By Margaret Paul, PhD
February 13, 2017
Discover the great benefits to your relationship in learning to love yourself!
What creates sexual passion?
• First, there needs to be sexual chemistry between two people. Sexual chemistry can sustain passion for a while, but it isn't enough ... Views: 847
By Margaret Paul, PhD
February 07, 2017
How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead!
I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ... Views: 859
By Margaret Paul, PhD
January 31, 2017
Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love yourself, and why it's so important to make loving yourself one of your highest priorities.
Loving Yourself"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more ... Views: 947
By Margaret Paul, PhD
January 23, 2017
How fiercely and relentlessly devoted are you to wanting to love yourself and wanting to learn to treat yourself lovingly?
Gerard sat opposite me at one of my Inner Bonding Intensives.
"My body hurts and I feel irritated," he complained, in a ... Views: 923
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
January 16, 2017
Has giving talks or presentations been scary for you? Discover why and what to do about it.
Michael, one of my clients, asked me for help in one of our phone sessions:
"I have to give a presentation to my boss and others on our staff on Friday. ... Views: 947
By Margaret Paul, PhD
January 10, 2017
How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Learn how loving yourself leads to having much more of this in your life.
As humans, we are hard-wired to want to connect with each other. Until 10,000 ... Views: 820
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
January 03, 2017
Discover how loving yourself can not only lead to the manifestation of your dreams, it can also lead to manifesting kindness and caring on our planet.
"Great hearts steadily send forth the secret forces that incessantly draw great events." – ... Views: 1227
By Margaret Paul, PhD
December 27, 2016
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Have you discovered what connects you with your spiritual Guidance and supports you in downloading 'great thoughts?'
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"All truly great thoughts are conceived ... Views: 846
By Margaret Paul, PhD
December 19, 2016
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Do the holidays and other family events or gatherings stress you out? Discover what might be the underlying cause of this stress and what to do about it.
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By Margaret Paul, PhD
December 13, 2016
Loneliness has much information for us when we open to it rather than judge it or avoid it with various addictions.
One of the saddest and most dysfunctional aspects of our current culture is that it fosters loneliness. It's not hard to imagine ... Views: 839
By Margaret Paul, PhD
December 05, 2016
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Learn how to love yourself through heartbreak and grief, rather than continue to abandon yourself in ways that are hurting you.
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Take a moment right now to ... Views: 1012
By Margaret Paul, PhD
November 28, 2016
Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Discover how to love yourself in group situations.
"She's very shy," my parents used to say to people when I was quiet. From their tone, I thought it wasn't a good thing to be shy. I ... Views: 1130
By Margaret Paul, PhD
November 22, 2016
Do you know how love yourself when you feel rejected? Start learning how now!
What do you generally do when you feel rejected? If you're like most people, you either try to control the rejecting person, or you take it out on yourself with various ... Views: 1011
By Margaret Paul, PhD
November 15, 2016
What do you do when someone is trying to control you? Do you give in, argue or resist? Discover how to love yourself instead of abandoning yourself.
Loving yourselfMost of us have had the experience in our relationships of someone trying to ... Views: 873
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
November 07, 2016
You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person.
One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ... Views: 928
By Margaret Paul, PhD
October 31, 2016
Do you have major challenges in emotionally connecting with your family of origin? You are not alone!
Are you happy with your family of origin? Can you emotionally connect with your family? If you can, you are fortunate indeed. Many people feel ... Views: 1053
If you are not concerned with your physical self-care, have you ever considered the high cost to those around you?
I was sitting in the airport at my gate in Chicago, on my way home from the East Coast, having just completed a wonderful Inner Bonding weekend workshop at Kripalu in Lenox, MA. ... Views: 1009
Has having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience.
Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient.
I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me ... Views: 834
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
October 10, 2016
Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits?
Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship.
Mary asked me:
"I married my first ... Views: 949
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
October 03, 2016
If you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy?
I had been working with Kathleen for a few months when we had the following discussion:
KATHLEEN: I know that the ... Views: 1016
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
September 27, 2016
What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now!
What does loving self-care really mean?
Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means.
The wounded ... Views: 942
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
September 19, 2016
Which part of you – your ego wounded self or your loving adult – is in charge of your decision making process?
Which part of you makes your day-to-day decisions, as well as your major decisions - your wounded self or your loving adult?
Which ... Views: 833
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
September 12, 2016
Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship. Discover how to create and nourish this deep connection.
