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Music During Grief and Loss
Music touches your soul like nothing else. Music during times of sorrow can be especially helpful. Songs can speak to our emotions and give voice to how we feel. The late BB King said, “Even in your darkest moments, music is a rope to grab onto, something to pull ... Views: 1607
Navigating the Waters of Grief …
Grieving a loss of any kind can seem as if a storm has ripped away our sail from a well-charted life.
The loss of a loved one, a pet, employment, a lifestyle, physical health, or a way of being can seem as if we were unexpectedly thrown overboard into the ... Views: 1667
Baby Boomers are in for a shock!!! We may think that we are prepared for the sadness that will accompany our parents’ death. In fact we are usually totally unprepared for this life experience. To lose the people in your life that have always been there and know you the best is a life-altering ... Views: 1359
“Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for ... Views: 1566
Did you know that we can, and probably are, receiving messages from our passed loved ones? After Death Communications, or ADCs, are various types of communications relayed from relatives and friends that have departed this life. These ADCs serve as ways to show us, truly prove to us, that the ... Views: 3194
When a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come.
This will of course ... Views: 2040
Signs and Dreams from our Children
Dreams and signs of our children. Do they really exist? Are dreams and signs a technique our deceased children use to contact us to let us know they are fine and indeed do live on? I believe with my whole heart they do. I am very fortunate and ... Views: 2033
WHY ARE WE STILL talking about the murder of 14-year-old Emmett TilL some 50-plus years postmortem? I blogged on the topic last August upon the 56th anniversary of this young African American boy’s brutal death back in 1955.
Now his name is frequently appearing as national and international ... Views: 3178
So often when you have lost a loved one it seems impossible to keep spiritual principles intact, even if you felt you had a firm grip on them before your loved one passed on. Many experience feelings of anger, depression, guilt, sadness, regret, among many other individual feelings based on your ... Views: 2080
Mother’s quilt provides a warmth
Beyond its fiber down
Each night I’m wrapped in love,
Our family history, and my wedding gown
Mother cut with care her patterns
Each scrap to trim and save.
Just as she did with the numerous fabric remnants
That to her others gave.
Each patterned ... Views: 1221
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“The pain later is part of the happiness now.” From the movie Shadowlands
Dear ONE,
There’s no better time than a lazy summer’s day to meditate on the Buddhist “Eight Worldly Concerns” of which ... Views: 1447
None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional “til death do us part.” Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that ... Views: 2132
Nineteen years ago, I lost my younger sister. It was sudden and tragic. The pain was much, the wound was very ghastly. My heart bled for the loss of a sister, confidante and friend. I thought I would never be able to laugh again. In fact, I lost hope in everything. Then, memories of good times ... Views: 2675
Have you ever had an experience where you said, "Wow, what a coincidence." Maybe it was more. Maybe it was a synchronicity. Let me explain through a Jungian perspective.
Carl Jung, the prominent Swiss psychiatrist, believed synchronicity meant 'more than a coincidence.' Jung, the thinker ... Views: 6261
Taken Too Soon
Kristen L. Baker, M.L.C.,M.S.L.C.,Wellness Coach
Monday morning, the sun is glistening and the smell in the air is one that you would bottle up. The crisp brief smell of spring just seems to make everything better. As we drive to Boston Children’s Hospital for yet another ... Views: 2268
On September 11, 2011, we remember the 10th anniversary of the day when nearly 3,000 victims were killed after two airliners were crashed into the Twin Towers in New York City, another plane hit the Pentagon and a final plane crashed into a field in rural Pennsylvania. This devastating number ... Views: 1642
De mortuis nil nisi bonum
Wow, Latin. I hope you are sufficiently impressed.
Ideas just sound better – or look better in writing – when they are expressed in Latin. The dead language gives the simplest thought a gravitas that it wouldn’t have in English.
