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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1814 - Empathy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A Heightened Sense Of Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their time at school or to a time when they were playing sports, they might remember a moment when someone fell over or injured themselves. Now, as they picture this in their mind, they might see that some people laughed and some people didn’t. One way of looking ...
Views: 1813 - Communication: How Can Someone Start A Conversation? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can start a conversation, it doesn’t mean that they find it easy to keep one going. And while some people can keep a conversation going, they might find it hard to start one. There will then be others who have no trouble starting them and keeping them going. However, ...
Views: 1811 - The Heart: Why Is It Hard To Listen To Our Heart? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the primary focus is on the intelligence and knowledge of the ego mind; the heart is often ignored and dismissed. It’s only in the recent years that it has been considered by the mainstream as anything other than just an organ. So here I will give my current opinion on why ...
Views: 1810 - Constructive Criticism: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Constructive Criticism? - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could watch a film and think it’s one of the best films ever, and another could watch the same film and believe it is one of the worst. What this shows is how people have different outlooks, and just because one person likes something, it doesn’t me another person will. Now, this ...
Views: 1808 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Bring Out The Best In You? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that we are what we eat and while this is an area that is given a lot of exposure, it is not the only thing that one needs to pay attention to. This is not to say that what one eats is not important or that it should be ignored, what it means is that one needs to pay attention ...
Views: 1808 - Relationships: What Does A Relationship Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is no doubting the importance that relationships have in life. They have the power to create incredible happiness, meaning and fulfilment. And they also have the power to create extreme unhappiness, pain and emptiness. For some people, the good that a relationship brings, outweighs the ...
Views: 1808(3 votes) - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage People To Objectify Animals? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that people generally do when they have a social media account (or a number of them), is to share pictures of themselves. This can be something that takes place when one wants to update their profile picture, or it could take place more often. If one only takes pictures of ...
Views: 1807 - Mirroring: Is Mirroring Important To Someone's Development? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is a baby and then a child, they are completely dependent on their parent’s responses to them. Through their caregivers responding, one will be able to have their need for food and nurturing to be met. And this also goes on to include one’s self image and how they view themselves. ...
Views: 1805 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1801 - Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1799 - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1799(1 vote) - Intimacy: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one has the need to experience something, it doesn’t always mean that this need will be fulfilled. And this is something that can be said when it comes to ones need to connect to another person. For some people, intimacy is going to be something that they have always ...
Views: 1798 - Illness: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Illness? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is very little attention given to emotions and feelings in the western world and the role that these play in whether the body is in a place of balance or imbalance. The typical approach is to look at things in isolation and what happens to the body is then a random occurrence. And ...
Views: 1797 - Compulsive Behaviour: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Compulsive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges when it comes to acting in ways that are healthy and functional, is something known as compulsive behaviour. This is something that has received wide spread publicity in recent years. When someone behaves in ways that are compulsive, it means that they are not ...
Views: 1796 - Our Story: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Story? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOur story is all that we have experienced up until his point, all that we are experiencing at this moment and all that we will experience in the future. And part of what makes up our story is the roles that we play. However, these are roles that might not even seem like roles, they can appear ...
Views: 1794 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Intolerance? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the propose of the media is, they may start to think about how it is there to inform people about what is taking place around them and in the world at large. Based on this outlook, it will be normal for them to look towards the media in order to be informed. In ...
Views: 1794 - Powerless: Can Trapped Grief Make Someone Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing mental and emotional wellbeing, having a sense of personal power is important. This doesn’t mean that this will allow someone’s life to always go how they want it to go, but what it does mean is that they won’t feel like a victim. They will know that they are ...
Views: 1791 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Fear Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the desire to in a relationship with a woman, he could end up taking action. This could then be a time when he will go out to different bars and clubs, and he could even join a few dating sites. What this could show is that he has recently broken up with someone, and he now ...
Views: 1791 - Emotional Problems: Why Do Some Men Suffer In Silence When They Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile anyone can suffer from mental and emotional problems, there is a stronger chance that someone will reach out for support if they are woman. What this comes down to is that this is something that affects each sex differently. Times Have Changed As although certain parts of the world ...
Views: 1791 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels safe in their own body it is going to make their life a lot easier. But while this is the ideal, this is not something that everyone on this planet can relate to. If one doesn’t feel safe in their own body it will be normal for them to be walked over and/or for them to ...
Views: 1789 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1789 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to change their self-image, they might end up using affirmations. This could be because someone else has recommended this approach, or it could be something they have decided upon. However, although one may have decided to use them, it doesn’t mean that they will have ...
Views: 1786 - Being Present: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEver since Eckhart Tolle’s book ‘The Power Of Now’ came out, being present has consumed the self help industry. And even people who were not into self development came across this book. Interpretation And whether it is a teacher speaking about being present or whether they are talking ...
Views: 1786 - Purpose: Is Our Purpose Important? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe purpose that we all have on this earth can change as we change; similarly to how the weather can change. From one moment to the next, what one wants to do and achieve, can alter. And then there are certain dreams and expressions that one has, that never seem to change and always ...
Views: 1786 - Relationships: Where Do Women’s Expectations Of Men Come From? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a man is going to be like or what a woman is going to be like, we all have a set of expectations. And although these can be consciously known, they are very often out of one’s conscious awareness. So while a woman may be unaware of what their expectations are of men, they ...