Loving coupleThink back to times you felt 'in love.' Aside from chemistry, what was it that drew you to ... Views: 792
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
August 22, 2016
Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions?
Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ... Views: 950
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
August 29, 2016
Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work.
I received the following question about how to trust again:
"My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ... Views: 1021
Have you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Does your wounded self quickly take over, and your conflict resolution skills disappear?
Allison asked me the following question:
"I practice Inner Bonding when I feel I need it. I basically feel connected and when something is ... Views: 750
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
These three simple – but not always easy – choices can create such incredible joy!
One of the things I love to do is walk every morning out in nature and do my Inner Bonding process. I've been walking almost every morning for at least the last 40 years, and doing ... Views: 856
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Hugs can be romantic or disconnecting, depending on your intent in hugging.
Has the romance gone out of your relationship? Has work and/or parenthood left you no time for romance, connection and intimacy?
A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is ... Views: 752
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Do you speak up for your inner child – your feeling self – when someone is judgmental toward you, or they are blaming you or discounting you?
What do you generally do when you are in an interaction with someone and you are feeling anxious, scared or lonely from ... Views: 726
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Like anything worth learning, developing the habit of loving takes practice. As you practice Inner Bonding, your brain develops the habit of loving.
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~ Aristotle
All of us develop ... Views: 884
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
July 11, 2016
Do you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, judgments, anger, self-centeredness and sense of entitlement - onto you?
Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, "I'm no longer willing to be a trash can ... Views: 841
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
July 04, 2016
Are you giving love to your partner or others for the joy of giving, or are you giving to get love, attention or approval?
I received the following email, asking for my help:
"Hi, my name is Adam. I am living with my parents and I'm thinking of ... Views: 769
By Dr. Margaret Paul
June 27, 2016
Our emotions are an accurate indication of when we are in truth and when we are lying to ourselves.
Believe it or not, one of the great gifts we were born with is our emotions. Our emotions infallibly let us know when we are operating from the truth ... Views: 783
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
July 18, 2016
If your relationships are challenging, you might want to gain awareness and understanding of the taker-caretaker relationship system.
As we all know, relationships are generally very challenging, and one of the reasons is that we bring into our ... Views: 779
Do you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack aliveness, passion and purpose?
Vera sought out counseling with me because her doctor advised her to discover the emotional causes of her chronic fatigue. Vera, a successful stockbroker, was in a ... Views: 907
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
June 06, 2016
Do you want to forgive yourself or someone else, but you just can't seem to get there? Learn how to forgive in this article.
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It's one of the greatest gifts you can ... Views: 1031
We all learned many ways of avoiding pain as we were growing up, but what once seemed to protect us against pain is now actually causing our pain.
We all had to learn many ways of avoiding emotional pain as we were growing up, because we could not have survived the pain of childhood ... Views: 1097
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
May 23, 2016
When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result.
Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ... Views: 831
By Dr. Margaret Paul
May 16, 2016
Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them?
Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community ... Views: 1147
Sometimes the most loving act, both for yourself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. This can eventually lead to some healing.
We all know that families can be very challenging!
Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, ... Views: 1023
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
May 02, 2016
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Learn to manage the shattering heartbreak of when someone doesn't grok you – doesn't see you, hear you or understand you. ... Views: 970
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
April 25, 2016
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Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now!
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Many of us have been there.
You met the person of your dreams – charming, ... Views: 1334
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
April 18, 2016
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Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ... Views: 1229
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
April 11, 2016
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Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain? In this article, discover the answers to these questions, as well as what to do about it if you are addicted to complaining. ... Views: 1270
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
April 04, 2016
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Learn how to resolve conflict when your partner or another person isn't available for mutual conflict resolution.
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Loving relationships create a safe arena in ... Views: 983
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
March 28, 2016
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Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person?
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Do you believe that you are fully ... Views: 1041
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
March 21, 2016
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There can be a big difference in intent between being nice and being loving. Being nice might be manipulative, while being loving means being authentic.
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Our ... Views: 1115
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
March 14, 2016
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It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious that they are not taking care of themselves. Discover why this usually backfires and what ... Views: 1379
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
February 29, 2016
Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power?
How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit ... Views: 1279
By Margaret Paul Ph.D.
February 22, 2016
Have you been in love with a narcissist? Are you now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending?
Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist? Many people are very vulnerable to getting into a relationship with a ... Views: 1126