In fact, I have a slim volume ... Views: 1134
There is a room in your heart where sadness dwells. Each story of sadness lives there like a stagnant, frozen particle of light waiting for you to see it, to hold it, to wrap it in a blanket and bring it tea. When you visit your grief place with love, the particles of light start to shimmer and ... Views: 1841
When you meet someone for the first time and get to know them, you're sending them some of your energy. That energy carries information about you. Sending it to them is your way of letting them know who you are. They receive it, absorb it, and send you some of their energy as well. This back and ... Views: 870
The Mystery of Emotion
Emotion has always been something of a mystery. We have been taught to view emotion as a result of thought, but when we examine it carefully, we begin to suspect that this is not always true, that emotion is not under control of the brain but stands by itself, a factor ... Views: 2516
There are many facts about Near Death Experiences that have come to light through the research in that field over the last 30 years. The more we look into them, the more we receive wonderful messages about the wider truths.
The near death experiences (NDEs) that occur following an accident ... Views: 1883
Disaster happens! Severe tornadoes and the Mississippi River flooding are the latest in a long line of environmental catastrophes. Lost or damaged homes, human life, possessions and crops have, once again, brought despair to human beings who urgently need a way to cope with the adversity that ... Views: 1128
Loss throws us into a world of unknown emotions. Some of which we maybe had never experienced before. Understanding these emotions can be a key factor in transforming through loss. Yet it can be hard to accept some feelings. It requires us to be brutally honest with ourselves and acknowledge ... Views: 1378
CONTENTS
1. Stigma and shame
2. Regrets
3. Detective obsession
4. Telling the story
5. Keeping control of feelings
6. Odd ways to sooth
7. Filling the void
8. Creating a grieving ritual
9. Individualized grieving process
10. Blaming and family conflict
11. Parental ... Views: 6053
When one loses their spouse, a top life stressor, the level of stress experienced can feel extremely overwhelming to the griever.
Modern life is filled with stress. And this stress occurs on many different levels. There are the daily stresses of life which are often ignored as trivial. These ... Views: 1526
I recently read some rather depressing medical news – and that is that anti-depressants don’t work. What’s worse is that we have all been conned by the FDA and the pharmaceutical industry telling us how much they DO work. We all know what a common problem depression is in mental health care. ... Views: 1423
There is a tendency in our society to talk about healing loss, like it is a physical wound. It reduces loss to nothing more than an illness to be cured. Our objective is to heal it as quickly as possible and get back to normal.
This approach has failed us in our understanding of loss and made ... Views: 1559
A school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known.
Come morning, usually, the school’s administration has been notified allowing them to brief their staff before the school’s day starts. The school board’s psychologist will ... Views: 1659
Death is the ultimate equalizer. It doesn’t excuse anybody. No matter what your economic status is, no matter how intelligent you are, whatever your race, religion, gender, age, or educational attainment is, sooner or later, someone you love will die. Loss is a universal tragedy.
And there is ... Views: 1112
Guy Fawks night is the British equivalent of the 4th July—well almost. Fireworks certainly spill into the night skies above every town in the country. Held on the 5th November its usually a chilly night with spectators wrapped up in hats, scarves, gloves and coats, grateful for the raging ... Views: 3219
A eulogy is a farewell or memorial speech that gives high praise to a recently deceased person. Spoken publicly at a church, funeral home or even private residence, and sometimes in conjunction with a service, the speech honors, commemorates and even celebrates the deceased's life. Although ... Views: 2659
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What is Soul Pain - by Dr. Jane Simington PhD. Grief and Trauma Specialist Taking Flight International
Defining Soul Pain
I am often asked to define soul pain. While it is not an easy thing to define, I have come to acknowledge that soul pain is the sum total of the physical, mental, emotional and social distress experienced following a tragic life event. And yet, it is more than that. It is ... Views: 3379
Whether you're feeling trauma from recent losses or are experiencing grief in the aftermath of past events, know that you can and will get through it. Following are pointers from first-hand experience.
