Skip to content

Topic directory

Browse Relationship Advice

Explore articles, websites, videos, experts, and events for Relationship Advice.

Topic overview

Official Guide for Relationship Advice

Dave Shields

Dave Shields is the Official SelfGrowth Guide for Relationship Advice.

Search all public Relationship Advice content. Filters and sorting do not require an account.

Relationship Advice

9,219 content items in Relationship Advice

Search or sort the general results below.

SortRecommendedRecentPopularRated
Article
By Rick Davies RN, BSN
An Introduction to Retroactive Jealousy

Jealousy can be one of the most and disruptive and harmful of emotions. Often jealousy in relationships is directed at the present or the future. It is rooted in a fear of future loss - fear that one may lose their partner to something that is happening currently, or might happen in the future. It is not un-natural in romantic relationships for a couple to have some possessive feelings towards each other, and therefore for some trace of jealousy to be present. Often, this jea

4,266 views
Read article →
Article
You're Only As Sick As Your Secrets

I was attending a presentation by Pulitzer Prize winning author, Frank McCourt, discussing the ins and outs of writing a memoir. Frank McCourt won the prestigious award for his heart wrenching description of his impoverished life in Limerick, Ireland titled "Angela’s Ashes".

4,258 views
Read article →
Article
Is Text Messaging An Ex Boyfriend Good Or Bad Idea?

Do you want to win your ex boyfriend back into your life? Maybe, you've heard about the No Contact Rule but still don't know if text messaging an ex boyfriend will actually help you or hurt you. If you truly want to get your ex boyfriend back, but you're not sure if text messaging will truly hurt your chances, keep reading and find out how text messaging an ex boyfriend can completely destroy your chances of getting him back for good.

4,246 views
Read article →
Article
Dear Dr. Romance: My Best Friend Is Leading Me On. What Do I Do?

Dear Dr. Romance: My best friend is leading me on. What do I do? My best friend has been leading me on for quite a while. We flirt a lot but we still aren't dating. A month ago, we confessed that we liked each other, except he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was okay with that. But now it just seems like I'm falling into the friends with benefits category. Today he took me out for a walk. He put his arm around my shoulder and I put my arm around his waist. It was out of the ordinary.

4,237 views
Read article →
Article
Loving Again - a past life regression case study

Loving Again - a past life regression case studyr Like many others, Gale experiences hardship in her marriage. She and her husband have been married for ten years, have three kids, a mortgage and steaming frustration over various issues. “He doesn’t understand me!” she told me in tears. “He doesn’t take part in raising the children or caring for the house. I’m fed up. I don’t love him anymore! I can't be in this relationship! I want a divorce!”

4,234 views
Read article →
Article
By Holly Hayes
Tips for dating Divorced Men

In the modern world, relationship break ups and divorces have become a very prevalent occurrence. This is usually brought about by misunderstandings or infidelity within a relationship. After the break up, most folks usually tend to move on and find other partners. There has been a marked increase in the number of divorced men in the dating scene since most men tend to seek solace from other men and women after a divorce. These men are usually very sensitive and in view of th

4,233 views
Read article →
Article
Beyond Misery Junk!

What creates your misery? Junk! What kind of junk? - Junk thoughts - Junk Food - Junk drugs Junk Thoughts Junk thoughts are any thoughts that create anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, blame, resentment, jealousy, envy – any thoughts that create misery.

4,228 views
Read article →
Article
Parenting: Emotional Incest

Jacob, a participant in one of my telephone support groups, was exploring the fact that he generally didn't like to be touched. He was sharing with the group a situation that used to happen with his mother. "She used to sit me on the couch with her and grab my arms and look intently into my ...

4,226 views
Read article →
Article
By Jeff Thomas
Get Your Ex Back – Use the Power of a Reverse-Psychological Mind Trick and Give Your Relationship a New Lease On Life!

It's absolutely understandable for you to feel frustrated, angry and depressed when you're in a midst of a break. This is especially true if your ex broke up with you. The good news is that you are proactively looking for a solution, which is why you're reading this article, right? You need to understand that you have a couple of choices from this point onwards: you can continue feeling down and sorry for yourself which will give you zero chance of getting back with your ex o

4,225 views
Read article →
Article
Stop Giving Away Your Power In Relationships

One reason your relationships tend to fail is that you start out well enough, but then slowly, without realizing it, you start to give away your power. This process is insidious and before you know it, instead of having a healthy give and take, the relationship has lost its balance. When you give your power away it erodes your self-esteem and you start to feel a sense of unease and resentment. This affects how you show up as half of a couple and can’t help but create tension and dissatisfaction.

