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- Self-Development: Is Harnessing Our Pain An Important Part Of Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are given the kind of care that they need in order to grow and develop whilst they are growing up, there are others who don’t have this experience. As a result of this, their latter years can end up being extremely different. A Continuation When one does receive what ...
Views: 1037 - History: Can You Control People By Controlling History? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what most people know about history, there is a chance that the majority of what they know was picked up whilst they were at school. Along with this, there can be what they have learned through watching films. On the other hand, there are the people who have taken matters ...
Views: 1623 - Relationships: Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is On The Rebound? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts a new relationship there is a strong chance that it will be their intention to be with someone who is available. In this case, one is in a position where they are ready to share their life with someone else. It could then be said that they have the right outlook, and it ...
Views: 1286 - Therapy: Why Are Some Techniques More Popular Than Others? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what music people like, there are styles that are more popular than others. And within each style, there are musicians that plenty of people know about and musicians that very few many people know about. In the same way, certain approaches are more popular than others when ...
Views: 1243 - The Media: Do The Events That The Media Cover Happen Randomly? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to pick up a paper or to go onto a news website, for instance, it wouldn’t take them long to come across something negative. It could be said that this is partly because bad things happen in the world, and partly because the mainstream media generally focus on what is wrong as opposed ...
Views: 1048 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Talk To You When They Want Something? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships can be based on give and take, they can also be out of balance. When this happens, one person can give and another person can take, and this is going to lead to problems. Normal However, this is not to say that either of these people will realise that they are out ...
Views: 1273 - Self-Development: Are You Drawn To A Teacher Because Of What They Know Or Because Of How They Come Across? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to change something about themselves in the past, they may have ended up reading a book, for instance. Nowadays, one can end up going onto a search engine and watching a video. But if they were to read something, it could relate to what has been written on a blog. What this ...
Views: 1008 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Invalidating Your Experiences? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is suffering from mental and emotional problems and/or has relationship problems, they can end up looking for a therapist to assist them. This could be because they have taken this approach in the past, or it may be due to other reasons. If it relates to other reasons, it could be a ...
Views: 1879 - Moving On: Is It Possible To Forget The Past And To Move On? - by Submitted on May 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has an experience that has a positive effect on them, they are likely to play it through their mind after it has taken place. This could be something that goes on for days, weeks and even months; in fact, it could go on for years. However, as the experience causes them to experience ...
Views: 1191 - Emotional Problems: Why Do Some People Suffer In Silence When They Have Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they had a physical problem, there is a strong chance that they would reach out for the right support. Yet if this wasn’t the case, it could be because they feel ashamed of what is taking place for them. However, it could be said that this will be the exception ...
Views: 1608 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Find Their True-Self When They Get Older? - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some peoples early years were a time when they were given the support that they needed to develop into a well-adjusted adult, there are others that don’t have the same experience. This could mean that they were supported from time to time, or it may have been something that rarely, if ...
Views: 1099 - Relationships: Are The People Who Rescue Others Healthier Than The People They Rescue? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where they have saved a number of dogs from drowning, it could go even further than this. Perhaps they also work in the fire service, and have then stopped a number of people from losing their life. They could also find that this kind of behaviour appears ...
Views: 1172 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Experience Anxiety When They Don't Please Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one’s life can be an expression of their own needs or it can be an expression of other people’s needs. When it comes to the former, one is pleasing themselves; whereas when it comes to the latter, they are pleasing others. True Fulfilment In order for one to live a ...
Views: 1189 - Depression: Why Do Only Some People Feel Depressed When They Are Carrying Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that depression is one of the most common mental and emotional problems in today’s world, and while some people might experience it from time to time, there are others who are more familiar with it. This is then not going to be something that affects everyone is the same ...
Views: 1310 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People They Can Overshadow? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up with people who on a similar level, there are others who end up with people who are not. As a result of this, not everyone is going to be drawn to people who are as developed as they are. Equal When it comes to the former, it could be said that one’s relationships ...
