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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Love and Growth Reading for June 2020 - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2020 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonTake the time to express yourself in a more honest and authentic way this month. Yes, not everyone will agree with you; in fact, not everyone will want to hear your point of view or accept your uniqueness, but it doesn’t matter. Not everyone will agree with you or share your values, but you can ...
Views: 797 - How to Revive a Dying Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Ravi DashThe relationship is all about loving, respecting, caring for each other, and keeping the spark alive for the whole of the years but sometimes relationships tend to get dull and the spark between the two love birds starts to deteriorate. It’s important to revive the dying relationship at the ...
Views: 778 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
Views: 700 - Rational decision works for you - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2020 from Sri TulasiMaking a rational decision involves an analysis of the inputs (information, assumptions, and biases) that form part of your reasoning, as well as the outputs (decisions, assumptions, and biases) that result from your reasoning. The intellectual roots of rationalising dates back to Socrates, ...
Views: 587(1 vote) - How do I know if a man is lying? Why is he lying in the first place? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2020 from Valeria TariWithin a relationship, we are prone to being concerned, and readily shelter negative speculations. This does not help us in the least in listening to our hearts and intuition, and we resort to assuring ourselves to trust the man. Our uncertainty is most likely rooted in our previous experiences, ...
Views: 912 - Medical Tools Maintenance: How exactly to Clean the Sphygmomanometer - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2020 from kingof seoIn order for the medical practioners to detect, monitor, handle, or reduce the abnormal problem of their people; they would always need instruments, resources, equipment, appliances, or materials. Most of these medical instruments are manufactured from superior quality products and engineered to ...
Views: 828 - Why and How to Become Like the People You Love - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2020 from Kare AndersonAfter being honored in a tribute at the Kennedy Center the renowned musician, Carlos Santana, was interviewed by several eager reporters. He was often asked about the musicians he most admired, the turning points in his life and how it felt to be popular again. Yet, according to his wife, the ...
Views: 738 - HOW TO EMPOWER YOURSELF AND FEEL GREAT - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2020 from Emma ViglucciI know there are ebbs and flows to how we feel, as there are seasons in our lives (not just weather wise!). The trick is to hang in there during the lows and focus on snapping ourselves out of it, and to enjoy the highs while they last and focus on sustaining them the best we can. I’ve gotten ...
Views: 645 - How do I know whether or not a man is serious about me? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2020 from Valeria TariMany of us have first-handedly experienced that during the acquaintance period of a romantic relationship, the man leads us on, makes empty promises, makes us believe he will down the stars from the sky for us, and he stops at nothing in order to get us in bed with him. Once the particular ...
Views: 1392(1 vote) - 3 Ways To Nurture The Emotional And Physical Connection In Romantic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2020 from Dharmendra ChaharMany couples often complain about the lack of quality time together. They often feel they do not have enough meaningful conversations or that they are not fully engaged with each other during the times they do spend with each other. For these reasons, I believe it is very important for ...
Views: 907(1 vote) - Jealous during COVID? Here's what to do. - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2020 from Martha BodyfeltYou know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
Views: 897 - How can we hold on to a man? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Valeria TariThe society of today increasingly wants to make us think that a certain stereotypical woman exists. Types of thought-processes, products, and services surface which condition us to reach for the currently worshipped ideal, even at the cost of degrading our own selves. But if we look deep within ...
Views: 888(1 vote) - What should I do, if I am the “other” woman? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Valeria TariShame, negative judgment, scorn is unfortunately a common side effect of this status. Thus most women do not open up about their situation, only suppress it. For this reason, we have no way of knowing the real numbers of how many women take on this difficult and unforgiving role, not to mention ...
Views: 899(1 vote) - The Improvements That Internet site Design Has Gone Through - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2020 from kingof seoPreliminary Stages Of Website Designing There has been plenty of changes which have taken position so far as site style methods are worried and it has evolved as the time progressed. The first page was merely a dark plain text which was submitted as a webpage on a website. There is no usage ...
