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In general, someone’s inner world could be somewhere that is not very harmonious. If so, they might rarely experience positive feelings and find it hard to feel good about themselves. To use an analogy: their inner world can be like the inside of a house that is in a state of decay. Therefore, this won’t be somewhere that is supportive and uplifting; it will be somewhere that largely undermines them. The Norm

If the average person was asked to think about both an adult and a child experiencing something that is deeply distressing and was then asked to decide which one would be harmed the most, they are likely to say the latter. They could say that as the child is not as developed it is bound to have a greater effect on them. Without a doubt, this is a viewpoint that most people are likely to have. This is similar to how, if there was a storm, a fully grown tree is likely to be far better off than a sapling; the former will be far better equipped to handle what is going on. A Closer Look

What a man could find, that’s if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he ignores his needs when he is in a relationship. As a result of this, he will act as though he doesn’t have needs. He can find that he is focused on his partners' needs and does what he can to please her. In the beginning, this can be something that allows him to feel good but, as time passes, behaving in this way can cause him to feel angry and resentful. A Big Difference

What could be normal for a man is for him to feel powerless and helpless, and this can mean that he will often feel low and even depressed. What will be clear from this is that he will rarely if ever feel strong and powerful. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling, with him simply going through the motions a lot of the time. There could be times when he would be happy to go to sleep and never wake up. His Experience

It could be said that it will be strange if a man has the tendency to focus on his mother’s needs and to be there for her. He will be ignoring his needs and his own life, so this should be something that stands out. However, although he will be out of balance, what is going on won’t be something that stands out. He will have probably been this way for most of his life, which is why he is oblivious to what is going on. Internal Feedback

What a man may realise, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he is not very balanced. The reason for this is that he may see that he finds it hard to stand his ground and take action. In general, he may find that he allows other people to walk over him and he only does things if he is told to do them or if another person is there to guide him. He can then see that he lacks the inner strength and the courage that he needs to act like an independent human being. A Norm

If a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, there is the chance that he is not even aware of this. This is likely to show that this is normal, which is why he is unable to see what is going on. Focusing on his mother's needs and doing what he can to be there for her is likely to be his priority. While this will mean that he will have the inclination to neglect himself, it is going to be what feels comfortable. A Role

If someone was to see that they don’t feel worthy of life, it could be said that this will be an achievement. Now, coming to this conclusion won’t mean that their life will simply change but what it will mean is that they will be aware of what is going on and they will be able to do something about it. Before this point in time, how they experienced life will just have been what is normal. As a result of this, they will have suffered in a variety of different ways but they will have been totally immersed in what was going on and thus, they wouldn’t have been consciously aware of it.

A man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up. Now that it has come to an end, and the weeks and months have passed, he could wonder what happened. It could seem as though in one moment, he was in a relationship and in the next, it was over. A Slow Realisation

Based on how a man, who is entangled with his mother, behaves, it can be as if he is his mother’s parent. So, regardless of whether or not he is actually a parent, he will certainly act like one. As a result of this, he will spend a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother and focusing on her. Due to how he behaves, he will create the impression that he is a selfless human being. It’s Automatic

Human beings have many needs and one need, a need that is a key part of what will allow them to live a fulfilling existence, is their need to express themselves. This need will include being able to behave how they want to behave, to say what they want to say and to be creative.

If someone wanted to find out about what is taking place around them and in the world at large, they could end up looking towards the mainstream media. Most likely, this is what they will have done for most of their life. It is then not that they have taken a deeper look into this source and believe that it can be trusted, as this is just a habit. There are bound to be plenty of other people on this earth who are in exactly the same position. Straight In

A man could often spend time thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship, with this being a time when he feels good. This is not to say that he hasn’t been in one before, though. If he has, he could see that when he has been in a relationship, he has felt whole and complete. This is not to say that this will have been a time when there was only love and harmony. A Deep Yearning

Now that someone is in a relationship, it may occur to them that how they have behaved for so long is not serving them. The reason for this is that for as long as they can remember, they may have tried to do just about everything by themselves and rarely expressed their feelings. They will show that they live as though they are their own island and have no need for anyone else. For a big part of their life, this may have even been something that they were quite proud of and perhaps looked down on those who needed others. It Worked

If someone was to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parent/s about what took place. However, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to receive what they are looking for. When it comes to what they are looking for, there can be a number of things. First, they can have the need for what they went through to be validated; second, they can have the need for their parent/s to show compassion and remorse; third, for them to be supported during this time. A Dead End

In general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just something that they feel, though, as it could be something that has permeated their whole being. It is then not just going to be that they feel helpless; they will be helpless. Going Upwards

In today’s world, there are a lot of people who looks towards the mainstream media to inform them about what is taking place in the world. In fact, this will be the main source that they look towards to keep them up to date about what is happening ‘out there’. When someone is in this position, there is the chance they will have been this way for most, if not all of their time on this earth. In general, looking towards this source is going to be something that just happens, as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. All in the same Boat

