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While someone can look like an adult, it doesn't mean that they will feel like one. In fact, a lot of their feelings and needs can have more to do with a child than an adult. Even so, it doesn't mean that they will be aware of this as how they experience life can just be what is normal to them. Another part of this is that they might often be out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. Living on the Surface

In general, someone could find it hard to get things done and they could spend a lot of time sitting around. When they do take action, it could typically be because they feel that they have to. For example, this could show that they have to go to work or have run out of food. Behind actions such as these will be their need to survive, and this is why they will be able to get themselves moving. Called Out

If someone is finding it hard to move forward and this is how their life has been for as long as they can remember, the last thing on their mind could be that this has got anything to do with their sibling. This is assuming that they have one, of course, and are not simply an only child. As to why their life is this way, it could be seen as being due to what is going on ‘out there’. For example, they could believe that someone or something is holding them back or that people just like to stop them from having what they desire. One Area

From the moment that someone wakes up until the moment they fall asleep, their attention will be on all kinds of things. And, it could be said that even when they are asleep, their attention can still be on different things thanks to the dreams that they may have. When they are awake, they are likely to spend a fair amount of time both focusing on their Smartphone and on what is taking place around them. Along with this, there will be what is taking place inside them that absorbs their attention. A Strong Pull

Many societies around the world are full of people who are more or less always on the go. This is how it has been for many, many decades and it is unlikely to change any time soon. When someone lives in this way, they are unlikely to believe that they are living in a way that is not sustainable and need to slow down from time to time. The reason for this is that they will probably be surrounded by people who also behave in the same way. The Norm

After being with a man for a little while, a woman may have come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. Consequently, he is not only going to neglect her but he will also neglect himself. But, if most of his time and his energy are being directed towards his mother, he is not going to have much left for anyone else. However, although this will be going on, it doesn’t mean that he will be fully aware of it. A Brick Wall

If someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise. However, although they will want to progress when it comes to each of these things, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. First, their parent/parents could deny their experience and say that it didn’t happen; second, this will mean that what they went through won’t be validated; and third, they won’t receive an apology.

In many society’s around the world that are seen as being ‘civilised’, there are things that take place that make some people question this view. This includes how animals are often treated, how people in power often behave and how people often treat each other. In addition to this, the kind of things that are largely seen as being a normal part of society, are the things that take palace every now and then. This includes how some people are treated when there is a demonstration and where there is a murder. Two Extremes

It has been said that out of all of the emotions that someone can experience, shame is the hardest one to handle. The reason for this is that when someone experiences shame, they can feel bad and worthless. It doesn’t end there, though, as their inner world can collapse and they can have the need to hide their face or to isolate themselves. Consequently, it can be normal for someone to defend themselves against this feeling or, to be more accurate, this inner experience. One Option

The ideal will be for a man to be both in touch with what is going on within him and what is going on without. This will allow him to be there for himself and to be there for others. If he is unable to be there for himself, it won’t be possible for him to truly be there for others. What this comes down to is that if he doesn’t fill up his own cup, so to speak, he won’t have anything to give. The Norm

What someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life is that they are rarely connected to how they feel or their needs. When this takes place, it could be as though part of themselves has disappeared. Therefore, they are not going to be able to operate as a whole human being. At this point, their awareness is likely to primarily be up top, with them being estranged from their body. Cut-Off

Being seen is important but it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet generally feels seen. When someone does feel seen, it will be a time when another person not only looks at them but also tunes into what is going on for them and displays empathy. Therefore, they are not going to see them as an object; they are going to see them as a being that is having their own experience on this earth. Now, this could be something that this person is used to or it could be something that rarely takes place. One Experience

What can be normal is for someone to spend a fair amount of their time and energy doing what they can to be seen as desirable. Now, this doesn’t mean this will be something that they are consciously aware of but it will be an important part of their life nevertheless. When it comes to what they do to achieve this, it can all depend on what sex they are. However, regardless of if they are a man or a woman; there are likely to be certain things that they will do. For Example

After getting to the point where they can no longer continue to live in the same way, someone could take a step back and reflect on their life. During this time, they could come to the conclusion that their life is not in alignment with who they are. This is not to say that there won’t be certain things that do, but in general, this won’t be the case. What could be glaringly clear is that what they do for a living doesn’t truly fulfil them, although they might be good at what they do. Something is not Right

If someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. In fact, their life could be one big struggle, with them wondering if they even want to be alive. However, even if they are not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will know why their life is this way. The reason for this is that their brain may have caused them to forget about most of what took place in order to protect them. The Outcome

Although someone will have both a head and a body and will, therefore, experience both thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to relate to this. In general, they could live up top and only be aware of their thoughts and perhaps different sensations. They are then going to look like a whole human being but they won’t operate like one. By being this way, it is likely to be a challenge for them to feel connected to life and others and to even feel alive. Back To the Self

