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Even though a man will be made up of both the masculine and the feminine, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. He can typically come across as though he is only made up of one part. This can mean that he will generally come across as easy-going, do what he can to please others, put up with bad behaviour and will go with the flow. He is then going to have a lot in common with a doormat and a leaf that is being blown around by the wind. The Reason

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, and she has been in this position before, she could be well and truly fed up. But, as this won’t be the first time that she has been in this position, it is to be expected. There will be the type of man that she wants to be with and the experiences that she wants to experience, and, then, there will be the type of man that she ends up with and the experiences that she has. To use an analogy; it will be similar to her going to a restaurant and ordering pasta and yet she ends up with ice cream. Other Areasr

What will be clear, if a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, is that he has the sense that his mother owns him. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. Therefore, if it was put forward to him that he is behaving as though his mother owns him, he might look confused. Along with this, he might even become defensive and say that this is not true or something similar. The norm

After having been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother’s needs and were not available, a woman could believe that she is unlucky. This can partly be because of how different she is likely to be from these men. Unlike these men, she is unlikely to be focused on one of her parents and will be ready to have a relationship. Thus, she will have been with men who were not ready to commit but she will be in a position to do so. Exte al Feedback

If a man behaves as though he is merely an extension of his mother, it is going to be clear that he needs to change his behaviour. Ultimately, he is not here to be his mother’s slave; he is here to live his own life. However, even though he will need to change his behaviour, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to do this. The reason for this is that he is unlikely to have a separate sense of self. Underdeveloped

If someone wasn’t cherished during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if they were able to take a step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might soon stand out is that they are not in a good way mentally and emotionally.

Even though women are imperfect human beings, not gods, it doesn’t mean that a man will realise this. In general, he could have the tendency to treat women as though they are from another realm. Or to be more accurate, this can be how he often treats the women that he is attracted to and shares his life with. Thanks to this, these women will be at one level and he will be at another level. Out of Balance So, when he is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he could focus on her needs. As a result of this, a number of his needs are going to be overlooked.

What a man may have come to realise, as the years have passed, is that his mother wasn’t very warm when he was growing up. She would then have been his mother but she wouldn’t have been very motherly. However, he could wonder why it has taken him so long to see his mother clearly. For most of his life, then, he would have seen her in a very different light and now he will have a more balanced view of her. A Defence

What is likely to stand out, if a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, is that he has a strong need to please her. Due to how strong this need is, a number of his needs will end up being overlooked. From this, it will be clear that he needs to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. Of course, if he doesn’t do this, his own life will continue to pass him by. A Complex Task

After having been with a man who was entangled with his mother, for however long, a woman could be greatly relieved that she has now cut her ties with him. One of the reasons for this is that she could be exhausted and no longer have the desire or energy to experience life in this way. So, she will now be able to reconnect to herself and start taking care of a number of the needs that she had overlooked. This will allow her to gradually find her feet again and start feeling good about herself. Another Part

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what may stand out is that they often feel anxious and even fearful. Due to this, they are seldom going to be calm and at ease. Still, they may find that if they do feel calm, it’s because they are around others and are not alone. At the same time, it might not matter if they are around others as they could still have the tendency to be all at sea. A Tiring Existence

After not being in a good way for however long, someone could come to the conclusion that they need help. Due to this, they could end up looking for a therapist locally or online. They might not care about whether they work with a man or a woman, or they could have a preference. Assuming that they do have a preference, they could have the need to work with a man/woman. The Next Stage Now, once they have found a therapist who seems like a good fit, they could book one session. This will allow them to see if they feel comfortable with them and want to take things further.

Based on how a man typically comes across, it can be as if he only has a masculine aspect. In other words, he can come across as emotionless, hard and as though nothing fazes him. And, if he was to come across a man who is emotionally expressive and sensitive, he could criticise him. This could be something that purely takes place inside his own head, or he could vocalise his thoughts. The Same Position

If someone was deprived during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. However, while what took place will be in the past, the impact that it had on them is likely to continue to influence how they experience life. Therefore, even if they are not aware of most of what took place, it won’t matter. The outcome

What can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time by themselves, having very little interest in being around others. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they might not wonder why they are this way or have the need to change their life. Then again, they may have had moments when they have wondered why they are this way and what they can to do change their life. An Isolated Existence

During someone’s early years, they may have had a mother who wasn’t very warm and was often very cruel. She would then have been their mother but based on how she often behaved, it would have been as though she was their enemy. Thanks to what they went through throughout this key stage of their life, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. In fact, it could be a challenge for them to keep it together and handle life. A Closer Look

Irrespective of how many years have passed since a man was a boy, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. This might not be something that he is aware of, though. If someone who understood the impact that early deprivation can have on someone was to take a closer look at his life, they might soon see the signs. As they know what to look for, it won’t be possible for them to not see the impact that it continues to have on him. A Miserable Existence

