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If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is more like his mothers parent than her son. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time doing things for her. Yet, even when he is not doing anything for her, he could still spend a lot of time thinking about what he can do and worrying about her. Unsurprisingly, this is going to undermine his ability to have his own life, let alone live his own life. Resistance

Even if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life. However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be something that has a negative impact on their life. Yet, when it comes to the latter, this can be something that they just accept as part of life. Hidden

If a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother and doesn’t have much of a life himself, there are a number of things that could take place. He could feel deeply frustrated and helpless and believe that his life will always be this way. Alte atively, he could feel deeply frustrated but experience a strong need to find out what is going on and change his life. Naturally, the former won’t allow him to change his life while the latter will. A number of factors

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they behave in a way that doesn’t serve them when they experience a lot of stress. So, they can see that they have the tendency to withdraw physically. Along with this, they can lose touch with their emotional self and become emotionally disconnected. When both of these things take place, they will be physically and emotionally unavailable. Exte al Feedback

If a man was brought up by a mother who lacked empathy, he might not be consciously aware of this. Even so, it doesn’t mean that he will have truly moved on from this stage of his life. Therefore, if he were to remember some of the things that took place and how this impacted him, he might see that he was still caught up in this stage of his life. However, thanks to his brain’s ability to repress pain and memories, he won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. One part

If a man typically acts as though he is an extension of his mother, behaving in this way is likely to allow him to avoid certain feelings. Thus, as deprived as he is likely to be by living in this way, it will allow him to keep it together and function. This is not to say that he won’t experience ‘negative’ feelings; no, what it means is that these feelings won’t undermine his sense of self. So, he can often feel frustrated and dissatisfied, for instance, but he will be able to handle these feelings. Kept At bay

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what could soon stand out is that they often feel cut off from others and alone. They could see that this is how they have been for most of their life. What could enter their mind is that this is just how their life is and that there is very little that they can do. Along with this, part of them can believe that people simply don’t like them and this is why they are often isolated. More to it

What will be clear is that, if a man is caught up in his mother’s life, he won’t be able to be there for himself. He will be acting more than an extension of her than a separate human being. From the outside, it can seem as though he is simply giving and is not receiving anything in return. However, although it can seem as if he is not benefitting from behaving in this way, this is unlikely to be the case. Avoidance

Right now, a woman can be with a man who is anything but available. Yet, even though he is this way now, he might not have been this way at the beginning and may have created the impression that he was available. Due to how much time he spends doing things for his mother, he may have very little time left for himself, let alone his partner or anyone else. When he is available, he could be mentally and emotionally somewhere else, with it not being possible for her to connect to him. Deeply Deprived

Nowadays, there are numerous phobias that someone can have, and some of these are more well-known than others. Furthermore, while some of these phobias can stop them from being able to live a full and rich life, others can typically be put to one side and not trouble them. If, then, they were to see that their ability to freely express themselves is being undermined by their ‘irrational fears’, they could end up reaching out for support. This can be a time when they will work with a cognitive behavioural therapist. The Focus

Although a man has an intellectual, emotional and sexual side, it doesn’t mean that he is comfortable with all of these sides. Thus, when he is in a relationship, a big part of him could end up being overlooked. So, in the beginning, he could be sexually attracted to the woman and have feelings for her. However, as time passes, he might find it hard to be both sexually attracted to her and have feelings for her. One Outcome

If someone were to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to talk to their abusive parent or parents about what happened. Now, assuming that it was one parent who mistreated them or that one of their parents has passed on, they might not get very far. This parent could deny what they say and make out that they are making it all up. As a result of this, they are not going to be able to receive the validation and support that they desire. A Continuation

Although someone will have a mental and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. What can be normal is for them to be connected to their mental self but disconnected from their emotional self. But, due to how normal this is, they might not be consciously aware of the fact that they don’t have a good connection with this other part of them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that being this way won’t undermine them. A Big Impact

