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By Rachel MohebanDec 23, 20101 topic

How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track After Infidelity

Infidelity is a complex beast. It goes by many names and has many faces and can crop up even where you least expect it. It is naive to believe that only those in a troubled relationship can be plagued by infidelity - I’ve seen it rear its ugly head even in (seemingly) blissful relationships. Infidelity also takes many forms, and is not limited to a physical relationship or encounter with someone outside of your relationship. Even sharing emotional intimacy with someone othe

Primary topic: Overcoming Adultery and Infidelity

Overcoming Adultery and Infidelity

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By Rachel MohebanJun 4, 20101 topic

Is Your Partner Overstepping The Relationship Boundaries?

When you’ve been together long enough, you pick up each other’s habits, finish each other’s sentences, share a bed, a home, maybe a couple of kids. You become a unit. But have you retained your own identity? Can you define yourself as your own self, or only as one half of a couple? Being part of a strong relationship is the ultimate achievement, but only if this is in a healthy and positive way, without giving up what makes you unique. Remember that you and your partner c

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanApr 13, 20101 topic

5 Ways To Show Appreciation In Your Relationship

I’ve met so many couples whose main relationship complaint boils down to not feeling appreciated by their partner. It’s so easy to take each other for granted and to get caught up in a pattern of not expressing your appreciation of each other. So what can you do to really let your partner know how grateful you are for everything that they do? The first step is to think about all the special things that your partner does for you (and even better, how about making a list!)–

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanApr 15, 20101 topic

Closing the Communication Gap in Your Relationship

Isn’t it interesting how even when you and your partner speak the same language, you don’t always understand what he/she is saying? Let me explain by way of example… Wife: I really wish you would come home earlier from work. She means: I feel lonely and neglected and I would love for us to spend more time together. He hears: I don’t trust you / You’re disappointing me / She’s trying to control me! The resulting feelings: Hurt, defensiveness, guilt, negativity This is ju

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanSep 24, 20101 topic

3 Reasons Why Not To Keep Secrets In A Relationship

All little girls grow up whispering secrets to their trusted girlfriends. Sharing secrets with friends is an integral part growing up and developing trust. Nothing changes as an adult except that, as everything does, it becomes a little more complex than simply whispering exciting little secrets to a friend. Secrets in the adult world often imply a certain level of ‘shadiness’, leaving an impression of ‘having something to hide’ or ‘sweeping things under the rug’. And in a

Primary topic: Trust

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By Rachel MohebanMar 15, 20101 topic

Mirror, Mirror….What’s One Of The Best Communication Strategies Of Them All?

I’ve met so many couples during my years as a psychotherapist whose problems boil down to a simple lack of communication. On second thought, let me rephrase that. These couples may communicate in the literal sense of the word, in that they are ‘conveying information’ but are they communicating? Are they not only listening to each other (note: hearing and listening are two entirely different things!), but also internalizing each other’s messages? By internalizing, I mean are t

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanAug 10, 20101 topic

Beware the Enemies of Effective Communication

No matter how much you really want and need to get your point across to your partner, there are a number of methods of communication that are strictly off limits. Using them will get you nowhere productive. These methods include, but are not limited to the following: - Sarcasm - Mockery - Name-calling - Contempt When you are sarcastic toward your partner, you create a couple of issues. First, if you are both upset, s/he may not realize that you’re being sarcastic to beg

Primary topic: Family

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By Rachel MohebanApr 15, 20111 topic

Embracing the Single Life

Being single is not easy, but with some of these tips, you can learn to live in more comfort and embrace single life. Adjusting to a new way of life is always hard when you have to do it alone. If you take the right attitude about being single, this time in your life could mean a lot of things. The reason so many single people are unhappy is because they depend and count on someone else loving them. Believe it or not, loving yourself is harder than loving a new person. You ca

Primary topic: Singles

1,976 views

By Rachel MohebanJul 30, 20101 topic

Getting Out of Debt Together

One underlying tension in many marriages is the weight of a debt. It is estimated that a very high percentage of divorces are based on some sort of financial issues between the couple, debt being a high on this list. If you see that you have fallen behind on your bookkeeping, it’s time to face the situation head-on… together. First, work yourselves out a budget for your day-to-day expenses. Pretend for just a few, glorious hours, that you have no debt at all, but that you ha

Primary topic: Family

1,550 views

By Rachel MohebanJul 9, 20101 topic

Real People Schedule Intimacy

For many busy couples, intimacy is unfortunately an issue that gets pushed aside. Really, nobody’s checking up on it (we hope), and you don’t normally have a deadline on it or any of the other checks and balances that are involved in many other sectors of your lives. Still, intimacy is an integral part of a relationship, so where do you go from here, especially when you’re overtaxed and exhausted? Schedule it! This is too important to let it get away! Take out that datebook a

Primary topic: Intimacy

1,371 views

By Rachel MohebanDec 8, 20091 topic

5 Simple Tips to Keeping the Romance Alive

Relationships take work. They don’t just magically happen and fairytales are never true. The truth is that being in a positive and healthy relationship requires attention from both ends in order to make it grow and work for the long term. If you, as a couple, have taken a turn for the worse, it can be difficult to see past the conflict and get back on the right track without the proper tools and information. Everyday life stress such as work, finances and health can affect ho

