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- Relationships: How Can Someone Know If They Are Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry. Then again, it could also ...
Views: 800 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know When A Relationship Is Over? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either. However, just because something seems ...
Views: 1677 - Relationships: How Can Someone Make Sure They Don’t End Up In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who end up in relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who end up in relationships that are life-denying. As a result of this, their experiences on this planet are going to be radically different. A Matter of Luck One way of looking at this would ...
Views: 1307 - Relationships: How Should Someone Respond When Another Person Doesn’t Put In Any Effort? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that relationships are about give and take, and it would be hard to argue with this. When two people get together, they will both have their own needs, and it is going to be important for their needs to be met. Even so, this is not to say that both of them are going to have ...
Views: 1504 - Relationships: If Someone Feels Ashamed Of Their Needs Can It Stop Them From Recognising When Someone Is Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are drawn to those who are self-centred, there are others who are repelled by them. When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are going to spend time with people who are not right for them. Yet, when it comes to the latter, there is a strong chance ...
Views: 1447 - Relationships: If Someone Is Still Attached To Their Ex Can It Stop Them From Being Able To Embrace Their Current Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just experienced a breakup, they may decide to take a break and to spend some time by themselves. Through taking this route, it will also give them the chance to face how they feel and to work through it. A Grey Area If they were with this person for a long period of time, ...
Views: 1134 - Relationships: Is A Man Destined To Sabotage His Relationships If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up. Now that it has ...
Views: 377 - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Always Ends Up In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on May 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can have the desire to be in a relationship that is healthy, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Instead, she can end up with a man who is the complete opposite of the person she had in mind. Moving On As a result of this, this area of her life is not going to have ...
Views: 1420 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Grieve An Important Part Of Being Able To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time around people who have an open-heart, they are likely to appreciate being around them. Whereas, if they were to spend their time around people who were the complete opposite; there is the chance that they will feel uncomfortable. This is because when people ...
Views: 1464 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Listen As Important As Being Able To Talk? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen. However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 1583 - Relationships: Is Being Indifferent A Great Way To Destroy A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent. Nature For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive Important? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to form new relationships with others, they could pay attention to their appearance and then look into what they can do to improve it. Along with this, one could also look into what else they could do to improve themselves. And once they have done this, they could end up ...
Views: 1509 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive To Another Person’s Self-Disclosure An Important Part Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels close to someone, there are likely to be a number of reasons why. One may know what these reasons are, or it may take them a while to realise why they feel the way they do. The connection they feel with the other person is likely to have built up over time. This is not to say ...
Views: 1574 - Relationships: Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance. And when it comes to the former, it could relate ...
Views: 1571 - Relationships: Is Empathy Important In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one lived in the middle of nowhere and there was no one else in sight, they might not need to think about anyone else. The only thing they would need to think about is their own needs, and their life would be based around fulfilling these needs. Yet, if it isn’t this black and white, it ...
Views: 1493 - Relationships: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Forming An Emotional Connection? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ...
Views: 1964 - Relationships: Is Femininity Good And Masculinity Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about an abusive relationship, there is a strong chance that this would involve someone who uses force to cause harm. This could mean that they use their body to do this and/or they might only use words. Either way, this is going to mean that the other person is going to ...
Views: 1343 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part of Attracting People Who Are Available? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available. When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ...
Views: 1465 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Having Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive. And if this was an area of life that ...
Views: 1394 - Relationships: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Letting Of The Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned. The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ...
Views: 1504 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Always Criticises Others? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what their friends are like, they may start to think about how supportive they are. These are then going to be the kind of people who are life-affirming, and it could then be said that that they have the right people in their life. Two Experiences On one ...
Views: 1172 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Leads Another Person On? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go on a date with someone, they might come across as though they are looking for a relationship. Thus, if the other person wants the same thing, this is going to have a positive effect on them. Online Dating However, if these two people met through the internet, this is ...
Views: 1321 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and ...
Views: 1010 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Rescue Another Person? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a friend who was going through a challenging time, they might look into what they could do to assist them. This could be a time when they will listen to what is going on for them and offer their advice. Then again, this might not be enough, and they could offer to take them out ...
Views: 931 - Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing. One will then have lost ...
Views: 718 - Relationships: Is It A Surprise For People Who Are Attractive To Be Single? - by Submitted on May 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that someone isn’t in a relationship, it might not surprise them, and this could come down to the fact that they are not physically attractive. On the other hand, if they were attractive, it might be hard for them to understand why this is the case. One Outlook It ...
