Are you âAbandoningâ yourself in your relationships?
Often I see couples or hear the sadness of friends who commonly complain about their mates and wish for a paradigm shift. I hear them echo âIf they can only be this wayâ or âIf they were more like that.â When I pose the question: â Why are you in the relationship?â, the answers vary but they are quite revealing. It turns out that the quality or behavior they are seeking from their partner fills an unmet need in them. For example, one client was distraught that his