Views: 1785 - Approval: Is It Good Or Bad To Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is addicted to something, they can feel the need to go the other extreme and to cut it out all together. And while this can seem like the right idea, it might not have the desired effect. Another approach would be to cut down on the amount that one has of something; this will ...
Views: 1781 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1781 - Celebrities: Can Feeling Worthless Cause Someone To Be Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, someone could follow a celebrity through watching TV, buying a magazine and/or through reading a paper, for instance. If they were an actor or an actress, they could also watch their films, or if they were a musician, they would also be able to listen to their music. Today’s ...
Views: 1780 - Emotional States: Do Our Emotional States Control Our Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often talk around the power of one’s thoughts and how these need to be changed in order for one to live a better life. And what this means, is that emotions are often overlooked. This could be due to a number of reasons and one of these reasons is because of the emotional repression ...
Views: 1780 - Perfectionism: Can Toxic Shame Cause Perfectionism? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are things that are around today that are seen as being perfect but as time passes, they will be seen as imperfect. And this is how life has always been and something that will continue to take place. What this shows is how life doesn’t stand still and that there is always something ...
Views: 1780 - After Death Communication: Do Some People Try To Contact Their Loved Ones To Avoid Facing Their Grief? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people lose a loved one, they may think that that’s the end of it and that it’s not possible for them to talk to them again. In this case, they will have to rely on their memories and the memories other people have. There are then going to be others to believe this is not the case, ...
Views: 1775 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to have a relationship with someone it is important that they are actually available. And although this can seem like a normal and an obvious thing to expect, it is not always the case for some people. For them, it can seem as though it is impossible to attract someone into their ...
Views: 1773 - Relationships: Where Does A Woman's Idea Of A Man Come From? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the outlook of what men are like, there is clearly not just one idea that a woman can have. And while some have an idea that men are a certain way, others view them in a completely different way. And no matter what this view is, it is one that is going to have massive effect ...
Views: 1772 - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1772 - Relationships: Can Relationships Be Unconditional? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo love without conditions or requirements is often spoken about when it comes to evolved or adult relationships. And then there are also other needs that can come into this, such as; acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, attention and many others. To be loved by another and to have ...
Views: 1771 - Boundaries: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to feel safe and when they don’t feel safe, they can end up building walls around themselves. But while one might feel safe though having them, what they won’t be able to do is to embrace life. On the other hand, if one has boundaries they will be able to ...
Views: 1770 - Corrective Experience: What Is A Corrective Experience? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are likely to be parts of someone’s life that are going to plan, there may be other parts that are not. When something is going the way one wants it to go, it is not going to have the same effect on their life. As it is going well, one might not even think about and it could be ...
Views: 1770 - Siblings: Do Our Siblings Shape Our Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and sees themselves for instance, childhood development is often cited as a primary factor. This will include how ones father and mother treated them during their formative years as a child and a baby and even ones time in the womb. And while the ...
Views: 1770 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can either look into what took place, or they can simply find someone to blame. If they were to look into what happened, it would give them the chance to make a difference. For example, they could see if they have played a part in what took place and if so, ...
Views: 1770 - Positive Thinking: Is Positive Thinking Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has read anything do with self help or come across one of the primary figures in the industry, they will have heard of the term ‘Positive Thinking’. This is nothing new and has been around for many years. In 1952, Norman Vincent Peale published the book - The Power Of Positive ...
Views: 1769 - Posture: Can Trapped Grief Affect Someone's Posture? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has good posture it not only creates a good impression, it also has a positive effect on their health. There is then an external reason and an internal reason for one to pay attention to how they hold themselves. Therefore, if two people had bad posture, their reason for wanting ...
Views: 1768 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Be Careful Who They Let Into Their Life If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case. Interdependent In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food ...
Views: 1768(1 vote) - The Media: Why Does The Media Sexualise Everything? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what one lays their eyes upon in the media, they are going to come across something that has been sexualised. And it won’t matter if what they are looking at has a reason to be that way or not, as it often doesn’t matter. It is no longer a case of spot what has been sexualised, ...
Views: 1768 - Being Seen: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Seen? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that human beings need in order to feel fulfilled and one of those needs is the need to be seen. This doesn’t mean that they have an inherent need to be ‘famous’ though; it simply means that they need to be noticed by others. And while one could be noticed by others due ...
Views: 1767 - Self-Conscious: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Self-Conscious? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the need to increase their level of self-awareness, they might be drawn to some kind of mediation. This would then allow them to develop their ability to observe themselves as opposed to being attached to everything that occurs within them. And as time passes and one continues to ...
Views: 1767 - Self Harm: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Self Harm? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be said to be two ways that one can be harmed in this world. One of these is through external means and what other people do to them. And the other is what one does to themselves. What goes on externally can be noticed and as it is observable to others, they can come to ones ...
Views: 1766 - Belief: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Believe In Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being successful and achieving what one wants to achieve, it is important that one believes in themselves. Without this belief, one is going to find it difficult to achieve anything. So not only will it be impossible for one to thrive, it could also be a real challenge for them ...
Views: 1765 - Gratitude: Is Gratitude Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one does something for another and they are grateful, it is going to create a better impression than if they were ungrateful. This response if likely to endear them to the giver and it could mean that the other person is only too happy to offer their hand in the future. And the same ...
Views: 1765 - Always Right: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They Are Always Right? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in someone’s life where they are right and there are going to be times when they are wrong. If human beings were all-knowing, then this wouldn’t be something that would occur. However, as it is not possible for someone to know everything there is to know, there ...
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