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- The Pain/Gain Model of Action - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseThis past weekend I was facing a significant decision impacting my business. I had been presented with an opportunity that showed a great deal of promise, but did require detailed effort on my part to incorporate into my practice. While I realized that I needed to give this offer consideration ...
Views: 3179(2 votes) - When Not Changing May Be More Painful Than the Change Itself - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseIn my last few articles, I’ve written quite a bit about the topic of change. I’d be remiss if I did not take some time to approach this topic from the perspective of those who choose not to change. Not changing how you approach the situations which come into your life is certainly a ...
Views: 2397 - Does Computer Addiction Challenge You? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the challenges I constantly battle is becoming addicted to my computer. The computer in the home is a wonderful tool. When I was growing up newspapers, television and radio delivered you the news. If you wanted to pay your bills you had to receive them by mail and send payment to the ...
Views: 2090 - Lions, Monkeys, Koalas and Owls - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseWhat do the job seeker who is having an interview and a person who runs a business and has a product or service to offer have in common? They are both attempting to influence the person with whom they have come in contact that they are the right person to provide them what they are seeking. ...
Views: 1746 - Moving On in Midlife: The Challenges and Opportunities - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseMidlife can be a time for many individuals to reassess where they may want to live over the next stage of their life. In some instances, if children are grown, a current house may now be too large and require too much work so smaller quarters are sought. For others, there may have always been ...
Views: 1597 - How Do You Manage Those Valleys? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI have been a huge baseball fan all of my life. Every year there are teams that get off to good starts on their season. They play well during the months of April and May and jump out to a lead in the standings against their competition. Then they enter the month of June, and all of a sudden ...
Views: 1543 - Turning No Someday Into A Yes - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseI was having a discussion with a colleague of mine about a week ago. He was sharing with me recent experiences his son had gone through in interviewing for internship employment for the summer. While the experience had not gone the way the son had wanted in that he did not get the position he ...
Views: 1534(1 vote) - Making It to the Right Path - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the realities when you are a coach is eventually your engagements with your clients do end. While that usually happens when the client reaches the goal they were targeting when the coaching relationship began, it can end at any time particularly if the client does not care to continue ...
Views: 1395 - Detached Involvement - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseDetached Involvement One of the earliest concepts that I learned in my coaching studies, yet one which is not easy to put into practice is what is termed detached involvement. Being human means having feelings and emotions. When you are aware of those emotions, and allow them to flow without ...
Views: 1331(1 vote) - Take Time to Celebrate Your Successes - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseThis coming weekend is one of celebration for me. My niece will be getting married on Friday evening. On Saturday we celebrate the birthdays of my brother’s three children. And, on Sunday, my wife and I will be attending a local St. Patrick’s Day parade. Celebrations are wonderful occasions. ...
Views: 1308(1 vote) - In Job Search, Nothing Beats “The Human Touch” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIn the space of a few hours this past week, the topic of Automatic Tracking Systems (ATS) arose in activities with which I was involved. The first individual who brought them to my attention is a current resumé writing coach who in previous job experience has been a recruiter within ...
Views: 1305 - Stop! Hands Up! Take Your Hands Away From the Keyboard! - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseThe title of this posting, listed above, came to me a couple of weeks back when I found myself in the middle of multiple items at once. I was a few minutes away from leaving for a meeting with a client. Before I was to leave, I said to myself, let me just check my e-mail on my office computer ...
Views: 1295(1 vote) - Midlife Career Changes-It’s Time to Continue Your Learning - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseIt has been almost 3 years now since I moved on from my first career in corporate America. When I reflect back on that period of time, one item that becomes very clear to me is that my thirst for learning is greater than it has been in many years. Much of that has admittedly been attributable ...
Views: 1282 - Journeys and Destinations - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe summer vacation season is beginning to really start up. Perhaps some of you have already been on vacation, while many of you anticipate taking some time away from home over the next several weeks. It’s a natural part of human nature to focus on the end point of our activities. Think back ...
Views: 1273 - Change of Thought Process Leads to More Sustainable Results - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseWhat we experience in life can be viewed from many different viewpoints. Some of those viewpoints can be catabolic (destructive or negative), in their makeup. When you feel that you are a victim, lethargic, angry or stressed about a situation, you are experiencing catabolic energy. When your ...
Views: 1269(2 votes) - Midlife Changes:Be True To Your Values as you Contemplate That Change - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseCommitting to make any change in your life can often be a very trying experience. When you truly don’t believe in the change you are making or why you are going about the process, your chances for that change to take root in your life becomes significantly less. Each of us whether we are aware ...
Views: 1269 - Comfortable on My Own Two Feet - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseRecently I was speaking with a fellow coaching colleague. I was sharing with her my transition from my life of being an employee in corporate America to gaining my coaching certification and starting my own business. We were speaking about how when you begin your own business you are a magnet ...
