It has been a difficult last month where I live in the eastern United States, and in particular in my home state of New Jersey. The aftermath of the destruction of Hurricane Sandy, which impacted us at the end of October, touched so many lives. Many people suffered through severe property ... Views: 1002
I was near the close of a session with a client recently, where I was praising him for all the diligent work he had been putting in on his job search. From building his marketing plan, to reaching out to those in his network to let them know he was actively looking, to researching firms in his ... Views: 1001
I am passionate about providing education, support and guidance to those facing transitional issues at the mid point of their life. As I was preparing for my day about a week ago I realized how fortunate I am to have been exposed to the materials and concepts I have over the last two years on ... Views: 1000
Have you taken the time recently to think about what is your purpose in life? When I think of mine, it is to be the best career coach I can be to those with whom I come in contact. I have learned so much this year on the process of career development and the methods to use in searching for a ... Views: 998
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A few weeks back I had the opportunity to attend a workshop for coaches in New York City. The topic of the workshop was on the practice of coaching. Our presenter covered many aspects, from what it means to be a coach, to co-creating the coaching relationship with clients, to what ... Views: 997
As we start a new year, I have a couple of questions for you. What lessons did you learn during the past year that you are going to bring with you into 2013? What experiences did you have that helped you to find out something new about yourself? You do know that as long as you allow yourself ... Views: 991
As one year ends and another is about to begin, this is the time of year when a number of different articles appear about taking steps to plan for the coming year. Some write of the practice of setting New Year’s resolutions. Often business based or self improvement based articles talk about ... Views: 987
Wow, we have reached the end of 2011. What kind of a year has it been for you? For me it has been a year of growth both personally and in terms of my business. It has been one where I went in building on a plan I had started toward the latter part of 2010 and then built upon even in spite of ... Views: 979
As we move past the period where we have celebrated Thanksgiving and anticipate the upcoming holidays of Christmas, Hanukkah and Kwanzaa, we often get into the mindset of gift giving. Over the last two years I have met several individuals in job search. Many of them are long time workers who – ... Views: 977
It’s been about three years now that I have been part of the coaching profession. How I view my life and that which goes on around me has definitely changed from how I lived previously. I’ve definitely become a far more aware individual. I’m more open to the idea that even in the most ... Views: 977
For the second time in three years I have gone “back to school”. While I’m not enrolled in a degree granting program, I’m being trained in becoming knowledgeable of the skills in developing an effective job and career search strategy. One of my goals is to be able to share what I am in the ... Views: 976
We’re two weeks away from the end of 2012. What kind of year has it been for you? Have you accomplished all of your goals? What were those wonderful things that have happened to you during the past twelve months?
It is human nature to tend to have a sharper memory toward what we have not ... Views: 974
I’m not saying that these do not exist in this world. Obstacles outside of ourselves, or external energy blocks, can create stress and burden and keep us from moving forward to make the change we seek to make. External energy blocks may for a time be out of our control to change. Certainly, no ... Views: 968
You have probably heard it said – we live in a results oriented society. Perhaps you have heard that from bosses where you work. Or perhaps you have heard it in some sort of advertisement via the media. As a coach, I’m always working with clients to be a partner with them as they move toward ... Views: 968
For as long as I can remember, one of the standard pieces of advice that is given when you need to prioritize your tasks is to make a To-Do list. Many, especially if they’re setting themselves up in the business world, and others even in their everyday life, make a To-Do list each and every ... Views: 965
The March 2011 quote of “Motivation” that appears on the Absolute Transitions website is courtesy of the 3rd President of the United States, Thomas Jefferson. Jefferson was quoted as saying “In matters of style, swim with the current. In matters of principle, stand like a rock.” It isn’t ... Views: 962
From the time you realized you had the ability to hear sound, the skill of listening has always been available to you. Many consider it the most important aspect of communication. However, it is often a skill not used my many to its fullest potential. If however, one is conscious of what true ... Views: 960
I meet many people in job search as part of my day to day life. The way they approach their unemployment and subsequent job search varies by individual. One who crossed my path is Mary. At the beginning of 2012 Mary found herself let go from her position of 16 years. She heard of a local ... Views: 960
As we’re about to enter the third month of 2012, a question that I have for you is “How are you doing on those goals you set for yourself at the beginning of the year?” Ideally many of you are still on the path toward what you were looking to achieve when you set out two months ago. Perhaps ... Views: 951
Recently I have begun working with a number of clients that come from similar backgrounds as me. We grew up in towns made up of hard working parents predominantly in blue collar industries. We’re from strong ethnic backgrounds where people are passionate about their beliefs. And, frankly, we ... Views: 950
Many months ago I wrote in this space about a concept that I had learned of in my Institute for Professional Excellence (IPEC) coaching studies known as the cycle of change. The piece focused on how the various activities we go through in our life are like a card game. While each activity ... Views: 950
I was at a recent local chapter coaching event where again I had reinforced for me the concept of “gaining perspective”. The session itself introduced to those present a coaching model that many of us had not seen before. It included seven different chairs, each with a label as to a role a ... Views: 949
One of the negatives of living in a fast paced society is that we become increasingly impatient and despondent when things don’t happen in our life as quickly as we hope they will. We find ourselves out of a job, and within a couple of weeks or a month, we begin to panic when our telephone calls ... Views: 944
There is no escaping that we live in a fast paced society. We tend to receive information in quick sound bites, whether it is via television, the radio, the internet, or even now on our electronic devices. On average, those messages that we receive come to us in 10 to 15 second sound bite ... Views: 937
The local library in my home town provides its facilities to host a “Professionals in Transition” meeting every other week. Public libraries have always been good providers of resources to people in need. Given the current economy and labor market such sessions have become much more common in ... Views: 937
I am currently working with a number of clients that are nearly half my age. It has been a pleasure to do so. The enthusiasm that these clients show in wanting to move their lives forward is infectious.