Views: 912 - UPLEVEL YOUR RELATIONSHIP MINDSET - by Submitted on May 31, 2020 from Emma ViglucciWhat we Focus on is what we Create… Something happens or Is We observe that, we assign it meaning and have thoughts and opinions about it Which create how we feel, our mood, our energy… Which in turn inform how we react, operate, and behave And, what we do and how we show up creates our ...
Views: 654 - How to find the perfect online gift ideas for your girlfriend - by Submitted on May 29, 2020 from Sunderbharathi ReddiarBeing in love is the best feeling ever! Sometimes when words fail, a beautiful gesture makes everything blossomy again. Given the fact that girls love gifts, men have an added advantage to themselves to keep showering her lady love with presents now and then - to make her day even brighter and ...
Views: 804 - 20 RELATIONSHIP ENRICHMENT TACTICS YOU NEED - by Submitted on May 24, 2020 from Emma ViglucciWhat positive and healthy tactics have you embraced recently that are having a good impact on you? That are allowing you to be your Best Self? As you might know, when we show up with the best version of ourselves, we can conquer anything… This includes creating our radiant, authentic and ...
Views: 750 - Toxic Habits People Think Are Normal in Bad Relationships - by Submitted on May 22, 2020 from habib ahmed mithuDivorce is becoming less common for younger adults. Meanwhile, the divorce rate is climbing for American's over the age of 50. Is it possible that younger adults are becoming better at noticing the indicators of bad relationships? Unfortunately, many people still believe that the signs of a bad ...
Views: 778 - Eight Telltale Signs You Are the Selfish Partner - by Submitted on May 22, 2020 from habib ahmed mithuIn every relationship, there are times of strife. Long-lasting, successful relationships are plagued with various storms the couple must weather. Sometimes, your partner is to blame, other times it's you. The question is whether or not your relationship can stand the test of time. Any ...
Views: 755 - Dear Dr. Romance: 2 days later, he tells me he's working it out with his ex - by Submitted on May 19, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met someone from online and we talked for a night and we met that night and one thing led to another and as it turns out he wanted to see me again.2 days later he tells me that hes trying to work this out with his ex wife. How do I not go into that situation? ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE - by Submitted on May 19, 2020 from Emma ViglucciDoes it feel like we are turning a leaf to you? It feels like that to me, so grateful, though we are still dealing with significant restrictions around here. I know some are feeling burnt out with all pandemic related topics and impact. I know some are enjoying aspects of the temporary new ...
Views: 820 - 7 Physical Signs Your Girlfriend is Cheating - by Submitted on May 23, 2020 from sarah donaldsNo one likes to think about whether or not their partner is seeing or sleeping with someone else. In an ideal world, no one would have to deal with the heartbreak that comes with being cheated on. Unfortunately, these things do happen. Hopefully, your relationship is one where open and honest ...
Views: 1029 - How To Approach A Marital Separation So That You Make It Work For You And Your Marriage. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the inquiries that I get are questions like "how to survive a trial separation." Or "how to overcome a separated marriage." It is very clear that most wives see the separation as something which must be endured. I completely understand this because this is how I viewed it during my own ...
Views: 807 - My Husband Is Moody, Distracted, And Distant. Is A Change In Behavior Always Something To Worry About? Because My Spouse Is Acting Weird. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneA common worry that many wives have is whether or not they should be worried when their husband shows "weird" or "unusual" behavior. The first inclination of many is to just ask him about this. Unfortunately, though, many husbands do not give you a completely straight answer. Many will tell ...
Views: 2333 - I'm Absolutely Miserable Since My Husband Left Me For A Trial Separation. Tips That Might Help - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are having a very difficult time coping after their husband has left them to pursue a trial separation. They often aren't sure how to constructively fill their time. And they can find themselves always thinking about and dwelling on their husband and on their marriage. Time seems ...
Views: 706 - It's Taking Too Long To Reconcile While Separated. And He's Seeing Someone Else. When Is It Just Time To Give Up And Realize That Your Marriage Is Better Off Being Over? - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from folks who are starting to feel very discouraged because their separation has gone on for so long or things have been so volatile that it is starting to feel as if there is no hope. Sometimes, people recount situations where they feel disrespected and mistreated by their ...