Views: 1230 - Are You Relying on Serendipitous Happenings? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseI must admit that I’m not the greatest student of the English language. There are times when I will hear a word used, and while I believe that I know what it means especially in the context it is being used, I recently found the occasion to research such a situation. In my career coaching Five ...
Views: 1220 - Where Do You Make the “Biggest Impact?” - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseMy wife was a public school teacher for almost 35 years before retiring in the summer of 2010. At that time, she was not sure what she would do next in her life. Since that time she has begun to occupy her life with a number of different activities. Some have been satisfying to her, while ...
Views: 1218 - How to Successfully Transition Through Life - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseWhether it is if we want to continue working full-time or adjust to a less rigid schedule, or move from where we are living or pursue a passion we have always had but never had the time to fully enjoy, it is not unusual that these crossroads occur. Transitions often do not happen ...
Views: 1181(2 votes) - What Choice Will You Make? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseA company has an opening in which you have an interest. You apply for the job. You’re called in for a first interview, and then another. The process moves on and you are told it is down to the final selection stage, that you are one of the finalists for the position. What do you do at this ...
Views: 1167 - Opportunity Tends to Come to Those Who Open Themselves Up To It - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIf I were to ask you, “What was the last opportunity which came into your life?” how would you answer me? Would you be able to provide me the details around when and how it happened? Or would you be an individual who would say to me, opportunities never seem to happen for me. They happen for ...
Views: 1167 - Is That Change of Perspective Inside of You? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI find at times the need to remind myself of things that I already know. For example, I find myself annoyed with what I’m hearing on my car radio and instead of remembering I can either change the station, put on a CD of my choice or turn the radio off, I’ll continue listening until I’m upset ...
Views: 1166 - Appreciating Those Differences - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseAs my life has evolved these last few years, one thing that is certain is that I have had the opportunity to meet and get to know well a wide range of individuals. When you enter the coaching profession and first enter coach training, you become aware quickly that the discipline attracts a wide ...
Views: 1163 - Focus in on the Type of Work you are Seeking - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the challenges that I see many job seekers have when they are in the midst of their job search campaign is exactly how to present themselves to prospective employers. In the tight job market that exists at the present time, the tendency is to show oneself possessing a wide range of skill ...
Views: 1156 - Transition versus Change – There is a Difference - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseRegular readers of my blog know that I have expressed a good deal of thought on the topics of change and transition over the previous months. The words are used so interchangeably that it is easy to believe that they are one in the same thing. However, while related they truly are not. As I ...
Views: 1144(2 votes) - You’re the Only One Who Can Create the Job Which Is Right for You - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseWhen we enter an election season, as we do in the United States this year, and the economy continues to languish as it has, each side will always promote what they are able to do to promote job creation for the citizens of the country. Putting the political philosophies, policy setting and ...
Views: 1129 - 11 Hints for Job Hunting in a Tight Market - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseExpand Your Job-Hunting Targets – If looking in one geographic area, look in others. If searching in one size of company, try others. If looking at one type of position, consider other types of positions you can do. Expect to Be “In Search” for the Long Haul – The average professional or ...
Views: 1128 - Provide Them a Proposal to Show What You Can Offer - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseYou are in the midst of your job search. You’re starting to make contacts in your field, and perhaps even speaking with representatives from companies that you can see yourself working for some day. However, those with whom you are speaking have never worked with you before. You may be able ...
Views: 1115 - The Value of Informational Interviews in Moving Forward on a New Venture - by Submitted on May 20, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseIn today’s fast paced society, it is not uncommon for people to want results quickly when they are in need of something. However, when you are looking to obtain something of value in your life, such as a new job, beginning a new venture or becoming an expert in a field in which you know little ...
Views: 1114 - The Drama Triangle - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseI was a participant recently in an enlightening presentation I want to share which I found thought provoking. Perhaps you will too. The presentation was in a circle to a small group. Our facilitator placed 3 cards on the floor, in the format of a triangle. One card had the word Victim, a second ...
Views: 1112 - Aging Can Be an Active Time If You Make Yourself Ready for the Opportunity - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseThere was an article in my local newspaper this past week which really caught my eye. The article was entitled ‘Active aging’ at 50, and focused on the number of opportunities that will be available to those who choose to serve a 50 years of age and older population in the coming years. There ...
Views: 1101(2 votes) - Give the Gift of What’s Inside Yourself - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseAbout a week from now we celebrate Thanksgiving, a holiday that focuses all on giving thanks for the many blessings in our life. However, Thanksgiving is also a time of sharing. I was thinking about this aspect of the holiday and realized how many of us have gifts that we’re able to share with ...