One thing that does amuse me though is when there is a goal that one of them is looking ... Views: 936
As I write this post, I have returned from a week at the New Jersey shore. I have never much been a fan of the beach. My wife, on the other hand, absolutely loves everything about it, from the ocean, to walking along the shore line, to lying on the sand. During our last beach vacation in the ... Views: 936
You have been called into a company for an interview, perhaps even more than one. You have met with your prospective boss and the two of you have definitely connected and you are sure that he likes you. Perhaps at this point you believe you have a good chance to receive the position. This is ... Views: 935
I still remain a big fan of the television show “Seinfeld”, even after it has been off the air in terms of original shows now for fifteen years. Often my wife will hear me begin a sentence stating, “This reminds me of a Seinfeld …” when relating it to a present life experience. One episode I ... Views: 931
It has always been challenging to be a career changer. It perhaps means needing to go back to school for additional training. In presenting yourself to others, they may often find it difficult getting past seeing you in your previous position whether that is if they have known you or are ... Views: 922
For many people it is desirable to have everything in their life “under control”. Whether it is having a routine for going to work each day, when their family has dinner, or the leisure activities they do when they have free time, there is some sense of normality to their life. However, life ... Views: 922
The International Coaching Federation (ICF), one of the leading industry organizations for professional coaches, has designated the week of February 5th through 11th, International Coaching Week. During this week coaches from all over the world are asked to help increase the awareness of the ... Views: 915
Recently I was speaking with a long time friend about what I anticipate coming up for me in the next few weeks. Due to a number of steps I have taken over the last several months, I am beginning to see activity increasing for my business. While I found the increased activity very gratifying, I ... Views: 911
The month of January was a very hectic time for me. Between helping to get the newly populated Board of Directors of the local chapter of the coaching association I belong to off the ground, to providing administrative support for a charity dinner that I do annually each January, to selling a ... Views: 908
As the month of February begins, I turn the page on my “Motivations” calendar for 2012 and am greeted with a team of stampeding horses galloping along a snowy plain. Underneath the picture lies the following quote, “A dynamic team is unstoppable.” Certainly it would take a very brave soul to ... Views: 898
One of the questions my clients sometimes ask me is how should they treat their volunteer experience when it comes to their resumé? This is true in particular of those who have been searching for paid employment for a long period of time. I encourage my clients to include their volunteer ... Views: 897
A lot has changed in my life in the last several years. One of the realities is that most of those that I see or speak to on a frequent basis, I did not know less than five years ago. A change in career, change in where you live and a new marriage will do that to you. The change in career, in ... Views: 896
I tend to meet with my clients in person, which means that I’m often out on the road meeting them in public places. Between clients, I’ll stop and catch up on my preparation, reading and planning by stopping at a local shopping mall. I was doing this the other day, when I glanced up from what ... Views: 896
As this piece is posted on my website, it is the morning after the political elections in the United States. Whether your candidates won or lost the race for the offices that they sought, I have a question for each of my readers? How do you elect to move your life forward over the coming days ... Views: 894
Many coaches when they start their practices are new business owners. We not only learn coaching skills, but we also quickly learn the realities of being in business for oneself. In setting up a business we find there are a lot of things to do. There is the actually setting up the business as ... Views: 894
Most of us find ourselves busy with several things at once. It’s no different for me. At any one time I may be balancing seeing one to one clients, planning and writing my blogs and newsletter for the upcoming week, facilitating and presenting at support groups that I oversee, committing to ... Views: 889
In this early part of the calendar year, there is always a lot written about dedicating ourselves to continual planning so as to meet our goals. While the intentions of these articles are well meaning and their advice can be very beneficial, there is one trap they can lead you into if you let ... Views: 858
My blog posting from earlier this week focused on how one’s attitude was a key in bringing in positive energy into their life to help move them forward. Nowhere is that more true when one is in the middle of the job search process. While there has been much written about the differences ... Views: 842
We are now well into the summer season. For many in job search there is a temptation to not put as much effort into their search. One belief is that with so many hiring managers on vacation, there won’t be many people hiring again until the autumn. For others, formal networking groups that they ... Views: 839
It is not uncommon at this time of the year for people to feel they have less energy than they do at other times of the year. We’re well into the period after the end of year holidays. Unless you live in a warm weather climate, spring type weather is several weeks away. Hours of darkness ... Views: 838
The current difficult job market can make many a job searcher paranoid about just what wording to include on their resumé or to be part of the verbal pitch they use to present themselves. This can lead to many approaches that are not optimal. One may choose to use language that is full of a ... Views: 838
It’s amazing to me how much of my time over the last year has been spent in public libraries. Prior to becoming involved in my coaching practice, the last time I can remember being in a library with any regularity was when I was a student back in college. However, various aspects of my ... Views: 836
It is that time of the year again when a new group of students graduate and go out to find a job in the working world. While as students, they’re often prepared well in their field of study, it is rare that they are ready to work the process of going out to find a job. Many of the key skill sets ... Views: 833
I happened to be juggling a number of different tasks last week. I’m sure that is no different for many of you. One of the things I realized I had fallen into the habit of doing was trying to use every available minute I had to fill with some action I termed “productive”, so I could get action ... Views: 829
I have always loved the game of baseball. Whether it was playing the game as a youngster, to watching it on television or getting caught up into the players and their statistics, the game has always had a hold on me. Even now in my midlife years, it is still a big thrill to go to the ballpark ... Views: 820