Although a man is on this planet to live his own life, if he is emotionally entangled with his mother, this won’t take place. Instead, just about his whole life can revolve around her, with him neglecting himself in the process. This whole scenario can make absolutely no sense whatsoever to some people and, if he is in a relationship, his partner can be totally baffled. She might not understand why a man would be this way and not feel the need to change his behaviour. The Norm

Now that a man is in a relationship, he may have the need for it to end and/or want to get as far away from his partner as he can. This is not to say that that he won’t like or even love her; it is due to the fact that he will feel trapped. When he first started spending time with her, however, he may have been fine. If this was the case, he will have been in one place very early on and now he will be in a very different place. Two Worlds

If a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and ignores most of his own needs, he is going to be very loyal to his mother. However, although being loyal is often seen as being a good thing, behaving in this way is not going to be serving him. Even so, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. At this point, it might be hard for someone to get their head around how a man in this position wouldn’t realise that how he is behaving is not serving them. It’s Obvious

Although a man will have been given life and his life is important, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. In general, he could act as though both he and his life are not important. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling and he could typically just go through the motions. When it comes to his life, he could see it as something that he has to endure as opposed to enjoy. A Very Different Experience

When I was out walking the other day, I ended up seeing someone who I usually talk to. Usually, I speak to him outside his house while he is working in his garden but this time he was out walking his dog. The last time I remember seeing the dog was when he was running around a field, naturally trying to round up the sheep. You might be thinking right now that this dog must be a sheep dog and if you are, you are right. My Background

If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves around women, what he may find is that he has the tendency to hide his needs. When this takes place, he will create the impression that he doesn't have any. Or, if this doesn't take place, it will be as though he only has a few basic needs. Either way, this is going to mean that he won't fully show up and all or most of his needs will end up being unmet. Two Scenarios

Although there are certain feelings that someone can acknowledge, there are others that they can avoid. For example, if they were to experience anger, they could allow themselves to feel this feeling. However, if they were to experience toxic shame, they could end up pushing this feeling out of their conscious awareness. Unlike anger, this feeling won’t allow them to feel strong and powerful. Deflated

If an area of someone’s life is not how they want it to be, they can see themselves as being “unlucky.” What is going on is then going to be out of their control and there will be very little, if anything, that they can do about it. When it comes to what area of their life this is, it could relate with their relationships. Here, someone could typically end up with people who don’t treat them very well and, consequently, they will have a negative effect on their life. A Different Outlook

After having recently lost a parent, someone could find that they are now experiencing a number of different feelings. There can also be a sense of shock around what has happened, with them finding it hard to accept that they will never see this parent again. When it comes to how they feel, they are likely to feel a deep sense of loss and sadness. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time crying and when they are not crying, they could simply feel very low and depressed. Keeping it Together

What someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they don’t have a good connection with their needs and are rarely in touch with how they feel. This is likely to mean that they will spend a fair amount of time living in their head. What they could also find is that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. As a result of this, this could just be seen as who they are and they may believe that their life will always be this way. Their Experience

Towards the end of September, whilst I was out I came across a sign that said there would be a half marathon taking place soon and, on this day, the road would be closed. When I saw the sign, it was just under three days until the race. This event pulled me in and I instantly started to think about what it would be like to take part. For about a day after this, I was thinking about whether I should take the next step or not and soon enough, I decided to go for it. Inner Conflict

Although a mother enmeshed man will have missed out on the love and nurturance that he needed very early on, it doesn’t mean that he will no longer have these childhood needs. No, these unmet needs will have stayed inside him and they will have a big effect on his life. However, even though this is the case, there is a strong chance that he won’t be aware of this. What he could be aware of is his need to please others; then again, this might not be something that he is aware of either. The Norm

After coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting his own life, a man may end up feeling used and betrayed. This is perhaps after he has denied that he is too focused on his mother and is being used. The reason for this is that coming to terms with what is going on and has been going on for a long time would have resulted in him coming into contact with a number of painful feelings. These feelings, up until this point, would have generally been kept at bay by him being there for his mother. Fired Up

One way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the surface. Some of this material will relate to what they have experienced during their adult years, yet most of it will relate to what they experienced during their formative years. The key, then, when it comes to being able to work through this material, will be for them to realise what is going on.

