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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: He had to hurt me to pull away so he could start this new relationship. - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met a guy at the end of my marriage, I started to have a relationship with him. the marriage ended and my husband moved out. My new relationship grew stronger and he had hope for a future with me. I was not ready to let people know I was in a new relationship so ...
Views: 1283(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He has PTSD and I'm going crazy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for about four years now and my husband and I got married at 18 we have 3 kids all under the age of four and it gets stressful sometimes for both of us. He is in the army, he's been a soldier for almost 3 years now he was deployed ...
Views: 1613(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he is even a few years younger than my daughter - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I am going crazy. I am attracted to a young man who is young enough to be my son, he is even a few years younger than my daughter. He has shown interest in me as well and I think this is absurd and yet I can't help the way I feel. He talks to me and shows an interest when I ...
Views: 1250(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He is selfish and controlling - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio and I thought of writing to you. This is about my daughter. She has been married for a couple of years. They are both professionals. Since you listen to many cases and have a vast experience on divorce cases, I would like to ask you based on the ...
Views: 1000(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 683(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He pushed me to tears - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for the Fair Fight Guidelines. I found a lot of wisdom and thoughtfulness in them. I hope my husband will agree. That said, I don't know what you mean by "rage is phony; it's drama created by not taking care of yourself." If a ...
Views: 1344(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend. - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I love reading your articles here and on your website and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he wasn't over ...
Views: 765(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He spends more time with his friends than me - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend spends more time with his friends than me by a long shot. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now and he all of a sudden started spending way more time with them than me. I've tried talking to him about it and he said "i need two days per week ...
Views: 944(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he thinks I am neglecting him - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been "dating" someone for a year to this day. We get along great and enjoy spending time together. He is very romantic. We are both full time teachers and students. We do work in separate schools. I enjoy sleeping over. However, recently I have decided that I need to ...
Views: 943(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him hand and foot. - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afternoon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years ...
Views: 1037(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Was Never That Into Me - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I divorced my best friend of 13 years this past January. I'm having a hard time moving on... Let me very clear...over the past 13 years of our marriage..we were never sexually compatible...he was never that into me...I had an affair and I am still seeing that ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He's simply taking advantage of my affections for him - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be here anymore. Be here on this earth that is, be here in this ole' body of mine. Perhaps you can help. I think I'm simply looking for some inspiration. Also, when I think about no longer being "alive"... I am comforted. This feeling of calm comes over ...
Views: 1047(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Help me find Mr. Right - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance, I am hard of hearing, and I have hard time finding Mr. Right. I grew up around hearing guys but I haven't often dated. My first marriage was to a hearing guy and I taught him sign language so we did fine for a short time; but he didn't ...
Views: 1185(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 633(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His moods are getting more and more unbearable to live with - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for almost four years to a man twelve years younger. We have a four-year-old son. My problem is I need to find a better way of dealing with my husband's bad moods, which are getting more and more unbearable to live with. Occasionally I give ...
Views: 1575(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I get my husband into therapy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm getting worried because my husband is drinking more, and laughing less. He works too much, he has lost interest in his guy friends and sports. He's gotten more tense, and is on edge and irritable. Sometimes he even yells at me and the kids. I think maybe he needs ...
Views: 1620(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for ...
Views: 876(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation: I have married for 20 years and three beautifull children. My wife whom I love the most, uses power struggle tactics: guilt and ...
Views: 1386(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 713(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue ...
Views: 947(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ...
Views: 1180(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Sleep with my Ex-girlfriend's Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Maybe you can give me some advice. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. ...
Views: 3166(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I convince my family I'm serious about him? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm 17 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We have grown up together and he is all I know. We are very mature when it comes to our relationship and our sex life. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but there's a problem. I have made many ...
Views: 710(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I flirt to grab a guy's attention? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'd like to learn something flirty and funny that will grab a guys attention!? I am going bowling with my crush and a group of friends (I never talk to my crush so this is huge!) and I am trying to think of some cute flirty things to say! Any suggestions? Examples please ...
Views: 953(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
Views: 842(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful things ...
Views: 902(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a date to lead to marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a date from an online dating site to lead to marriage? Dear Reader: It's not realistic for anyone to expect one date to lead to marriage, but if you know what you're doing, it is possible to find a spouse via dating ...
Views: 931(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice ...
Views: 767(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident Dear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my thirties. It's been over a month since I last spoke with my ex-boyfriend of one year. He gave me the silent treatment because I hurt him. Or it might be his ...
Views: 1146(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a Native American woman who has been abused and betrayed - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several ...
Views: 1187(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex (civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries and ...
Views: 716(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am beyond confused - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need help! I am beyond confused. My husband is having an affair for more than six months with some woman who is 15 years younger than him. He lives with this women for all practical purposes and only comes home to sleep. He shows up at 11:00 p.m. at night and leaves by ...
Views: 1480(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am determined to make a better life for myself no matter what happens to my marriage - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I happen to be going through an extremely difficult time in my life right now. My husband was unfaithful during the time that I was "absent" from the marriage due to my mother dying from brain cancer. Of course, there were problems long before this and this ...
Views: 1311(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am just tired of our fights. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I are always getting into arguments and fights. I am writing to you through someone else's email because if I tell my husband about contacting you we will probably get into a fight. He does not want to go to a therapist or get any type of counseling. Do you ...
Views: 866(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not needy but I am very picky - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have met a new guy and I am very interested. He's a veterinarian. I first talked to him on the phone about my ailing horse. The attraction was there even before I met him. When he came to check on my horse the spark was there and it seemed that it was the same on his ...
Views: 981(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
Views: 1351(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure there's any turning back - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We got married quickly - after only 9 months due to a couple of reasons. We have been fighting fairly regularly for several years -- and I think it comes down to: us not having much in common, which I ultimately resent her ...
Views: 694(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure what the dating customs of this country are - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look ...
Views: 956(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: i am not sure whether i should let go - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance I've got some questions about my relationship, which is rather complicated. We both started dating 13 months ago, from the very beginning i sensed that my girl has a troubled mind, she did told me that she has gone through some horrible experiences such as rape. At that time I ...
Views: 1007(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her last breakup. I loved her wholly, with all my everything, ...
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