Views: 1194 - Relationships: Is It A Waste Of Energy For Someone To Try And Find Out Why Their Relationship Came To An End? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship and it was to come to an end, they might be only too happy that they are able to move on with their life. For a number of weeks or even months, they may have been thinking about how much better their life would be if they were both to go their separate ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Is It Good Or Bad To See The Best In People? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people in the world who always try to see the best in others, there are also people who always try to see the worst in others. In their eyes, the outlook they have could be seen as best one to have. Through having a different outlook, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 1329 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up in a relationship that is abusive, there are at least two things that they can do. They can end up cutting their ties and moving on, or they can put up with what is taking place. If they end up drawing the line and decide to move on, it will be clear that they are ...
Views: 869 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a situation that doesn’t serve them, it is going to be in their best interests to move on. Nevertheless, it might not be possible for them to walk away and to put this all behind them. The Next Step The reason for this is that one could be in a job that is paying them ...
Views: 1000 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Settle Down If They Have Been With A Lot Of People? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have most likely stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end. Thanks, in part, due to the ‘sexual liberation’ of the 60s and 80s, this has all changed. ...
Views: 1006 - Relationships: Is It Important To Be Able To Hold Space For Others? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a friend who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do to get through it. This is then going to be a time when they will try to fix or rescue this person. Simply being there for this person is not going to be enough; they will need to ...
Views: 623 - Relationships: Is It Important To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone they appreciate, there is a strong chance that they will end up feeling ‘good’. Yet, if they were to think about someone who presses their buttons, for instance, they are unlikely to have the same emotional experience. And when they feel good, there is not ...
Views: 1243 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2161 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 1957 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1620 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In ...
Views: 961 - Relationships: Is It Possible To End Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as one can choose something on a menu and end up finding out that it is not very appealing to their taste buds; they can also end up choosing someone to be in a relationship with, only to find out that they are not a good match. However, although one can just stop eating a meal that doesn’t ...
Views: 706 - Relationships: Is It The Future And Not The Present That Holds Some Relationships Together? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about why they are a relationship with someone, they could begin to list what they like about them. This is then going to be a time when they will go over what they bring to their life. Having them in their life is not simply going to give them someone to spend time with; ...
Views: 1125 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
Views: 1975 - Relationships: Is Our Life Defined By The Inner Models That Other People Have Of Us? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone for the first time, they might not know anything about them. However, once they have spent a little while in their company, they will start to construct an inner model of what they are like. This inner model is then going to define how they interpret just about ...
Views: 960 - Relationships: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Attracting The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the need to attract the right person into their life, it doesn’t mean that this will be that takes place. Instead, one can end up attracting people who are not right for them. Now, if one is under a certain age, they might see this as something that they will grow out ...
Views: 1425 - Relationships: Is Someone A Victim If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up in relationships that have a positive effect on their life, there are others that don’t. And while this can mean that they are used to being with people who are not a good match, this could be an understatement. Instead, they could find that they end up with people ...
Views: 1355 - Relationships: Is Someone More Likely To End Up In An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship, and they might be aware of what all of these reasons are. If they are, it will give them the chance to see if they are being driven by the right needs. For Example One could find that they are at the stage ...
Views: 1141 - Relationships: Is Someone Out Of Balance If They Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people take the time to be there for themselves and to be there for others, there are others who don’t. If someone can relate to the former, they are not going to have the tendency to neglect themselves; whereas if they can relate to the latter, this will be the norm. Two ...
Views: 904 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is at a stage in their life where they are taking a break from being with someone, they may find that some of the people in their life are in relationships. In fact, everyone they know could be with another person. And, if they were to spend time with these people, they may find that ...
Views: 1322 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although someone can have the desire to attract a certain type of person, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. When it comes to the kind of person one has ended up with, they could be completely different. Now, this could mean that one has been with people who ...
Views: 1098 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up With The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who have the tendency to attract the kind of people who they want to be with, there are others who are not going to be able to relate to this. As a result, this area of their lives is likely to be radically different. From the Outside If one was to come across ...
Views: 1413 - Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1033 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Get Attached Too Soon? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who like to take their time when it comes to the beginning of a relationship, and then there are others who go in head first. And based on how they behave, it is safe to say that they are both having a different inner experience. However, just because one may have a pattern ...
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