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- 5 THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T DO IF HE’S CHEATING ON YOU - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Ruth HoustonThis may be the most important article you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair. There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do. Your husband is cheating. You’re not sure what ...
Views: 6031(1 vote) - The Pressure of Their World - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2003 from Nancy FennFaith Burgess is a bright and charming stay-at-home mom. She has a toddler, Joshua. Faith is an introvert and so is her three year old son. I asked Faith to try and put into words what it was like to be an introvert so I could help get the idea across to my readers. This is the story she told ...
Views: 1697(1 vote) - She Just Does What is in Her Heart... - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2003 from Robyn SpeedPeople who touch your life, are those who are loving, kind, caring. They lift your day, they make you feel appreciated. What is it about these people that is so special? They are loving, kind, caring. They treat other people well. They do not claim to be great teachers nor do they claim to be ...
Views: 1708(1 vote) - Teach your child about money - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Sandra Baptist -What are we teaching our children about money? Hopefully something! I remember when I was growing up, our family did not discuss money. Money was a taboo subject, discussed by the parents and handled by the father. This is one thing that I wish that was discussed more openly when I was ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - Men and Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The two words, "men" and "relationships", often are not mentioned in the same sentence without a "punch line" following them. In addition, men are often stereotyped as being "insensitive" or "uncaring" when it comes to the needs of their partner. It has been my experience in coaching men that ...
Views: 2409(1 vote) - Developing Your Child's Emotional Intelligence-excerpt - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2003 from margaret AltmanOur ten steps contain the 10 vital capacities that lead to self-control Yes, self control; a basic and vital human capacity. We have found that self-control is the foundation of emotional intelligence. These 10 steps will lead you and your child to this empowering ability. Emotional ...
Views: 2162(1 vote) - The Naked Truth About Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2003 from margaret AltmanThe Naked Truth about Emotional Intelligence By Margaret Altman Nancy came to work the other day in a pretty good mood. It ended when her boss suddenly threw a fit over a simple typo in the first draft of a letter that he had dictated Red-faced and irate her boss flung the letter on her desk ...
Views: 1837(1 vote) - SCHOOL SHOPPING: Less is better for your wallet and your kids - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2003 from Pauline WallinYou have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the bylines are included and the article is published in its entirety. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated. Send it to mailto:drwallin@drwallin.com SCHOOL SHOPPING: Less is ...
Views: 1682(1 vote) - How to Plan a *Super* Family Reunion - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Susan DunnMy years in public relations taught me a lot about setting up successful events – and that’s what you family reunion can be. Here are some tips. 1. You take the lead. Maybe your family’s never had a family reunion. Probably they’d all like it, but someone has to get the ball rolling. It ...
Views: 1354(1 vote) - Loved Real - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Nancy Fenn“There was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid.” There is a classic children’s book called “The Velveteen Rabbit” that beautifully describes the rich inner world of introverted children. The velveteen rabbit wants to become real but he doesn’t know how. ...
Views: 2447(1 vote) - Please Put Me Back Where You Found Me - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2003 from Nancy FennParents who have introverted children wonder how to help them build a positive self image. We understand today that Introversion is a legitimate personality type. But not too long ago, introverts were labeled as “neurotic” or “loners”. Introverted children can be misunderstood at school and ...
Views: 1846(1 vote) - The Naked Truth About Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from margaret AltmanNancy came to work the other day in a pretty good mood. It ended when her boss suddenly threw a fit over a simple typo in the first draft of a letter that he had dictated. Red-faced and irate, her boss flung the letter on her desk and said; “What kind of stupidity is this, Nancy? Do you have any ...
Views: 4098(1 vote) - Are You (or are you with) A "Commitment-Phobe"? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe hear it all the time. "He just won't make a commitment." "She just wants some space right now." "I'm not sure if I'm ready for a serious relationship." What does having a fear of commitment really mean? Actually, it means basically what it says. For SOME reason you, or someone you are ...
Views: 2371(1 vote) - Are You An Island Girl? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from John KuypersElton John sang his famous song, Island Girl, in the 1970s, idolizing the women of sun, sand and surf. But there is another kind of Island Girl. These are women (and men) who share a common and often unspoken challenge: fear of intimacy. People who are afraid to let other people get too ...
Views: 3110(1 vote) - Comparing Increases Sibling Rivarly - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2003 from Marilyn SuttleOne child takes off his boots at the back door. The other, leaves a trail of muddy water across the kitchen floor. At times like this, it is tempting to compare siblings; “Donna, look at the mess you made! Why can’t you be more like your brother? He knows better than to walk through the house ...
Views: 4767(1 vote) - THOSE WHO HAVE SUSTAINED MARRIAGE - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2003 from YAMIN MEMONThose who have sustained a successful marriage practice these qualities in their married life. I have listed some of their qualities below. Follow these tips and enjoy lasting married and family life. DO NOT SHARE YOUR PRESONAL PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS: There are a few exceptions to this rule, but ...