If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself, he could believe that his mother is the problem. Therefore, if it wasn’t for her, he would be able to live his own life. Due to this, he could come to the conclusion that until she changes, his life will stay the same. What might also cross his mind is that he needs to find a way to change her behaviour. It’s clear

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find that they have the tendency to behave in ways that don’t serve them. This can take place in both big and small ways. So, they might have been in at least one relationship that was going well and then, they ended up doing something that gradually or instantly destroyed it. When it comes to the former, they might have treated their partner badly and not shown them the level of appreciation and respect that they deserved. The Same Area

For some people, therapy is seen as something that is essential when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional issues. For others, it is seen as a waste of time and money. When it comes to the former, it is not uncommon for a woman to have this view and when it comes to the latter, it is not uncommon for a man to have this view. This may show that if a woman has inner challenges she is more likely to have therapy than a man. One Outlook

If a man is in a position where he is typically focused on a number of his mother’s needs and typically overlooks a number of his own, it can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why he is this way. To them, it can be clear that he is living in the wrong way. However, if they were to share their thoughts with him, they may find that he is not aware of the fact that he is neglecting himself. He could then dismiss what they say and make out that they are just being critical or negative, for instance. A Brick Wall

If someone where to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they try to do just about everything by themselves. They could see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. But, while living in this way will make their life harder than it needs to be, it doesn’t mean that they will have a strong need to change their behaviour. A big part of them is likely to feel comfortable living it this way; while another, smaller part of them is unlikely to feel comfortable with what is going on. Inner Conflict

Irrespective of whether someone is in a relationship or not, they could spend a fair amount of time thinking about sex. This can also mean that they will have sex at least once a day or a few times a week. From this, it could be said that this is something that is an important part of their life as opposed to just another thing that they experience. But, as it is likely to bring them a lot of pleasure and have a positive impact on their wellbeing, this is to be expected. The Other Side

If someone is suffering both mentally and emotionally, and certain areas of their life are not going in the right direction, they can end up reaching out for support. Assuming that this takes place, they can find a therapist or healer to work with. What this will show is that they no longer want to experience life in this way and want to move forward. Now, when they work with someone, this can be a time when they will change what is going on in their mind. Another Level

If someone is physically attractive, it can be normal for some people to have an idealised view of them. They are then going to be a human being but they can be seen as being perfect and even godlike. When this takes place, it won’t be possible for another person to see them clearly. In addition to what they look like, they could be emotionally developed, morally upright and have developed a number of skills. A key Point However, even if this is the case, they are still going to have their faults. Conversely, apart from their looks, they might not have a lot going for them.

If a man has come to see that he is not living his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can have the need to speak to her about what he is going through. He can hope that if he talks to her, she will be understanding and supportive. Naturally, her responding in this way will make it easier for him to change his behaviour and do what is right for him. Now, if this does happen, he could be relieved and grateful. Another Scenario

Naturally, if a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs, it is going to take a lot of his time and energy. This will then mean that he will have less time and energy for himself. Now, if he did things for his mother from time to time, whilst primarily focusing on his own life, it would be different. But, as he is in a position where he is neglecting himself, he is going to be depriving himself. A Different Scenario

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often fear that they will be left and end up alone. It could go further than this, though, as they may have the sense that they will die. This can show that they have a number of close friends and are in a romantic relationship. If what they fear were to take place, then, it would involve them being left by their friends and partner and their life coming to an end. Exte al Feedback

If a man focuses on his mother and ignores his own needs, it is likely to show that something is not right. The reason for this is that he has his own needs and life to lead and is not merely an extension of his mother. The trouble is that although he will be living in a way that is not serving him, he could be oblivious to this. Still, as he is living in the wrong way, it is going to take its toll on him. A Strange Scenario

After a man has experienced a breakup, he can experience a number of different feelings. For example, he can feel angry, sad, helpless, and hopeless and be full of regret. If so, what this can show is that he was with a woman who he was very fond of and perhaps loved. Perhaps he was with her for a number of months or it might have been even longer. The Reason Now, what this can illustrate is that she ended the relationship. He might not have treated her very well at times or he might have cheated on her.