Views: 1146 - Relationships: Does Someone Leave Their Childhood Behind When They Leave Home? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets on a plain to go home after they have been on holiday, it could be said that they are leaving the country behind. Once they get home, they can carry on with the rest of their life. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have moments when they will think about what took ...
Views: 1165 - Sense Of Self: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on May 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can change their behaviour if they need to, there are others who are unable to do so. When this happens, they can come across as the same no matter what is taking place. This is not to say that they won’t have moments where their behaviour will change, but ...
Views: 1166 - Customer Service: Is It Important To Smile? - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come into contact with someone they know, they could end up receiving a smile and then a few words. At the same time, they might not offer them a smile and only a few words could be spoken. When the former takes place, it is likely to be a sign that one is close to the other ...
Views: 1512 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on May 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go shopping and they were to speak to someone who works in a store, it is highly unlikely that they will expect them to treat them like a close friend would. In fact, they might not know what to expect from them. This is something that can all depend on how they are treated by ...
Views: 1194 - Blame: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could have the tendency to take responsibility for what happens in their life, they could also have the tendency to blame others. Based on this, it could be said that one can either behave like an adult, or they can behave like a child. When one doesn’t take responsibility, it ...
Views: 1406 - Therapy: Why Do Some Therapists Think That Their Technique Is The Best? - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their life is not going as they would like it to go, they could end up looking for a therapist to work with. This could mean that they will go and see their doctor or they may do an internet search, for instance. At the same time, one might ask a friend or a ...
Views: 1069 - Self-Development: Do Some People Get Into Self-Development In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on May 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one didn’t want to face how they were feeling or what was taking place in their life, there are going to be a number of things that they can do. The reason for this is that there are plenty of options in today’s world when one wants to avoid reality. It could be said that this is because ...
Views: 1324 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Exhibitionism? - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has often been said that some people require more attention than others, and this is something that can be seen in all areas of life. For example, one could think about what it was like when they were at school or college, and they might soon see how different people are in this regard. ...
Views: 3250 - Self-Development: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take their car to a garage, it could be due to a number of reasons. On one hand, it could be due to something minor, and on the other hand, it could be due to something major. However, regardless of why they have taken their car there, the main thing is that they have taken ...
Views: 1408 - Social Media: Do Some People Objectify Others On Social Media? - by Submitted on May 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people use social media, it is a way for them to stay in contact with their friends and family. Some of the people they know could live down the road or a few hundred miles away, and others could live in another country, for instance. This is not to say that they won’t share things ...
Views: 1292 - Relationships: Do Some People Avoid Relationships In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across two people who want to be in a relationship, it would be easy for them to assume that they are both in the same position. On one level, it could be said that this is the case; however, if they were to look a little deeper, they might find that there is more to ...
Views: 1736 - Forgiveness: Does Forgiveness Happen Through Force? - by Submitted on May 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is harmed in some way by another person, it has been said that they can hold onto how they feel or they can forgive them. If one holds onto how they feel, it could be said they will continue to suffer. Not only will they have gone through a tough time as a result of the other ...
Views: 1562 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not Available When They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes. As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ...
Views: 1645 - Therapy: Is It Only The People Who Have Problems That Have Therapy? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they have something wrong with their phone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would get the right assistance. This could be a time where they will ask a friend what they should do, or they could simply take it to a phone shop. However, even if ...
Views: 1420 - Social Media: Is Something Only A Good Deed When It Is Mentioned On Social Media? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had something on their mind in the past, they may have kept it to themselves or they might have spoken to someone. Nowadays, one has another option, and this is to share what is taking place for them on social media. As a result of this, not only can one share the kinds of things they ...
Views: 1323 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1604 - Relationships: Do You Push People Away When They Trigger Your Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings. The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ...
Views: 1576 - Escapism: Can We Run Away From Our Past? - by Submitted on May 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf a wasp started to chase someone and they didn’t want to be stung, they might end up running away. This could be a sign that they have been stung before and don’t want to go through the same experience all over again. If they were to run away, it might only be a matter of time before ...
