Emotional intelligence involves many separate competencies. One of them is compassion or empathy. You might think of it as ^soft.^ Well, actually some people think of emotional intelligence as ^soft.^
Which brings up an interesting point. In the Strengths e-course I offer, I ask the ... Views: 1270
1. Breathe
Oxygen is vital to life. Oxygenating the organs and tissue provides life giving energy and nutrients and removes toxins and wastes. Do this at least once per day: Inhale through your nose to the count of two or three; hold for a four or five count; exhale through your mouth at 4 ... Views: 2187
The world is going downhill faster than an Olympic skier. Terrorists lurk around every corner. Climate change will soon melt the tundra and turn Iowa into a desert. Frankenstein foods are flooding the market, cleverly masquerading as innocent potatoes and beets.
And everybody is planning ... Views: 1449
Most people that instinctively rub their necks and shoulders when their muscles are sore and tense have no idea they are employing a self healing technique called self-massage.
Most people that instinctively rub their necks and shoulders when their muscles are sore and tense have no idea they ... Views: 2290
Occasionally making improvements is easily achievable for most people. While continuous improvement is mostly unachievable; however, striving for it separates the winners from the losers. There are many areas in your life that may need improvement: career, relationships, learning, finances, ... Views: 1592
To combat modern day stressors, you need to realize that things are going to go the way they are going to go, so you may as well just relax. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to practice extreme self-care which means putting your own needs first. We have had it backwards for ... Views: 2071
Career experts say that people will change careers (not jobs) 5-7 times in a lifetime. This being true, career management is an important life skill to develop and cultivate. There are six stages of modern career development: Assessment, Investigation, Preparation, Commitment, Retention, and ... Views: 3357
The 7 Stages of a Romantic Relationship
Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed.
There are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, ... Views: 3516
It is easy to be spiritually positive and philosophical
about life when things are going well. Even when exposed to
life’s misfortunes from a distance--distant relatives or
acquaintances--it’s fairly easy to conclude that life is
bringing them the experiences appropriate to their lives.
But what ... Views: 1542
Imagine you’re standing in line at the grocery store, and a person behind you asks if they can go ahead of you. “Sure”, you say. Then person after person asks if they can go first, and time and time again, you let them, even though it’s now become a problem for you.
Making things happen in ... Views: 1411
It is easy to get caught up in the day-to-day stress of everyday life: deadlines to meet, schedules to keep, unexpected expenses, conflicts to resolve, illness of loved ones, to name a few. Amidst all this, it is easy to for me to lose sight of why I do what I do - my purpose for being. I ... Views: 1947
Sue Hay, co-founder of Good Health magazine, and an expert in nutrition and fitness, states that there is no such thing as a quick-fix weight loss solution. Our emotions, dietary habits and lifestyle have to be taken into consideration to achieve long-term successful weight loss - because we are ... Views: 1190
I went to a yoga workshop the other day. At one point we were instructed to find a partner for a few exercises. After overcoming my shyness with strangers I paired up with my neighbor. We tentatively began trying the moves together, being careful to make sure each other was safe and sound. It ... Views: 1294
1. Is it just sexual attraction?
Sexual attraction comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It's not always a basis for living with someone happily. Don't let it "hijack" you. Find out what else is there.
2. Do they like to touch and ... Views: 5291
Money personalities help explain people’s behaviour in terms of earning, spending, gifting, borrowing, saving and investing. The money personality is also a strong indicator of a person’s risk profile.
Understanding your money personality and how it impacts on your ability to achieve your ... Views: 3526
"A garden in the early stage is not a pleasant or compelling place: it's a lot of arduous, messy, noisome work -- digging up the hard ground, putting in the fertilizer, along with the seeds and seedlings. So with beginning a story or novel." --Ted Solotaroff
That's like the beginning of ... Views: 1252
If you've ever had a long-distance relationship with a guy, and lose ou t to a new woman he finds in his hometown, even though you two had a phenomenal relationship, you might find some new research interesting, hopefully even consoling.
fMRI, functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging, lets ... Views: 1663
Do you really listen to others? Or do you simply hear what they're saying?"What's the difference?" I hear you say. Well, with the help of Carol Mc Call, Master Coach, this is what I've learnt.
Persons speak to us and we don't listen! We hear them.
We listen 25% of the time and hear and make up ... Views: 1803
1. Develop a clear view of the results you desire to achieve. You must know where you are going before you set out on your trip to successville.
2. Develop a detailed step-by-step plan on how you will achieve your results.
3. Identify the additional poeple and skills needed to reach your ... Views: 1441
At the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding ... Views: 4376
("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She").
We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ... Views: 1517
I often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call "malignant optimism". People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every ... Views: 2098
"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ... Views: 1887
Alan Pease, author of a book titled "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps", believes that women are spatially-challenged compared to men. The British firm, Admiral Insurance, conducted a study of half a million claims. They found that "women were almost twice as likely as men to have a ... Views: 1979
There is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed - one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ... Views: 2195
Abusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control.
There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to ... Views: 1733
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I admit it! Sometimes I'm overwhelmed by the seemingly endless
streams of paperwork. Emails I want to ... Views: 1348
The first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you.
1. Keep it in perspective.
If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it.
