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- Relationships: Is It Important To Be Able To Hold Space For Others? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a friend who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do to get through it. This is then going to be a time when they will try to fix or rescue this person. Simply being there for this person is not going to be enough; they will need to ...
Views: 616 - Relationships: Is It Important To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone they appreciate, there is a strong chance that they will end up feeling ‘good’. Yet, if they were to think about someone who presses their buttons, for instance, they are unlikely to have the same emotional experience. And when they feel good, there is not ...
Views: 1239 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2152 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 1948 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1614 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In ...
Views: 953 - Relationships: Is It Possible To End Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as one can choose something on a menu and end up finding out that it is not very appealing to their taste buds; they can also end up choosing someone to be in a relationship with, only to find out that they are not a good match. However, although one can just stop eating a meal that doesn’t ...
Views: 697 - Relationships: Is It The Future And Not The Present That Holds Some Relationships Together? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about why they are a relationship with someone, they could begin to list what they like about them. This is then going to be a time when they will go over what they bring to their life. Having them in their life is not simply going to give them someone to spend time with; ...
Views: 1121 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
Views: 1967 - Relationships: Is Our Life Defined By The Inner Models That Other People Have Of Us? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone for the first time, they might not know anything about them. However, once they have spent a little while in their company, they will start to construct an inner model of what they are like. This inner model is then going to define how they interpret just about ...
Views: 954 - Relationships: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Attracting The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the need to attract the right person into their life, it doesn’t mean that this will be that takes place. Instead, one can end up attracting people who are not right for them. Now, if one is under a certain age, they might see this as something that they will grow out ...
Views: 1420 - Relationships: Is Someone A Victim If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up in relationships that have a positive effect on their life, there are others that don’t. And while this can mean that they are used to being with people who are not a good match, this could be an understatement. Instead, they could find that they end up with people ...
Views: 1349 - Relationships: Is Someone More Likely To End Up In An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship, and they might be aware of what all of these reasons are. If they are, it will give them the chance to see if they are being driven by the right needs. For Example One could find that they are at the stage ...
Views: 1135 - Relationships: Is Someone Out Of Balance If They Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people take the time to be there for themselves and to be there for others, there are others who don’t. If someone can relate to the former, they are not going to have the tendency to neglect themselves; whereas if they can relate to the latter, this will be the norm. Two ...
Views: 896 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is at a stage in their life where they are taking a break from being with someone, they may find that some of the people in their life are in relationships. In fact, everyone they know could be with another person. And, if they were to spend time with these people, they may find that ...
Views: 1318 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although someone can have the desire to attract a certain type of person, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. When it comes to the kind of person one has ended up with, they could be completely different. Now, this could mean that one has been with people who ...
Views: 1090 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up With The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who have the tendency to attract the kind of people who they want to be with, there are others who are not going to be able to relate to this. As a result, this area of their lives is likely to be radically different. From the Outside If one was to come across ...
Views: 1406 - Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1025 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Get Attached Too Soon? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who like to take their time when it comes to the beginning of a relationship, and then there are others who go in head first. And based on how they behave, it is safe to say that they are both having a different inner experience. However, just because one may have a pattern ...
Views: 1864 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Causing You To Put Up With People Who Are Controlling? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a big difference between wanting to experience a sense of control over one’s life, and wanting to control other people. When one experiences a sense of control over their life, it means that they’re not going to feel as though they have no control and as though they are a victim. ...
Views: 1400 - Relationships: Is The Purpose Of A Relationship To Trigger Old Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has just started to date another person, they can find that they feel really good. They are then still going to be on the same planet that they were on before they met this person, but it can be as if they have been taken somewhere else. This area of their life is going to be ...
Views: 827 - Relationships: Is There A Difference Between Helping Someone And Trying To Rescue Them? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that a friend or a family member is going through a tough time, there are a number of things that they could do. They could end up calling them up, or they could go and see them. Once they have made contact, they could the take the time to find out what has been going ...
Views: 809 - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Always End Up With People Who Cheat On Them? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one spends a fair amount of time watching TV, there is a strong chance that they have watched programs where people have cheated on their spouse or partner. This is often a common theme when it comes to dramas and soaps, for instance. At the same time, one may have also have friends or ...
Views: 1225 - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about what it is like to be in a relationship, they might get a sense of being around someone who is truly there for them. This means that the other person is not only physically available, they are also emotionally available. Now, this could be because they are ...
Views: 1509 - Relationships: Is There Less Need For Someone To Develop Their Personality When They Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one drives an old car, and this is a car that is not in good shape, it is unlikely that many people would spend much time looking it. But if this isn’t the case, it would simply come down to the fact that they would find it hard to believe how bad it is. On the other hand, if one drives ...
Views: 1033 - Relationships: Is Your Ex Giving You False Hope? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, each person can go their own way, or something else might take place. As a result of this, it could only be matter of days or even weeks before they are back together. Round in Circles In fact, this could be something that will take place more than ...
Views: 6826 - Relationships: Is Your Inability To Listen Damaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go and watch a film, not only would they watch the screen, they would also pay attention to what is being said. On one hand, they will have paid to watch it, and on the other hand, it will be something they want to see. No Consequences However, if they were to take ...
Views: 1964 - Relationships: It Is A Good Idea To Put Someone On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can see other people as being on the same level as they are, they can also see them as being on another level. When this happens it is not going to matter that someone is simply another human being, as they will be seen as being far more. Two Levels One is then going to be on ...
