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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Mental Health: Is It A Good Thing That Lady Gaga And Prince William Are Talking About Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, Lady Gaga and Prince William had a conversation about mental health. This was a time when the former spoke about her own challenges and the latter spoke about how important it is for people to open up, amongst other things. A Mixed Response And as these two people are ...
Views: 1295 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 345 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 16 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Seeing His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact. He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ...
Views: 58 - No One Will Listen To You! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had a number of mentors, and one mentor that has had a big effect on me is one that I met at a charity event in 2003. This person was offering readings there and it turned out that this was not the only thing she did. If I remember rightly, my mother and sister had a ...
Views: 1048 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 15 - People Pleasing: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they have the need to please others. What this will show is that they are aware of what is wrong and this is then why they have been able to take the next step. One Step Behind Yet, if one hasn’t reached this ...
Views: 1061 - Relationships: Do Some People Use The Law Of Attraction To Shame Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the chance that if someone is in to self-development, it is because of the law of attraction. Through finding out about this so-called law, it would then have meant that this ended up being an important part of their life. One thing leads To Another It is then the same as how ...
Views: 1429 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Be In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to start a new relationship, they might think about where they can find someone to be with. Alternatively, they could simply join an online dating site and see what happens there. There could also be moments when one goes out in the evening to different places, and there might ...
Views: 1076 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act As Though They Are An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won’t believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals. It will be as though other people have nothing going ...
Views: 827 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Relax When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to have a very busy life, and this can stop them from being able to just be. During the week, there is likely be the amount of time that they are at work each day and, once they get home, they may have other things to do. Another Job This ...
Views: 1078 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Attach Their Value To What They Do? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to observer how the people around them behave, they may find that a lot of them have something in common. What could stand out is how so many people are always doing something. Always On the Go And even if these people were to go on holiday or to take some time off work, it ...
Views: 1029 - Self-Worth: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Sensitive When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one behaves in a way that is seen as being socially acceptable, it can be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. But before they were even old enough to go out into the world by themselves, there would have been how they were treated by their caregiver/s. An Extrovert ...
Views: 1031 - Self-Worth: It Is Harder For Someone To Make Mistakes When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get something wrong, they may find that this is not something that will end up derailing them. They might need a little while to pull themselves together, so to speak, but that will be as far as it will go. Going Back And, if they were to look back on how they have been ...
Views: 951 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Good Enough? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one believes that they are not good enough, it can set them to live a life that is not very fulfilling. For one thing, this can stop them from taking the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. A Half-Life One is not going to view themselves in a positive light, and this ...
Views: 1136 - Social Justice Warriors: Are Social Justice Warriors Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world and/or if they use social media, they may be familiar with the term ‘social justice warrior’ or SJW for short. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is someone who is trying to make a difference in the ...
Views: 1131 - Social Media: Does Social Media Give Some Women A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why people use social media, and it could be said that one of the mains reasons is for them to talk to their friends. This is something that a lot of people are going to come out with. In addition to this, there are likely to be people who primarily use it ...
Views: 1136 - Success: Do Some People Only Do Things To Impress Others? - by Submitted on May 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about something in their life that they have been doing for a little while, they may find that it doesn’t take much effort for them to understand why they do it. This could be a time when one will think about their job, for instance. Two Reasons One may come to see ...
Views: 1144 - Terrorism: What Do Some Western Countries Have In Common With Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what is taking place in the Middle East, what is clear is that a lot of people are suffering. The only thing that someone needs to do to realise this is to pick up a paper or to go online, for instance. Carnage During this time, they might see that there are certain areas ...
Views: 1214 - Therapy: Are Some People Too Young To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to assist others, there are a number of things that they could do. For one thing, they could end up doing some kind of volunteering, and this would allow them to have a positive effect on the world. But if this wasn’t something that interested them, they could decide to ...
Views: 1220 - Therapy: Why Are Some Techniques More Popular Than Others? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what music people like, there are styles that are more popular than others. And within each style, there are musicians that plenty of people know about and musicians that very few many people know about. In the same way, certain approaches are more popular than others when ...
Views: 1261 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to express what is taking place within them, they will probably be seen as someone who is in tune with themselves. They will be able to share their thoughts and feelings, and being this way will affect every area of their life. Authentic Being this way is going to ...
Views: 1098 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in touch with themselves and they feel safe enough to express who they are, there will be no reason for them to put on an act. How they come across on the outside is going to match up with who they are on the inside. Now and Then Or, if they do put on act, it is going to be ...
Views: 1862 - You Are More Than Your Circumstances - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has had a certain challenge for a long time, they can believe that there is nothing that they can do. Therefore, due to how long something has been in their life, it can be seen as something that is permanent. As a result of this, they are just going to have to tolerate what is ...
Views: 656 - You Are Your Own Saviour! - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a week ago, I was looking through a book called ‘The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness’ by Gary Zukav and Linda Francis. What first caught my attention was the book’s subtitle, and this was because I had used this term for the main title on a number of articles. It soon became ...
Views: 1305 - “My Life Had No Meaning!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember lying in bed as a child feeling overwhelmed by my emotions and wanting my life to end. This wasn’t a one-off, though; as this was something I went through on numerous occasions. I had a father, mother, and a sister, but I felt as though I was all by myself; that’s not to say that ...
Views: 998 - “Their Mission Is To End Child Trafficking and Exploitation!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I felt the need to write an article about customer service, and when I was looking for information on a search engine I came across an interesting article. This was written by someone called Geoff Hudson-Searle. For some reason, I ended up doing a search to find out more ...