2. Keep your expectations in line.
Consider possibilities rather ... Views: 1455
Knowing how you feel, having personal power, managing anger, being creative, focusing on your strengths and having Intentionality - these are all emotional intelligence competencies.
1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the
drain.
2. You can stop when you want to, stop ... Views: 1223
I am fortunate to work with people from all walks of life on a regular basis and one of the most common requests I have is to help them set and achieve ‘real’ goals. One necessity in starting this process is to take time out of our day to assess our current position and determine where we are ... Views: 1392
What is it you want and desire?
-A better life
-To have greater prosperity
-A better job
-A new car
-A bigger house
-To lose weight
-A new relationship
-More money
-An overseas trip
-To send the kids to University
-To create more success
These and many other outcomes are thought about, dreamt ... Views: 1784
Electional astrology is the astrology of timing and the Moon plays the most significant role because she is responsible for setting events in motion. As the closest orbiting body to the earth, her influence is so important that two branches of astrology, Horary and Electional, use the Moon as ... Views: 2805
As a parent of a child with a disability or with special needs you will be only too aware of all the challenges you encounter when you try to get the best help you can for your child.
Sadly the list of problems faced by so many children, and their families, never seems to end. Each disability ... Views: 1929
What do we mean in healing when we talk about ‘letting go’? Everywhere we turn to get some help in healing, all we hear is people preaching to us “you must let it go!” This probably sounds like a very nice idea to the person who seeks guidance and I do agree with whomever it is that is preaching ... Views: 1067
Less than ten years ago, most folks thought “emu” was a crossword puzzle answer. Today, Emu is the answer to many other puzzles: What to make for dinner? Emu Steak or Emu Burger. What to rub on sunburn to take the sting out? Emu Oil. What to apply to wrinkles to help with anti-aging? Emu ... Views: 1856
"When you are deluded and full of doubt, even a thousand books of wisdom are not enough. When you have realized understanding, even one word is too much."
Ancient Teacher
"Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself."
Ancient proverb
Contents
1)Introduction
2)How to read ... Views: 1707
There is great adventure in the unknown that propels us to discover powerful parts of ourselves that we didn't know were there.
As I write this article, my eyes focus on the cover of our leading news magazines. They tell us that ANXIETY is the number one issue at the moment. ... Views: 3076
Do you know how to focus?
No?
Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people's names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don't make you nervous?
You Bet!
How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would ... Views: 11944
The power of the mind is a truly remarkable thing.
How you feel in any given moment is linked to:
- What you are focussing on
- The way that you are moving and using your body
- The language you are using
Your mind controls all three!
If you are feeling lethargic or need an instant ... Views: 2950
Someone emailed me recently, "Do you think it's possible to have too much emotional intelligence going on? To the point that perhaps logic takes a backseat?"
Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can't have "too much" emotional intelligence, but that doesn't mean atthe ... Views: 1424
Ok, so back in June I shelled out $1200 for a premium treadmill (it was on sale, I AM a female after all) It was a huge decision and yes, there were the cheerleaders and the naysayers.
"That's great, that treadmill will really help you get in shape!" (how out of shape do I look?)
"You'll be ... Views: 8943
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4 Tips to Avoid Internet Scams
If you are new to the internet you will come
across numerous programs offering promises
of riches. You may know about people who have
become rich ... Views: 1302
I stopped by a preschool the other day, and met Sam. He caught my eye right away because he had presence. We call him “Mr. President,” the teacher told me. “He’s bossy.”
Sam was focused on a car he was playing with. When I walked up to him, he looked up slowly, with confidence. Something ... Views: 1321
Coaching's been around for about 10 years but there are still lots of people who haven't tried it yet, and don't know what it's about.
Two major confusions in people's minds are:
· What's the difference between coaching and therapy, and;
· What's the difference between coaching and a good ... Views: 1486
In Memoriam, Thomas Leonard, the Founder of Coaching, who died February 11, 2003
1. Because we never know when we may die.
2. Because we never know when's the last time we'll see a loved one.
3. Because it's the worst thing in the world to have someone die and not have told them you loved ... Views: 2928
If it is our aim to succeed in life then many qualities will be demanded of us. We must have not only courage and ability, but also intelligence and integrity to name just a few. To aspire to success you will also need to understand, either consciously or instinctively, the necessity of having a ... Views: 6443
Have you ever had a client say, "Oh, I didn't know you treat headaches." or "Massage can't help a tendinitis, can it?"
Have you ever felt like hitting your head against a wall? I certainly do when I hear those kinds of comments.
The truth is that most of your clients - even your most ... Views: 3058
One of the hardest things for some people to do is to accept the blame for something they did, as in admit they made a mistake. This has to do with authenticity, with being honest with yourself, and with your self-esteem. Perfectionists have the hardest time owning up to a mistake; in fact ... Views: 1357
A number of ADHD medications are hitting the market, joining the old Ritalin standby. Concerta, in its relatively short existence, has already grabbed a sizeable portion of the ADHD medication market share.
Although Concerta offers a number of advantages over the older ADHD medications, it ... Views: 60539
REIKI TODAY
Reiki is an ancient healing art that has recently been re-
discovered in Japan. With the resurrection of Reiki in this
age of mass and almost instantaneous communication,
word of its power is quickly gaining the attention of the
mainstream world. The mode of transmission of Reiki ... Views: 1437