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- Nurture not the Emptiness - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Rick Kanary“Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for ...
Views: 1146(1 vote) - Our Passed Loved Ones Send Us Messages - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Mary SolielDid you know that we can, and probably are, receiving messages from our passed loved ones? After Death Communications, or ADCs, are various types of communications relayed from relatives and friends that have departed this life. These ADCs serve as ways to show us, truly prove to us, that the ...
Views: 2339(1 vote) - Relationships: Is It Important To Grieve The End Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course ...
Views: 1578(1 vote) - Signs and Dreams from our Children - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Louise LagermanSigns and Dreams from our Children Dreams and signs of our children. Do they really exist? Are dreams and signs a technique our deceased children use to contact us to let us know they are fine and indeed do live on? I believe with my whole heart they do. I am very fortunate and ...
Views: 1481(1 vote) - Some 57 Years Later, Emmett Till Story Still Being Told; Civil Rights History in Mississippi - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Susan KlopferWHY ARE WE STILL talking about the murder of 14-year-old Emmett TilL some 50-plus years postmortem? I blogged on the topic last August upon the 56th anniversary of this young African American boy’s brutal death back in 1955. Now his name is frequently appearing as national and international ...
Views: 2209(1 vote) - Spiritual Healing for your Grief when you have lost a Loved one - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2009 from Aliya NicholaisenSo often when you have lost a loved one it seems impossible to keep spiritual principles intact, even if you felt you had a firm grip on them before your loved one passed on. Many experience feelings of anger, depression, guilt, sadness, regret, among many other individual feelings based on your ...
Views: 1591(1 vote) - Stitched Together By Memories - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2011 from Dr. Jane Simington PhDMother’s quilt provides a warmth Beyond its fiber down Each night I’m wrapped in love, Our family history, and my wedding gown Mother cut with care her patterns Each scrap to trim and save. Just as she did with the numerous fabric remnants That to her others gave. Each patterned ...
Views: 744(1 vote) - SUMMERTIME SADNESS and JOY - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2016 from joan pancoeTo view in your browser: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=107 “The pain later is part of the happiness now.” From the movie Shadowlands Dear ONE, There’s no better time than a lazy summer’s day to meditate on the Buddhist “Eight Worldly Concerns” of which ...
Views: 817(1 vote) - Surviving Loss and Thriving Again - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2012 from Tina TessinaNone of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional “til death do us part.” Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - Sweet Memories - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Tele OpakunleNineteen years ago, I lost my younger sister. It was sudden and tragic. The pain was much, the wound was very ghastly. My heart bled for the loss of a sister, confidante and friend. I thought I would never be able to laugh again. In fact, I lost hope in everything. Then, memories of good times ...
Views: 2239(1 vote) - Synchronicity is More than a Coincidence - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantHave you ever had an experience where you said, "Wow, what a coincidence." Maybe it was more. Maybe it was a synchronicity. Let me explain through a Jungian perspective. Carl Jung, the prominent Swiss psychiatrist, believed synchronicity meant 'more than a coincidence.' Jung, the thinker ...
Views: 5342(2 votes) - Taken Too Soon - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2010 from Kristen BakerTaken Too Soon Kristen L. Baker, M.L.C.,M.S.L.C.,Wellness Coach Monday morning, the sun is glistening and the smell in the air is one that you would bottle up. The crisp brief smell of spring just seems to make everything better. As we drive to Boston Children’s Hospital for yet another ...
Views: 1671(1 vote) - The 10th Anniversary of 911 - How You Can Help - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantOn September 11, 2011, we remember the 10th anniversary of the day when nearly 3,000 victims were killed after two airliners were crashed into the Twin Towers in New York City, another plane hit the Pentagon and a final plane crashed into a field in rural Pennsylvania. This devastating number ...