Views: 1090 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 637 - “You Are Wasting Your Money!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing Dov Baron speak about how important our beliefs are, through an interview I listened to in December 2006, I searched for more information on this topic. Ultimately, I was looking for a way to change or remove what I believed. I spent a little while going over the information ...
Views: 1032 - “You Seem Super Strong!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2011, my father had to go into hospital in order to have an operation. I drove him there and expected to be bringing him home in the not too distant future. At the time, I thought that this was just a routine operation and that he would soon be out of hospital. What also ...
Views: 1338 - ‘Men have a Strong Aversion To Shame’ - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book ‘Manhood’ by Steve Biddulph, there is a section where he says that “a deep aversion to shame has become wired in to male biology.” The reason that is put forward for is that “throughout history, women are most sexually attracted to high-status males”. What this means is that if a ...
Views: 746 - ‘You Can’t Have Anything Until You Don't Need It’ - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out, I spotted a book that caught my attention. This book was called ‘Creating Money: Attracting Abundance’, and it was written by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer. A number of months ago I had looked through another book that Sanaya Roman has written, and this played ...
Views: 831 - “A Relationship Shouldn’t Stop Us From Realising We Are Alone” - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI have often thought that even though I can say something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will actually hear what I’m saying. Or to be more precise, they can hear the words that come out of my mouth, but that might be as far as it will go. Due to the experiences they have had on this ...
Views: 763 - “Are Open Borders A Good Idea?” - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI had arranged to speak to Errol again and before our call, there was something that I wanted to talk to him about. What I wanted to know was what his views were on open borders and if he thought we no longer needed them. This topic was on my mind due to what someone had shared on social ...
Views: 1151 - “Are You Happy?” - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere has been times in my life when I have been asked if I was happy, and this has often been followed by me feeling somewhat perplexed. When I have been asked this, part of me has felt as though I should say yes, while another part of me hasn’t wanted to say anything. The reason for this ...
Views: 911 - “Aren’t You A Bit Young To Be Writing About This Stuff!?” - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2011 or 2012, I was asked if I would like to go to a talk at a university that was on food. I thought that this would be interesting, so I agreed to go along. If I remember rightly, there were a number of people there who spoke, and a number of them worked for big companies that ...
Views: 1109 - “Changing Your Environment Is The Easiest And Quickest Way To Change Your Thinking!” - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently went to Stockholm, Sweden, and while I was there I spent time with a friend who I met many years ago. This was Peter, and this was someone who I met when I did a healing course in London towards the end of 2009. After I spent time with him in London, I ended up meeting him again ...
Views: 934 - “Did You Watch The Royal Wedding?” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, while I was waiting for something in a city nearby, I was asked by someone if I had watched the royal wedding. But before I go into what happened next, I want to go into what it was like for me before it took place. The media spent a lot of time talking about what it would ...
Views: 894 - “Do You Ever Experience Anxiety?” - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was reading a book that was written by M.Scott Peck, and this caused me to think about a number of different things. For some reason, I started to think about doing some kind of course at college. As a result of this, I had a look at what courses were on offer at a college ...
Views: 1113 - “Don’t Just Be Another Brick In The Wall!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2003, I went to a number of different countries, and one of the countries that I visited was Australia. But while I was going to another country, it wouldn’t be completely accurate to say that I was going on holiday. The reason I was going away was to mark the first ...
Views: 998 - “He Is A Great Teacher!” - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I got together with a friend and he spoke about a video that he wanted to make on domestic violence. This was one of many that he was looking to put together. I think that the video he made after this was on knife crime, with the next one being about the masks that we ...
Views: 1228 - “How Do You See Yourself?” - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver a year ago, I was speaking to a friend called Wain, and we were talking about what we were working on at that stage in our life. I think he was working on a few videos and I could have been putting a book together. It was during this time that he went a little bit deeper and was curious ...
Views: 1054 - “I Became Extremely Motivated!” - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I was in a relationship that came to an end in the beginning of 2013, I started to write more often. I remember writing about four articles a week and believing that that was enough. Once I had been doing this for a while, I felt the need to write seven articles a week. When I ...
Views: 1097 - “I Came to Accept People From Other Cultures!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen our family guest had only just been opened, a lot of the people who stayed were just passing by or on holiday. Yet, as the years went by and our guest house became more well-known, we started to have people stay from all over the world. This also meant that we had students stay ...
Views: 934 - “I Could No Longer Play The Same Role!” - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI grew up in a family where everyone had a role, and each person rarely stepped out of that role. My mother was the one who was in control, and this generally took place through making the decisions and keeping people inline through losing her temper. My father, on the other hand, was ...
Views: 1118 - “I Couldn't Believe That He Wasn't Sharing His Views With The World!” - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met Wain in 2015, I thought that our paths had crossed in order for us to make videos together. For a little while before this, I had been looking for someone who made videos. Not just anyone would do, though, as I was looking for someone who would be able to relate to where I was ...
Views: 945 - “I Couldn’t Get In Touch With My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2009 I did a Reference Point Therapy course in London, and the purpose of this course was to heal trauma. In the beginning, the person who was leading the course, Simon Rose, spoke about boundaries, the effect that our time in the womb can have on us and a number of other ...
Views: 1049 - “I Developed Another False-Self!” - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had met a woman who gave readings and did a number of other things, in 2003, I wanted to know more. So, after I had been away for a number weeks, I went to see this woman again. When we got together, my mother and sister would often come along, too, and this was a time when this ...
Views: 1092 - “I Didn't Know What It Was Like To Lose Someone!” - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of my time at school, I would work at a crematorium whenever I didn’t have to go in. There were times when I would tell people about what I did and their responses said a lot about the kind of job that I had. Of course, it wasn’t that these people found it strange that I was ...
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