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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot. And no matter what kind of people someone is ...
Views: 1060 - “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I thought that the reason we projected our inner world/issues onto others was due to a lack of awareness; therefore, this wouldn’t take place if someone was self-aware. This was something that I was fairly convinced of. I think I even wrote a number of articles where I ...
Views: 1060 - Free Speech: Why Are Some Students Full Of Rage? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has watched at least one video of a speaker give a talk at a university, they may have seen a number of students try to silence the speaker. After seeing this, they may have wondered what was going on. This would have been somewhere where people are supposed to go to engage their ...
Views: 1059 - True-Self: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Expressing Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about a time when they were able to be themselves, they could say that it was possible for them to express their true-self. Whereas as if they were to think about a time in their life when they were unable to be themselves, they could say that this was a time when their ...
Views: 1059(1 vote) - Boundaries: Is Someone A Victim If Other People Walk Over Them? - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one can stand their ground, it is going to be a lot easier for them to handle life. The reason for this is that they will know that they have the ability to say no when they need to, and to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for them. Drawing the Line Therefore, if they ...
Views: 1059 - “I Felt Recognised!” - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2012, I ended up having a reading, and this took place at a shop that was about 9 miles away from where I lived. This was a time when I was looking for guidance, and this was partly because I had just left where I worked. I ended up speaking to the owner of the shop before I ...
Views: 1059 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Edit Videos In Order To Control People? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one wants to find out about what is taking place in the world, they can end up looking towards the mainstream media. This could be something that has taken place for as long as they can remember. In the past, they might have listened to the radio, watched TV or read a paper when it came ...
Views: 1058 - The Media: Was The Mainstream Media Only Interested In Getting Hillary Elected? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThe American presidential election has now come to an end, and this has given people plenty to talk about. For some people, the result will be the best thing that could have happened, and for others, it will be the worst possible outcome. It is then not going to matter if these people live ...
Views: 1057 - Relationships: Does Someone Just Need To Stay Positive If They Attract The Wrong People? - by Submitted on May 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal will be for one to end up with someone who they get on with, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one could have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A One-Off If this was something that one had only experienced once, it might ...
Views: 1056 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Themselves When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are two worlds: the inner world and the outer world. When it comes to the inner world, it is going to relate to what is taking place within and, when it relates to the outer world, it will relate to what is going on without. A Fine Balance Even so, this doesn’t ...
Views: 1056 - “You Don’t Have The Luxury Of Giving Up” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘The Power of Others’ whilst I was in London towards the end of 2014, and there were a few things that I made a note of. In the chapter that I was reading at this time, the author touched upon how it is easier for someone to be curious when they are not caught up in trying to ...
Views: 1056 - Communication: Is It Important To Approach Others? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go camping in the middle of nowhere and they had no food, it would be up to them to find something to eat. Due to where they are, the food that they need is not going to be delivered to them. In the same way, when someone goes to a social club or to an event, for ...
Views: 1055 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to achieving something, it can be a relatively straight forward process. There is also the chance that it won’t be this simple, and this can be because of the things that are outside of their control. Appreciation One way of looking at this would be to say that it is a good ...
Views: 1055 - Needs: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Fulfil Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBeing happy is often seen as the purpose of life, and this means that a lot of people want to experience life in this way. Therefore, if someone is unhappy, they can feel compelled to find a way to be happy. Now, this could mean that they will come to believe that they will be happy once ...
Views: 1054 - Self-Destructive: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Self-Destructive? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can be in a position where they take care themselves, they can also end up doing the complete opposite. When this happens, one is not going to treat themselves with respect, and they could even go out of their way to harm themselves. If someone was to take the time to observe their ...
Views: 1054 - The Media: Do The Events That The Media Cover Happen Randomly? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to pick up a paper or to go onto a news website, for instance, it wouldn’t take them long to come across something negative. It could be said that this is partly because bad things happen in the world, and partly because the mainstream media generally focus on what is wrong as opposed ...
Views: 1054 - “How Do You See Yourself?” - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver a year ago, I was speaking to a friend called Wain, and we were talking about what we were working on at that stage in our life. I think he was working on a few videos and I could have been putting a book together. It was during this time that he went a little bit deeper and was curious ...
Views: 1054 - “I Need To Write About That!” - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of October 2010, a friend and I had decided to go out for the night in a city nearby. There were a number of places where we had gone in the past, and tonight we were likely to go to the same places. The first place that we went to wasn’t very busy, and so we soon left and ...
