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Even though someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with all of their needs, let alone do what they can to meet them. Instead, they can only be in touch with a few of their needs and they might not always do what they can to meet these needs. However, if they are in this position, they might not be aware of what is going on. Yet, as strange as this may sound, this might just be what is normal, which will explain why this would be the case. The Norm

Even though a man will be here to live his own life, if he is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, this is not going to be possible. His life will be of secondary importance, whilst his mother’s life will be of primary importance. If he is aware of this, he can be well and truly fed up with turning his back on himself. However, as fed up as he is likely to be, he can find that he is unable to just change his behaviour. Trapped

A man can be in a position where he not only focuses on his mother and ignores himself but he can be comfortable with this. He can have the sense that he is doing the right thing by being there for her. So, as far as he is conce ed, as he is her son, it can be his responsibility to be there for her and make sure that she is taken care of. Behaving in this way can then make him feel proud. Exte al Feedback

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they can find is that they have the tendency to please others. This can largely take place without them consciously choosing to do so. Being this way will mean that they typically focus on other people’s needs and ignore their own. They can then see how being this way prevents them from showing up in just about every area of their life. Hiding Themselves

Over the years, a man may have walked away from a number of women just as things were starting to get serious. Then again, this might have been something that has only taken place on one occasion. However, regardless of how many times he has had this experience, he might not want to have this experience again. When he thinks about what has happened, he can be full of anger, frustration and regret. Confusion He can struggle to understand why he behaved in this way and didn’t allow himself to move forward. What could enter his mind is that how he behaved was irrational.

Even though a man will be physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will act like it. This is also likely to mean that he won’t feel emotionally separate from her either. He will then often be doing things for her and his emotional state will largely be defined by her. Now, this could be something that he is not aware of, or he could be aware of what is going on. One Experience

What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels low and depressed. He could find that this is because he doesn’t feel good about himself and doesn’t believe this will ever change. If he were to think about why he feels this way, he could think about a few different areas of his life. So, he might have been in a number of abusive relationships, have a job that is soul-destroying and he might not have any close friends. The Cause

If a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much of a life. Ultimately, a lot of his time and energy will be directed towards meeting her needs, leaving him with very little time and energy to meet his own needs. He is then going to be her son but he will be more like her parent. To make matters worse, his mother might not be aware of the fact that her son is neglecting himself and is out of balance. Caught Up

If a man is in a relationship but is overly focused on his mother, his girlfriend is likely to be frustrated with what is going on. This is because he will spend a lot of time doing things for his mother, having very little time for himself, let alone her. She might have kept her true feelings to herself, or she might have spoken to him about how she feels. If she has spoken to him about how she feels, he might not have been able to accept that he is overly focused on his mother. Another Outcome

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they continually end up with people who are emotionally unavailable. As a result of this, they are going to be used to being deprived in this area of their life. Additionally, they may have had a very similar experience over the years when it comes to their friends. In both of these areas of their life, then, it will be normal for them to not be seen or heard. A Closer Look

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he has the tendency to be aloof when he is around women. As a result of this, he will come across as distant and it won’t be possible for a woman to connect to him. He could see that this has largely stopped him from being able to meet a number of his needs over the years. So, his need to connect to a woman, experience affection, and experience intimacy will have seldom, if ever, been met. One Experience

A man might not remember a great deal about what took place during his formative years but that doesn’t mean what took place at this stage of his life is well and truly in the past. Consequently, his adult life can be very similar to how it was for him during this stage of his life. It might seem strange as to why he wouldn’t be able to see the connection but this is likely to largely be due to the fact that his brain has caused him to forget about what happened. As a result of this, the life that he leads can just be seen as how life is. A Closer Look

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they rarely feel happy or experience joy. In general, then, they are going to spend a lot of time feeling flat or down. What might stand out is that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. If this is the case, what might enter their mind is that they were born this way. A Life Sentence

Practically from the moment that someone wakes up until they go to bed at night, they could be on the go. When they are not working, then, they can be exercising, practising a hobby or out socialising. They can come across as confident, high-energy and as someone who is not afraid to try new things. Due to how they live their life, they might have been able to achieve a lot and be seen as successful. One Area They could have a number of friends and be in an intimate relationship. Still, their friendships might not have much depth and their intimate relationship might be the same.