Views: 1084 - Relationships: It Is Normal For Someone's Ex To No Longer Talk To Them? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can mean that two people are happy to be able to move on with their life. It could then be said that this was something that had run its course, and that there was no reason for them to stay together. Now, this is not to say that one of them won’t feel ...
Views: 1280 - Relationships: Should A Man Stay Single If He Has A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he is more or less always in a relationship. So, after he has broken up with a woman, he might only be single for a few weeks or months. Assuming that this is the case, he could believe that he just prefers to be in a ...
Views: 75 - Relationships: Should Relationships Be Easy? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of ideas in the world as to how a relationship should be. These ideas are often shaped by popular culture, from influences such as Disney or Hollywood films. And by taking on board these perspectives, some people can come to expect relationships to be easy and straight ...
Views: 2137 - Relationships: Should Someone Ask Themselves Why They Want To Cheat? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way as there are thoughts that one shouldn’t follow through on, there are also going to be urges that they will need to overlook. As if one tried to fulfil every need that was within them, it would end up causing them a lot of problems. A Big Difference For example, one could ...
Views: 1247 - Relationships: Should Someone Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes into contact with someone who they like, they can end up putting on an act. This could be something that will happen without them even releasing it, or they might be able to pick up on this. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is normal, and this is due to ...
Views: 998 - Relationships: Should Someone Find Out About Another Person's History Before They Start A Relationship With Them? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the desire to be in a relationship, they could end up going out and/or they could join an online dating site. They could be clear about the kind of person they are looking for, or this could be something that they are not too clear about. In this case, they could believe that ...
Views: 1163 - Relationships: Should Someone Get Back With Their Ex Back? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor whatever reason, one may have just broken up with their partner, which could mean that they are not in a good way. Perhaps one is experiencing a fair amount of sadness, along with feeling depressed from time to time. There could also be moments when one ends up getting angry and is even ...
Views: 823 - Relationships: Should Someone Look Into What Is Taking Place Within Them If They Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a fulfilling relationship with someone, there is also the chance that this is not the case. This could come down to the fact that they don’t want to be in one, and this might be a sign that they have just broken up with someone. If this is the case, they might want to ...
Views: 1209 - Relationships: Should Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one’s relationship has just come to an end, they could feel relieved and happy that they can now move on with their life. Maybe, this was a relationship that was no longer working, meaning that it had run its course. Disconnected For a number of weeks, they might have thought about ...
Views: 928 - Relationships: Should Someone Try To Rekindle A Friendship? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s friends are the family they choose, and this is why someone can feel as close to their fiends as they can to their family. In some instances, the connection one has with their friends could be greater than the connection they have with their family. When this ...
Views: 2257 - Relationships: Should We Expect Our Friends To Accept Us If We Change? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a friend who they connect with, it is going to come down to the fact that they enjoy being in their company. This doesn’t mean that they are ‘perfect’, but they are going to be ‘perfect’ for them. If one was to take a closer look at why they enjoy being in their company, they ...
Views: 1467 - Relationships: What Are Your Relationships Mirroring Back To You? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRelationships can be fulfilling or unfulfilling and they also have the potential to create incredible satisfaction or immense frustration. There will be people who one can connect with without too many challenges appearing and others who cause one to question the human race. But regardless of ...
Views: 1697 - Relationships: What Can Happen If A Man Doesn’t Feel Comfortable With His Sexual Side? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has an intellectual, emotional and sexual side, it doesn’t mean that he is comfortable with all of these sides. Thus, when he is in a relationship, a big part of him could end up being overlooked. So, in the beginning, he could be sexually attracted to the woman and have ...
Views: 134 - Relationships: What Can Happen To Someone When Their Partner Denies That They Are Cheating? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in relationship, they will have the opportunity to grow and to heal any wounds that they may have. This can mean that there will be moments that are deeply fulfilling and moments that are extremely painful pain. What will play a big part here is how much pain one is carrying. ...
Views: 1199 - Relationships: What Can Happen When A Woman Rejects Her Feminine Side? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperMen and woman look different, but that doesn’t mean that they haven’t got anything in common. First and foremost, they are human beings; thus, despite their differences, they have a lot in common. A Closer Look Due to how they look, it could be said that men are an expression of the ...
Views: 1490 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Someone No Longer Feels Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step, so to speak, they may find is that there have been moments in their life when they haven’t feel too good about themselves. This is then going to be the exception as opposed to the rule. Now and Then When they do feel this way, it could show that they have done ...
Views: 1110 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1656 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If Another Person Is Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This ...
Views: 687 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Are Triggered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has only just started to spend time with someone, they can find that just about everything runs smoothly. So whenever they are with the other person, they can feel good and even relaxed. During this stage, they could believe that this is how it will always be and that they won’t ever ...
Views: 737 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Keep Ending Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had just bought a car, there is a strong chance that they would have taken it for a test drive first. This would have given them the opportunity to find out what it is like and to see if it would be a good match for them. Along with this, they would have most likely asked a number ...
Views: 857 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do When Another Person Projects Their Issues Onto Them? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to walk through a puddle, and another person was standing close by, there is the chance that both of them would get splashed. So even though one won’t have gone out of their way to do this, it would have happened anyway. Part of Life In the same way, what is taking place within ...
Views: 1136 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
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