Although a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him. The seeds that were planted will have grown and it won’t be possible for him to live a fulfilling life. But, if his brain has blocked out what took place, he will suffer and he won’t see a way out. His Experience

If someone was to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel powerful and often feel powerless. This can show that their life is not how they want it to be and they don’t feel as though they have the ability to change it. As a result of this, it could be said that how they feel is a natural outcome of both living a life that is anything but fulfilling and not feeling that they have much control. Considering what they are going through, how else would they be? A Victim of Circumstances

In the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body. By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. This is something that they will strongly believe and, as a result of this, if another tried to do this, they would stand their ground and defend themselves if it were necessary. An Essential Component

If someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take place, it will mean that they lose touch with their needs and feelings. Consequently, their connected, true self will have gone into hiding and how they come across will be a reflection of their disconnected, false self. Self-Alienation

What someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to hide who they truly are. They may even say to themselves that they often wear a mask around others. What this is going to mean is that even if they are aware of their needs and feelings, they won’t express what is going on inside them. Instead, they will automatically play a role, and this could mean that they play the same role or alte ative between a few. Out of Sight

Although one will have the need to form close connections with others, it won’t have been possible for them to do so. Thus, the need will then be there but they won’t have been able to fulfil it. What they could find is that their life has been this way for as long as they can remember. And, as they are an interdependent human being, this is likely to mean that have suffered greatly and continue to so. A Frustrating Existence

It has been said that there are at least three types of love that a child can experience during their early years. There is value love, outcome love and love that is promised but never delivered. When it comes to the first type of love, a child will only be loved when they adopt certain values and behave in certain ways. Although this type of love is conditional, it will probably allow the child to grow into an adult who is both successful and happy. The Middle One

When the mainstream media gives exposure to a story where someone has been mistreated, there is a strong chance that this person will be seen as a victim. What took place won’t have had anything to do with them. This is something that can also take place when someone has been mistreated and they tell their friends about what took place. Once again, they won’t have played a part in what happened. The Reason

When it comes to the modern-day world, there are numerous sources that are trying to gain people’s attention. And, thanks to the invention of the Smartphone, it is perhaps easier than ever before for them to do this. As a result, it is no longer necessary to have someone sit down to watch television or to turn the radio on in order to receive their attention. No, the only thing that needs to take place is for them to look down at their device and to click on an app. Calling Out

While someone will have their own needs to fulfil and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that this is what will typically take place. In general, they could overlook their own needs and lead a life that has very little to do with who they are. Still, this could just be what is normal, meaning that they won’t be consciously aware of the fact that they are living in the wrong way. Naturally, living in this way will still take its toll on them, though. A Bleak Existence

If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, his true self is rarely going to see the light of day. This will mean that his needs, feelings and wants will typically be repressed and suppressed and, when he is around others, he is likely to play a certain role. In general, the role that he plays will involve him focusing on the needs of others and his mother, in particular, and doing what he can to please them. His attention won’t partly be on what is going on internally and what is going on exte ally; it will primarily be on what is going on exte ally. Self-Estrangement

Although someone is made up of at least three parts, so their thinking, emotional and instinctual self, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. The reason for this is that they could come across as though they only possess the first self. Therefore, they could come across as though they are a walking intellect, with them not being very emotional or instinctual. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of what is going on as this could just be what is normal. A Big Difference

If a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, it is likely to stop him from living his own life. Instead of being aware of his own needs and doing what he can to meet them, he is likely to be focused on his mother's needs and do what he can to meet them. As a result of this, most of his time on this planet will be spent doing things for his mother. In general, apart from his basic needs, most of his needs will probably be overlooked. It's Invisible

In order for someone to truly embrace life, they will need to be connected to their emotional self. The reason for this is that, through having this connection, they will know what they need to do and they will be able to connect to others. Without it, then, they will struggle to know what it is that they need to do in life and they will have surface-level relationships with others. In other words, their intellect alone is not going to shed light on what it is that they need to do or allow them to deeply connect with others. The Outcome

Although a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come out of if he was able to articulate his experience. Either way, what this is going to show is that he doesn’t live a life that is full of joy, pleasure, love and connection. A Troubled Existence

Having a positive mental attitude is often seen as a key part of what will allow someone to live a life that is worth living. As a result of this, someone can do their best to stay positive at all times. This will involve having positive thoughts and feelings and doing what they can to avoid negative thoughts and feelings. By being this way, then, one will be able to take their life to the next level. A Hold-Up

If a woman was to end up in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she could struggle to understand what is going on. It could seem strange as to why a grown man is so focused on his mother. As he is a man, not a boy, there is going to be no reason for him to be this way. Now, this is not to say that he should turn his back on his mother, that’s unless she is totally toxic; it means that his life shouldn’t resolve around here. A Frustrating Time

Although someone will be an individual, with their own needs and feelings, when they are around others they could have the tendency to lose touch with these inner aspects. As a result of this, they will act more like an extension of others. Instead of expressing who they are, then, their true self, they will end up becoming someone else. This may mean that they will typically play the same role when they are around others. One Experience

In general, someone could find that they have the need to keep people at arm’s length, preferring not to get too close to them. They could find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. By being this way, they are unlikely to share a great deal about themselves. When it comes to what they do share, this could typically relate to surface-level things such as what they have been doing, what their thoughts are about something and what others have been doing. Another Part