Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Articles from Oliver JR Cooper | Selfgrowth.com
- The Media: Is The Media Creating Our View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is going on in the world, the media has generally been the source that one has looked to. This has been the case for many, many years. But this has very recently changed and this is primarily due to the fairly introduction of the internet. In the past, the ...
Views: 1671(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People Shut Down Emotionally After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end. It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ...
Views: 1670 - Relationships: Why Do People Who Fear Being Abandoned End Up With People Who Fear Being Smothered? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be times when someone will want to be around others, there will also be times when they want to be by themselves. And as to how long someone will spend in the company of others or in their own company can depend on a number of factors. Human beings are not all the same and ...
Views: 1668 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Bring Out The Best In You? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that we are what we eat and while this is an area that is given a lot of exposure, it is not the only thing that one needs to pay attention to. This is not to say that what one eats is not important or that it should be ignored, what it means is that one needs to pay attention ...
Views: 1666 - Being Present: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEver since Eckhart Tolle’s book ‘The Power Of Now’ came out, being present has consumed the self help industry. And even people who were not into self development came across this book. Interpretation And whether it is a teacher speaking about being present or whether they are talking ...
Views: 1664 - Image Obsessed: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Image Obsessed? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what comes to mind when they think about social media, they might say ‘Selfies’. These are rarely pictures that people just take and then share; they are pictures that are usually altered so that they look right and after this has taken place, they are shared with their ...
Views: 1661 - The Media: Does The Media Create Division? - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often believe that the media is there to simply inform them about what is going on in the world, this is not always the case. Instead, there is often a hidden agenda and what the media focuses on is therefore intended to create a certain reaction. At times, it can be relatively ...
Views: 1661 - Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1659 - Music: Can Music Trigger Grief? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn some shape or form, music has been around for thousands of years and while there are styles around today that weren’t around in the past, it still has the same effect. When it comes to making music today, electrical equipment is often used and this has allowed people to create sounds that ...
Views: 1659 - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperMany words and phrases have been used to describe the true self, and while these differences do exist, they are simply labels. Underneath these labels is the same thing, and this relates to someone’s true needs and wants. The true self has been portrayed as something that is fixed, and based ...
Views: 1658 - Focus: Does What We Focus On Grow? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that what shows up in their personal reality is the result of random factors and that one is nothing more than an observer, they might end up receiving the approval of the majority of people around them. And this is because the western world generally ...
Views: 1656 - Compulsive Behaviour: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Compulsive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges when it comes to acting in ways that are healthy and functional, is something known as compulsive behaviour. This is something that has received wide spread publicity in recent years. When someone behaves in ways that are compulsive, it means that they are not ...
Views: 1654 - Regression: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Regress? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ...
Views: 1654 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Go Back To Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can stay in abusive relationships and have a hard time leaving, other people can leave an abusive relationship, only to return shortly after. And this is often hard to comprehend. Why would anyone return to something that is clearly dysfunctional and even dangerous? The ...
Views: 1654 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Who Always Talk About Tolerance Act Intolerant? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one uses social media, they may have come across people who talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This could be something that has taken place through reading what people write and through looking at the images they have shared. And, if one spends a lot of time online, this have ...
Views: 1653 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1653 - Emotional State: Can We Change How We Feel By Changing Our Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow we behave influence’s how we feel, and the only thing one needs to do to realise this is to change their posture. Many people realise how their body language not only affects how they feel, they also realise how it affects how others feel around them. There is then an inner change in ...
Views: 1652 - Faith: Where Does Faith Come From? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one places their attention on achieving something or just on whether something can be done or not, their mind is going to have plenty to say. It could be fairly subtle in its response or it could end up being overwhelming. So the mind could come up with a few reasons as to why something ...
Views: 1652 - Violence: Can Repression Cause Violence? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to see violence or to hear about violence. The media for instance, is only too happy to inform people of what is taking place at a local level and around the world. And then one can hear second hand accounts of violence that have taken place in another ...
Views: 1648 - Purpose: Is Our Purpose Important? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe purpose that we all have on this earth can change as we change; similarly to how the weather can change. From one moment to the next, what one wants to do and achieve, can alter. And then there are certain dreams and expressions that one has, that never seem to change and always ...
Views: 1647 - Letting Go: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new. What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ...
Views: 1644 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to have a relationship with someone it is important that they are actually available. And although this can seem like a normal and an obvious thing to expect, it is not always the case for some people. For them, it can seem as though it is impossible to attract someone into their ...
Views: 1643 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1642 - Depression: Can Trapped Grief Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a physical problem can stand out, an emotional problem can remain hidden. Yet, even though there can be a difference here, it doesn’t mean that one problem is more important than other. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what kind of pain one is experiencing, what matters is that they seek ...
Views: 1640 - Affirmations: Why Don’t Affirmations Always Work? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many ways out there for one to change what is taking place within them and to therefore see themselves differently. With these changes making it possible for them to feel empowered and to be able to live the life they desire. Now, although change can seem instant at times, it ...
Views: 1638 - Money: Should All The Money In The World Be Divided Equally? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort for one to realise that not everyone on this planet has the same amount of money. Yet this is not the only area in the world where there is a difference – this is one of many. Not everyone is the same height, has the same hair colour or eye colour, for instance. ...
Views: 1638 - Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways. For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ...
