes ...
Views: 1175 - Presidents: Are Some Presidents Idolised And Others Demonised? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring an American presidential election, people from all over the world can stay up to date with what is taking place. As a result of this, these people can have their own views when it comes to who should end up in the white house. However, if an election was taking place in another ...
Views: 1175 - Social Media: Do We Put In Less Effort When We Are Friends With Someone On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone uses social media, they can stay up to date with the people they know. This can relate to the people they have known for quite some time and the ones they have only known for a short while. Along with this, there can also be a difference is how well one knows them, as there is ...
Views: 1175 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Be Perfect In Order To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to assist others, they can end up taking the next step. At the same time, they can also experience inner conflict, and this can then stop them from taking action. In this case, one could believe that every area of their life needs to be going in the right ...
Views: 1175 - Emotional Awareness: If Someone Feels Offended Does It Prove That Another Person Has Done Something Wrong? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one reads the paper on a regular basis and/or spends time on social media, they may have heard about people who have been offended by something. Now, one may see that there are times when this is valid, and times when it isn’t. Part of Life However, if one was to take a step back from ...
Views: 1174 - Addiction: Is A Lack Of Connection The Root Cause Of Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video online titled, ‘Could the Root Cause of Addiction actually be a lack of Connection?’, and this video posits that a lack of connection causes addiction. It also says that “not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but they can all be traced to a painful ...
Views: 1173 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Always Criticises Others? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what their friends are like, they may start to think about how supportive they are. These are then going to be the kind of people who are life-affirming, and it could then be said that that they have the right people in their life. Two Experiences On one ...
Views: 1173 - Sense Of Self: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on May 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can change their behaviour if they need to, there are others who are unable to do so. When this happens, they can come across as the same no matter what is taking place. This is not to say that they won’t have moments where their behaviour will change, but ...
Views: 1173 - Free Speech: Are Facts Too Offensive In Today's World? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the need to say something, it doesn’t mean that they will say what is on their mind. And what can define whether or not they speak up is if what they have to say is politically correct. A Risk Now, what they could find is that it is safe for them to express what is on their ...
Views: 1172 - Purpose: Does Your Need For Attention Stop You From Fulfilling Your Purpose? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who wake up in the morning with a sense of purpose, there are others who don’t. If someone does, their life is likely to be far more fulfilling than it would be if this wasn’t the case. A Reason One way of looking at it would be to say that they have a reason ...
Views: 1172 - Success: Are Some People More Concerned With What People Have Achieved Than What They Have Overcome? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to have the desire to achieve things and to move forward in life. This could mean that they have already been able to achieve a certain level of success, or they might just be starting out. If they are only just taking the first step in this direction, it could ...
Views: 1172 - Therapy: Is It Someone's Fault If Therapy Doesn't Work? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it could be said that someone is far more likely to see a therapist than in the past, and this is partly because it is seen as being more acceptable than it once was. This has meant that people are less likely to suffer in silence. And as mental and emotional problems are just as ...
Views: 1172 - "You Have To Kill Your Inner Parents!" - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of 2016, I could see that I needed to work on my boundaries and to feel better about myself. When it came to the former, this wasn’t just about me saying no; it was also about me listening to my own needs and no longer trying to please others. As for the latter, I could see that ...
Views: 1171 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able to Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough every human being on the planet has a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that each and everyone one of them feel connected to both of these parts of themselves. It may be hard for some people to understand how someone can be out of touch with a part of themselves, but, this is how some ...
Views: 1171 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Feel Extremely Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel as though it is safe them to exist, there are others who don’t. Even so, this could be something that someone is not consciously aware of; how they experience life could just be what is normal. Part of Life However, if they were asked about what they do each day, ...
Views: 1171(1 vote) - Online Dating: Has Online Dating Made It Easier For People To Cheat? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, someone would have needed to go out in order to meet someone, but in today’s world, that is no longer necessary. Nowadays, the only thing that they need to do is to go online. Social media can allow them to find what they are looking for, or they can go one step further and join ...
Views: 1170 - Relationships: Should Someone Find Out About Another Person's History Before They Start A Relationship With Them? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the desire to be in a relationship, they could end up going out and/or they could join an online dating site. They could be clear about the kind of person they are looking for, or this could be something that they are not too clear about. In this case, they could believe that ...