Views: 1054 - Delayed Grief: What Is Delayed Grief? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it is not always possible for someone to eat when they are hungry, it is also not always possible for them to embrace how they feel after a loved one passes on. But, while they will most likely be able to ignore their hunger from time to time without it having much of an ...
Views: 1053 - I Went To Sweden For A Few Days - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of March, I ended up going to Stockholm, Sweden for a few days and this was somewhere where I had never been before. As a result of this, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. Having said that, what I did know is that it was going to be fairly cold and that it was supposed to be ...
Views: 1053 - If We Only Focus On What People Have Achieved, We Will Overlook What They Have Overcome! - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year, I shared a quote about how someone can overlook what another person has overcome if they only focus on what they have achieved. The main reason I had created this quote was due to how people had responded to me, when I went into what I did in the past. After I ...
Views: 1053 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Other People To Be Unconditionally Loyal? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to be in a relationship, there can be a number of things that they will be looking for in a partner. Firstly, there can be the need to be with someone who has a certain appearance and, secondly, there can be the requirements that they have when it comes to their ...
Views: 1053 - Every Healer Has issues! - by Submitted on May 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I wrote an article titled, ‘My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!’ Shortly after I had put this article altogether, I started to think about something that I hadn’t mentioned. When it came to healing, I said that there was the technique and then there was how ...
Views: 1051 - Humans Beings Have Been Conditioned To Be Submissive - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFrom a very young age most of us were taught to respect authority; it started with our parents, then went onto include our teachers, and continued with the people we worked for. There will also have been the government, the media, and there might have even been different religious leaders. ...
Views: 1051 - You Just Need To Love Yourself! - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard people say to others that they ‘just need to love themselves’, or words to that effect. Along with this, I have come across numerous posts online where the same thing has been said. Self-love is then presented as something that someone can experience by simply ...
Views: 1051 - “I Didn't Realise They Were So Insecure!” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I went to Mexico, in the middle of 2014, I ordered a few copies of ‘A Dialogue With The Heart - Part One: A Collection Of Poems And Dialogues From The Heart’. This was a book that I released towards the end of 2013. The reason for this was that I thought it would be good idea to leave ...
Views: 1051 - Critical Thinking: Do Some Feminists Help To Perpetuate The "Woman Are Too Emotional" Stereotype? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, ‘walk-on girls’ and ‘grid girls’ have received a lot of exposure in the mainstream media. The main reason for this is that these women are no longer going to be able to do these jobs. While these women, as well as other women, are not happy about this; there are other women who are ...
Views: 1050 - Self-Development: Do Some Peoples Childhood's Set Them Up To Reject Their Masculine/Feminine Side - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can find it easy to be assertive, they could find it hard to be vulnerable and to open up about how they feel. Alternatively, one could find it easy to open up about how they feel, but it could be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, they are going to ...
Views: 1050(1 vote) - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About The Opposite Sex If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that early abuse and/or neglect can do is set someone up to have serious relationships problems as an adult. They could be used to having relationships that are dysfunctional. Then again, it could be far worse, with them having had a number of relationships that were abusive. They ...
Views: 1049 - “I Couldn’t Get In Touch With My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2009 I did a Reference Point Therapy course in London, and the purpose of this course was to heal trauma. In the beginning, the person who was leading the course, Simon Rose, spoke about boundaries, the effect that our time in the womb can have on us and a number of other ...
Views: 1049 - Emotional Problems: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have Mental/Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, there has been an ever increasing focus on mental and emotional health, and this can be seen as a good thing. For so long, this was something that was brushed under the carpet. Nowadays, this is something that is spoken about in the media and people talk openly about what is ...
Views: 1048 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Create Their Own News? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to find out about what is taking place around them, there is the chance that they will look towards the mainstream media. This is because this source will be seen as being trustworthy and reliable. And when one wants to find out about what is going on, they could end up ...
Views: 1048 - Boundaries: Are Other People To Blame If Someone Always Ends Up Being Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where other people have the tendency to walk over them, it is going to be a challenge for them to be themselves. They are likely to spend a lot of time on edge, as this will make it easier them to predict what will happen next. Through being anxious, it will be a ...