4,220 views
Read article →
Article
10 Ways to Reclaim Your Self-Esteem

The way you feel about yourself impacts how and why you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are, then what you do will be an outside reflection of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Contrary to popular belief, self-esteem is not something anyone or any accomplishment can give you. Just because people like you or you receive an award, does not mean that you will love and take care of yourself.

4,206 views
Read article →
Article
Why is Having Sex Too Early Bad?

Dear Dennis: The girls that give sex up front are getting all the guys, but they don't seem to keep them for long. Guys view them as a fuck buddy type thing but not for a real relationship. The women who wait a bit to give out sex live most of their lives lonely, but end up marrying the guy at ...

4,205 views
Read article →
Article
How to Build Trust in Your Relationship

Even though most newlyweds live together, they still need to work on building trust in their marriage. Trust, after all, is the glue that holds couples together – even when they face great challenges. Without trust, couples might be more likely to split in times of crises, fail at getting intimate, and have doubts about each other. Couples who trust each other have security and probably feel closer. Here are some ways newlyweds can build trust: 1. Be truthful.r

4,195 views
Read article →
Article
***Safety With an Open Heart

Do you live your life with your heart mostly open or mostly closed? Do you spend most of your time protecting against rejection or being taken advantage of, or most of your time open to sharing love with others? As children, many people had very heartbreaking experiences that caused them to close their heart. What experiences led to you closing your heart?

4,194 views
Read article →
Article
***When is it Helpful to Apologize?

"When it is helpful to apologize?" asked Patricia, a client of mine, in one of our phone sessions. Her husband, Brent, often expected her to apologize and she was confused about when it was appropriate. The answer to this question is a little complex, because there are two different reasons that people apologize:

4,184 views
Read article →
Article
Don’t Let The "Evil Eye" Wreck Your Marriage!

You’ve been together – oh, it seems like forever. Anywhere from six months to umpteen years. And somewhere along the line you’ve developed the Evil Eye. You know the one. That critical look you cast on your Sweetheart, that has little sweet in it and even less heart, the look that says “How can you just sit there on the couch when I’m running myself ragged in three different directions at once?” “Can’t you brown-bag it like everyone else instead of wasting money on having to

4,177 views
Read article →
Article
How To Get A Man Back After You Hurt Him - What Will Make My Ex Want Me Back

How to get a man back after you hurt him; Suffering from a relationship break up is a tough thing to handle. It is natural to go through a bad time emotionally after breaking up and you are not alone. If you are wondering if there could be a chance of getting your ex back the answer would be yes. There is a good chance of getting them back if you take the correct approach. What will make my ex want me back; A complete solution to get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.

4,177 views
Read article →
Article
Relationship: 8 Keys to Success

There are extreme pressures on relationships today. Fast paced lifestyles can leave little room for developing and maintaining intimate relationships. Yet, a healthy relationship is one of the things that make life worthwhile and helps us live a longer and healthier life. A successful relationship can help us face the tough times and enjoy the great times in our life. The following are 8 Keys to Successful Relationships: Passion

4,166 views
Read article →
Article
Stamizyn: The Best Product When It Comes To Natural Testosterone Boosters

If your relationship is lacking in the bedroom you may want to read this. Our body is a complex system of organs, hormones, tissues and bones. A deficiency in any of these vital components will automatically lead to serious medical complications or to reduced performance when it comes to various physiological functions. For example, men need testosterone for them to perform certain bodily functions at a normal and sustainable rate. Moreover, enhanced testosterone levels can help men to perform these functions even better.

4,158 views
Read article →
Article
Dealing With Fear Of Commitment

Reasons behind the fear of commitment for men and women can be different, but the results are the same. Fear of commitment often ends a relationship or puts a dense wall between two people - sometimes between life itself. Commitment to one person is a serious thing. It shouldn't be taken lightly and should always be made for the right reasons.nnWhy Men Fear CommitmentnnMost men who fear commitment don't want to lose their freedom. Men like to go out with their buddies or do t

4,150 views
Read article →
Article
***Self-Pity or Self-Compassion

There is a vast difference between feeling sorry for yourself and feeling kindness toward yourself. Self-Pity When you see yourself as a victim, you indulge in self-pity. You are a bottomless pit of misery, and you may find yourself crying endless victim tears. You might say things like:

4,145 views
Read article →
Article
Why Do People Lie?

Amanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset. “I just found out that Ron’s been ...

