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In the same way that different tools serve a different function, different parts of someone's being are the same. When it comes to their physical body, this part will give them the ability to move and to get things done. Their emotional body/self will be what brings their life to life and allows them to feel connected to others and life itself. As for their mental body/self, this will allow them to think about life, reflect and make plans. A Key Role

Even though someone is an interdependent human being and thus needs others, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They could spend a lot of their time by themselves and rarely if ever reach out to others. This could mean that they will have a job or a career that doesn’t involve a lot of human contact. If this is the case, they won’t be in a position where they have to spend a lot of time speaking to others. For example

For a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to focus on her needs. This is likely to mean that he won’t even be aware of a lot of his own needs. His mother’s needs are then going to consume him and it won’t occur to him that he is out of touch with himself. His mother needs will be seen as his needs and most of his own needs will have been pushed out of his conscious awareness. Part of Her

It can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why a man would be so focused on his mother. He can spend most of his life doing things for her and even if he isn’t, he can be thinking about what he can do for her. By being this way, naturally, he is going to severely neglect himself and his own life. Most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother, so he is not going to have a lot of either of these things for himself. A Strange Scenario

On one side, there is information outside of someone, and, on the other, there is information inside them. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their body, they are going to have limited access to the information inside them. In general, then, a number of their needs and feelings are likely to be a mystery to them. The reason for this is that most of their needs and feelings will be found in their body, not their head. Outer Directed

If someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they may hope that what they went through will be validated by them. This could be seen as part of what will allow them to move on from what happened. However, even if this need is there, it doesn’t mean that it will end up being met. So, they could reach out to this parent and talk about some of the things that they experienced and end up hitting a brick wall. A Dead End

If someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place. Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand why they are experiencing life in this way. Then again, if experiencing life in this way is normal, they might not even question why their life is this way. Stepping Back

What a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to change his life, it will give him the chance to do something about it. Before he had reached this point, how he experienced life would just have been normal and he wouldn’t have felt the need to do anything about it. A Bleak Existence

What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. Due to how rarely they feel happy, then, it might often be a challenge for them to embrace the moments when they do feel happy. Resistance

On one hand, there are men who say that all women are the same, and, on the other hand, there are women who say that all men are the same. And, thanks to the platforms that are available online, both men and women can express their views about the opposite sex. Not only this, they can come into contact with plenty of other people who also have the same outlook. Due to this, their views will end up being validated, providing them with a greater sense of conviction. One Side

When someone can assert themselves, they will have no trouble standing their ground and saying no. Along with this, if they want to do something, it won’t typically be a challenge for them to do it. Having this ability will allow them to both protect and express themselves. Thanks to this, being walked over and acting like an extension of others is not going to be something that interests them. Exte al Feedback

In the same way that a car won’t go anywhere without power, a man is also not going to get very far without being connected to his own power. When it comes to what will provide him with the power that he needs, his aggression is going to play a big part. Now, this is something that will give him the ability to do things that are destructive but this side of him is not destructive per se. So, when he is connected to this part of him, he will have the energy to stand his ground and assert himself, to take action and go after his goals. A Vital Element

After someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can soon have the need to talk to one or both of their parents about what took place. They can hope that this will end up being a time when their experiences will be validated and remorse will be shown. However, although this will be the ideal, it doesn’t mean that this will actually take place. Instead, when they speak to this parent, assuming that it is one parent that they speak to, this can be a time when what they say will be dismissed and they won’t truly be seen and heard. A Waste of time

Although someone may live in an area that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel safe. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they live in a warzone. So, from practically the moment they wake up until the moment they fall asleep, they could seldom feel at ease. And, even when they are asleep, they could often have bad dreams and even nightmares. A Restricted Existence

What can be normal is for someone to live in their head and to have a weak connection with their body. In fact, this part of them can be seen as simply being there to support their head. By having the tendency to live in this way, it can mostly be as though they are nothing more than an observer of life. They are then going to be here and have their own life but this won’t be something that they can generally relate to; it will be as though they are watching life from the outside. Disconnected

Firstly, a mother-enmeshed man will need to see that he is enmeshed, and, secondly, he will need to do something about it. It can be difficult for him to see that this is the case and doing something about it can be even harder. If he had a physical problem, it would stand out and he would most likely do something about it. After paying a visit to his doctor, it might only be a matter of time before something is done. A Very Different Issue

What a man may see is that he finds it difficult to express his needs and feelings when he is with his partner. When he is not around her, however, this might not be something that he struggles with. If this is the case, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this, his partner is likely to wonder what is going on and she could believe that she is doing something wrong. One Conclusion

What can stand out for someone who has come into contact with a man who is overly focused on his mother is that he is too caught up in his mother’s life. They will then be able to see that he needs to start focusing on his own life. This is not to say that they will believe that he needs to completely turn his back on his mother, but then this would be going from one extreme to another. Instead, they can say that he just needs to be more in balance. An Analogy