Views: 1375(1 vote) - So Your Child is an Introvert - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from Nancy FennLet me ask you a question. Are you ashamed that your child is an introvert? An honest answer to this question is a positive step toward improving your relationship with your introverted child, now and forever. How can you support your child in finding his or her place in this world if you ...
Views: 11585(4 votes) - When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons... - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from June CookNothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. It seems ironic that the one you love could make you so insane. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less ...
Views: 9788(1 vote) - Defining Moments: What Creates A Successful Life? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from John KuypersSome of us treat each moment as if it's a scarce commodity, trying to get as much crammed in as we can. Others among us casually toss away the moment, like so much excess fluff. As a former Type Adriven corporate executive, I began to search for meaning in my life ten years ago, when I was ...
Views: 6103(2 votes) - It's Okay if Things are a Little Different at Nana's - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2003 from Susan DunnMy granddaughter has great parents and also great grandparents, and we all do things differently. As parents, we love our children and also are responsible for emotional intelligence training and also character training! We want them to grow up to be responsible adults, contributing members ...
Views: 1311(1 vote) - Are You Relationship Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanSo, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Not ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - Illusions and Delusions: Don’t let “reality” come between you and a happy relationship - by Some of the best marriages contain two people looking at each other through foggy glasses. And that’s a good thing.
We have some control over how we experience ourselves, our lovers, our world. Why not, then, choose a more positive version out of the many possibilities we can imagine? When ...
Views: 1186(1 vote) - LOOKING FOR LOVE? Love starts with you - by Submitted on May 22, 2003 from Marguerite TennierYes, I know. You've heard it before. You can't love someone and you can't accept true love in your life unless you love yourself first. It does not apply to you, you say. You already love yourself. Well, do you? Or do you secretly fear that you will not be loved the way you want because you ...
Views: 1660(1 vote) - "Plugging Up The Holes in Your Relationships..." - by Submitted on May 21, 2003 from Susie and Otto CollinsAre there any "holes" in your relationship? If you're like us--the answer is yes. In fact, in many relationships there are usually quite a few "holes." "Holes" are those things in your relationships and life that you may know are there but it's always a surprise when you fall into one. ...
Views: 1350(1 vote) - We should celebrate the diversity of children and adults - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Robyn SpeedYou know what really annoys me? The insistence that a child’s academic achievement is all that is important. A grades A grades A grades! I read an article last year that really stuck in my mind, and the gist of the article was ‘even though he only has his O levels he has still done well in ...
Views: 1569(1 vote) - SUMMERTIME AND THE LIVIN' IS EASY - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Kayla FaySummertime is supposed to be an easy time, evoking images of happy children with dirt necklaces, of lounging on the front porch with ice tea, of evenings soothed with fireflies and the lullabies of crickets and cicadas. In our society, this is about as close to reality as Brahms is to Ice T. Our ...
Views: 1756(1 vote) - Top 10 Ways to Find Your Soul Mate - by Submitted on May 17, 2003 from Linda LovejoySingles are constantly wondering where to find their soul mate. Below are some helpful hints in finding your true love. 1. Ask your friends to set you up with any of their single friends or acquaintances that meets your specifications. Your friends are a great resource. They know you ...
Views: 2535(1 vote) - Making The Connection: Tips For Getting Noticed - by Submitted on May 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanChances are that you have had a wide variety of experiences in your quest for meeting singles. These can range from an event that yields several nice interactions and at least one offer to get together for a date, to going home feeling frustrated and convinced you are destined to be a dating ...
Views: 1223(1 vote) - The Hand - by The first grade teacher gave her class a fun assignment -- to draw a picture of something for which they were thankful. Most of the class might be considered economically disadvantaged, but still many would have things that they were thankful for. But Douglas made a different kind of picture. ...
Views: 1526(1 vote) - FINDING A BEST FRIEND - by Have you ever looked for a best friend? Probably not. Best friends generally just seem to appear. But if you did look for a best friend, what criteria would you use? Here are a few that I think might be important.
1. A best friend will care about you. To use the word "care" is somewhat ...
Views: 4514(1 vote) - Opening Your Heart To Forgiveness: The Path To Manifesting The Right Relationship - by Submitted on May 02, 2003 from Nancy Pina“A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION Forgiveness is a gift you present to yourself. It is a release from the burden of anger and pain. When resolving to forgive, you choose to live in the present instead of ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - A answer to lonliness after the Big "D" of death or divorce. - by Submitted on May 01, 2003 from Bob ChaunceyFor many who are happily married, they never think about the day... one day maybe not as far off as they have thought in the past... when they will again be single. What will they do, how will they adjust, who will be there to help them and how will they get over or thru it? These are all ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - How to Get Women's Phone Numbers - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2003 from Don DiebelAfter you have made contact with a hot & sexy single woman you are attracted to and have talked and gotten to know each other, the best way to ask her for her phone is say, "Let's meet for lunch or dinner sometime, can I have your phone number?" Hopefully, you will get an immediate ...
