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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Should A Mother-Enmeshed Man Stay Single? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be said, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, is that he should stay single. The main reason for this is that as he is not emotionally available, he is not going to be able to fully be there for a woman. Therefore, if he starts dating a woman ...
Views: 140 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Abandoned By His Father? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is too focused on his mother and her needs, what could also stand out is that his father is also in the same position. After this, what could enter his mind is that his mother is using both of them. He could then see that this has been going on for many, many ...
Views: 199 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Be An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperA man can be in a position where he not only focuses on his mother and ignores himself but he can be comfortable with this. He can have the sense that he is doing the right thing by being there for her. So, as far as he is concerned, as he is her son, it can be his responsibility to be there ...
Views: 77 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Rejected By His Father? - by Submitted on May 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and needs to focus on himself, he could start to explore what his early years were like. What this will do is allow him to gain a deeper understanding of why he is behaving in this way. By doing this, he can soon find that ...
Views: 173 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Father? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself, he can experience a lot of anger toward her. He can be angry about being used and taken advantage of. To make matters worse, if he were to talk to her about what was going on, she might not listen to what ...
Views: 193 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Parents? - by Submitted on May 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be clear that something is not right if a man is focused on his mother and is not there for himself. He will be a separate human being, who has his own needs and life to lead, and yet, he won’t act like one. Thus, he will have put his own life to one side and his main ...
Views: 216 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Also Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is seen as a ‘mother-enmeshed man’, it is not going to be a surprise for someone to come to the conclusion that he is this way due to how his mother treated him. Therefore, if his mother had treated him differently during his formative years and treated him differently now, he would be ...
Views: 298 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father An Enabler? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being able to see that his mother used him during his early years to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs, a man can end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage towards her. What can make this even worse is that this can be what has also taken place throughout his adult ...
Views: 331 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is unable to live his own life, due to how focused he is on his mother, it can appear as though she is the main problem. It might even seem as though the only way that he will be free is if his mother passes on. This is something that a woman could say as a result of how caught up ...
Views: 194 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Too Enmeshed To Allow Him To Separate From Her? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can plague a man’s mind, if he has come to see that he was unable to attach to his mother, develop a strong sense of self and then break away from her, is why this process didn’t take place. He can feel angry, enraged and deeply betrayed. But, as the person who he came through ...
Views: 212 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father Emasculated? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother, a man could believe that he would be different if his mother hadn’t used him during his early years. This could show that he has thought a lot about what took place when he was a boy. He will then have come to see that he was forced ...
Views: 259 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed-Man Used By His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a position where he is overlooking a number of his own needs, due to how focused he is on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. But if someone pointed out that he does far more for her than he needs to, it doesn’t mean that it would go in. ...
Views: 20 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man And His Mother Have In Common? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on and doing things for his mother, his own life is going to be neglected. What this comes down to is that he only has so much time and energy. It would be different if he could be fully focused on himself and his mother but ...
Views: 182 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Does A Woman Need To Do If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been up with a number of men who were focused on their mothers and were not available, a woman can be angry and frustrated. But, as she will have given a lot and received very little, this is not a surprise. What may also play a part in this is that she could believe that she has ...
Views: 202 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Guilty For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he might soon see that he is overly focused on his mother. This could be something that he has been forced to do after having experienced a breakup. As a result of being in a relationship, then, what had not stood out before would have ended ...
Views: 402 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Say No To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s yes will only mean something if they also have the ability to say no. The reason for this is if they are unable to say no, they will say yes out of their need to please another person. On the other hand, if they felt comfortable saying no, they would be able to ...
Views: 268 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can It Be Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Realise That His Mother Used Him? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt might take a relationship for a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, to see that he is living in the wrong way. Still, even if he was to come to his senses and to see what is going on, it doesn’t mean that this will be a straightforward process. So, before he is able to ...
Views: 492 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can It Be Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much of a life. Ultimately, a lot of his time and energy will be directed towards meeting her needs, leaving him with very little time and energy to meet his own needs. He is then going to be her son ...
Views: 56 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Accept That He Is Overly Focused on His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and very little time doing things for himself, this might be something that he is aware of. Being this way will allow him to do what he needs to do to gradually change his life. This might have been something ...
Views: 242 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man is behaving, that’s if he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, is that he is more like her parent than her son. He will then have been born after her but will be as though he was born before her. However, although he will be playing a parental role, he might not be ...
Views: 170 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Breaking Away? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNot only can a man be focused on his mother but she can also expect him to be there for her and meet certain needs. From this, it will be clear that she can’t accept that he has his own needs and life to lead. Based on how she treats him, it will be as if he is her possession and thus, she ...
Views: 170 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Deprive Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to gain an understanding of what it is like when another person deprives themselves, they will simply need to pay attention to a man who is overly focused on his mother. By doing this, they will probably find out what it is like when someone stops themselves from receiving what ...
Views: 402 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Guilty For Putting His Needs First? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have his own needs to meet, he could spend most of his time meeting his mother’s needs. As a result of this, he is going to neglect most, if not all of his own needs. However, this is something that can take place without him even being aware of the fact that he is largely ...
Views: 481 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why a man would be so focused on his mother. He can spend most of his life doing things for her and even if he isn’t, he can be thinking about what he can do for her. By being this way, naturally, he is going to severely neglect himself ...
Views: 308 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hide His Needs In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, that’s if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he ignores his needs when he is in a relationship. As a result of this, he will act as though he doesn’t have needs. He can find that he is focused on his partners' needs and does what he can to ...