If someone doesn’t believe that they are enough, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is the case, it is still going to have a big impact on their life. So, by having this software running, they can more or less always be on the go and trying to achieve something. This might mean that they are seen as someone who is successful or it might not. Never Ending

If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he is going to spend a lot of time being there for his mother and supporting her. It will be as if his sole purpose is to be there for her and to take care of her needs. He could create the impression that he doesn’t have needs, or has a few basic needs and that’s about it. His mother is then going to receive a lot of his life force and time and he will deprive himself of both of these things. Self-Neglect

If someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they might soon realise is that they are rarely there for themselves. In other words, they are going to be like someone who owns a dog but who typically leaves the dog outside and forgets to feed it. As a result of this, they are going to treat themselves as if they don’t really matter. However, this could be how they have been for as long as they can remember, which means that it will have just been what is normal. It’s Clear

It is incredibly important for a man to not only have the ability to say yes and no, but to really mean it when he says each word. Having this ability will allow him to listen to and protect himself. However, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he may find that he doesn’t know how to say no. In fact, he might not even think of saying no to his mother, let alone actually saying no. Out of Balance

Although human beings are emotional beings, it wouldn’t be right to say that every human being on the planet comes across as one. There are those who are in tune with how they feel and there are those who are typically out of touch with how they feel. Consequently, there are those who appear to be walking intellects; they are more or less dead from the neck down. So, unlike others, it will seem as though they don't have an emotional body, they just have a physical body that is there to keep their head in place. The Other Extreme

If someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon enter their mind is that they often feel unwelcome and as though they don’t deserve to be somewhere. This could be something that they experience when they are at work, with friends and even with family. Due to this, they could often feel edgy and find it hard to relax around others. At times, though, they might suppress what is going on for them and be able to carry on as normal. One Consequence

If someone has a strong need for human contact, it can seem as if they would be aware of it. However, even if they do, this could still be something that they are typically unaware of. What this means, then, is that this need will generally be outside of their conscious awareness. But, while this will be so, it doesn’t mean that this need will just lie dormant and won’t have an effect on them. Deprived

In order for an issue to be resolved, it needs to be clear that there is an issue. Naturally, if this is not the case, it won’t be possible for anything to be done and the issue is likely to get even worse. With this in mind, if man’s mother is the centre of his world and he does what he can to please her and, thereby, neglects himself, he will need to do something different. The trouble is that this is likely to just be what is normal. Totally Oblivious

In general, a man may have casual encounters, and this could be how he has been for a long time. During these moments, he is going to share his body and perhaps his mind with a woman but he won’t share much else. This could mean that he hasn’t been in a relationship with a woman or this might not be the case. If he has been in at least one relationship with a woman, this may have been a time when he felt deeply uncomfortable. Two Stages

After being with a number of women who were anything but feminine, a man could be at the point where he wants this area of his life to change. In fact, he could be desperate to be with a woman who is different. However, thanks to the experiences that he has had over the years, a big part of him might not believe that this area of his life will ever change. As far as this part of him is conce ed, then, he will just have to put up with what is going on. Looking Back

One of the challenges with early abuse and neglect is that by the time someone is an adult, they can have no recollection of what took place at this stage of their life. This is not to say that once they get to this stage of their life, they will have chosen to block it out. No, what it comes down to is that from an early age, their brain will have automatically blocked out what took place in order to protect them. This is then something that would have taken place throughout their early years. An Analogy

In order for a boy to not just grow into a man but to act like one, it will be essential for him to receive the right care and guidance. For this to take place, both his mother and father will play an important role. His mother will provide him with the care that he needs to emotionally develop and his father will provide him with the guidance that he needs to feel capable and to believe in himself. There is far more to both of these roles but this is the general gist of what each parent will do. An Example

When someone comes into contact with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother and thus, is focused on her needs and neglects himself, it can be hard for them to comprehend why he would be this way. As they are on the outside, so to speak, they will be able to see clearly that he is living in the wrong way. He will be a man who has his own life to lead, so there will be no reason for him to be preoccupied with his mother and her needs. What he should be doing is focusing on his own needs and doing what he can to build up his own life. Unaware

In general, a man may have the tendency to feel low and bad about himself. When this is so, he could end up doing one of two things; he could either isolate himself from others or he could be around others and do what he can to please them. Therefore, it won’t be necessary for him to isolate himself in order to not be seen by others as this is what will often take place even when he is around others. Ultimately, being seen and heard by others won’t be something that truly feels comfortable. On The Sidelines

To the outside observer, it can make no sense whatsoever as to why a man would neglect his own life and focus on his mother’s life. Clearly, by behaving in this way, he won’t be able to meet most of his needs. For him to do this, he will need to take a step back from his mother and spend more time focusing on himself. Nonetheless, due to how caught up he is in his mother’s life, this is unlikely to take place. No Impact

If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother, it is likely to mean that he will neglect himself. The reason for this is that he only has so much time and energy and if these two resources are being directed towards his mother, he will have less of both for himself. Now, this could mean that he is only somewhat depriving himself or it could be far more extreme. When it comes to the latter, he could be in a position where he is often running on empty. The Signs Are There