Views: 1100(3 votes) - The Dead or the Past: Speaking No Ill - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Sara DillingerDe mortuis nil nisi bonum Wow, Latin. I hope you are sufficiently impressed. Ideas just sound better – or look better in writing – when they are expressed in Latin. The dead language gives the simplest thought a gravitas that it wouldn’t have in English. In fact, I have a slim volume ...
Views: 828(1 vote) - The Grief Place - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Sheryl PaulThere is a room in your heart where sadness dwells. Each story of sadness lives there like a stagnant, frozen particle of light waiting for you to see it, to hold it, to wrap it in a blanket and bring it tea. When you visit your grief place with love, the particles of light start to shimmer and ...
Views: 1261(1 vote) - The Healing Power Of Grief - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Larry PhillipsWhen you meet someone for the first time and get to know them, you're sending them some of your energy. That energy carries information about you. Sending it to them is your way of letting them know who you are. They receive it, absorb it, and send you some of their energy as well. This back and ...
Views: 592(1 vote) - The Mystery of Emotion - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Sharon SinclairThe Mystery of Emotion Emotion has always been something of a mystery. We have been taught to view emotion as a result of thought, but when we examine it carefully, we begin to suspect that this is not always true, that emotion is not under control of the brain but stands by itself, a factor ...
Views: 1898(1 vote) - The Near Death Experience – Its Genuineness And Its Far Reaching Messages - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2012 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranThere are many facts about Near Death Experiences that have come to light through the research in that field over the last 30 years. The more we look into them, the more we receive wonderful messages about the wider truths. The near death experiences (NDEs) that occur following an accident ...
Views: 1428(2 votes) - The Other Face of Catastrophe - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Laurie PappasDisaster happens! Severe tornadoes and the Mississippi River flooding are the latest in a long line of environmental catastrophes. Lost or damaged homes, human life, possessions and crops have, once again, brought despair to human beings who urgently need a way to cope with the adversity that ...
Views: 796(1 vote) - The Role of Positive Emotions in Loss - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Tabitha JayneLoss throws us into a world of unknown emotions. Some of which we maybe had never experienced before. Understanding these emotions can be a key factor in transforming through loss. Yet it can be hard to accept some feelings. It requires us to be brutally honest with ourselves and acknowledge ...
Views: 875(1 vote) - The Special Grieving Needs of Suicide Survivors - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Suzanne V. BenoitCONTENTS 1. Stigma and shame 2. Regrets 3. Detective obsession 4. Telling the story 5. Keeping control of feelings 6. Odd ways to sooth 7. Filling the void 8. Creating a grieving ritual 9. Individualized grieving process 10. Blaming and family conflict 11. Parental ...
Views: 5302(1 vote) - The Stress of Moving After the Loss of a Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Sandy ClendenenWhen one loses their spouse, a top life stressor, the level of stress experienced can feel extremely overwhelming to the griever. Modern life is filled with stress. And this stress occurs on many different levels. There are the daily stresses of life which are often ignored as trivial. These ...
Views: 914(1 vote) - The Truth About Antidepressants And Depression - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Dennis SimsekI recently read some rather depressing medical news – and that is that anti-depressants don’t work. What’s worse is that we have all been conned by the FDA and the pharmaceutical industry telling us how much they DO work. We all know what a common problem depression is in mental health care. ...
Views: 927(1 vote) - Transforming Loss and Grief - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Tabitha JayneThere is a tendency in our society to talk about healing loss, like it is a physical wound. It reduces loss to nothing more than an illness to be cured. Our objective is to heal it as quickly as possible and get back to normal. This approach has failed us in our understanding of loss and made ...
Views: 1034(1 vote) - Trauma Parent sudden death strikes school - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2012 from Elizabeth McNallyA school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known. Come morning, usually, the school’s administration has been notified allowing them to brief their staff before the school’s day starts. The school board’s psychologist will ...