Having experienced personal and professional losses within a relatively short period of ... Views: 1582
Dealing with Grief & Loss
Shock, Denial, Numbness, Disbelief
-The pain exists, but you may not experience it fully yet. Your body, mind, and spirit take over to help you survive. Physiological symptoms can include: stomach aches, nausea, & insomnia
-Grief does not always get easier as ... Views: 1817
It had been a week since Dad's funeral, and life was getting back to normal for Sharon. Despite the sadness of the occasion, it had been nice to be with her brother and sister and their families. She hadn't been to her dad's house since he went into the hospital. She dreaded walking into the ... Views: 1556
When you lose someone you love and are grieving, Thanksgiving Day feels burdensome and painful. When a brain tumor took away our precious Katie’s life I dreaded that holiday. For seven years we served no rutabagas because they were Katie’s favorite vegetable. The thought of their seasonal ... Views: 5093
Is it a bit unusual to have a conversation with a deceased loved one? Do many people do this? And are there any benefits to such action? What will my friends think if they find out? These questions are not uncommon in the thoughts of those mourning the death of a loved one. These questions are ... Views: 8283
Most of us dread public speaking – even presenting eulogies. Although eulogy audiences are more sympathetic and understanding than most, it is still public speaking, with challenges. The period following the death of a loved one is a trying time. You are likely experiencing grief and perhaps ... Views: 2757
When we experience loss we immediately turn to our friends and family, expecting them to be able to help us. All too often, we are left disappointed. Friends don’t know what to say and can find it difficult to be around us. They sometimes have no understanding of what we are going through. ... Views: 1437
The practice of yoga for grief may seem daunting at first glance. Contemporary media and fitness magazines depict model-thin women in the prime of their lives twisting into the most advanced expression of pretzel-like postures. They are strong; they are at peace; they radiate ... Views: 1212
Lindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems.
She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ... Views: 2749
Everyone has times during their lives that are challenging. Illness, the loss of a job, death, divorce, a relationship break-up, parental alienation, and other life-changing events serve to push us over the edge if we aren’t careful.
While we may not have control over some of our ... Views: 2863
Surrounded by royal blue water extending beyond the horizon in all directions, no land in sight, I gaze at the path of diamonds dancing on the ocean’s surface. The sun radiating on my skin feels like a warm cashmere sweater. It is August 19, 1998, and I am on my first ocean passage of a ... Views: 2067
“Discovering your Groove and creating a luscious life is all about allowing for Grace through your next transition.” - Shann Vander Leek
The sun was an orange ball of fire in the sky as it sank lower over the horizon. I reached the end of the jetty and sat on a large rock to witness its final ... Views: 2036
Cruising on I-90 form Washington back to Colorado, John and I are ready for rest after eight hours of driving. We stop at a campground with easy access to the freeway, just outside of Missoula, Montana. Fortunately, the campground is practically empty. We set up camp among tall ponderosa pines ... Views: 1696
"I have absolutely no fear of death. From my near-death research and my personal experiences, death is, in my judgment, simply a transition into another kind of reality." - Dr. Raymond Moody
Most people fear death. Although we know that death is inevitable, there is often a difference ... Views: 7729
We all hold on to that which we love, or that which we feel makes us secure. There is an innate fear of loss and change. It could even be said that our entire lives consist of a struggle to hold everything together.
We want things to be stable, remain exactly as they were.
When change comes ... Views: 4808
Recently, my cat Squeakers started losing a lot of weight. My husband and I took her to the vet, thinking that she was probably dying. We braced ourselves for the inevitable sad news only to find out that she had hyperthyroidism and just needed to take a pill. The vet said, "It looks like ... Views: 1251
After the death of someone we love our grief experience and overall healing has everything to do with our relationship to the deceased, the intensity and depth of the love we felt for them and our degree of faith in a hereafter. In the immediate aftermath of a person's death, it's hard to ... Views: 1891