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  • ***Why Loving Yourself Creates Sexual Passion With Your Partner - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD February 13, 2017 Discover the great benefits to your relationship in learning to love yourself! What creates sexual passion? • First, there needs to be sexual chemistry between two people. Sexual chemistry can sustain passion for a while, but it isn't enough ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself in the Face of Others' Expectations - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD February 07, 2017 How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead! I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ...
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  • ***Do You Have The Courage to Love Yourself? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD January 31, 2017 Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love yourself, and why it's so important to make loving yourself one of your highest priorities. Loving Yourself"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself Fiercely and Relentlessly - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 23, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD January 23, 2017 How fiercely and relentlessly devoted are you to wanting to love yourself and wanting to learn to treat yourself lovingly? Gerard sat opposite me at one of my Inner Bonding Intensives. "My body hurts and I feel irritated," he complained, in a ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When Public Speaking - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 16, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 16, 2017 Has giving talks or presentations been scary for you? Discover why and what to do about it. Michael, one of my clients, asked me for help in one of our phone sessions: "I have to give a presentation to my boss and others on our staff on Friday. ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself Creates Loving Connection With Others - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD January 10, 2017 How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Learn how loving yourself leads to having much more of this in your life. As humans, we are hard-wired to want to connect with each other. Until 10,000 ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself: A Path To Manifestation - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 03, 2017 Discover how loving yourself can not only lead to the manifestation of your dreams, it can also lead to manifesting kindness and caring on our planet. "Great hearts steadily send forth the secret forces that incessantly draw great events." – ...
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  • ***Accessing Great Thoughts From Your Spiritual Guidance - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD December 27, 2016 ________________________________________ Have you discovered what connects you with your spiritual Guidance and supports you in downloading 'great thoughts?' ________________________________________ "All truly great thoughts are conceived ...
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  • *** Loving Yourself Through Holiday Stress - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD December 19, 2016 ________________________________________ Do the holidays and other family events or gatherings stress you out? Discover what might be the underlying cause of this stress and what to do about it. ________________________________________ "OMG, ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Lonely - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 13, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD December 13, 2016 Loneliness has much information for us when we open to it rather than judge it or avoid it with various addictions. One of the saddest and most dysfunctional aspects of our current culture is that it fosters loneliness. It's not hard to imagine ...
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  • *** Loving Yourself Through Heartbreak and Grief - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD December 05, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to love yourself through heartbreak and grief, rather than continue to abandon yourself in ways that are hurting you. ________________________________________ Take a moment right now to ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself As An Introvert in Groups - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 29, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD November 28, 2016 Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Discover how to love yourself in group situations. "She's very shy," my parents used to say to people when I was quiet. From their tone, I thought it wasn't a good thing to be shy. I ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Rejected - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 22, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD November 22, 2016 Do you know how love yourself when you feel rejected? Start learning how now! What do you generally do when you feel rejected? If you're like most people, you either try to control the rejecting person, or you take it out on yourself with various ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When Feeling Engulfed and Controlled - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 15, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD November 15, 2016 What do you do when someone is trying to control you? Do you give in, argue or resist? Discover how to love yourself instead of abandoning yourself. Loving yourselfMost of us have had the experience in our relationships of someone trying to ...
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  • ***Loving Yourself When in Conflict - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person. One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ...
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  • ***Can You Emotionally Connect With Your Family Of Origin? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, PhD October 31, 2016 Do you have major challenges in emotionally connecting with your family of origin? You are not alone! Are you happy with your family of origin? Can you emotionally connect with your family? If you can, you are fortunate indeed. Many people feel ...
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  • ***The High Cost of Physical Self-Abandonment - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    If you are not concerned with your physical self-care, have you ever considered the high cost to those around you? I was sitting in the airport at my gate in Chicago, on my way home from the East Coast, having just completed a wonderful Inner Bonding weekend workshop at Kripalu in Lenox, MA. ...
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  • ***Do You Have Patience? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Has having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience. Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient. I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me ...
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  • ***Relationships: When Is It Okay To Call It Quits? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 11, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 10, 2016 Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits? Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship. Mary asked me: "I married my first ...
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  • *** If You Learn To Love Yourself, Will You End Up Alone? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Oct 04, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 03, 2016 If you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy? I had been working with Kathleen for a few months when we had the following discussion: KATHLEEN: I know that the ...
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  • ***How To Be A Loving Advocate For Your Inner Child - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 27, 2016 What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now! What does loving self-care really mean? Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means. The wounded ...
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  • ***Who Is In Charge of Your Decision Making Process? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 19, 2016 Which part of you – your ego wounded self or your loving adult – is in charge of your decision making process? Which part of you makes your day-to-day decisions, as well as your major decisions - your wounded self or your loving adult? Which ...
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  • ***Sustaining Love: The Importance Of Emotional Intimacy - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 12, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 12, 2016 Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship. Discover how to create and nourish this deep connection. Loving coupleThink back to times you felt 'in love.' Aside from chemistry, what was it that drew you to ...
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  • ***How To Reassure Your Inner Child - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Sep 05, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 22, 2016 Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions? Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ...
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  • ***How To Trust Again - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 29, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 29, 2016 Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work. I received the following question about how to trust again: "My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ...