Views: 817 - The Pros and Cons of A Trial Separation: Important Pluses and Minuses. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany people feel intense worry when they are considering a trial separation. What if this is the wrong decision? What if the separation pushes you toward a divorce that you don't want? Is there another alternative that you haven't explored? These are all very valid questions. As someone who ...
Views: 741 - How To Convince A Separated Husband To Communicate When You Always Have To Call Him And He Never Wants To Meet Face-To-Face. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very upset during their marital separation because their worst fear is literally coming true. Although their husband may have reassured them that they would stay in constant contact, once the separation begins, he can go silent. Many of the wives intuitively realize the inherent ...
Views: 2257 - Why Does My Separated Husband Even Want To Be Friends? Is It A Good Idea? Why It Can Be An Important First Step. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneSome people have the unfortunate scenario of having their separation start because of an unfortunate situation. It wasn't just a matter of growing apart or their spouse needing space. It was an issue that made both parties angry and so things went very wrong. As a result, the couple separates on ...
Views: 2310 - I Think A Midlife Crisis Made My Spouse Leave. How Do I Know If I'm Right? Look For These Signs. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the wives who read my articles believe that at least part of the motivation behind their separation is their husband's midlife crisis. However, there is always the worry that the midlife crisis has become a catch-all for most unhappy husbands. Nonetheless, some wives rush to put their ...
Views: 1341 - I Thought We Were Doing Better After My Husband Moved Out. But He Doesn't Know If He Wants To Stay With Me For The Rest Of His Life - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneOn the day of your marriage, you envision growing old with that man standing at the altar with you. The idea is that the two of you will navigate life's good days and bad days together. On this day, virtually none of us envision that this ideal is not actually going to happen. That's why it ...
Views: 2170 - My Husband Is So Needy And Demands Constant Attention. He Says That I Don't Show That I Care. I Resent His Neediness - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt would be wonderful if we were always on the same page with our marriage. It would be nice if we would automatically know what our spouse needs and then be able to magically provide it, but this rarely happens. One reason for this is that people don't always indicate what they need or they ...
Views: 2120 - How To Be Calmer And Kinder - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Chris HamiltonThere’s no denying it; we all have anxieties and fears that keep us from being calm within ourselves and therefore affect the way we treat others. This is perfectly normal, what’s important is knowing what to do about it. The current global situation with coronavirus is a source of anxiety ...
Views: 650 - How Can I Change Myself To Re-Attract My Separated Husband? How Can I Make Him Attracted To Me Again When I Look Different Or Have Gained Weight? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneThere are times when you are dealing with a trial or marital separation where you don't really know for sure why your husband pursued all of this. Sure, he may have given you very general descriptions about being unhappy or needing his space, but he hasn't come right out and told you EXACTLY why ...
Views: 1988 - I Don't Like My Spouse Anymore. His Personality Annoys Me. What Does This Mean For My Marriage? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany people are clear on the fact that, no matter what happens, they are committed to still loving their spouse. This, they figure, is the meaning of unconditional love. You love someone even when they aren't at their most lovable and even when it's not always easy for you. After all, love is a ...
Views: 839 - My Husband Won't Fight For Me. Why Won't He Step Up And Fight For Our Marriage? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneAdmittedly, not everyone who tells their spouse that they want them to leave, take a break, or pursue a trial separation is telling the absolute truth. In fact, many spouses will make these claims simply because they want to get their spouse's attention or they are trying to get their spouse to ...
Views: 1058 - I Don't Understand What My Separated Spouse Wants From Me. We Aren't On The Same Page. - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneOne of the most common topics that I get asked about is how to read or interpret "mixed signals" from a separated spouse. Even when you're trying very hard to be open and to "go with the flow" as far as your separated spouse is concerned, it can be difficult when you both get frustrated with the ...
Views: 952 - How Do I Convince My Husband To Go To Counseling To Save Our Marriage When He Refuses To Go? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives know that something drastic must happen in order for their marriage to be saved. They often fully realize that they are dealing with a marriage that is very damaged. And some realize that they are going to need more than just good intentions to be successful in saving their marriage. ...