In general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too happy to be there for them. But, if they need something, they might not tell anyone and soon lose touch with this need. All Alone

Right now, someone may be in an intimate relationship and while this may be something that they have wanted to experience for quite some time, it doesn’t mean that they are finding it easy. Instead, they could find that they are finding it harder and harder to be present and to stay connected to how they feel. As a result of this, they will experience a fair amount of pressure and stress. Along with this, there will be how their partner responds to what is going on, and how they respond will largely depend on the inner wounds they are carrying. The Law of Resonance

Although someone is on this planet to express themselves, so that their life can be an expression of their true self, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable doing this. Instead, what can feel comfortable is going along with what other people want. Therefore, they are going to be physically separate from others but they will act as though they are an extension of them. As a result of this, their true self could typically be ignored and rarely see the light of day. The Alte ative

What could be normal is for someone to either feel alone or to be out of touch with how they feel and not feel anything. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Alte atively, they could spend a lot of time around others and not a great deal of time by themselves. Then again, this could be an area of their life that is fairly balanced, with them typically spending a fairly equal amount of time around others and by themselves. The Same Experience

If someone was to take a step back from their life and to reflect on their expectations, what they may find is a lot of these are “negative”. The expectations that they do have that are “positive” are then going to be overshadowed by those that are “negative”. After this, they could find that their life has been this way for a very long time. What could also come to mind is that, in general, a lot of “negative” things do happen. A Natural Consequence

What can be normal is for someone to feel helpless and as though they are unable to do anything. However, even though this is how they can generally feel and perceive life, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. As a result of this, being this way is going to prevent them from living a life that is fulfilling but they won’t be able to do anything about it. This will just be seen as how their life is and as something that they have to tolerate. A Connection

There is the chance that someone could work somewhere that is not very supportive, for instance. As a result of this, they could often feel worthless and even humiliated when they are at work. Along with this, they could be in a relationship that is not much better, with this also being a time when they will experience the same feelings that they feel at work. There could be other ‘negative’ feelings that they experience, too. It’s clear

When someone is connected to what is taking place inside them and this information directs their life, they are going to freely express themselves. Their life is then not going to be a reflection of how other people want them to live or how they think they want them to live. Moreover, when they are around their friends and family, they are going to fully show up as opposed to putting on an act. Being this way is going to allow them to feel connected to others and be seen and heard. Another Reality

One thing that someone can experience, that’s if they have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, is a lot of rage. In fact, they can feel so mad that ending one or both of their parent’s life could enter their mind. Due to how they feel, it could be as if they were mistreated a few minutes ago, not a number of decades ago, for instance. If they haven’t taken this step already, they could end up calling or paying a visit to their parent or parents and talking about their early experiences. An Intense Time

Thanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak.

In recent years, both the mainstream media and the government have said a lot about “mental health” and how people need to look after this part of them. Mainstream society offers a number of different ways for someone to do this. One option that is often put forward is for them to talk about what is going on, another is for them to change their “negative” thoughts and feelings by “reframing” what is going on. For some people, the solutions on offer are not good enough, but, what can be denied is how far society has come. A Big Shift

Someone’s emotional self will allow them to feel connected to life and others, and to feel supported. Clearly, then, this part of them will serve a very different purpose to their mental self. This part of them will give them the ability to think, plan, reflect and understand how they feel. Therefore, both of these aspects play an important role in their ability to live a life that is worth living. The Ideal

Although a man will have both a masculine and feminine element inside him, he may find that it is hard for him to connect to the former. Consequently, it will be hard for him to express himself and to take action. From the outside, it will probably look as though he has the ability to do both, but this won’t be something that he can relate to. Now, this doesn’t mean that he will always sit around and do very little. A Helping Hand

What can be normal is for someone to hide how they really feel. As a result of this, the people in their life are unlikely to be aware of what is truly going on for them. However, due to how good they are at hiding how they feel, there can be no reason for these people to realise this. There is then going to be how they believe one is doing and how they are actually doing. One Experience

What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do have holidays, they could see that this is a time when they are practically always doing something and/or thinking about what they should be doing. Now, this could be how they have lived for as long as they can remember. Inner Conflict

If a man is seen as a ‘mother-enmeshed man’, it is not going to be a surprise for someone to come to the conclusion that he is this way due to how his mother treated him. Therefore, if his mother had treated him differently during his formative years and treated him differently now, he would be different. In other words, his mother will be the one who did the most damage so she will be the one who is responsible for what he is like as an adult. And, if he is aware of what he is like, he could also come to the same conclusion. Another Angle

Now that a man is in a relationship, he might be very different to how he was before. When he was single, he might have been aware of certain needs and done what he could to take care of them. However, although he will still have needs, he could typically act as though he doesn’t have any or only a few. So, regardless of what he did for himself before, he will have more or less turned his back on himself. An Automatic Response