If a woman is in a position where she does a lot for her mother and ignores a number of her own needs, she will be out of balance. But, if living in this way is just what is normal, she might not be aware of what is going on. Due to this, she could often feel low and drained but believe that she just suffers from depression, for instance. So, every now and then, she might find it hard to get out of bed and do just about anything. One Route

Even if a man had a mother who was emotionally unavailable and unable to provide him with the emotional nutrients that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. He might not remember a great deal about this stage of his life. But, if he were to think about this stage, he could think about how this was a time when he received everything he needed. He could also say that his mother loved him or words to that effect. The past is present

Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who he was unable to get close to. So, he may have been with at least one woman who was already in a relationship and he was having an affair with. Along with this, he may have been with at least one woman who lived a long way away or in another country. Once again, he would have only been able to get so close to her. Another Scenario

Although a man can have the need to be with a woman and experience intimacy, he might not have been able to meet this need. His life might have been this way for as long as he can remember. Thanks to this, he might believe that what is going on ‘out there’ is the issue. Then again, he might believe that there is something inherently wrong with him. A Bit of Both

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they typically only have enough money to merely exist. So, they can have what they need to pay their rent, buy food and clothes, for instance, but that could be about it. This could mean that they have a job that doesn’t pay very well. Perhaps they have had this job for quite some time or they might have only just started but were in the same position before. Another Position

If a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has experienced a lot of frustration over the years. He could see that this is because his needs have largely not been met in one or a number of areas of his life. Being deprived is then going to be normal and this will have naturally had and continue to have a big impact on his life. Thanks to this, he could feel helpless and hopeless and question if his life will ever change. One Area

Over the years, someone may have put a lot of effort into their career. Thanks to this, they might have been able to make a lot of progress, with them achieving a high position and doing well financially. However, regardless of whether they hold a high position or are well off financially, they could often be filled with doubt and question if they deserve to experience life in this way. They are then not going to feel comfortable with what they have achieved. An Analogy

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to feel safe. Due to this, they can spend a lot of time feeling exposed, with it being normal for them to feel anxious and even fearful. The outcome of this is that they are seldom going to feel settled and this will take its toll on their mental, emotional and physical health. In many ways, they are going to be like a leaf that is constantly being tossed around by the wind. Self Expression

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they are often treated badly. Along with this, they could see that they generally don’t treat themselves very well. However, they could see that being treated badly feels comfortable and that it takes a lot of effort for them to stand up for themselves. Due to this, they can often just put up with being treated in this way. The Other Part

When a man starts dating a woman, he can end up putting on an act. This can be something that just takes place, as opposed to him consciously choosing to behave this way. So, he can come across as confident and as though nothing bothers him. As a result, he is going to hide certain parts of himself and what is really going on for him, and this will mean that some of his needs will also be overlooked. The Outcome

Even though someone is not powerless, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In general, they could feel totally helpless and as though they have no control over their life. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be consciously aware of how they feel. As a result, there will be no reason for them to reach out for support and do something about what is going on for them. One Reality

If a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he could find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. So, he could see them as being out of reach, cold, critical and emotionally unstable. This can show that, over the years, he has been with a number of women who were like this. If this is the case, most, if not all, of the experiences that he has had with them won’t have been very life-affirming. A Recent occurrence

The other day, I was thinking about how, as human beings, we can say that we want one thing but do things that don’t match up with what we want. Along with this, we can question if it is possible to attain it and even criticise what we want. As a result of this, we might not be able to attain or experience what we desire. The reason for this is that in order for this to take place, there has to be an inner alignment. Two Levels

Deep down, someone can have the sense that they are only worthy of meeting their basic needs. Consequently, they can generally create a life where they survive but seldom if ever thrive. But, if this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they can believe that this is just what their life is like. There is then going to be very little that they can do and will just have to do the best that they can. One Reality

If one were to meet someone who they are attracted to and things went further, they could find that it is difficult for them to feel and express love for their partner. They are then going to be fond of them but they will feel restricted. This can mean that they will find it hard to access the feeling of love inside them and this will make it hard for them to show affection, empathy and care, for instance. Due to what is going on, their partner could believe that they are not really into them. A Natural Outcome

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they spend a lot of time trying to fix other people’s problems. This can be how they are with their friends and their partner, that’s if they are in a relationship. Along with this, they could often be this way with people who they meet throughout their day. As a result of this, they could see that due to what they do for others, they don’t have much time or energy left for themselves. A Tiring Existence

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they find is that they are often not treated very well by others. So, when they are around their friends, perhaps family and at work, they could often be put down and ignored, for instance. Then again, they might typically only be treated badly when they are at work. Either way, their life may have been this way for as long as they can remember. Confusion

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he generally doesn’t feel comfortable when he is around women. So, he could he could typically feel anxious and find it hard it relax. As a result of this, he is rarely, if ever, going to fully show up when he is around women. And, as he is like this around women, this is likely to be what he is like around a woman in most cases. One Area

Even though someone has the ability to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will. Instead, they can have the tendency to play a role. To use an analogy, it can be as if they have a car that they can drive anywhere but they continually drive the car to the same places. Living in this way will mean that they live a very restricted life. The Norm But, although this will be the case, they might not be aware of how restrictive their life is. The reason for this is that they might have behaved in this way for most of their life.