4,143 views
Read article →
Article
The Power Behind Names

Names! Names! Names! Names are important. Whether for you personal, social, or professional life, names get you in. I first learned about the importance of names back in 2004 when I first started working with the Southweste Company as an independent sales dealer. Our sales talk was sewed around dropping names that our prospects could connect to. Today, when I propose my services as Relationship Strategist for individuals and corporates, when I meet with friends and make new friends, when I ask for business referrals, I can still notice how important names are.

4,142 views
Read article →
Article
By Michael lois
Texting Your Ex Back The Intelligent Way

Break-ups are definitely difficult to get even more than specially when you truly really feel genuinely about a person. It's even a fantastic deal a lot more hard to acquire them back. Regaining communication as well as your ex is by no implies that straightforward. Generating him or her respond for your calls and text messages can at occasions be frustrating. Perhaps it truly is due to the truth you seem also desperate inside your texts or you have been saying the wrong vari

4,137 views
Read article →
Article
By franklin fashaya
Restore The Breakup Between You And Your Ex Boyfriend, And Build A Better Relationship Through Text Message

Normally, breakup is what the oxford dictionary defined as the ending of a relationship or an association, of which, for a relationship or an association to end just like that on a special day can never feel right. The reason for not feeling right is because you have taken time and patience to build the relationship between you and your ex boyfriend on a daily basis, and tried to tolerate every wrong and enjoyed the happy moment. Well, guess what? You can restore the breakup

4,134 views
Read article →
Article
Growing Through Divorce

Divorce is a process of separation and transformation - a process that long precedes the dissolution decree. It is important to understand its stages, the cognitive, emotional, physical, legal and spiritual, which, if worked through, can substantially lessen the painful aftermath. Although this might be the most desirable order, it is not usually what happens. This is why we see the "Divorce Court" melodrama - couples trying to make the legal separation while they haven't separated emotionally, though they may be physically apart.

4,124 views
Read article →
Article
By Michael Lois
Reconnect With your Ex Girlfriend - To possess Feelings For Her

It really is seriously normal to get a guy to find that he still has feelings for an ex girlfriend if he really cared about her and also the relationship that he had with her actually meant something to him. And if you're obtaining that these feelings are nevertheless there and also you desire to have the ability to reconnect together with your ex girlfriend, that's also a regular thing and it could be very good - for those who know what to perform with those feelings. Yet, m

4,119 views
Read article →
Article
Stop Being So Defensive!

Have you ever been in a conversation with a colleague, friend or family member about a sensitive topic and ended up in a power struggle, conflict or shutting down? Or perhaps in response to someone else’s criticism, you find yourself justifying your behavior, blaming the other person or avoiding him or her all together? It sounds like defensiveness is at play. So, how do you stop being so defensive? You can start by practicing powerful, effective communication. Curious Que

4,109 views
Read article →
Article
What Are Your Feelings Telling You?

Our feelings are an incredible instant feedback system regarding what is good for us and what is bad for us. For example, our physically painful feelings let us know that something needs attending to regarding our physical body. If you put your hand on a hot stove, the burning feeling ...

4,103 views
Read article →
Article
3 Very Important Areas in Marriage

The nine basic areas of marriage introduced by Worthington Jr. are central beliefs and values, core vision, confession/forgiveness, communication, conflict resolution, cognition, closeness, complicating factors, and commitment. Central beliefs and values can be cultural or social. A couples values or beliefs can cause conflict between the two if misunderstood. If you hold your values to a certain standard, your partner can interpret this stronghold wrongly. Core vision of a marriage is how each partner views the marriage or what they want the marriage to be.

4,102 views
Read article →
Article
By Joan Rivers
Make Your Ex Boyfriend See How Much He Needs You

Make Your Ex Boyfriend See How Much He Needs You ; The moment your boyfriend breaks up with you is a terrible time in your life, but the next day can be even worse. That's when the shock begins to wear off and you realize exactly what has happened. You have lost the only man you can ever love. He doesn't want you anymore. Maybe your ex boyfriend is in some other girl's arms right now. These are the thoughts that drive your emotions to a peak and makes you crazy. A complete so

4,099 views
Read article →
Article
Can The No Contact Rule Prevent A Breakup? The Truth May Surprise You

You might have heard about the No Contact Rule to help a breakup. But does the thought of not calling your ex scares the heck out of you because you're worried your ex may move on with their life? If this sounds anything like you, you will be surprised of how much of an impact the No Contact Rule has. Let me explain precisely how it works and whether you should use it or not win back your ex.

4,092 views
Read article →
Article
The Possessor - Dominator

He brings you candy and flowers and wants to spend all of his time with you. You find him flattering when he becomes upset when you go out with friends and family without him. He wants constant reassuring that your devotion is to him and nobody else. He begins to monitor your phone calls, ...