After one has spoken to a friend or family member on a number of occasions about the person who they are in a relationship with, they could soon come to the conclusion that something isn’t right. This could be because they are with someone who is physically and/or verbally abusive, but, this might not be the case. Instead, it can be because they have been talking to someone for months if not years and haven’t met them. Additionally, they might have told them that they have sent their love money and perhaps other resources. Another Part

If during someone’s early years, they missed out on the love that they needed to grow and develop in the right way, it can mean that they are deeply wounded now that they are an adult. But, although this is the case, there is a chance that they won’t have been able to join the dots, so to speak. One can then spend a lot of time feeling down and often criticise themselves, for instance, but not be able to realise why they experience life in this way. In fact, this could just be what is normal, with this stopping them from even thinking about why their life is this way. Another Outcome

In general, someone could do their best to not stand out, to not need much and to be there for others. This can mean that they will often monitor themselves to make sure that they are behaving in the right way. Due to being this way, it is likely to mean that they won’t receive a great deal of attention, will overlook a number of their needs and will be caught up in the lives of others. But, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will have a strong need to change how they behave. A Half-Life

What someone could find is that they are often in a position where part of them has the need to do one thing whilst another part of them has the need to do something else. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion. Not only this, they could be used to doing things that they would rather not do. It could go even further than this though, as just about their whole life could have very little to do with who they are. A Frustrating Existence

While a man’s early years will be well and truly behind him, it doesn’t mean that how he was treated during this stage of his life won’t have had a lasting impact on him. However, due to his brain’s ability to repress both pain and memories, he might not remember a great deal about what took place all those years ago.

When it comes to a man who is unable to live his own life, due to being emotionally entangled with his mother, it can seem as though it is due to what took place in relation to his mother very early on. So, at this stage of his life, most likely, his mother would have used him to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs By not receiving the right emotionally nutrients at this stage of his life, he would have missed out on what he needed in order to grow and develop. His physical and intellectual self will have grown but his emotional self will have stayed stunted. A False Selfr

What a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is difficult for him to connect to how he feels and to experience love. If this is so, he could wonder if he has the ability to feel and to feel love in his heart. Then again, he could come to the conclusion that he is just with the wrong person and needs to find someone else. If this was to take place, he won’t take a deeper look into what is going on. The Evidence Is There

What someone may see, after taking a closer look at their early years, is that they were not treated very well by one of their parents. After coming to see this, they could have the need to talk to them about what happened. This might then be a time when this parent is able to truly be there for them and is, therefore, able to validate what they went through and express remorse. Thanks to this, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to gradually move forward. A Key Part

It could be said that it will be normal for someone to want to talk to their parent or parents about what happened, if they were to see that they were mistreated by them during their formative years. They might want to know why they treated them in this way and for them to express remorse, among other things. But, although this is what they hope will take place, it doesn’t mean that it will take place. Ultimately, this is something that is likely to largely depend on how mentally and emotionally healthy their parent or parents are. One Outcome

If someone was to get into a relationship, what could soon stand out is that they don’t have a good connection to their needs and feelings. Before this, they might not have realised how disconnected they were. But, now that they need to be in touch with both of these elements, it will be something that they are only too aware of. For their relationship to last, let alone to them to form a deeper connection with their partner, this will probably need to change. Severed

If a man is in a position where he rarely if ever gets angry, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. What this can mean is that it is normal for him to be walked over, taken advantage of and not stand his ground. This could be something that he experiences each week if not every day, and this might be what has taken place for quite some time. So, if he was to think about the last time his boundaries were crossed, he might not have to go back very far in time. His Response

Although someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that their inner self will typically be seen by others. In general, this part of them could be hidden and this will mean that what is truly going on for them will be a mystery to others. Along with this, what is taking place inside them could typically be something that they themselves are not aware of. When this is so, how they feel and most of their needs will be outside of their conscious awareness. Another Part

If a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he often feels on edge. He might see that he has only just started to experience life in this way or it could be something that he has experienced for a little while. Regardless of how long he has been this way, he could have a strong need to change his life. He could be desperate to be able to feel more at ease and no longer feel as though something bad is going to happen. One Experience

If someone were to step back and reflect on their formative years, they may see that this stage of their life was not very nurturing. This may have been a time when their mother was often abusive. Assuming that this was the case, they wouldn’t have had a mother who was very mate al. It would have been as though her primary purpose was to tear them down, not to build them up. A Strange Scenario

If someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they generally don’t feel the need to be around another or others. They could find that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are likely to spend a lot of time by themselves and if they do end up spending time with another or others, it could be because someone reached out to them. What could enter their mind is that they enjoy their own company and don’t need others. Exte al Feedback