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For a little while, someone may have experienced thoughts that are having a negative effect on their wellbeing. Along with these thoughts, there can be feelings that also arise. These thoughts and feelings are then not going to be positive and empowering; they will be negative and disempowering. Moreover, they can have very little if any connection with reality. For Example

What a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he finds it hard to experience both ‘positive’ feelings and good things for very long. Therefore, whenever he has felt good, it might not have been long before his mood changed. And, whenever an area of life is going well, it might have also not been long until it has ended up going back to how it was before. At this point, he could wonder if someone or something ‘out there’ is holding him back. A Frustrating Existence

If someone has been able to get to the stage where they can see that how their mother behaved during their formative years was anything but healthy, they could wonder why she was this way. But that might not be all there is to it, though, as their mother might not be much different now that they are an adult. So, as opposed to seeing their mother as a human being, they could see her as a monster that was and is hell-bent on causing harm. Naturally, as they are an adult, they will have far more control than they had when they were a child but this doesn’t mean that they will realise this.r

What might stand out, if a woman has been with a man for a little while, is that he is overly focused on his mother. She can find it strange that he is so caught up with her and unable to live his own life. However, she can believe that she has what it takes to gradually pull him out of his mother’s world. Naturally, if she can do this, it will allow him to focus on his own life and be there for her. A Challenge

Even if a man is unable to see that he is out of balance by putting his mother’s needs first, there might be people in his life that are able to see clearly. So, he could have at least one friend and/or perhaps a family member who is aware of what is going on. This person could struggle to understand why he is not primarily focused on his own life and his own needs. There is the chance that this person is not out of balance, hence why they are able to see that he is. A Strange Situation

After thinking about some of the things that they experienced during their formative years, someone could find it hard to understand why they were treated so badly. But, if they were treated as though they were their parent or parent’s enemy as opposed to their child, this is to be expected. There can be moments when they experience a lot of anger and rage and even be filled with hate. Then again, it could go further than this as they could often find it hard to focus on other areas of their life. A Big Impact

In general, a lot is said about those who are entitled. When someone is in this position, they can be described as being ‘very entitled’ and expecting the whole world to revolve around them. From this, it can be as though there are only two options. Either someone is entitled and will behave in a negative manner, or they are not entitled and will behave in a positive manner. Black And White

Deep down, in their unconscious mind, someone can carry numerous unmet developmental needs. But, because they are outside of their conscious awareness, this won’t be something that they are aware of. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that these needs will lie dormant and won’t have an effect on their life. No, from behind the scenes, so to speak, these needs will shape their life. One part

Although someone will have their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will freely express themselves. In general, they could be in the background and even spend a lot of time vicariously living their life through others. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they are not truly embracing the life that they have been given. This is not to say that there won’t suffer by living in this way, though. A Bleak Existence

If a man believes that both he and others are being controlled by something ‘out there’, he is unlikely to be short of support. In his eyes, then, there could be a group of people who operate behind the scenes who are controlling most of humanity. This could just be something that he shares with his friends and family, or it could go even further than this. If it does, he could share his views online and have a few or many followers. Another Element

As someone is an interdependent human being, it is going to mean that it is important for them to experience human contact. This is something that will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Nonetheless, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will experience a great deal of human contact. What can be normal is for them to spend a fair amount of time by themselves and they could have surface-level relationships with others. How it is

If a man is in a position where he is overly focused on his mother and is not there for himself, it will be clear that something is not right. This is based on the fact that he is not on this earth to be an extension of anyone else – he is here to live his own life. So, as this is not taking place, something is likely to have gone wrong during his formative years. The reason for this is that this stage of his life would have played a key part in what he is like as an adult. A Strange Scenario

If a man has come to see that he is neglecting himself because he is too focused on his mother, he might need to talk to her about what is going on. He might want to explain to her that behaving in this way is not serving him and he no longer wants to do as much for her. Unsurprisingly, as he has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, living a life where his mother is the centre of his world is not going to be right for him. If, on the other hand, he didn’t have his own self and was merely an extension of his mother, this wouldn’t be the case. A Brick wall

If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and very little time doing things for himself, this might be something that he is aware of. Being this way will allow him to do what he needs to do to gradually change his life. This might have been something that he has been aware of for a number of weeks, months or even years. Irrespective of how long it has been, he might have reached out for support or he might have decided to do everything by himself. One Step at a Time

If a man has come to see that he is neglecting his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can believe that his father is at fault for how he behaves. He can then be frustrated and even angry about how he lives his life but his mother won’t have played a part. In his eyes, then, his mother will have been abandoned by and let down by his father. This could mean that his father wasn’t around during his early years or he might have been around but been emotionally unavailable and out of reach. Two Extremes

