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Although someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others. Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will feel as though other people do. This then means that they won’t be in control of themselves; other people will be in control of them. The outcome

In the same way that someone can more or less always wear the same outfit, they can also more or less always behave in the same way. And, as part of how they behave, they can also typically wear the same type of clothes. They are then going to be a whole human being that has many different sides, but, based on how they usually behave, this won’t be clear. Naturally, this is going to restrict them and limit their ability to freely express themselves. For Example

When a man is around a woman, he could typically lose himself. In other words, he won’t be in touch with and express his true self; no, he will end up putting on an act. As a result of this, he can be easy-going, needless and have a strong need to please. By being this way, it is likely to be normal for him to be walked over, deprived and to do things he would rather not do. A Bleak Existence

When a man meets a woman, it might not be long until he develops a view of her. After this, he can believe that the view that he has formed of her is a reflection of what she is like. However, although this can be the case, what if what is going on for him has had an effect on how he perceived the woman? Not only this, but what if how he perceived her had an effect on how he behaved and this had an impact on how the woman came across? An Observer

If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he could see that he is too focused on his mother's needs and is ignoring a number of his own. He might soon find that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember. For whatever reason, he will have started to see clearly and this will give him the chance to change his life. After a while, he could wonder why it wasn’t possible for him to see this before. Blocked out

If someone is struggling mentally and emotionally, they can end up looking for a therapist to work with. They might have been in a bad way for a little while or this might be an experience that is relatively new. If this is not something that they have just started to experience, it is good that they have taken the next step. Suffering in silence won’t have served them; it will have only made things worse. The next step

If someone were to come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they could feel the need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say is validated and empathy and remorse are expressed. Now, assuming that they were to speak to one of their parents, this can be a time when what they say is validated. This parent can also express empathy and be deeply sorry for what happened. The Ideal Scenario

Although someone can want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to experience it. So, they might have spent a fair amount of time on their appearance and spent time socialising but not been able to make much progress. This could be something that has been going on for a number of years, which will have had a negative impact on their wellbeing. But, as they will have the need to connect deeply to other human beings and not be able to fulfil this need, this is to be expected. Two Sides

If the average person was asked to share their opinion in regards to why the world is the way that it is, they might say that it’s because of the people that are in power. Therefore, if these people were dealt with in one way or another, the world would be different. This can be someone who pays attention to the mainstream media or the alte ative media. The reason why it could be one or the other is that both of these sources generally blame those at the top, so to speak, for what is going on in the world. The Same View

A little while ago, there were lockdowns in place that prevented millions of people from being able to carry on as normal. The main purpose of these lockdowns was said to have been to try to stop the virus from spreading. Since then, there has been a war betwee Russia and Ukraine. And, to go back even further, there were numerous terrorist attacks that took place around the world that were given a lot of exposure by the media. Other Events

What might soon stand out, if someone were to step back and reflect, is that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. This could be something that has happened so often that they question if they want to be with another person. But, as fed up as they can be, what this will have done is allow them to stop what they are doing and to take a closer look at what is going on. By doing this, it can allow them to gradually change this area of their life. Jumping In

Even though someone is not a superhero who is unable to be affected by life, they can come across as though this is the case. As a result of this, it can be as though they are unaffected by life. They are then not going to have moments when they come across as hurt, sad or down, for instance. Still, this is not to say that they will consciously do what they can to create the impression that very little if anything bothers them. The Norm

If someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often feel angry and even enraged. At times, due to how worked up they become, they could lose the ability to think clearly and do things that they later regret. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember, or they might have only been this way for a short while. If they have only just started to experience life in this way, it may mean that they often felt low and perhaps depressed before. The Other Side

As someone is a separate individual, with their own needs and feelings, it is not going to be possible for them to always say yes and to do what another person wants or suggests. If they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. However, while they will need to say no at times and not go along with something, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable asserting themselves. In fact, it might not even occur to them that they can assert themselves. The Norm

It could be said that it is part of the human experience to want to not only be loved but to also love. But, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in touch with both of these needs. If they aren’t, these needs will be repressed and will, therefore, be outside of their conscious awareness. Even so, these needs are unlikely to lie dormant and not have an impact on their life. The First Need

Most likely, someone will live in a society that is built on the view that they, along with their fellow citizens, are passive observers of what takes place exte ally. What is going on inside them, then, won’t influence what is going on outside them. Thus, unlike the few that have power, there will be part of the many that don’t. Those who have power will be those at the top, so to speak, who make the decisions and are in control of what does and doesn’t happen. Another part

In general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. And, if they were to take a step back and relax, they could soon end up feeling tense and agitated. Thus, even if they were told that they need to slow down by a friend or a family member, for instance, this is not going to have much of an impact on them. Being on the go and doing things will be far less stressful than it will be for them to relax. Taken out