Views: 1639 - Emotional Problems: Do Your Emotional Experiences Reflect Your Childhood? - by Submitted on May 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s car runs smoothly, there is going to be no reason for them to take a deeper look into how it works. And the same could be said when it comes to others areas of their life. For example, if their body is not causing them any problems, there is also going to be no need for them ...
Views: 1418 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People That Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self. As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a ...
Views: 2063 - Appearance: Do Some People Focus On Their Appearance In Order To Receive Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone spent a lot of time on their appearance in the past, there is the chance that it wouldn’t have been possible for them to go out without looking a certain way. And while they might have been able to let go when they were at home, this might not have been the case. As a result of ...
Views: 2025 - Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online. And ...
Views: 2419 - Personal Power: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have No Control Over Their Life? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels as though they have control over their life, it will have a positive effect on their well-being. This is because it will be possible for them to fulfil their needs and this will allow them to grow. Alternatively, when one feels as though they don’t have control over their ...
Views: 1344 - Blame: If Someone Always Blames Others Does It Show That They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are people that take responsibility for just about everything, and on the other hand, there are others that avoid taking responsibility for just about everything. And while it could be said that the first option is better than the second option, they are both going to lead to ...
Views: 1534 - Relationships: Can The End Of A Relationship Trigger Someone's Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship starts, there is the chance that one will experience a lot of pleasure, and then as time passes, this could change. This is not to say that this will go from being a something that has a positive effect on their life, to something that has a negative effect. What this ...
Views: 1657 - Self-Development: Can Self-Development Stop People From Developing Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one’s life isn’t going as they would like it to go, there is the chance that this will cause them to experience pain. On one hand, one could end up feeling like a victim and not do anything about it, and on the other hand, they could get in touch with their anger and end up taking ...
Views: 1453 - Pet Loss: Is It Normal To Experience Loss When A Pet Dies? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to lose a family member or a close friend, it can be seen as something that will have a bigger impact on them than if they were to lose a pet. Based on this, if they were to experience life differently it could be said that something isn’t right. Loss Thus, if one was to ...
Views: 1459 - Depression: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Dealing With Depression? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEveryone on this planet will have experienced physical pain at one point or another, and there is also the chance that they have suffered mentally and emotionally. And although it could be said that there is a greater awareness around the former than the latter, it doesn’t mean that this is ...
Views: 2572 - Relationships: Is Being Curious An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go and see their doctor, there is a strong chance that they would be the point off focus. This is primarily due to the fact that one is likely to be there because they have a problem and the doctor is there to assist them with what is taking place. One way of looking at this ...
Views: 1611 - Relationships: Will The People That Someone Attracts Online Be Different To The People They Attract Offline? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to run out of food in the past, they would need to go shopping; however, in today’s world, this is no longer the case. The only thing that they need to do is to go online and to order what it is that they need. And depending on when they order what they need, it could be delivered ...
Views: 1618 - Empathy: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is going through an emotionally challenging time in their life, they may find that they have started to shut down. Their engine will still be running, but it won’t be running on all cylinders, so to speak. During this time, it is not going to be their intention for this to take place; ...
Views: 1440 - Relationships: Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance. And when it comes to the former, it could relate ...
Views: 1564 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Overbearing? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was go shopping, they could end up trying a number of different things on, and while some of these items may be a good fit; there could be others that are not. When something fits them, they are going to feel comfortable; whereas when this is not the case, they are going to feel ...
Views: 1299 - Control: Do Some People Use Shame To Control Other People? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a dog for a walk and they were told to keep it under control, they are unlikely to think that there is anything wrong with what they are being told. However, if they were in a relationship and one their friends told them to control their partner, this might not be the ...
Views: 1952 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when someone has too much of something and times when they don’t have enough. It is often said that when one wants something it is never there and yet when they don’t want it, it ends up appearing. However, while this can relate to something physical, it is also something ...
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