Views: 1142(1 vote) - Ways of Coping with Grief - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Margit Cathrine MollerDeath is the ultimate equalizer. It doesn’t excuse anybody. No matter what your economic status is, no matter how intelligent you are, whatever your race, religion, gender, age, or educational attainment is, sooner or later, someone you love will die. Loss is a universal tragedy. And there is ...
Views: 722(1 vote) - Ways to Survive the Horrors of Grief During Halloween & Other Holidays - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Gemini AdamsGuy Fawks night is the British equivalent of the 4th July—well almost. Fireworks certainly spill into the night skies above every town in the country. Held on the 5th November its usually a chilly night with spectators wrapped up in hats, scarves, gloves and coats, grateful for the raging ...
Views: 2528(1 vote) - What is a Eulogy? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Bernice McLarenA eulogy is a farewell or memorial speech that gives high praise to a recently deceased person. Spoken publicly at a church, funeral home or even private residence, and sometimes in conjunction with a service, the speech honors, commemorates and even celebrates the deceased's life. Although ...
Views: 2003(1 vote) - What is Soul Pain - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Dr. Jane Simington PhDDefining Soul Pain I am often asked to define soul pain. While it is not an easy thing to define, I have come to acknowledge that soul pain is the sum total of the physical, mental, emotional and social distress experienced following a tragic life event. And yet, it is more than that. It is ...
Views: 2595(1 vote) - What to Do When it All Falls Apart: 8 Tips From Personal Experience - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Catherine LenardWhether you're feeling trauma from recent losses or are experiencing grief in the aftermath of past events, know that you can and will get through it. Following are pointers from first-hand experience. Having experienced personal and professional losses within a relatively short period of ...
Views: 1183(1 vote) - When A Loved One Dies: What to Expect - by Submitted on May 30, 2011 from Cristina MardirossianDealing with Grief & Loss Shock, Denial, Numbness, Disbelief -The pain exists, but you may not experience it fully yet. Your body, mind, and spirit take over to help you survive. Physiological symptoms can include: stomach aches, nausea, & insomnia -Grief does not always get easier as ...
Views: 1375(1 vote) - When Reality Sets In -- Dealing With The Stuff in the Family Home After The Loss of Your Parents - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Julie HallIt had been a week since Dad's funeral, and life was getting back to normal for Sharon. Despite the sadness of the occasion, it had been nice to be with her brother and sister and their families. She hadn't been to her dad's house since he went into the hospital. She dreaded walking into the ...
Views: 1067(1 vote) - When You Are Grieving, Thanksgiving Day Feels Painful - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantWhen you lose someone you love and are grieving, Thanksgiving Day feels burdensome and painful. When a brain tumor took away our precious Katie’s life I dreaded that holiday. For seven years we served no rutabagas because they were Katie’s favorite vegetable. The thought of their seasonal ...
Views: 4092(2 votes) - Why It’s Okay to Talk to a Deceased Loved One - by Submitted on May 12, 2011 from Louis LaGrandIs it a bit unusual to have a conversation with a deceased loved one? Do many people do this? And are there any benefits to such action? What will my friends think if they find out? These questions are not uncommon in the thoughts of those mourning the death of a loved one. These questions are ...
Views: 6349(1 vote) - Why Should I Give a Eulogy? - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Bernice McLarenMost of us dread public speaking – even presenting eulogies. Although eulogy audiences are more sympathetic and understanding than most, it is still public speaking, with challenges. The period following the death of a loved one is a trying time. You are likely experiencing grief and perhaps ...
Views: 2071(1 vote) - Why We Need Support Following Bereavement - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Tabitha JayneWhen we experience loss we immediately turn to our friends and family, expecting them to be able to help us. All too often, we are left disappointed. Friends don’t know what to say and can find it difficult to be around us. They sometimes have no understanding of what we are going through. ...