As a result of the pandemic, a large part of humanity has spent a lot of time feeling powerless and hopeless. Fortunately, as time has passed, some people have been able to move beyond this experience. Sadly, there are others who haven’t been able to move beyond this experience. Still, even if someone has been able to move beyond it, it doesn’t mean that they won’t end up returning to it further down the line and vice versa. The Only Issue

In order for a man’s life to be an expression of who he is, he will need to be both in touch with and to feel comfortable expressing himself. Being in touch with himself will involve being connected to his body and being aware of his needs, feelings, wants and preferences. When it comes to expressing himself, then, what he does and says will primarily be influenced by what is taking place within him. By being this way, he will be able to feel as though he is living in the right way and is on the right track. Another Reality

While a man will have needs, it doesn’t mean that he will always be aware of them. Moreover, when he is in tune with his needs, he could still be out of touch with a number of them. As a result of this, he is likely to neglect most of his needs and this is going to have a negative effect on him. He could find that he often feels frustrated and depressed but finds it hard to pinpoint why this is. A Natural Outcome

If a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’. He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and incapable. He may believe that these people need to grow up and to stand on their own two feet. Self-Sufficient

Right now, someone could have a few areas of their life that are going well and a few that are not. This could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they could have well and truly had enough and be desperate for their life to change. But, if this has been going on for a long time, a big part of them might not even believe that their life can change. A Battle Over the years, they might have done a lot to change the areas of their life that are not going in the right direction. So, they might have read books, watched videos and even taken courses.

The other night, I ended up watching the new avatar film with a few friends, and I must say, that it was spectacular. I watched it in 3D but I think that it would be even better if I had watched it in 4DX. Throughout the film, a number of parts stood out and had a strong emotional impact on me. One of those parts was when a female member of another tribe says ‘I see you’ to Jake Sully’s youngest son and, another, was when, towards the end of the film, Jake also says this to his son. The Backstory

Now that someone is an adult, what they may find is that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. They could have the tendency to feel worthless and as though they have no value. As a result of this, they are likely to often feel low and depressed and they may even think about ending their life from time to time. Considering this, their time on this planet is typically not going to be very pleasant. A Miserable Existence

Feeling heavy, low and deflated could be an inner experience that a man is accustomed to. For as far back as he can remember, he may have had the tendency to experience life in this way. Consequently, he may typically see life as something that has to be endured, not enjoyed. In general, getting out of bed could be a challenge, getting through the day could be another challenge and, once he goes to bed at night, he might often question if he wants to wake up the next day. A Miserable Existence

Although someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t matter. Instead, they might rarely leave their house, let alone the area where they live and live a life that is very monotonous. Keeping the Lid On

While both her son and his mother will be adults, he can have the need to essentially save his mother. It then won’t matter if he is not a doctor or a therapist, for instance, as he will do what he can to resolve all her issues. Now, this could mean that his mother is deeply unwell and has all kinds of challenges, or it could mean that, like everyone else on this planet, she has challenges. Still, he will have taken it upon himself to change her life. Totally Oblivious

If someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult. Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been the complete opposite. A stage of their life when they should have been carefree was then a stage when they were weighed down. An Inversion

Although someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware of it. Even so, if this is how they have been for most of their life and they have a number of defences in place, why would they be? Hidden

Although someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and they are therefore free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. They could often isolate themselves from others. When they are around others they could typically do what they can please them, overlooking most of their own needs in the process. Due to how they behave, they are likely to stay small and their true self is rarely if ever going to see the light of day when they are around others. From The Outside

When it comes to living a life that is worth living, it will be essential for someone to have a felt sense of safety. The reason for this is that this will allow them to be connected to their body, so their needs and feelings, and thus to express themselves. This will mean that they will look like an individual and they will actually be able to act like one. However, although this will be the ideal way to live, it is not how everyone experiences life. A Different Reality

Now, although someone is interdependent and therefore needs others, it doesn’t mean that they realise this. If they were told this, they could say that they don’t need others and are happy being by themselves. So, by being this way, they are going to see themselves as being independent and they might not have many needs. This is not to say that they won’t have any friends but they probably won’t be in an intimate relationship. Their Experience

Having needs is simply part of the human experience and is not something that is bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, it doesn't mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. When someone doesn't feel comfortable with them, their life is going to be a lot harder than it needs to be. This could be something that they are consciously aware of or it could be something that it just outside of their awareness. Hidden

In order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world. However, although he might be able to do this, it doesn’t mean that he will find it easy to trust when it comes to other areas of his life. So, when it comes to his relationships, he might not be able to let anyone in. Surface Level Connections

One thing that someone may find is that it is often difficult for them to know what to do. So, there will be how this affects them each day and the effect it has on their life as a whole. As a result of this, they are likely to have two ways of deciding what it is that they need to do. First, they can ask others for advice and second, they can expose themselves to a lot of information and then do what is logical. The First