Views: 1048 - No One Will Listen To You! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had a number of mentors, and one mentor that has had a big effect on me is one that I met at a charity event in 2003. This person was offering readings there and it turned out that this was not the only thing she did. If I remember rightly, my mother and sister had a ...
Views: 1048 - Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Childhood Did Not Have An Effect On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kinds of challenges that one can face during their adult years, it can be normal for them to believe that their childhood hasn’t played a part. What they are going through is then going to be seen as a reflection of what has taken place in their adult years. If they ...
Views: 1047 - I Wanted To Embrace The Swedish Culture! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I knew that I would be going to Sweden, Stockholm, I started to think about what it would be like. Going away didn’t consume my mind, though, as I was engaged with what was taking place in my life. I wanted to go away, no doubt about it; but I wasn’t in a position where I needed to ...
Views: 1046 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Peoples Empathy To Control Them? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the mainstream media have a number of different ways in which to keep people distracted, unformed and deceived. And while some of these ways are well known, there are others that are not. However, even though people can be aware of some the tactics that they use, it ...
Views: 1045 - Controlling Behaviour: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Controlling? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it is a case of either controlling others or being controlled; there is no middle ground. Even so, this doesn’t mean that this is something that goes through their mind. Completely Unaware Instead, one can feel compelled to do whatever they can to control other people. As ...
Views: 1043 - Self-Development: Is Harnessing Our Pain An Important Part Of Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are given the kind of care that they need in order to grow and develop whilst they are growing up, there are others who don’t have this experience. As a result of this, their latter years can end up being extremely different. A Continuation When one does receive what ...
Views: 1043 - Self-Worth: If Someone Is Successful Can It Stop Them From Feeling Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who feel good about themselves, there are others who feel worthless. However, even if one doesn’t feel good about themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with how they feel. Disconnected What this comes down to is that one can end up disconnecting from ...
Views: 1043 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse One Of The Reasons Why So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward. One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ...
Views: 1042 - “My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2015, I was speaking to a therapist called, Vijay Rana, about different healing techniques. I was talking about how some people believe that their technique is the best one available or the only one that works. After bringing this up, I went into why I thought that it wasn’t a good idea ...
Views: 1042 - Self-Empowered: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Be Empowered? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an empowered human being, they are going to believe that they have control over their life. Along with what they believe, there is going to be how they behave in their day-to-day life. Another way of looking at this would be to say that their behaviour is defined by what they ...
Views: 1041 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimised By Others? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that that are moments in everyone’s life when things don’t go to plan, or something ‘bad’ happens. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed. A Different Reality However, while there will be plenty of people who will be able to relate to this, ...
Views: 1041 - Why Do Some People Only Care About Their Health When They’re Nearly Dead? - by Submitted on May 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I have thought about recently is why some people only pay attention to their health when they are in a really bad way. It’s a bit like only taking a car for a service when the engine is close to exploding. When something like this takes place, it is going to be clear that they have been ...
Views: 1040 - “I Had A Fear Of Being Seen!” - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was growing up there was generally one person who did all the talking when we were around others - my mother. And, as time went by this would include my sister, which meant that my father and I didn’t get the chance to say much. It was no different when we were at home, either, as my ...
Views: 1039 - Relationships: Is There Less Need For Someone To Develop Their Personality When They Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one drives an old car, and this is a car that is not in good shape, it is unlikely that many people would spend much time looking it. But if this isn’t the case, it would simply come down to the fact that they would find it hard to believe how bad it is. On the other hand, if one drives ...
Views: 1038 - I Thought Astrology Was A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading about my star sign in different papers when I was growing up and thinking how general it was. So, while I would read up on my sign from time to time, I wouldn’t take much notice of what I read. After a while, I soon turned my back on it altogether and saw it as a bit of a ...
Views: 1038 - “I Meditate In The Sauna” - by Submitted on May 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a call that I had with Errol Campbell, he said that he hadn’t been able to use the sauna the day before due to a minor problem at the hotel nearby. He went on to say that he meditates when he uses the sauna. I thought that this was different, with it being something that I hadn’t ...
Views: 1038 - Critical Thinking: Does A Woman Need To Seek Professional Help If She Believes That All Men Are Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it appears to be perfectly acceptable for a woman in the public eye to bash men. She can say all kinds of things that will basically amount to men being less-than human and worthless, and absolutely nothing will be done. Now, that’s not to say that both men and women won’t ...
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