Views: 928(1 vote) - Yoga for Grief: Why Practice Is Important - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Heather StangThe practice of yoga for grief may seem daunting at first glance. Contemporary media and fitness magazines depict model-thin women in the prime of their lives twisting into the most advanced expression of pretzel-like postures. They are strong; they are at peace; they radiate ...
Views: 822(1 vote) - “My spouse wants a divorce and there's nothing I can do about it...” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsLindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems. She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ...
Views: 2206(1 vote) - 16 Ways to Get Through Tough Times - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2012 from Nicole NenningerEveryone has times during their lives that are challenging. Illness, the loss of a job, death, divorce, a relationship break-up, parental alienation, and other life-changing events serve to push us over the edge if we aren’t careful. While we may not have control over some of our ...
Views: 2293(4 votes) - ***Living a Purposeful Life - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2012 from Karen Mehringer, MASurrounded by royal blue water extending beyond the horizon in all directions, no land in sight, I gaze at the path of diamonds dancing on the ocean’s surface. The sun radiating on my skin feels like a warm cashmere sweater. It is August 19, 1998, and I am on my first ocean passage of a ...
Views: 1506(3 votes) - ***A Year in Transition - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Karen Mehringer, MA“Discovering your Groove and creating a luscious life is all about allowing for Grace through your next transition.” - Shann Vander Leek The sun was an orange ball of fire in the sky as it sank lower over the horizon. I reached the end of the jetty and sat on a large rock to witness its final ...
Views: 1435(2 votes) - ***The Heart Rock Story - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Karen Mehringer, MACruising on I-90 form Washington back to Colorado, John and I are ready for rest after eight hours of driving. We stop at a campground with easy access to the freeway, just outside of Missoula, Montana. Fortunately, the campground is practically empty. We set up camp among tall ponderosa pines ...
Views: 1304(2 votes) - Dreaming of Those Who Have "Crossed Over" - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Laurel Clark"I have absolutely no fear of death. From my near-death research and my personal experiences, death is, in my judgment, simply a transition into another kind of reality." - Dr. Raymond Moody Most people fear death. Although we know that death is inevitable, there is often a difference ...
Views: 6979(4 votes) - Every Day...Life - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Belinda LamsRecently, my cat Squeakers started losing a lot of weight. My husband and I took her to the vet, thinking that she was probably dying. We braced ourselves for the inevitable sad news only to find out that she had hyperthyroidism and just needed to take a pill. The vet said, "It looks like ...
Views: 816(2 votes) - Grief Has Its Own Timetable - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantAfter the death of someone we love our grief experience and overall healing has everything to do with our relationship to the deceased, the intensity and depth of the love we felt for them and our degree of faith in a hereafter. In the immediate aftermath of a person's death, it's hard to ...
Views: 1263(4 votes) - How Coaching Can Help You Cope After Loss - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Roberta Stack-CostantinoWe all have lived through many types of losses. Some of us handle it better than others and, there is nothing wrong with that. In today's economy, people are losing jobs, insurance, their cars, their homes, their family's, their good health; much of it due to stress. People are unable to deal ...
Views: 821(2 votes) - Releasing Grief - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are faced with the moment of losing something, whether it is a job, a loved one, or a way of being, it can act as a catalyst of reversion, leading us on a path away from ourselves. It is almost as if in order to deal with it we must lose ourselves as well. To be present is harder than ...
Views: 1035(2 votes) - Spiritual Growth From Bereavement - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Tabitha JayneCreating or strengthening our spirituality can have untold beneficial effects upon us after loss. By spirituality I do not mean religion. The two are very separate. Religion is based around organised belief by an outside body. Spirituality in contrast, is individual belief created by ...
Views: 1954(2 votes) - Stress and how it affects us! - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Sharon SinclairWhy is stress so personally unique? Why do one person's buttons get pushed when others' aren't? There are no direct connections between the external stressors in day-to-day stressful situations - the boss that upsets you, or the traffic, or the loud noise - and the physiological mechanisms in ...
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