Views: 1170 - “It Wasn't Safe For Me To Express My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was about 12 years old, I remember being told to “stop moaning” by my mother. And based on how she responded in this moment, it was as though I was actually making a fuss over nothing. However, this couldn’t have been further from the truth; I was simply speaking out about something. ...
Views: 1170 - Don’t Put Women On A Pedestal! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was out the other day I saw a woman who was wearing a fair amount of makeup, and seeing this woman had quite a big effect on me. But, even though part of me was responding to what I had seen, another part of me thought about how strange this all was. For one thing, I didn’t know ...
Views: 1169 - Presidential Election: Did 'Fake News' Cause Hillary To Lose The Election? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEven though the presidential election has come to an end, it doesn’t mean that everyone is willing to accept the result. There are going to be plenty of people who are still in shock, even though a number of weeks have now passed. One Option In this case, someone could look into what ...
Views: 1169 - "I Wanted To Rescue Women!" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember when I was seeing a woman towards the end of 2011, who was going through a challenging time. She wasn’t in a good place, and this meant that I tried to do what I could to help her. This primarily took place through listening to what she had to say and offering advice. I was also ...
Views: 1168 - Do You Put Up With Bad Service? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe time had come for me to see my friend Wain again, and I was looking forward to telling him about my time in Stockholm, Sweden. But, I knew that this wouldn’t be a time when we would simply talk about what we had been up to. I knew that we wouldn’t talk about ‘normal’ things, and this ...
Views: 1168 - Relationships: Can Someone Have A Healthy Relationship With Another Person If They Have A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone they like, they might not look into what their past relationships were like. In this case, the only thing they could be concerned about is what the other person is like around them. Point of Focus This could also be a time when one will spend a lot of time thinking ...
Views: 1168 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Affairs When They Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, it might not be long until it comes to an end. Perhaps they have been together for a number of months, or they may have been with each other for a number of years. Yet, regardless of the amount of time that they have been ...
Views: 1168 - Relationships: Does Someone Leave Their Childhood Behind When They Leave Home? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets on a plain to go home after they have been on holiday, it could be said that they are leaving the country behind. Once they get home, they can carry on with the rest of their life. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have moments when they will think about what took ...
Views: 1168 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Attracted To The Wrong People When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to take the time to get to know someone before they end up in a relationship with them. This will give them the chance to find out if they are right for each other. And when they are in this position, it will also be a good idea for them to ...
Views: 1167 - Motivation: Can Someone Lose Motivation When They No Longer Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the difference between someone who values who they are and someone who doesn’t, there are number of things that can come to mind. What one could think about is how the former is not going to put up with bad behaviour. Boundaries They are going to have the ability to say ...
Views: 1166 - Assertiveness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to come across information about how to be assertive, and this surely shows how much of a challenge this is for so many people. If someone was to read a book on this subject, it could be for one of two reasons. Two Experiences On the one hand, it could be a sign that ...
Views: 1165 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk Over Others? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen an area of land has been fenced off, it is likely to show that it is private property. As a result of this, someone is going to need permission in order to walk on the land; that is, of course, unless they own it or know the person who does. If someone was to ignore this and used the ...
Views: 1165 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Feel Comfortable With Their Own Emotions In Order To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there could be moments when they share how they feel, and this could mean that they are also able to be there for their partner. As a result of this, this area of their relationship is going to be in balance. A Close Bond Through sharing their inner ...
Views: 1165 - Social Media: Why Do Some People Look Towards Social Media To Give Them Approval? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning, it could be said that people generally used social media to get in touch with their friends and family; the people who they actually knew. But as time has passed, this is no longer why a lot of people use it. As for the people who only use it to stay in touch with their ...
Views: 1165 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Work With A Therapist If They Have Good Friends? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has mental and emotional and/or relationship challenges, they can feel the need to reach out for external support. This could be seen as the best approach for them to take in order to change their circumstances. Through having this outlook, the next step will be for them to find ...
Views: 1165 - Needs: Is It Better To Be Selfless Than To Be Selfish? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are certain behaviours that are seen as being good, there are others that are seen as being bad. When it comes it comes to the former, it can relate to having manners, being friendly and helping others. Through being this way, one is likely to find that most people will respond ...
Views: 1164 - “I Was Completely Out of Touch With My Own Needs!” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had finished studying sport and leisure at college in 2003, I had absolutely no idea about what I was going to do next. I had only taken this course because I enjoyed working out and I didn’t know what else to do. So after it was over, I soon had to face what I had been able to avoid ...
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