For some people, Fathers Day is a day when they will show their gratitude to their father for all the things that he did for them when they were a child and continues to do for them now that they are adults. When someone is in this position, this is then going to be a day of celebration and thus, they will be looking forward to it. Due to this, they can spend a fair amount of time thinking about how they will show their appreciation to their father on this day. So, they may decide to take him out for a meal and buy him something that he will find useful. Back in Time

Although someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist. It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. What this illustrates is that being physically seen is one thing; it is another thing altogether to feel seen. The Difference

If someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. So, just about every area of it might not be going how they would like it to go. Now, this might be something that has been at the back of their mind for quite some time but they might not have really thought about it. However, although their life won’t be going how they would like it to go, they might not believe that they can do anything about it. A Waste of time

If a man is in a position where he has the tendency to do what his mother wants and neglects a number of his own needs, it could be said that he needs to assert himself. However, although this is what he will need to do, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Firstly, he might not be consciously aware of the fact that he is abandoning himself and, second, even if he is aware of what is going on, he might not do anything about it. It might seem strange why he wouldn’t be consciously aware of what is going on but, behaving in this way can just be what is normal. Another Element

At the beginning of a relationship, a man might not have any issues when it comes to having sex. But, as time passes, this might not be the case. Then again, before he gets to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman and has just started seeing her, this could be something that is an issue. Naturally, this is going to have a big impact on this area of his life. A Different Experience

Even though someone was mistreated during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge this. This can mean that they won’t talk about what happened or they could often talk about some of the things that happened. But, if they do talk about some of the things that happened, they could talk about it in a very matter-of-fact way. Along with this, they could say that it was for their own good or words to that effect. A Strange Scenario

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have been in a number of relationships with people who were narcissistic. They may even see that there are a number of people in their life who are like this. When they think about what these people were like, what can soon come to mind is that they always needed to be the centre of attention, to be admired, were overly entitled, self-centred, and lacked empathy, for instance. Naturally, being in a relationship with someone like this would have had a big impact on them. Two Parts

What can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed. Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a life that is very fulfilling. How Life is But, if this is just what is normal, it might not occur to him that there is another way for him to experience life. He can then continue to live a miserable life and his life is likely to get worse over time.

If a man is focused on and often does things for his mother, he is going to be like a caretaker. Along with what he does for her, he might create the impression that he is happy to be there for her. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though his sole purpose is to be there for his mother and that he doesn’t have any needs of his own. Or if he does, he only has a few basic needs. Stepping Back

If a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he neglects himself, it will be clear that he needs to start implementing boundaries. This is the only way that he will be able to reclaim himself. Until this takes place, he will continue to turn his back on himself and a lot of his time and energy will be directed toward his mother. The trouble is that not only will he be neglecting himself, but, he might not be aware of this. Another Element

When a man is not working, he could often be doing things for his mother. It might not occur to her, either, that there are things that he needs to do and that he might be too busy to do something for her. Therefore, thanks to how caught up she is with her own needs, it will seldom if ever enter her mind that her son also has needs. It will then be as if he is simply an extension of her and his primary purpose is to be there for her. An Automatic Response

What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that they have trouble letting people get close to them. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time by themselves. Then again, they could spend a fair amount of time around others but typically hide themselves when they are around them. Either way, living in this way is going to lead to a very lonely existence. Confusion

For quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal. Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have been able to make the most of this time. In general, it can be as though they are on the outside looking in. A Bleak Existence

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they haven’t been able to get it together, so to speak. So, unlike their friends, they could often struggle for money and have a job that is anything but fulfilling. Additionally, they could often be in a dysfunctional relationship and need a friend or a family member to essentially rescue them. This can then involve another person helping them to leave and even giving them somewhere to live, for instance. Out of Balance

What can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel and a number of their needs. Consequently, when they are around others, they are going to typically put on an act and hide who they are. This can mean that they will generally come across as though they are fine and that nothing is bothering them. Along with this, they could largely be easy-going and happy to go along with what others want. A Mask

During someone’s early years, a time when they needed to be seen and heard in order to grow and develop in the right way, they might have largely been ignored. This would then have been a time when their basic needs might have typically been met but their emotional needs wouldn’t have. One or both of their parents might not have been able to accept that they were a separate human being who had feelings and a number of needs. Instead, they might have been seen as an object that was there to meet their needs. Unresponsive

What can be normal is for a man to hide how he feels and to make out that he is fine. It could go further than this, though, as he could typically be unaware of how he feels and not have a strong connection with his part of him. Assuming that this is the case, he will look like a whole human being, but he will seldom act like one. By being this way, he will be abandoning himself and it won’t be possible for him to receive the support that he needs. One Part

Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who lacked warmth. Thanks to the experiences that he has had, he could believe that all women are the same. What this is likely to show is that his brain has taken the experiences that he had with however many women and attributed these to all women. It then won’t be that the women he has been with and some others are this way; no, it will be that all women are like it. Hard To See

After a woman has come to see that she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could take the time to think about what she needs to do next. This may also involve her talking to a few of her friends about what is going on. Either way, before long, she could share her thoughts with the man that she is with and this could be a time when she is able to make headway. He could not only listen to what she has to say but make it clear that what she says is accurate. A Positive Sign

What can be normal is for someone to ignore a number of their needs and to focus on others. But, if this is just what is normal, it might not be something that they are consciously aware of. Consequently, they will be neglecting themselves but this is not going to be something that will stand out. Still, although this will be the case, they could be used to receiving a lot of positive feedback from others. One Experience

What can be normal is for someone to be out of touch with how they feel and a number of their needs. By being this way, they are going to neglect themselves and this can mean that they will often feel drained. So, their need to relax and connect deeply with others can typically be overlooked. But, if they are not aware of what is going on, they won’t be able to see why they often feel washed out. Living up Top

At times, it will be necessary for someone to relax and recharge, and, at other times, it will be necessary for them to take action and get things done. The fire that is inside them won’t be activated when they are relaxed and it will be when they are not. However, to say that this fire will just be there to spur them into action wouldn’t be completely accurate. The reason is that this fire will relate to what allows them to be alive and to embrace life. Life Force

After a woman has been with a man for a while, what might enter her mind is that she is more like his mother than his girlfriend. Now, there can be a variety of reasons as to why she would come to this conclusion. First, she can be the one who makes most of the decisions and plans just about everything. Second, she can spend a lot of time doing things for him, with him rarely if ever doing anything for her. The List Goes on

If someone was brought up by a narcissistic parent, they are unlikely to be in a good way now that they are an adult. This is, of course, assuming that they haven’t started to heal any of their inner wounds. Ultimately, at this stage of their life, in order to grow and develop in the right way, they needed two parents who were able to attune to their needs and generally meet them. This would have meant that they were loved by them. The Opposite

If a woman hates men, this can be something that is very much part of her personality or it might not be. When it comes to the former, she could spend a lot of time thinking about how bad men are and having numerous conversations with other women about it. This could go even further, though, with just about her whole life revolving around what she believes about men. In this case, she is likely to have a career that is focused on how bad they are and what can be done to change this. The other

If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves, he could find that he spends a lot of time doing things so that he can be enough. He could find that this doesn’t relate to being enough in general, it relates to being enough for a woman. He could then spend a lot of time trying to make himself more appealing, with him putting a lot of effort into his appearance. Additionally, there can be what he has done to increase his status and earn more money. The Same Old Story

If a man was brought up by a mother who, in general, wasn’t very nurturing, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. So, when he thinks about this stage of his life, he could think about how his mother did love him but that she didn’t always show it. The view that he has of her is then not going to be an accurate reflection of what she was actually like. Now, it can seem strange as to why he wouldn’t be able to see her clearly but this is unlikely to be something that he is consciously choosing to do. A Defence

If a man is unable to live his own life, due to how focused he is on his mother, it can appear as though she is the main problem. It might even seem as though the only way that he will be free is if his mother passes on. This is something that a woman could say as a result of how caught up he is in his mother’s world. Unless this happens, then, it can appear as though he won’t be able to break away and live his own life. A natural outcome

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, he is not going to have much time for her. And, when she is with him, he could generally be mentally somewhere else and emotionally out of reach. She is then not going to feel seen and heard, valued and loved, and that she is with a man who wants to be with her. Naturally, she is going to miss out on a lot and she could often think about how she would be better off alone. Nothing new

What can be normal is for someone to spend a fair amount of time using one or several social media sites. This can be somewhere they primarily browse and don’t share a great deal about themselves. Then again, they could spend a lot of time sharing parts of their own life and pictures of themselves. These sites are then going to be a big part of their life, as opposed to just another part of it. No Different

One thing that someone is going to carry, if they were mistreated during their early years, is a lot of hurt. To handle what was going on, this hurt would have had to be pushed out of their conscious awareness and stored deep in their brain and body. If this hadn’t taken place, they might not even be alive; this is how painful it would have been. Still, losing touch with how they felt wouldn’t have stopped them from being hurt or from experiencing pain, but it would have stopped them from being aware of the pain that they were in. Disconnected

For many, many years now, it has been relatively easy for a man to access adult content. The only thing that he has needed is a device and an internet connection, with this giving him the ability to view an endless amount of pictures and videos. In recent years, however, a man can not only view pictures and videos of women doing different things, but he can also talk to these women for a certain fee. As a result of this, he can now have a virtual girlfriend experience. One Step Further

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