One thing that a man could wonder, if he has spent most of his life focused on his mother and pleasing her, is why his father didn’t do anything about this during his formative years. So, he could see that his mother saw him as a parental figure during this stage of his life and essentially used him but he could struggle to understand why his father didn’t step in and put an end to what was going on.

What a woman may find, if she were to step back and reflect on her life, is that even though she is a grown woman, she doesn’t act like one. Instead, she is more like a little girl who is dependent on her mother and incapable of living her own life. This could mean that she still lives with her mother or it might not, but, either way, she won’t be able to freely express herself and live her own life. She is likely to find that she has a strong need to please her mother. One Focus

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might stand out is that they don’t act like an individual who has their own needs and feelings. Instead, they act like an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. So, what can be normal is for them to be focused on others and to do what they can to meet their needs. They can then meet their basic needs but they can typically overlook their other needs. One Area

After struggling mentally and emotionally for quite some time, someone could look for a way to change their inner experience. This can mean that they will look for answers online and/or they could look for a therapist to work with. Once they have found someone suitable, they could arrange an appointment. After this, they could feel relieved and mildly anxious but be looking forward to finally receiving the help that they need. The First part

There can be the life that someone wants to live and then, there can be the life they have. So, they can want to have a life where they are surrounded by people who value and love them, be in an intimate relationship with someone who also values and loves them, and have a career that is deeply rewarding.

What could be said, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, is that he should stay single. The main reason for this is that as he is not emotionally available, he is not going to be able to fully be there for a woman. Therefore, if he starts dating a woman and this develops into a relationship, he won’t have a great deal to offer. The woman will then have become emotionally attached to him but he will be emotionally and perhaps physically out of reach. A Tough Time

What a man could see, if he is overly focused on his mother, is that his mother undermined both him and his father during his formative years. Thus, instead of doing what she could to build him up and support his father, she did the opposite. After realising this, he could come to the conclusion that his mother had a fear of the masculine. Thanks to this, she did what she could to stop him from embracing his masculinity and caused his father to lose touch with his own. The Outcome

Even though a man will have his own needs and life to lead, based on how he behaves, it can be as though he doesn’t have any needs or only a few basic needs and doesn’t have his own life to lead. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his own life will pass him by. It can be hard for someone to comprehend why a man would live in this way, especially as it is not serving him. To use an analogy: it will be as if he has a car and his mother has a car, but he ignores his own car and makes sure his mother’s car is taken care of. Another Part

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life is that they don’t have a good connection with how they feel or their needs. They could then see that their life is largely driven by their need to please others and what is ‘right’. Consequently, their life is not going to be a reflection of who they really are. But, as frustrating as it will be and as unfulfilling as their life is, they are likely to find that they can’t just change their behaviour. Inner Conflict

Even though someone will have had a physical birth, it doesn’t mean that they had an emotional birth. When it comes to the former, this is something that would have taken place automatically. However, when it comes to the latter, this would have largely depended on how emotionally available their mother and perhaps their father were. But, even if they didn’t receive the emotional nutrients that they needed for their emotional self to grow and develop, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Hidden

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might enter his mind is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could then think about how this is because he has had many experiences with them that haven’t been very positive. So, when it comes to the experiences that he has had, he might have been in a number of relationships that were abusive. During this time, he might have often been criticised, humiliated and even physically harmed. Two Parts

Now that it is clear who the next president of America will be, some people are pleased with what has happened and some are not. This can be seen as a natural outcome as only one candidate can win and not everyone will have voted for the same candidate. When it comes to the people who are happy with what has happened, some of them can believe that this will allow America to be ‘Great Again’. After going in the wrong direction for many years, then, it will start to go in the right direction. Another Position