Views: 366 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother See Him As An Extension Of Herself? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he does a lot for his mother and has the tendency to overlook a number of his needs, he could wonder why he is this way. He could see that by living in this way, he is being deprived. As a result of this, it is not possible for him to live a life that is worth ...
Views: 95 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Believe That She Is Entitled To His Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it doesn’t mean that his mother will feel uncomfortable with what is going on. Instead, she can believe that he is behaving in the right way. What this can show is that she doesn’t realise that he has his own needs and is here to ...
Views: 154 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Doesn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that can soon stand out, when it comes to a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother, is that he acts as though he is purely an extension of her. As opposed to being a separate from her, then, he will be a part of her that is not physically attached to ...
Views: 411 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Hasn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Outgrown His Need For A Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could wonder, if they were to come across a man that is overly caught up with his mother, is why he behaves in this way. He will be a man, not a boy, so there is going to be no reason for his life to revolve around her. As this is the case, his life should come first and his ...
Views: 305 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Passive? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t take care of his needs. Furthermore, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t stand up to his mother and make it clear that he is not responsible for her. Therefore, ...
Views: 240 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman could soon find, if she is with a man who is enmeshed to his mother, is that he is emotionally available. When she first met him this might not have stood out but it will now be crystal clear. At this point, she might not say anything to him, hoping that it will only be a matter ...
Views: 364 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unable To See His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself in the process, he might be aware of what is going on. As a result of this, he can do what he can to gradually change his life. This will allow him to live a life that is worth living, as opposed to a life where he has turned ...
Views: 128 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is It Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Out Of His Mother’s Mirror? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, a mother-enmeshed man will want to be in tune with and to freely express himself. However, although this is so, he will feel compelled to focus on his mother needs and to behave how she wants him to behave. He will then appear to have the ability to behave how he wants to behave, ...
Views: 316 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is It So Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Express Himself? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that one of the greatest needs that someone will have will be to express themselves and to live a life that is in alignment with who they are. Now, if someone is in a position where the above is taking place and their life is in alignment with who they are, living in this way ...
Views: 499 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wasn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father There For Him? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself in the process, he could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. Nonetheless, as his life is not going to be very fulfilling, it is to be expected that he would feel this way. Along with this, ...
Views: 230 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Bad When He Doesn’t Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and her needs, he could wonder what is going on. Also, what could soon stand out is that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. He will see that he has his own life to live and needs to meet but he will have ...
Views: 268 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Act Like An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically, a man will be separate from his mother, but, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that he will act as though he is separate from her. What can be normal is for him to act as though he is part of her. Consequently, her needs will be his needs and he will spend a lot of ...
Views: 274 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Is Betraying His Ex If He Moves On? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is no longer in a relationship, he will be free to meet other women and take things further. However, although this will be so, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to do this. In general, he could keep his distance from women and not go anywhere where he is likely to ...
Views: 461 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Discard A Woman? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is caught up in his mother’s world, he might not have the time or energy to be in a relationship with a woman. Then again, he might have had a number of relationships over the years. So, if he is not in a relationship, it might not be long until he is in one. After speaking to a ...
Views: 158 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Comfortable Being There For His Mother? - by Submitted on May 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal for a man is for practically his whole life to revolve around his mother. This means that a number of his needs, along with his feelings, will be overlooked, with him putting a number of his mother’s needs first. This will then just be what happens and he won’t need to ...
Views: 423 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Disloyal For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should feel comfortable is for a man to pay attention to his own needs and to live his own life. However, although this is what should feel comfortable, it doesn’t mean that it will be. Instead, a man can have the tendency to be there for his mother and to do what he can to meet her ...
Views: 304 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Selfish For Putting Himself First? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be there for himself and take care of his own needs. By being this way, he will be able to live a life that is worth living. However, while putting himself first should be normal, this could be something that rarely takes place. Instead, he can typically ...
Views: 227 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel That He Would Die If He Lived His Own Life? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother’s life, was at the stage where he is aware of what is going on and is able to step back and reflect on this behaviour, he could find that not behaving this way is seen as something that would lead to his demise. He is then going to have two options: ...
Views: 283 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Uncomfortable With Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may have casual encounters, and this could be how he has been for a long time. During these moments, he is going to share his body and perhaps his mind with a woman but he won’t share much else. This could mean that he hasn’t been in a relationship with a woman or this might ...
Views: 351 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Weighed Down By A Woman’s Needs? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, what he could find is that he often feels overwhelmed when his partner expresses her needs. However, when they first started spending time together, this might not have been an issue. At this point, he may have felt free and been able to express himself in ...
Views: 334 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Assert Himself? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has become aware of the fact that he is overly focused on his mother and is ignoring his own life, he may also find that he doesn’t have a strong need to do anything about it. If he is single, then, he will continue to suffer, and, if he is in a relationship, his partner will also ...
Views: 172 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose Himself When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he might be very different to how he was before. When he was single, he might have been aware of certain needs and done what he could to take care of them. However, although he will still have needs, he could typically act as though he doesn’t have any or ...
Views: 293 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose The Ability To Maintain An Erection When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a relationship, a man might not have any issues when it comes to having sex. But, as time passes, this might not be the case. Then again, before he gets to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman and has just started seeing her, this could be something that is ...
Views: 232 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Mistreat His Partner? - by Submitted on May 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may struggle to understand is why the man that she is with treats his mother well but not her. Most likely, it wasn’t this way when they first started spending time together. When they first met, he might have been attentive, understanding, kind and caring, for instance. Along ...
Views: 172 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Only Blame His Father For What Happened? - by Submitted on May 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is neglecting his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can believe that his father is at fault for how he behaves. He can then be frustrated and even angry about how he lives his life but his mother won’t have played a part. In his eyes, then, ...
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