A man could have a mother who is unwell or he might not but he could still spend a lot of time doing things for her. From the outside, it can be as though she is his daughter and it is his responsibility to take care of her. So, when he is not taking care of his basic needs or at work, for instance, he could be doing things for her. This could be something that she is grateful for, or she might act as if she is entitled to his time, energy and attention. The Norm

The other day, someone left a comment on a video that I had made about a mother-enmeshed man. They essentially asked me if a man in this position would be different if he dated a woman who was from a different racial group. This was not something that I had been asked before and I thought that it was a very good question. After this, I thought about how I haven’t been asked if a man in this position would be different if he was attracted to men. The Connection

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they typically feel, what they could soon notice is that they often feel invisible, ignored and lonely. They can show that when they are around others, they seldom feel seen and heard. It is then to be expected that they would often feel the way that they do. They are going to be physically here but they generally won’t feel as though they actually exist. Part of Life

If someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could have a strong need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. Now, it might seem strange as to how they have only just come to see that this was the case.

During an election, numerous people vote for a party that they believe is going to change their lives for the better. For some of these people, what goes on at this level defines what their life is like. In other words, their life will be in the hands of whoever is in power and so, it is to be expected that they would not only vote but be careful who they vote for. If their party gets into power, then, they can be happy, but, if they dont, they can feel totally helpless. Another Example

If someone wasn’t able to connect to and form a strong connection with their primary caregiver during their early years, who is likely to have been their mother, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. But, even if this is the case, what took place will have had a big impact on them then and continue to impact them now.

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that, when it comes to the areas of their life that are not going well, they hope that things will change. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are not going to be living a life that is very fulfilling but they won’t believe that it will change. If they believed that their life would change, they wouldn’t live in hope; they would know that it would change and do what they can to make sure it does. A Place of Despair

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to eat when they are emotionally unsettled. This can be something that takes place every now and then. Alte atively, this could take place a few times a week or it might be more often. Either way, this is likely to be something that they want to put to an end, due to the pain that it is causing them. A Common Occurrence

Over the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were too focused on their mothers. There is even the chance that she is currently with a man who is like this. Assuming that she is currently single and not with a man who is like this, she could be well and truly fed up when it comes to this area of her life. What has taken place might not make any sense either. A Big Difference

What a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t believe that he is enough for a woman. As a result of this, he might not have ever been in a relationship and, if he has, it might not have lasted for very long. However, even if he is aware of this, it might not be possible for him to see a way out of the invisible prison that he is living in. Naturally, as he will want to be with a woman, and feel that he is enough for her, this is going to cause him to suffer. A Battle

If a woman has been in a number of relationships where the man was overly focused on his mother’s needs, she could be ready to turn her back on this area of her life. She might believe that it is better for her to stay single. She is simply not going to want to be with another man who is like this. But, considering what she will have gone through by being with men who are like this, this is not going to be much of a surprise. A Tough Time

If a man is focused on his mother’s life and is ignoring his own, it will be clear, at least to some people, that something is not right. Of course, he is not here to be an extension of his mother; he is here to express himself and live a fulfilling life. This is not to say that he can’t be there for her from time to time, but this is not the same as him turning his back on himself. The former will allow him to live his own life, while the latter won’t. Out of Balance

A number of days, weeks, or months ago, a woman may have experienced a breakup. If so, since then, she might have put in a lot of effort to change her appearance. Now, this could mean that she has bought new clothes and perhaps wears things that she didn’t wear before. Then again, it might go further than this as she may have joined a gym. Another Step It might not stop there, though, as she might have even had one or a number of cosmetic procedures. For example, she might have had Botox and/or breast augmentation or enlargement.

There is a video circulating online where two police officers visit a home, after being informed that a child is being abused. It starts with a police officer saying to a woman, “We’re here to investigate a child abuse complaint”. The woman then responds with, “I didn’t call the police”. Soon after, her son appears and says, “I did. She hit me with a belt”. The police officer then asks, “Is that true, ma’me?” The woman, his mother, then says, “I found out from Daniels teacher he’s been cutting class and when I asked him about it, he lied, so I hit him”.

If someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This person or these people, who should have treated them well, often treated them as though they were nothing. What could also enter their mind is how some of their friends were treated and how different their upbringing was. A Big Impact

Based on how someone behaves, it could be as if they are here to meet other people’s needs and don’t have any of their own. The reason for this is that they could act like an extension of others. Apart from taking care of their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and sleep, they could typically overlook their other needs. So, when they are not at work and, even when they are, they could be there for others. For Example

In today’s world, if someone is depressed, it is often seen as a sign that they are not in a good way. As a result of this, they can end up going on medication or be encouraged to develop a number of goals. If the former takes place, they might not end up feeling great but they might be able to carry on as normal. As for the latter, they can end up experiencing an inner shift and find that their mood gradually changes. Looking Back

What someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might not need to think too far back to remember when they last lost control and did something that they now regret. During this time, it could be as if something took control of them and there was nothing that they could do about it. All Area

When I was on a plane at the end of last year, I started watching a few episodes of a series called Yellowstone. I think I may have heard about it before or I might have just been curious about it after I saw the cover and read the description. Anyway, I was soon engrossed in the series and I was looking forward to watching more episodes when I got home. This series is described as a Western and it is full of drama. One Conclusion

If someone was able to step back and reflect on how they typically experience life, what may soon stand out is that they automatically hide a number of their needs and feelings. As a result of this, what is really going on for them is going to be covered up. This is going to mean that they will generally play a role when they are around others and they won’t be able to live a life that is fulfilling. It can then be as though they are simply going through the motions in life and are not really living. Disconnected

Since the match betwee Portugal vs. Slovenia in the European football championship, a lot has been said about the emotion that Cristiano Ronaldo expressed after he missed a penalty. Some people have criticised him for crying after he missed a penalty, while others have been supportive.

After having been up with a number of men who were focused on their mothers and were not available, a woman can be angry and frustrated. But, as she will have given a lot and received very little, this is not a surprise. What may also play a part in this is that she could believe that she has wasted so much of her life trying to make men who are unavailable, available. So, at this point, she could be desperate for this area of her life to change. Totally Helpless

Even though someone is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are completely independent and don’t have any needs. However, this doesn’t mean that they will be consciously denying their true nature. Instead, they could simply be out of touch with a number of their needs, which will allow them to believe that they don’t need others. Deeply Repressed

Now that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care of their need to sleep, eat, and have the right clothing, for instance, but their need to be seen and heard, receive affection and relax, for instance, could generally be overlooked. Running on empty

Nowadays, if someone is having relationship problems, it is not going to be difficult for them to find information that goes into why this is and what they can do about it. After a basic search online, there will be thousands of videos and articles that will provide them with a lot of information. So, at this point in time, they could be in a position where they continually attract people that are not available and/or don’t treat them very well. This could be something that they have experienced for quite some time. One Part

When it comes to how someone behaves, it might generally be a reflection of their true self. Then again, it might generally be a reflection of their false self. If it is generally a reflection of their true self, it will mean that they will have a strong connection with their body. By having this connection, they will be in tune with their needs and feelings. Another Reality

As someone is a separate individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do. During these moments, they will need to make this clear. If this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for them to say no to another person. However, although being able to say no is important, this might not be something that they feel comfortable with. No protection

For many, many years, someone may have spent a fair amount of their money on certain or several clothes brands. Assuming that it is one brand, this is then going to be a brand that they greatly value. Therefore, the money that they have spent over the years will be seen as an investment. So, not only can these items make them look good but they might have also allowed them to receive a fair amount of positive feedback. Two Stages

After feeling pretty exhausted and no longer having the energy to behave as they normally would, someone could think about how they find it hard to say no. What can be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things that they would rather not do. They are then going to be like an emergency service, with them typically being there for others when they are called to do so. However, although being this way will allow them to be there for others, it will also cause them to turn their back on themselves. Out of Balance

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough. This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, attention, love, and support, for instance. The other part of this is that this is likely to show that they live a life that is full of struggle and strain and they are often deprived. The Solution

Right now, a man could be with a woman who doesn’t treat him very well. So, what can be normal is for him to be put down, humiliated, ignored, rejected and there may even be times when he is hit. He might have been with her for a number of months or he might have been with her for a number of years. Either way, he is likely to be in a bad way and could be desperate for his life to change. Weighed Down

When a man sees a woman to who he is attracted, it might not typically occur to him that she is a human being who has her own needs, feelings, hopes, fears and insecurities, for instance. Instead, she can purely be seen as an object that can satisfy his sexual needs. There is the chance that, when it comes to a woman, these are the only needs that he has. If so, he is not going to have the need to experience affection or to share his inner world with a woman. An Identity

From the outside, someone can appear to be doing fine or at the very least, not in a bad way mentally and emotionally. But, beyond the impression that they typically create around others, can be someone who is not in a good way. Consequently, it won’t be possible for them to receive the support that they need at this stage of their life. Now, what this could also show is that they don’t have any close friends or family members. Hidden

What someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have trouble accessing the information that is inside them, this is to be expected. Inner Guidance

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