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  • ***Staying Connected As A Loving Adult In The Face Of Conflict - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Have you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Does your wounded self quickly take over, and your conflict resolution skills disappear? Allison asked me the following question: "I practice Inner Bonding when I feel I need it. I basically feel connected and when something is ...
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  • ***How To Stay Joyful All The Time - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. These three simple – but not always easy – choices can create such incredible joy! One of the things I love to do is walk every morning out in nature and do my Inner Bonding process. I've been walking almost every morning for at least the last 40 years, and doing ...
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  • ***Romance And The Power Of Hugs - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Hugs can be romantic or disconnecting, depending on your intent in hugging. Has the romance gone out of your relationship? Has work and/or parenthood left you no time for romance, connection and intimacy? A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is ...
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  • ***Speaking Up For Your Inner Child - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Do you speak up for your inner child – your feeling self – when someone is judgmental toward you, or they are blaming you or discounting you? What do you generally do when you are in an interaction with someone and you are feeling anxious, scared or lonely from ...
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  • ***Developing The Habit Of Loving - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Like anything worth learning, developing the habit of loving takes practice. As you practice Inner Bonding, your brain develops the habit of loving. "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~ Aristotle All of us develop ...
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  • ***Are You a Trash Can for Others' Negativity? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 11, 2016 Do you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, judgments, anger, self-centeredness and sense of entitlement - onto you? Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, "I'm no longer willing to be a trash can ...
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  • ***Relationship Advice: Are You Giving To Get Love? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 04, 2016 Are you giving love to your partner or others for the joy of giving, or are you giving to get love, attention or approval? I received the following email, asking for my help: "Hi, my name is Adam. I am living with my parents and I'm thinking of ...
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  • ***The Lies We Tell Ourselves - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Dr. Margaret Paul June 27, 2016 Our emotions are an accurate indication of when we are in truth and when we are lying to ourselves. Believe it or not, one of the great gifts we were born with is our emotions. Our emotions infallibly let us know when we are operating from the truth ...
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  • ***Relationships: Are You A Taker Or A Caretaker – Or Both? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 18, 2016 If your relationships are challenging, you might want to gain awareness and understanding of the taker-caretaker relationship system. As we all know, relationships are generally very challenging, and one of the reasons is that we bring into our ...
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  • ***Does Your Life Feel Alive And Meaningful? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Do you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack aliveness, passion and purpose? Vera sought out counseling with me because her doctor advised her to discover the emotional causes of her chronic fatigue. Vera, a successful stockbroker, was in a ...
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  • ***How To Forgive - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. June 06, 2016 Do you want to forgive yourself or someone else, but you just can't seem to get there? Learn how to forgive in this article. _____________________________________________________________________________ It's one of the greatest gifts you can ...
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  • *** Avoiding Emotional Pain Causes Emotional Pain - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    We all learned many ways of avoiding pain as we were growing up, but what once seemed to protect us against pain is now actually causing our pain. We all had to learn many ways of avoiding emotional pain as we were growing up, because we could not have survived the pain of childhood ...
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  • ***The Gifts Of Laughter And Tears - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 23, 2016 When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ...
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  • ***Addiction to Spirituality: The Spiritual Bypass - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Dr. Margaret Paul May 16, 2016 Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community ...
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  • ***Managing Challenging Families - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Sometimes the most loving act, both for yourself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. This can eventually lead to some healing. We all know that families can be very challenging! Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, ...
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  • ***Managing The Heartbreak of Not Being Seen or Heard - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 02, 2016 _________________________________________________________________________________ Learn to manage the shattering heartbreak of when someone doesn't grok you – doesn't see you, hear you or understand you. ...
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  • ***Healing From A Relationship With A Narcissist - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now! ________________________________________ Many of us have been there. You met the person of your dreams – charming, ...
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  • ***How Do I Know If I Have Abandonment Issues? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 18, 2016 ____________________________________________________________ Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ...
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  • ***Are You Addicted to Complaining As A Form of Control? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain? In this article, discover the answers to these questions, as well as what to do about it if you are addicted to complaining. ...
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  • ***Relationship Advice: Resolving Conflict When Someone Is Closed - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 04, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to resolve conflict when your partner or another person isn't available for mutual conflict resolution. ________________________________________ Loving relationships create a safe arena in ...
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  • ***You Want A Relationship, But Are You Emotionally Unavailable? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 28, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 28, 2016 ________________________________________ Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person? ________________________________________ Do you believe that you are fully ...
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  • ***When You Are Being Nice, Are You Loving Or Controlling? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 22, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 21, 2016 ________________________________________ There can be a big difference in intent between being nice and being loving. Being nice might be manipulative, while being loving means being authentic. ________________________________________ Our ...
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  • ***Controlling Behavior: Are Your Eyes On Your Partner's Plate? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 14, 2016 _____________________________________________________________________________________ It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious that they are not taking care of themselves. Discover why this usually backfires and what ...
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  • ***Superheroes vs. Underminers: Are You Supporting Your Personal Power? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit ...
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  • ***The Aftermath of a Relationship with a Narcissist - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
    Submitted on Feb 23, 2016 from Margaret Paul
    By Margaret Paul Ph.D. February 22, 2016 Have you been in love with a narcissist? Are you now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending? Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist? Many people are very vulnerable to getting into a relationship with a ...
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