Views: 1638 - Boundaries: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to feel safe and when they don’t feel safe, they can end up building walls around themselves. But while one might feel safe though having them, what they won’t be able to do is to embrace life. On the other hand, if one has boundaries they will be able to ...
Views: 1636 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Tracy Holloway - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Tracy Holloway. This is someone who is based in England and is an internationally renowned teacher, inspirational speaker, writer, ...
Views: 1636 - Communication: Is Empathy Important? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are ‘social animals’ and this is because they are interdependent. So while one may see themselves as being an individual, this is not the complete truth. The person they have come to be is the result of the experiences they have had with others and in order ...
Views: 1633 - Crying: Is Having The Ability To Cry Important? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is made up of moments that are pleasurable and moments that are painful, it doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept each side. There are going to be people who do everything they can to embrace pleasure and avoid pain, and, there are going to be others who renounce pleasure and ...
Views: 1633 - Intimacy: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one has the need to experience something, it doesn’t always mean that this need will be fulfilled. And this is something that can be said when it comes to ones need to connect to another person. For some people, intimacy is going to be something that they have always ...
Views: 1632 - Relationships: What Does A Relationship Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is no doubting the importance that relationships have in life. They have the power to create incredible happiness, meaning and fulfilment. And they also have the power to create extreme unhappiness, pain and emptiness. For some people, the good that a relationship brings, outweighs the ...
Views: 1629(3 votes) - Communication: How Can Someone Start A Conversation? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can start a conversation, it doesn’t mean that they find it easy to keep one going. And while some people can keep a conversation going, they might find it hard to start one. There will then be others who have no trouble starting them and keeping them going. However, ...
Views: 1628 - Constructive Criticism: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Constructive Criticism? - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could watch a film and think it’s one of the best films ever, and another could watch the same film and believe it is one of the worst. What this shows is how people have different outlooks, and just because one person likes something, it doesn’t me another person will. Now, this ...
Views: 1627 - Physical Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Physical Pain? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences some kind of physical pain or tension it can be normal to just see it as the body reacting to something and that some kind of external solution is needed to deal with the pain. And this is a natural consequence of seeing the body as separate from the mind and something ...
Views: 1626 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to change their self-image, they might end up using affirmations. This could be because someone else has recommended this approach, or it could be something they have decided upon. However, although one may have decided to use them, it doesn’t mean that they will have ...
Views: 1625 - Belief: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Believe In Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being successful and achieving what one wants to achieve, it is important that one believes in themselves. Without this belief, one is going to find it difficult to achieve anything. So not only will it be impossible for one to thrive, it could also be a real challenge for them ...
Views: 1625 - Emotional States: Do Our Emotional States Control Our Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often talk around the power of one’s thoughts and how these need to be changed in order for one to live a better life. And what this means, is that emotions are often overlooked. This could be due to a number of reasons and one of these reasons is because of the emotional repression ...
Views: 1625 - Relationships: Why Is 'Ghosting' So Common? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperModern day technology has not only had an impact on how relationships begin, it has also had an impact on how they end. In the past, one would have met someone in person and then it would have been possible for them to develop a relationship or something more casual. Nowadays, the first step ...
Views: 1624 - Sensitive: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Be Overly Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are described as being overly sensitive and highly empathic. And while this does lead to many benefits, there are also many challenges that arise from being this way. They can feel like sponges that pick up anything and everything that is going on in an environment. ...
Views: 1624 - Being Seen: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Seen? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that human beings need in order to feel fulfilled and one of those needs is the need to be seen. This doesn’t mean that they have an inherent need to be ‘famous’ though; it simply means that they need to be noticed by others. And while one could be noticed by others due ...
Views: 1623 - Breathing Problems: Can Trapped Grief Cause Breathing Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that our greatest wealth is health, and it doesn’t take much thought to realise why this is. When someone has good health, it will be lot easier for them to live a fulfilling life. If they are not in good health, it is going to be a lot harder for them to enjoy their time on ...
Views: 1623 - Gender Roles: Can Gender Roles Stop People From Growing? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men were seen as being one way and women as being another way. And as time has passed, these differences are no longer as extreme as they used to be. But while some things have changed, in regards to what men and women are like, there is still work to be done. This is ...
Views: 1623 - Our Story: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Story? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOur story is all that we have experienced up until his point, all that we are experiencing at this moment and all that we will experience in the future. And part of what makes up our story is the roles that we play. However, these are roles that might not even seem like roles, they can appear ...
Views: 1622 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in touch with themselves and they feel safe enough to express who they are, there will be no reason for them to put on an act. How they come across on the outside is going to match up with who they are on the inside. Now and Then Or, if they do put on act, it is going to be ...
Views: 1621 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1619 - Sugar Free Culture: Creating the Illusion Of ZERO Consequences - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now different companies have removed sugar from their products and replaced it with other alternate forms of sweeteners. One of the products that are often used is aspartame. This is an artificial sweetener that has been found to be not only unhealthy, but also ...
Views: 1619 - Powerless: Can Trapped Grief Make Someone Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing mental and emotional wellbeing, having a sense of personal power is important. This doesn’t mean that this will allow someone’s life to always go how they want it to go, but what it does mean is that they won’t feel like a victim. They will know that they are ...
Views: 1618 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who can’t love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this ...
Views: 1616