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- Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many ways to communicate with each other and one way for them to do this is to use their voice. But while some people are happy to speak up no matter what is going on, there are others who are unable to do this. This is going to mean that they don’t expedience life in the ...
Views: 1446 - Self Control: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Self Control? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperControl is something that everyone not only wants, but needs to a certain degree. To have no control would make life a real challenge and could make one question their will to live. This doesn’t mean that the control in question here is the control of others. The type of control this relates ...
Views: 1446 - Idealisation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Idealise Others? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people who are in the public eye, there are others who are behind the scenes. One could be in the public eye because of what they do or it could be because they just wanted to be famous. Therefore, it is something that takes place directly or it is something that takes ...
Views: 1445 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Go Off Sex When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore a man has even got to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman, there is a strong chance that they will already be having sex. If this is not the case, it could show that he is religious. Conversely, it could be a sign that he is more traditional and wants to take his ...
Views: 1445 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to be in a relationship with someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who unable to be there for them. If this was something that they could overlook it wouldn’t matter, but as this is not ...
Views: 1445 - Loss: Is Time A Great Healer? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one can experience a loss and it won’t have much of an effect on them, and then there are times when this won’t be the case. And what can define how much of an impact a loss has on them can all depend on their level of emotional attachment. For example, if one had a ...
Views: 1444 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They’re Not Enough For The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile each gender has the same value, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels this way. One can believe that men/women are worth more and this is then going to cause them to feel less than the opposite sex. This could stop one from being able to have an intimate relationship on one side and on ...
Views: 1444 - True Self: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Hide Your True Self? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone comes across is not always in alignment with who they are and while this could be something that happens from time to time, it could be a regular occurrence. This then means that their true self is being covered up from time to time or it is something that always takes place. If ...
Views: 1444 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1443 - Needs: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Put Other People's Needs First? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is a challenge for some people to put their needs first and this is going to mean that they have a pattern of putting the needs of others first. This may mean that one takes care of their needs after, but it could also mean that one’s needs are not met. And while being selfless is often ...
Views: 1442 - The Media: Does The Media Exist To Inform People? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one changed their hairstyle and they wanted to know how it looked, there is a strong chance that they would ask their friends and family. This is primarily because they trust them. They will value their feedback, and while this might not completely define how they feel about their hair, ...
Views: 1442 - Therapy: Should Someone Work With A Therapist For A Long Period Of Time? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one wants to work with a therapist, they can have a number of different questions, and one thing they can want to know is how long it will last. This could come down to the fact that they want to move on with their life, or it could be a sign that they just want to feel better. ...
Views: 1442 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1441 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Listen As Important As Being Able To Talk? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen. However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 1441 - Anger: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked about how people can suffer mentally and emotionally, they could end up talking about depression. This could be because they have suffered from it themselves, or it could be something that one of their friends has experienced. However, there is also the chance that they ...
Views: 1440 - Critical Thinking: Does The “#MeToo” Movement Show How ‘Privileged’ Women Are? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after the allegations were made about Harvey Weinstein, the “#MeToo" hashatag went viral on social media. This gave people the chance to speak out about the sexual assault and harassment that they had experienced in the workplace. In The Beginning It has been said that the ...
Views: 1440 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Lonely? - by Submitted on May 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves. What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ...
Views: 1440 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage People To Label Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one uses social media, it gives them the chance to express themselves in a number of ways. As a result of this, it can be somewhere where they share things from time to time and stay up to date with people, or it can be so much more. In this case, it could be a small part of one’s life ...
Views: 1440 - Disconnected: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Life? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a sports game, they would see that there are players on the field and that there are players on the bench. As a result, it could be said that the people who are playing are going to be a lot happier than the people who are not playing. This is because when one plays a ...
Views: 1439 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Entertainment To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is no longer necessary for one to watch TV or to go to the theatre in order to be entertained; the only thing they need to do is to have some kind of device. This then gives them the chance to watch something no matter where they are. So if one is in a position where they have a ...
Views: 1437 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that even though someone will change physically as time passes, it doesn’t mean they will change emotionally. As a result of this, their emotional age might not match up with their physical age. Expectation If one believes that they will feel different as time passes, it ...
Views: 1436 - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1435 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can be in a position where they are able to express their true-self, and on the other side, they can be in a position where this isn’t the case. At the same time, one could also find that it is possible for them to do this from time to time. But if this is the case, it is ...
Views: 1432 - Social Media: Are Real Relationships Being Replaced By Online Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to use social media, not only could they see what their ‘friends’ have been doing; they could also see what certain celebrities have been doing. What this comes down to is that their news feed is going to be filled with updates from people they now and from people they don’t know. ...
Views: 1432 - Confidence: Why Do Some People Go From Having No Confidence To Being Arrogant? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who appear to always be confident, there are also people who appear to always lack confidence. In this case, it would be easy to come to the conclusion that some people are more resourceful than others. However, although this is how they come across, it is unlikely ...
Views: 1430 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a garden in front of their house that they wanted to protect, it might be a good idea for them to put a fence up. This is not to say that the fence would need to go all the way along, as it would be important for them to have a gate put it too. Through having a gate put in, it ...
Views: 1428 - Depression: Can Toxic Shame Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can feel down from time to time, they can also feel this way on a regular basis. When this is the case, it is going to be a challenge for them to appreciate life, and it may even be a challenge for them to get out of bed in the morning. Another Experience Now, when one feels ...