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,297 views

By Rachel MohebanJul 19, 20101 topic

Time to Have the Talk

If you’ve been seeing each other seriously for a long time, have the talk. If you’re in a committed, long-term relationship, you must have the talk – the gender roles talk. Did you grow up as a fixture in a Leave it to Beaver rerun or did you hear Free to Be You and Me over and over and over? What if you fit the first description and your partner fits the second? This scenario could lead to communication cross-talk, and no couple needs that! Each of us comes into a relatio

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,283 views

By Rachel MohebanMar 23, 20101 topic

Money Matters: How What Attracts Us Can Lead To Distraction

We've all heard that in relationships "opposites attract," and we see examples of this all the time. Quiet, nonverbal types feel drawn to expressive, verbal mates, and vice versa. Shy introverts and outgoing extroverts gravitate towards each other. Carefree, unpredictable people partner with reliable, responsible individuals. The list goes on and on. The same holds true with money values, and this is why money issues eventually become such a sensitive topic for so many couple

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanDec 8, 20091 topic

Relationship Breakthrough: Free Teleclass Provides Couples with Tools to Conquer Conflict and Gain Intimacy

New York, – December 4, 2009 Relationships can be challenging at the best of times, especially if you don’t enter them with a clear head and the right “tools” to grow together and learn from one another rather than grow apart. Obtaining these tools and learning how to effectively communicate in order to resolve problems effectively is what you can expect from “Breakthroughs on Anger in your Relationship”, a free teleclass presented by New York City Relationship Success Expert

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanMay 18, 20101 topic

Top 3 Relationship Communication Tips

We’re always told how important good communication is to make a relationship work, but what does this really mean? On the surface, it seems straightforward and logical, right? So you and your partner need to talk and express your feelings….to be open, direct and honest Easier said than done! Add human emotion, different backgrounds/personalities and personal limitations into the mix, and many couples are left feeling conflicted and helpless. Good communication does not usu

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,209 views

By Rachel MohebanFeb 24, 20101 topic

Learning How To Communicate in a Relationship

We’re living in an era that is all about communication…instant, constant, easy communication. So why is it that often the most challenging communication is the one that takes place within your closest relationship? It goes without saying that the more emotional and physical intimacy you share with another person, the more challenging it is to create open lines of healthy communication. Communication in a relationship isn’t as simple as saying ”I love you” but requires keepi

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,202 views

By Rachel MohebanJun 17, 20101 topic

Is Your Partner Married to His or Her Office?

Is Your Partner Married To His/Her Office? The signs are all there… Your partner always seems preoccupied, he/she is getting late-night email alerts, is obsessively checking for new text messages. In the past this could only mean one thing, but in today’s technologically-driven world what this often can mean is that your partner is in the midst of a love affair with his/her iphone or blackberry (or other such device). We (unfortunately/fortunately depending on your perspe

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,146 views

By Rachel MohebanMar 2, 20101 topic

Are You Entering the Anger Danger Zone?

You began the conversation with altruistic intentions. The intensity and staccato of your voices signal that you and your partner are approaching a full-blown argument. You don’t want to fling insults and accusations. You just need a time out. What can you do? The next time your conversation enters the danger zone—the point where an argument is near—request a time out. For added levity, assign a playful codeword to this break like, “hamburger.” Whatever you do, don’t storm

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,141 views

By Rachel MohebanJul 1, 20101 topic

Summer's Romantic Advantage

Welcome to summer! Okay, so it’s hot. We all know that. Make yourself some lemonade and USE the heat to your romantic advantage. Get creative – what did you enjoy, way-back-when, when you had more unstructured time available to you? So you need a jump start on this one? Well, here are some suggestions: • Go for a walk in the park as it starts to cool off in the afte oon/evening. C’mon, clown around and go for a ride on the swings! - Watch a gorgeous sunset together. - Go o

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,124 views

By Rachel MohebanMar 29, 20101 topic

Keeping Your Relationship Romance Alive

So you share a bathroom, have said your “I do’s”, share a couple of kids… (or all of the above) Where does romance fit in? Is there place for romance once you’ve reached this level of intimacy, or has it gotten lost somewhere along the way? Most couples in long-term relationships find that romance gets replaced little by little by family demands, household chores, familiarity…and so on. Do not despair! This does not have to be the case in your relationship. A little bit o

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanJun 4, 20101 topic

Is Your Relationship In A Rut?

Is your relationship in a rut? Maybe you know that something’s missing in your relationship but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Being in a relationship rut means that you are neither particularly unhappy with your partner but you also not particularly happy. It’s like being in a comfortable place of indifference and acceptance that you can’t seem to get out of…why? Simply because it’s what you’ve both become accustomed to and you don’t know how to change it. But, here

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Rachel MohebanApr 15, 20101 topic

Is There Something Amiss When There's Not Always Pre-Wedding Bliss?

You can feel the excitement in the air...the invitations have been sent out, the rings are sitting in their comfortable velvet boxes and the event has been arranged. All the bases seem to be covered. So why do you feel so jittery? Why do so many discussions about the wedding turn into arguments? You’ve always imagined this to be a romantic, blissful time in your relationship – is something going wrong? Fear not! You can breathe easy. Most couples experience conflict in the

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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