Views: 16295(1 vote) - How To Resolve Relationship Conflicts - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2003 from Nancy PinaWhat blocks you from resolving conflicts? As difficult as it can be, finding a constructive manner in which to air grievances provides an open and honest relationship. Burying issues, and avoiding conflict and disagreements, do not have a place in a healthy relationship. Accept the fact that ...
Views: 6071(1 vote) - Finding More Life, Love and Meaning by Overcoming Your Soft Addictions - by Are you like Barb? Barb has a few guilty pleasures she loves. When she comes home at night – particularly after a tough day – she clicks on TV as soon as she comes in “to help her unwind.” While half-listening to whatever’s on, she reads her mail.
Barb gets lots of catalogs and spends the ...
Views: 1555(1 vote) - Love, Healing and Your Heart Connection - by 'Love makes the world go round. .'and 'All you need is love. .' are lovely phrases and such beautiful words to hear. Most of us are very familiar with these phases that we have heard before many times over.
But what if our own relationships at present are not so 'perfect'? Is there any way we ...
Views: 1561(1 vote) - Five Keys to Raising Nonviolent Children - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2003 from Tammy CoxParents are very concerned about violence these days and with good reason. While the evidence shows that our schools are still some of the safest places for our children, any incidence of school violence is very disturbing. When we send our children off to school each day we have every right ...
Views: 2665(1 vote) - Homework Help for the Attention Deficit Disorder Child - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueDoes the homework battle so typical with your hyperactive or A.D.D. child have you at the end of your rope? Relax. We have some tried-and-try ADHD information that should get your A.D.D. child on the right homework path. The hyperactive or A.D.D. child especially needs consistency, a work ...
Views: 4758(1 vote) - Peaceful Money Management for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2003 from Kathy MillerRegardless of how much or how little people have, money is the most common cause of dissension in relationships. While each couple is unique, most arguments about financial matters start with either lack of organization or lack of communication. Both of these are behavior issues, and behavior ...
Views: 4356(1 vote) - 10 Things You Should Ask Yourself If You're Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship - by Whether you've been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don't have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make.
We've both also made this decision ourselves in our previous relationships, ...
Views: 1635(1 vote) - Tips For Becoming Fluent In The Non-Verbal Language Of Dating - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe are all too familiar with the term "body language". There have been books, workshops and endless discussions spawned by it. But do you really KNOW how to interpret the non-verbal messages that other people broadcast on a continual basis in their interactions with you? There are two levels of ...
Views: 1406(1 vote) - The Seven Stages of a Romantic Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoThere are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, there are thoughts and feelings telling you what to do and when to do ...
Views: 9475(4 votes) - Test Your Own Marriage Satisfaction - by Marital relationships are complex institutions! In order to improve the quality of a marriage, it helps to take a systematic look at how it is functioning.
Here is a questionnaire you can use as a general guide for evaluating your marital satisfaction.
After each question below write down ...
Views: 4674(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence & Your Toddler - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnI was in the grocery, knew I was approaching the toy aisle, and braced myself. Adam was sitting happily in the grocery cart, but I knew what was coming: a tantrum! I knew he was tired and hungry – this was an emergency run to the grocery. I knew I was tired and hungry, too. Adam and I were ...
Views: 2751(1 vote) - Olivia is 5, and Learning Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnOlivia and I returned from going to the rodeo, and we’d been talking about going swimming. “That would be fun,” I said. “We’re hot and sticky. Let’s ask your Dad if you can.” When we got to the house, Olivia ran ahead of me. While I was talking to her Dad, she came running out in her ...
Views: 1443(1 vote) - How Do You Help Your Child Develop Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn her book, “Taking Charge: Your Life Patterns and Their Meaning,” Gudrun Burkhard writes: “It is important that the child’s feeling life should find fertile ground on which to grow. Such fertile soil can be provided by art or religion, but above all by loving authority which comes from ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Your Kindergartner - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnCasey’s 5 years old and reminds me of Edith-Ann. She sometimes even stomps her foot and tosses her head. And that’s the truth! Casey’s what you’d call “high-maintenance.” She likes things to be just so, reacts strongly to what’s going on, and tends to get wound-up. We’ve been working on ...
Views: 1755(1 vote) - Helping Children Overcome Stress and Fear - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2003 from Debbie MilamNews of an impending war, terrorism alerts, and the economy has created an enormous amount of stress for many adults and this stress greatly affects our children. When we are fearful, are children are fearful. When we are stressed, our children are stressed. So what steps can we take to help ...
Views: 4542(1 vote) - Happiness And The Single Person; Changing Myth Into Reality - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDoes the expression "single and happy" sound like an oxymoron to you? Are you weary of others (especially other singles) reinforcing the belief that singles can't be happy? Do you find yourself always planning for the future or putting things off until you "are married and settled? Do you often ...
Views: 1403(1 vote) - Face Reading and Adoptions - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2003 from Naomi TickleFace Reading Expert, Certified Coach and Author of It's All In The Face Making the decision to adopt is a huge undertaking. The whole focus is to bring a child into your family to love as your own. Problem is, the child you adopt has a set of birth parents out there who are linked with the ...
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