On the surface, it can seem as though a man who is focused on his mother and ignores his own life is happy with how things are. This is partly because of how he behaves and what he is likely to say if he is asked why he behaving in this way. So, he can create the impression that he is happy with the life that he leads or, at the very least, he might not ever come across as angry and frustrated. And, if he was asked why he behaves in this way, he could say that it is up to him to look after his mother and that this is the right thing to do. Out of Balance

What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their behaviour, is that they have the tendency to put things off. So, this can relate to one area of their life or it could relate to how they are in general. If this relates to how they are in one area of their life, it might have much of an impact. Then again, even if this only relates to one area, it could still have a big impact on their life. One Area

What can be normal is for someone to be passive and lack motivation. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might typically only do what they have to do. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they have given up on life and don’t really want to be here. A Different Life

When it comes to a man who is unknowingly caught up in his mother’s world, it can seem as though the best thing that can happen is for him to ‘wake up’. What this will do is allow him to see what is going on and to gradually change his life. After all, he is not here to merely be an extension of his mother; he is here to live his own life. And, unless he is aware of what is going on, he won’t be able to do anything about his life. Total Acceptance

What is clear is that in order for a man to both have and sustain a life that is fulfilling, he will need to be there for himself and take care of his needs. If this doesn’t take place, he will live a half-life at best and he won’t have much of a life at worst. Nonetheless, even though this is the case, he could be in a position where his life is of secondary importance. The reason for this is that he could focus on his mother and do what he can to take care of a number of her needs. A Strange Scenario

If someone has just broken up with their partner, they can be in a bad way. They might have been with them for a number of months or years but, no matter how long it was, they won’t just be able to carry on with their life. Yet, as this person will have been a big part of their life and now they are no longer part of it, this is to be expected. The bond that they had with them will have come to an end. A Natural outcome

What can be normal is for a woman to wear very revealing clothes, and it might not matter where she is. Now, she could have a figure that not only makes her desirable to a lot of men but a lot of women could both appreciate and want to have the same figure. This might be a figure that she was more or less born with, or there could be far more to it. For example, she might have spent a lot of time in the gym and been on a strict diet for many, many years. The Other Side

If someone didn’t have at least one parent who was able to see them as a separate individual who had their own needs and feelings, and generally attuned to them and met their needs, they might not be aware of this. Now that they are an adult, they might not be able to remember a great deal about what took place during this stage of their life. However, if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of their life is well and truly behind them. Instead, the impact that it had on them can be preventing them from being able to live a life that is worth living. A Continuation

Even though someone has the right to be here and deserves to exist, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. They can have this sense that they don’t have the right to be here and to exist. Along with this, they can feel deeply worthless and unlovable. If this is so, they are not going to be in a good way and their life could be one big struggle. Missing Pieces

If a man were to step back and reflect on his early years, he might see that his mother often treated him like he was nothing. So, he might have frequently been criticised, humiliated, hit, rejected, and even left by her. Now, if he were to imagine that he has a child, assuming that he doesn’t, and he treated them in the same way, what could enter his mind is that this would show that he doesn’t really like his child. Or, at the very least, there is a lot that he doesn’t like about them. A Strange Scenario

Based on how someone experiences life, it can be as though they have done something that is extremely bad. The reason for this is that they could have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. When they do feel good, then, this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. And, during these moments, they could soon end up feeling guilty and ashamed, which will make it hard for them to sustain this inner experience. Isolated

What can be normal is for a man to generally live in his head and thus, be out of touch with his feelings and instincts. He is then going to look like a whole human being but he typically won’t operate as one. But, if this is just what is normal, he might not be aware of how alienated he is from himself. However, some of the people in his life might have the sense that he doesn’t have a very good connection with his body. For Example

What a man could see, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at a distance. He could find that this is something that typically just happens, without him consciously choosing to be this way. This can mean he has been single for most of his life and has only had casual encounters, or he might seldom go down this path. If he only has casual encounters, he will share his body and his mind with a woman but that will be it. A Strange Scenario

At this point in time, a man can be in a position where he more or less goes from one woman to another. When it comes to how long he spends with each woman, it can depend on a number of factors. His time with a woman can then last a number of weeks or months. But, no matter how long it lasts, he will soon find another woman to be with and the woman he was with will be a distant memory. An Analogy

What is clear is that a man can only have one life; he can’t have two or more lives. Therefore, if he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, it is naturally going to have a negative impact on his ability to have a life that is fulfilling. In fact, due to how caught up he is in his mother’s world, he might not have much of a life. He is then not going to be there for her from time to time; he will spend a lot of time being there for her. A Big Difference

If a man was to see that he is out of balance, after focusing on his mother and not having much of a life for however long, he can look into what he can do to change his life. He can then be angry and fed up with how his life is but he can be relieved that he can now do something about it. What could be only too clear is that if he hadn’t become aware, he would have continued to live in the same way. His life would then have continued to pass and he wouldn’t have been able to do anything about it. The Catalyst