Even though someone has a thinking and a feeling self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. Instead, they can typically be in touch with the former but not the latter. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they don’t have a very good connection with this other part of them. Yet, even if they are not aware of this, being this way is likely to have a negative impact on their life. One Part

If a man is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself in the process, he might be aware of what is going on. As a result of this, he can do what he can to gradually change his life. This will allow him to live a life that is worth living, as opposed to a life where he has turned his back on himself and is suffering in silence. This won’t be easy but it will be worth it in the long run. Another Reality Alte atively, he can be focused on his mother and neglect himself but be oblivious to this. Due to this, he is not going to be able to gradually change his life.

If a woman is currently with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could spend a lot of time feeling frustrated, angry, and drained. But, if she has given a lot to him and received very little, this is to be expected. He will be directing most of his time and energy toward his mother and she will be directing most of her time and energy toward him. His mother will then be receiving and so will he, but she won’t be receiving a great deal. Living In the Wrong Way

If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that when she is dating a man, she has the need to break him down. So, she might see that it doesn’t take long before she is critical, tries to embarrass him and is controlling. He will then be someone who she is supposed to support and love as time passes, but, she will act as if he is her enemy and it is her purpose to undermine him. The man can then be in his power at one point and a shadow of the man he was at another. A Common Occurrence

When a man is around others, it can be normal for him to play a role and do what he can to please them. As a result of this, he won’t freely express himself and his own needs will be overlooked. This can be something that just happens without him consciously choosing to behave in this way. If he is aware of this, he can be fed up with how he behaves and wonder why he is this way. One Area What might soon stand out is that this is how he behaves when he is in a relationship. He could think about how when he is with a woman, he ends up coming across as needless and easy-going.

Nowadays, if a woman wants to be adored and elevated by men, it might not take much effort for her to achieve this goal. For example, she only needs to create a social media profile. By creating a profile or a number of them and uploading pictures of herself, she can end up with hundreds, thousands and even millions of ‘followers’. Now, what can help with this process is if she is physically attractive. Two Sides

After a man has been dating a woman for a little while, he can become emotionally attached to her. However, while part of him can feel comfortable with this, another part of him can feel very uncomfortable. If this other part of him is not as strong, it might not stop him from being able to go in the same direction. But, if it is a lot stronger, it can stop him from being able to go in the same direction. One Outcome

At this point in time, a man could be with a woman who is not right for him. Then again, it could go further than this as he could be with a woman who is greatly undermining him. If this is the case, it can be normal for him to be criticised, humiliated, controlled and even hit by her. This could be something that has been going on for a number of weeks, months or years. Beaten Down There might have been moments when he has stood up for himself and made it clear that how he is being treated is not acceptable. This might not have had much of an effect, though.

Even though one or a number of areas of someone’s life might not be serving them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Instead, they can block out what is going on and continue to behave in the same way. And, if this is what takes place, it is unlikely to matter if there are people in their life who can see clearly. They are likely to dismiss what these people say and even say that they don’t know what is really going on. Another Outcome

If a man, who is in a relationship, were to think about how his girlfriend typically behaves, he could find that she is not very supportive or respectful. He could see that she has been this way for a while. When it comes to how she behaves, what can be normal is for her to be critical and controlling. This can involve her comparing him to other men, telling him what to do, and even moments when she tries to prevent him from seeing his friends and family. A Destructive Influence

If a man were to step back and reflect on his behaviour, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be attracted to women who are not available. So, this can mean that he has dated and been in a number of relationships with women who were out of reach emotionally. Along with this, he may have been with a number of women who were in another relationship and were even married. Also, he may have spent a lot of time trying to make women who were not interested in him, interested. One Conclusion

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically act as though they are an extension of others. Therefore, when they are around others, they can to do what they can to please them and be easy-going. They are then going to ignore their own needs and they won’t assert themselves. So, although they will have their own self, it will be as if they are simply there to be who another person wants them to be. A Frustrating Existence