4,091 views
Read article →
Article
Heeding Relationship Red Flags

The sport of auto racing traditionally uses a system of colored flags to communicate important messages to the participating drivers. Typically, there is a primary flagman who waves the flags atop a flagstand in the middle of the course. But because many drivers may not be able to see the ...

4,087 views
Read article →
Article
***Everyday Creativity

Do you tell yourself that you are not a creative person because you can't draw or play an instrument or write poetry? I often hear many of my clients bemoan, "I'm not creative!" This isn't true! We all have the ability to be creative - it is a God-given gift - but you might not be noticing or ...

4,078 views
Read article →
Article
By Johnny Wayne
Getting Over Being Dumped - On Giving Advices, Sincere Prayer and Moving on

How to get over being dumped is hard as waking up early in the morning trying to stimulate the body for school.In any boy-girl relationship, it is normal that break-up happens for some pretty good reasons.In the scenario of break up, either of the couples decide the break up and the other one agrees or disagrees with it.The one who feels the most pain is actually the one being left alone, the one who never expected that break up will happen.The pain from being dumped is extre

4,064 views
Read article →
Article
How to Swallow Your Pride In A Relationship

Pride is an attitude that can hurt a relationship. It can make you treat your partner with disrespect. As a result, your love may also act harshly towards you and that can breed strife in the relationship which can, ultimately, weaken the love foundation of the relationship. So, how can you swallow your pride in a relationship so that you can relate better with your partner? 1. Think About Humbling Experiences Oftenr

4,061 views
Read article →
Article
By Larry Crosby
I Don't Enjoy Being Around My Husband: I Don't Like My Husbands Personality

I Don't Enjoy Being Around My Husband: I Don't Like My Husbands Personality This culture we are now living in has ingrained the thought of upgrading into our lives. Our desktop computers, cars, cameras, laptops, cell phones, perhaps even our properties are continuously prospects for upgrades. It feels like individuals have taken this idea of upgrading one step further and carried it out on non-material things, particularly their relationship as proven by growing divorce rates

4,059 views
Read article →
Article
What Causes Embarrassment?

I was conducting a weekend Inner Bonding workshop. Amanda, one of the participants, was working with me in front of the rest of the group. As we touched on a painful issue, she started to cry, and immediately said "I'm so embarrassed that I'm crying." "What are you telling yourself right now ...

4,059 views
Read article →
Article
Making and Keeping Good Friends

There are many reasons why people struggle to make friends. Here are a few: - Insecurity - Selfishness - Pride - An Introvert Personality - Fear of People - Overwhelming and dominate personality - Depression But whatever the problem is, it needs to be addressed and conquered. You will never have fulfillment in life that you want unless you can achieve strong relationships. Experiencing things with others is often more enjoyable than experiencing them alone.

4,050 views
Read article →
Article
Doorways To the Presence of Spirit

"How can I be more spiritually connected? How can I hear the voice of my spiritual guidance?" I frequently hear these questions from my clients and from people who attend my workshops and intensives. Everyone who is on a spiritual path wants to experience the presence of Spirit in his or her ...

4,049 views
Read article →
Article
Make Yourself Unforgettable

If you know me, then you will know one of my irrefutable truth: once you’ve been introduced to me then you will remember me forever. I start noticing that strength of mine when I was still in college and was partying a lot. For some reason, at any party, or event that I was attending, if there was one person that I’ve been introduced to, then that person would come with a big smile and would give me a charming friendly hug with “MAX-MARC” highly pronounced and a distinguished smiley face.

4,039 views
Read article →

Guide opening

Legacy Guide · applications welcome

Each topic supports one lead guide. SelfGrowth reviews requests, reserves the slot, and publishes the guide when it is ready. Contributor account required to apply; saved lists, personalization, and guide applications require sign-in, but public browsing stays open.

The existing Guide remains published while SelfGrowth reviews applications and the legacy assignment. Applying does not reserve this position or replace the current Guide.
See what Official Guide sponsorship includes

1. Request

Explain why you should lead this guide.

2. Approval

If approved, SelfGrowth reserves the slot and opens the guide workspace.

3. Publish

Once the guide is ready, SelfGrowth publishes it on the topic page.

Your next step

Legacy Guide · applications welcome

This topic has a Guide carried over from the previous site. You may apply for the paid Official Guide program. SelfGrowth will review the existing assignment and applications before selecting a Guide. The current Guide remains published during review; applying does not reserve the position.

Set up Professional access first

Professional access required

Sign in or create a Professional account, complete contributor review, and publish your expert profile. This prerequisite does not submit an Official Guide application.