What a woman is likely to be aware of, if she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, is that a number of her needs are not being met. In fact, she could struggle to think of one need that is being met. But, as he will rarely be around and when he is around he is likely to be out of reach, this is to be expected. So, when it comes to this area of her life, it will be as if she is living in a desert. Missing Out

What someone may find if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel ignored and even invisible. This can be how they feel when they are with family friends and at work. Instead of being a human being that can be seen and heard, then, it will often be as if they don’t exist. Naturally, experiencing life in this way is going to have a negative effect on their wellbeing. A Bleak Existence

If someone takes a step back and reflects on their life, what they can see is that they often do things that they don’t want to do. So, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say no. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time doing things that don’t serve them. They could see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember and are now at the point, where they have had enough. A Closer Look

The other day, when I was walking around a city, I saw a number of street names that reflected its medieval past. This was in addition to all of the buildings from this period that were dotted around. What played a part in me noticing these names and the builders is my interest in medieval history. A number of years ago, before I became interested in this period of history, I knew that there was a city wall and a cathedral but that was about it. New Eyes

Based on how a man is behaving, that’s if he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, is that he is more like her parent than her son. He will then have been born after her but will be as though he was born before her. However, although he will be playing a parental role, he might not be aware of this. As a result, he will ignore a number of his needs and feelings and this will be having a negative impact on him. A Bizarre Situation

Even though a man is a separate human being with his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. Instead, what can be normal is for him to act as if he is an extension of his mother. He is then not going to be the main actor in his own life; he will be a supporting actor in his mother’s life. Sadly, however, if this is what is normal, it might not be something that stands out. The First Stage

Right now, a woman could feel very frustrated and angry, and be deeply deprived. This could show that she is in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically available, and, when he is, he is typically somewhere else emotionally. The reason for this is that he can generally be focused on his mother and do what he can to take care of a number of her needs. As a result of this, he is not going to have much time or energy left for himself, let alone anyone else. A Draining Existence

In general, someone could act as though they are merely an extension of others. The reason for this is that they could tend to say yes if another person asks them if they will do something for them. And, even if they are not asked to do something, they could still be doing things for others. Naturally, this is going to mean that they will give a lot of their time and energy to others. Lop-Sided

Even though someone can be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will do so. Instead, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are in an invisible prison. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they are living in a very restrictive manner. Still, as they don’t freely express themselves, this is likely to have a negative impact on them. The Symptoms For example, they can often feel low and even depressed. During this time, they can feel very heavy and their physical body can go into a collapsed state.

If a man was to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he might find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. He could see them as cold, critical, cruel and emotionally unstable and unpredictable, among other things. As to why he sees them in this way, it is likely to be a sign that he has been with a number of women that were like this. Furthermore, he might have worked with a number of women that were like this. The Truth

If a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his own life. No, he might find that when he thinks about speaking up to his mother, let alone speaking to her, he feels very uncomfortable. This can be a time when he feels anxious and fearful and guilty and ashamed. Two Parts

After a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself, he can experience a lot of anger toward her. He can be angry about being used and taken advantage of. To make matters worse, if he were to talk to her about what was going on, she might not listen to what he had to say and could even criticise him. If so, he will be her son and he will have inherent value, but she will treat him as though he has no connection to her and has no value. A lack of Support

What a man may find, if he were to take a step back and reflect, is that he finds it hard to stick to things. So, he can come up with a goal and start taking action and then, before long, he can put it to one side. He might see that this often takes place after he has experienced a setback. When this happens, he can end up feeling defeated and not have the strength to continue. Another Area Along with this, he can find that it is hard for him to stand his ground and say no. Due to this, it can be normal for him to be taken advantage of and do things that he would rather not do.

Over the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were abusive. However, although she would have felt deeply unsafe around them as time passed, she probably felt radically different around them at the beginning. If this is the case, she would have felt safe when she was first with them and this will have changed as the days, weeks, and months passed. As a result of this, in each relationship, it might have been as if the man that she was with was replaced by another man. Stepping Back

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they don’t have a very ‘positive’ view of themselves. So, they can believe that no one likes them, are worthless, are a burden, are unlovable and are incapable, for instance. What could enter their mind is that seeing themselves in this way is holding them back and stopping them from living a life that is worth living. They could be at the point where they have had enough of watching life pass them by and desperately want to live a life that is fulfilling. The Next Step

A few weeks, months or even years ago, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother might have been in a relationship. He might seldom if ever think about his ex, or he could often think about her. When he does think about her, he could feel angry and let down, and he could wonder why she didn’t stick around. If so, this could show that he sees her as the bad one and himself as the good one. Another Part

At this point in time, someone could be in a relationship with someone who is not available. So, they might not be able to emotionally connect with them and they might not spend much time with them either. Assuming that this is the case, they will be emotionally out of reach, and at times, physically out of reach. This could be how it has been for a number of days, weeks, months or even years. Holding On