Views: 1101 - You Have Lost Them for Good When You Say You Can’t - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI had a very frustrating experience recently with my bank. I went to deposit money in an account. It is an account I use infrequently, however, which annually is the source for funding an important bill that is paid to benefit members of my family. In trying to deposit money, as I had in past ...
Views: 1095 - How Many Different Iterations Will There Be to Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe season of spring has always been the time of rebirth in nature. As the calendar moves into April, and the first full calendar month of spring has arrived for 2012, our quote this month focuses on the theme of POSSIBILITIES. The quote is attributed to Anna Quindlen, who is an American ...
Views: 1094 - The Curiosity of a Child - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseRecently I have had the opportunity to observe a number of little children under the age of 18 months old. It is really fascinating to observe them. When their focus becomes locked in on an item that captures their attention, they look to learn all they can about it before moving onto the next ...
Views: 1094 - Are You One Who Always Says “NO”? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the realities about our world today is that we learn of things happening around our world faster than ever before. There is not much that can happen that does not quickly prompt several internet articles, newscasts, videos, etc. in a matter of minutes. Often there are great pluses in ...
Views: 1086 - Do You Make the Most of Detours When Faced With Roadblocks? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI tend to do a lot more driving during the middle of the work day than I used to when I was employed in my corporate career. When you are a sole proprietor and meet your clients at various public locations that will happen. One of the things that I have come to learn is there are a number of ...
Views: 1081 - Midlife Relationship Changes: Learn From Your Past, But Don't Live In It - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseMidlife is often a time of reflection. New people come into our life, while those we have known may move elsewhere or pass on. We may find ourselves in a new city or even part of the country from where we grew up. Some see the past with optimism, reflecting on times and activities they miss ...
Views: 1065 - Don’t Let Others Tell You of What You Are Capable - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseAs I have stated often in the past I am a spectator sports fan. This time of the year is always a fun time for me with the start of a new baseball season. I’ve been a fan since I have been eight years old, and look forward to each new season with anticipation. It is common when a new season ...
Views: 1063 - Different Journeys, Same Destination - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseIf I asked you what a construction worker, a tutor for those taking the Scholastic Aptitude Test, a Director of a consumer health business unit at a flavor manufacturer and a business executive with varied career experiences had in common – you may think not very much. However, these are the ...
Views: 1056 - Thanks for Being There For Me - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseEstablishing a coaching practice as part of my life has exposed me to many new experiences in the last three years. There is the networking with fellow coaches locally, nationally and internationally in the coach federation of which I am a part. As a coaching practice is often conducted as a ...
Views: 1052 - The Pain Associated with the Status Quo - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseWhen one goes through the certification process of becoming a coach, they are introduced to a number of different concepts and quotations, some of which stick with them for a long while. One of the ones I remember hearing that recently came to my mind reads as follows: “When the pain associated ...
Views: 1041 - True Change Comes From the Gut, Head, Heart and Hand - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseThis past October, I had the pleasure of attending a three hour seminar given by Robert Kegan, from the Adult Learning and Professional Development department of the Harvard University Graduate School of Education. Kegan’s topic entitled “Immunity to Change”, fascinated me at the time, and even ...
Views: 1041 - Are You Ready To Take the “Learn One New Thing a Day” Challenge? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseThe month of September is associated with the beginning of a new school year. Recently I was reading an article that indicated those that are having the greatest success in current job searches, or just keeping their careers fresh and on track were those who are continual learners. While ...
Views: 1027 - Lasting Success Is Based on Firmly Rooted Principles - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe beginning of a new year is often a time when individuals vow to change their ways. And, while change is all well and good, and even something which has been written about on this site in many a posting, I was struck by the picture and saying on my January 2012 calendar. The scene is of a ...
Views: 1025 - Are You Passing By the Opportunities That Come Your Way? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseI was recently asked to follow up with three individuals who were provided outplacement services from their former employer to see if they wanted to use the benefit which they had been provided. The benefit consisted of anywhere from 3 to 12 sessions with a private coach to help them in their ...
Views: 1013(1 vote) - What's Your Perspective? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI was recently driving in my car with my wife as a passenger. We came upon a bicyclist riding on the side of the road. He was looking for his share of the road on the same side I was driving. In the past I know that I would have been less sensitive to the cyclist. I would have looked to ...
Views: 1007 - Of Frogs and Princes - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2013 from Anthony CalabresePerhaps you have heard that old fairy tale saying “You have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince?” It came to mind recently as I was working with a client. He is in the process of exploring a new career path. Frankly he knows he would be very good at it because he both has the skills to ...
Views: 1006 - The Impact of Masculine and Feminine Energy Traits in Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the benefits of my profession is that you have the opportunity to be introduced to a good number of different approaches and ideas in terms of making the most out of your life. About two months ago I had one such opportunity at a meeting of New Jersey Professional Coaches Association I ...
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