Views: 1428 - Pranks: Do Pranks Violate People's Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the help of the internet, it doesn’t take long for things to spread rapidly in today’s day and age. When this happens, a video or an article will have gone ‘viral', and what started out being known by only a few people, will soon end up being known by millions of people from all over the ...
Views: 1428 - Self-Sabotage: Do Some People Sabotage Their Life In Order To Stay Loyal To Their Family? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to move forward and achieve success, and then there are others who are unable to do this. And when one experiences life in this way, it could cause them to go down a number of different paths. They could end up looking externally for the answers, and seeing ...
Views: 1427 - Relationships: Can Someone Make Other People Feel Worthless To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be people who one enjoys spending time with, there can be others who they don’t. What this will come down to is that they won’t feel the same around everyone, and this will be the result of how these people behave around them. A Drain When it comes to the people who they ...
Views: 1426 - Success: Are You Doing The Same Thing And Expecting A Different Result? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile ones behaviour is not who they are, it is ultimately what defines them in the eyes of others. For people are not judged by what is going on inside their heads, they are judged by what they do. For example, when one wants to find out what another person is like they observe their ...
Views: 1426 - Relationships: How Can Someone Experience The Desire To Be In A Relationship When They Have Had So Many Bad Experiences? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear. What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ...
Views: 1424 - Celebrities: Why Do Some People Like To Build People Up And Then Tear Them Down? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can be seen as a celebrity, there would have been a time when no one knew who they were. That is unless their parents were already famous, and this would have given them the upper hand. In The Beginning Therefore, if one doesn’t have famous parents, for instance, they ...
Views: 1421 - Communication: Is It A Good Idea To Have Positive Expectations? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to order their favourite meal, and this was at a restaurant that they have been to before, there is a storing chance that they will be looking forward to the moment when this food arrives and eating it. In this example, it could be said that their expectations won’t have much of an ...
Views: 1421 - Indecisive: Can Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Indecisive? - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving forward in life, it is going to be important for someone to be able to make decisions. This doesn’t mean that this will allow them to always make the right decisions, but it will give them the chance to make the right ones. If, on the other hand, they didn’t make any ...
Views: 1421 - The Media: Does The Media Cause Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how people feel, the mainstream media can play a vital role. This is because so many people are plugged into the media and how their views of reality are defined by it. However, it is not just someone’s perception of reality that will be created for them, how they view ...
Views: 1421 - Coaching: Can Someone Use Social Media To Connect With Coaching Clients? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNot only has the internet changed how people communicate with their friends and family, it has also changed how they connect with their clients. In the past, someone may have promoted their business through advertising in a paper and/or a magazine, by giving out business cards and even attending ...
Views: 1420 - Permission: Do We Need Permission In Life? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may have the desire to act in a certain way or to achieve a certain goal, there can be challenges that get in the way. And one of those challenges is the need to gain permission from others. Now, this is not necessarily something that one looks for at a conscious level, it could be ...
Views: 1418 - Anger: Can Someone Use Boxing/Martial Arts To Deal With Their Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of people who suffer from depression, there is also no shortage of people who have anger problems. Still, this is not to say that someone can either have one of the other, as it is unlikely to be this black and white. A Different Experience For example, one could ...
Views: 1416 - Indifferent: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Indifferent? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the opposite of love is hate and, therefore, if one doesn’t love someone, they are going to hate them. This is then going to be something that is black and white, and that will be the end of it. A Closer Look However, if one was to take the time to think about how ...
Views: 1415(1 vote) - Social Media: Do Some People Look Better On Social Media Than In Real Life? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone uses social media, there are a number of things that they can do. For one thing, they can talk to people they know, and this can take place through commenting on something they have shared or by sending them a message. As to what option they take can all depend on how much ...
Views: 1415 - Letting Go: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on. However, this is not something that always takes ...
Views: 1414 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ...
Views: 1414 - Needs: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPart of being human means that one has needs and this is not something that can be changed. It is possible for one to deny that they have needs, but this won’t cause their needs to simply disappear. Ideally, one will be in touch with their needs and it will then be possible for their needs ...
Views: 1413 - Personal Power: Why Do Some People Believe They Have No Effect On Their Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having complete control of one’s environment would be practically impossible, what is possible is for one to have some control over their environment. And in some ways, the more control one has, the more empowered they will feel. Control is often seen as something negative and as ...
Views: 1413 - Relationships: Is It A Waste Of Energy For Someone To Try And Find Out Why Their Relationship Came To An End? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship and it was to come to an end, they might be only too happy that they are able to move on with their life. For a number of weeks or even months, they may have been thinking about how much better their life would be if they were both to go their separate ...
Views: 1413 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given the opportunity to do something, it will be up to them to decide if they want to go along with it. This is not to say that they can’t talk to other people about it; what it means is that they are the only ones who know if it is right for them. One could be in a position ...
Views: 1412 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That People Can't Be Trusted? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ...
Views: 1412 - Hollywood: Is It A Surprise To Hear About How Immoral Hollywood Is? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has paid attention to the news recently, they might be aware of the fact that a certain film producer has been accused of sexually harassing, assaulting, or raping a number of women. Then again, this could be something that they are not even aware of. This could show that they ...
Views: 1411 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Who Have Empathy End Up With People Who Don't Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to empathise with others, they might expect to attract people into their life who are the same. But while they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is what will take place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who are the completely opposite, ...
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