Views: 941 - My Husband's Job Loss (And The Stress From It) Is Hurting Our Marriage So Bad We Might Be Headed For Separation Or Divorce - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI've started to get a lot of emails from people whose spouses have lost their jobs in today's economy. Often, this eventually puts a huge strain on the marriage even if the couple had a very strong relationship before the job loss. Even when the spouse who is still working is quite supportive, ...
Views: 1975 - How Do I Know When To Leave My Marriage? My Husband Just Told Me If I'm So Unhappy, Then I Should Leave. Should I? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI don't think that anyone enjoys being unsatisfied with their marriage. I don't think that anyone strives to be unhappy. In fact, many of us don't admit, even to ourselves, that we are not content with our marriage until things have gotten pretty bad. And sometimes, once we admit this ...
Views: 622 - How Do You Cope When Your Husband Leaves You and You Still Love Him? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails asking for tips on coping when your husband has left but you still love him and want him back. It can be very painful and just feel odd when you're on your own and feel like part of you is missing. It can also be worse when there is an unknown of how it is going to turn ...
Views: 891 - 3 Signs That A Former Cheater Hasn’t Changed - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Kalyna KapurHave you given a cheating partner another chance? Finding out that your trusted partner has strayed from your relationship can be a devastating blow for anyone. The feeling of betrayal and the loss of trust is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome in a relationship — and it can take a long ...
Views: 523(1 vote) - Should I Stay Married Just Because of Money? My Advice Based on Experience - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneLately, I've been getting a lot of emails from folks who ask me if they should stay married because they can't afford to get a divorce. One example is the stay-at-home mom who has been out of the workforce for quite some time and knows that her income would not be enough to support herself or ...
Views: 661 - How Do I Convince My Husband To Stay With Me? I Would Do Anything To Make My Husband Stay Married. - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are desperate for some sort of plan to make their husbands stay with them. Often, the husband has suggested a break, separation, or divorce. This is usually the last thing that the wives who write to me want. I recently had a wife say, in part: "I would do ...
Views: 995 - How Can I Be Sure That My Husband Will Stay When He's Admitted He's No Longer In Love Me? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who have heard a very difficult truth from their husbands. He's now claiming that he is no longer in love with her. But after dropping that bit of bad news, he's assuring her that he's going to stay either because of the children or because of his sense of ...
Views: 859 - Can You Save A Marriage When The Love Is Gone? Can A Marriage Survive Falling Out Of Love? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from many spouses who are sure that their spouse is no longer "in love" with them. Sometimes, their spouse has actually told them as much. Other times, their spouse is communicating this message, but they are doing so with actions and not words. In short, the spouse just isn't attentive ...
Views: 659 - Powerful, Nonintuitive Tactics to Get Your Husband Back - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes tell wives that very often the most powerful tactic to getting your husband back is doing those things that work but don't feel intuitive. It's not necessarily thinking about what you want to do and then doing the opposite, but often the things that feel right at the time are the ...
Views: 885 - I No Longer Feel Loved By My Husband. What Do I Do? Tips That May Help. - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of correspondence from wives who worry that their husbands are no longer are "in love" with them. These same wives are usually no longer receiving the affection or the affirmations that make someone in a marriage feel loved. These women will often tell me things like "it's almost as ...
Views: 848 - What Makes A Man Leave His Wife? 3 Reasons Why Husbands Leave Their Wives - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are very confused because their husband has left their home and is now apparently pursuing a marital separation. Sometimes, the wife had a little warning about this beforehand. And sometimes, she didn't. But regardless of the circumstances, it is always shocking and ...
Views: 1224 - My Separated Husband Lies And Hides Things From Me. Why Won't He Just Be Truthful? How Hard Is It To Just Tell The Truth? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen your spouse pursues a separation, it's natural to be concerned about his motivations. One common concern that I hear a lot about comes from women who are concerned that their husband truly wants a divorce because he wants to start seeing other women. These concerns are understandable. ...
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