After having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for a little while, a woman can think about cutting her ties with him. This is because she might not have the energy or the desire to continue living in this way. But, if she has been in this position for a number of months or even years, this is not going to be much of a sunrise. She will have given a lot while receiving very little in return, which will have taken a lot out of her. Worn Down

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they have the tendency to hide themselves around others. Due to this, they won’t freely express who they are. The outcome of this is that they will hide a number of their needs and how they feel. They can then typically play a role, a role where they are easy-going and act as though they are fine. Another Part Along with this, they can have the inclination to focus on other people’s needs and to do what they can to meet them. Other people can then describe them as attentive and selfless.

For a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Thanks to how caught up he is with her needs, he might seldom be physically, let alone emotionally, available. If so, a lot of his time and energy will be directed toward his mother, leaving him with very little time or energy for himself or his partner. In a way, it can be as if he is in an intimate relationship not one but two women. Fed Up

Right now, at least one area of someone’s life might not be going as they want it to go. This area of their life might have also been this for as long as they can remember, which can add to the pain that they are experiencing. So, they might have wanted to be in an intimate relationship for many, many years but have not been able to achieve this goal. They might have continually ended up with people who are not emotionally available. Another Area

Although someone might not be aware of what they believe about themselves, what they believe will still have a big impact on the experience that they have. What this illustrates is how powerful their beliefs are. When it comes to why they wouldn’t be aware of what they believe about themselves, it can be because they haven’t taken the time to explore what is taking place within them. Due to this, when it comes to the life that they lead, it can just be seen as what their life is. One Scenario

Right now, a man could spend time with a woman who is with a man who is mistreating her. When they get together, they may or may not get affectionate and have sex, but he can spend a lot of time listening to her and being supportive. He can often tell her that she doesn’t deserve to be treated in this way and needs to leave him or words to that effect. Then again, he can just be there for her and not encourage her to do anything in particular. One Focus

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they generally act as though they are an extension of others. Due to this, they will typically be focused on other people’s needs and do what they can to meet them. It is then going to be normal for them to overlook a number of their own needs and neglect their own life. They can find that this is something that largely takes place automatically and without them needing to think about it. An Unfulfilling Existence

If someone has recently experienced a loss, they could be in a very bad way. They can have moments when they feel very sad and can’t stop crying, and moments when they shut down and are unable to feel anything. Along with this, they can find it hard to get out of bed in the morning and struggle to get to sleep at night. And, when they are awake, they might not feel like doing a great deal. Going Through the Motions

Although certain areas of a man’s life might be going well, there might be one area that isn’t and it might have been this way for a while. So, his career could be going in the right direction and he might have a number of close friends, for instance. However, when it comes to his love life, he could experience a fair amount of frustration and anger. The reason for this is that he might not have been able to develop a deeper connection with a woman and have a loving relationship. One Reality

Not too long ago, a man may have experienced a breakup. He may have been with a woman who didn’t treat him very well and be relieved that their time together has come to an end. If so, this would have been a relationship that was anything but harmonious and there wouldn’t have been a great deal of love between them. Over time, this relationship would have worn him down, with him being a shadow of his former self. Mixed Feelings

Even though someone is a separate individual, who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can act as though they are an extension of others and are thus, are here to meet their needs. Due to this, they can then typically meet their basic needs, but that can be about as far as it will go. When they are not working, then, they can spend a lot of time doing things for others. An Automatic Process

Right now, someone may be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, they could be with someone who undermines them in a variety of different ways. For example, they could rarely be seen or heard, receive affection, often be put down and humiliated and even be physically harmed. They may have been in this position for a number of months or years. In A Bad Way When they are around their partner, they are unlikely to feel good about themselves or be able to relax. What can be normal is for them to feel low, drained and to be on edge.

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he spends a lot of time trying to please women. So, over the years he might have been in a number of relationships where he lost himself. Therefore, thanks to how focused he was on trying to make the women happy, he would have lost touch with his own needs. When each of these relationships came to an end, he was likely to have felt drained. A Frustrating Existence

Even though someone will have the need to be seen and heard, this need might rarely, if ever, be met. The reason for this is that they could do what they can to stay in the background. So, when they are at work, with friends and even with family, they could prefer to let other people talk and do their best not to stand out. They are then going to do their best to hide in plain sight. Unaware

At this point in time, a man may be in a relationship that is not going well. The main reason for this is that he might find that it is not possible for him to be connected to how he feels when he is with his girlfriend. If so, when he is with her, he will lose touch with how he feels. He will then be aware of his thoughts but he won’t be aware of what is going on for him at an emotional level. A Confusing Time Thanks to this, he could struggle to understand what is going on. Furthermore, his girlfriend is also likely to wonder why he is this way.

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