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- Relationships: Where Do Our Relationship Models Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe relationships that each one of us has are being defined by the relationship models that we have. And this can range from the more meaningful and intimate ones, to the ones that are platonic and carry very little meaning. However, although we all have our internal models of what our ...
Views: 1612 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1611 - Entitlement Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had the desire to attain something, they could look into what they need to do in order to get it and then could they take action. Alternatively, they could think about what they want and instead of taking action, they could expect someone to give it to them. It could be said that ...
Views: 1608 - Inner Conflict: Can Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one knows exactly what they want to achieve or to experience, there will be clarity. And as result of this, one will be able to take the steps that they need to take to make their goal a reality. This doesn’t mean that it will be a straight forward process though; as there are likely to ...
Views: 1608 - Self-Made: Is Anyone Self-Made? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one may have only heard the term 'self-made' recently, that doesn't mean it is something that has been created within the past few years. It is a term that has been around for many, many years and the word 'man' is often added at the end. In today's world, it not just something a man ...
Views: 1608 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1605 - Relationships: Can Someone Put An End To Dysfunctional Relationships By Leaving Relationships That Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people on this planet who have relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who have relationships that are the complete opposite. They are then living on the same planet, but the experience they have on this planet is going to be radically different. When ...
Views: 1605 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men/Women? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have moments when they get angry with the opposite sex, there are others who always feel this way. In this case, it could be said that it would be more appropriate to say that they hate them. As a result of this, it might not be possible for them to settle ...
Views: 1605 - Social Media: Do Some People Look Better On Social Media Than In Real Life? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone uses social media, there are a number of things that they can do. For one thing, they can talk to people they know, and this can take place through commenting on something they have shared or by sending them a message. As to what option they take can all depend on how much ...
Views: 1605 - Depression: Can Toxic Shame Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can feel down from time to time, they can also feel this way on a regular basis. When this is the case, it is going to be a challenge for them to appreciate life, and it may even be a challenge for them to get out of bed in the morning. Another Experience Now, when one feels ...
Views: 1604 - Personal Power: What Happens When Someone Rejects Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice that some people are more empowered than others. But while it may appear that empowered people have something empowered people don’t, inherently we all have the same power. The defining factor is that some people are in touch with and connected to this ...
Views: 1604 - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1604 - Relationships: Do You Expect Other People To Accept You Or Reject You? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to talking to people that one’s knows and gets on with, there is not going to be any thought as to whether one will be accepted by them. And this is because at a deeper level they know that the other person accepts them. So unless there is so kind of tension or something ...
Views: 1603 - Relationships: Has Internet Dating Caused Some People To Believe That They Can Find The ‘Perfect’ Partner? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s word, one no longer needs to be around people in order to find someone to be in a relationship with, and this is because of the internet. The internet has changed the world in more ways than one, and one of the ways it has changed the world is through allowing people to find a partner ...
Views: 1603 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Attract People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance. As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this ...
Views: 1602 - Disconnected: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Life? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a sports game, they would see that there are players on the field and that there are players on the bench. As a result, it could be said that the people who are playing are going to be a lot happier than the people who are not playing. This is because when one plays a ...
Views: 1601 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given the opportunity to do something, it will be up to them to decide if they want to go along with it. This is not to say that they can’t talk to other people about it; what it means is that they are the only ones who know if it is right for them. One could be in a position ...
Views: 1600 - Interpretations: Do Our Interpretations Define How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can be said about human beings is that we all want to feel good. This need is something that can enhance one’s life, and at the same time, it can also create problems. It can cause someone to grow and to evolve, and it can also cause them to stay stuck or to regress. For ...
Views: 1598 - The Will To Live: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Having The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had their eye on a new car and they were to take it for a drive, they are likely to find out that it drives well. Along with how it drives, it is also likely to be a comfortable experience. So if they are currently driving a car that is on its way out, this experience is going to be ...
Views: 1598 - Altruism: Is Altruism An Illusion? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one went into a populated area and started to observe other people’s behaviour, they may start to see that not everyone has the same focus. There may be some people who are only concerned with their own well-being, and there could be others who are also concerned about the well-being of the ...
Views: 1597 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to be in a relationship with someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who unable to be there for them. If this was something that they could overlook it wouldn’t matter, but as this is not ...
Views: 1597 - Celebrities: Why Do Some People Like To Build People Up And Then Tear Them Down? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can be seen as a celebrity, there would have been a time when no one knew who they were. That is unless their parents were already famous, and this would have given them the upper hand. In The Beginning Therefore, if one doesn’t have famous parents, for instance, they ...
Views: 1595 - Human Doings: Does Toxic Shame Turn People Into Human Doings? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf an alien came to planet earth and asked someone who they are, one is likely to say that they’re a human being. But without needing an alien to land on the earth, this is the description that one could use. However, although one is a human being, it doesn’t mean that one acts like one. ...
Views: 1594 - Sexualized Emotions: Can Someone Sexualize Their Own Emotions? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, someone can mistake thirst for hunger, and there are a number of reasons as to why this tales place. As a result of this, one can end up eating when they are not even hungry. The Outcome If one finds it easy to gain weight, and this was to happen on a regular basis, they ...
Views: 1593 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Healing Our Emotional Body? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one needs to do to get into physical shape or what they need to eat in order to be healthy, there is plenty of advice available. In fact, it is not so much about getting the advice that is the problem, nowadays, it is often more about what advice to follow and what advice ...
Views: 1591 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Abuse? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable with relationships that are healthy and functional, there are other people who feel comfortable with relationships that are unhealthy and dysfunctional. There are going to be people who have relationships that are unhealthy and they are aware of this. And ...
Views: 1591 - Sex: Do Some People Have Sex To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent history, the general attitude towards sex has changed and it has almost gone from one extreme to the other. So a more liberal approach has appeared and this is often how life works. This can be seen at a more personal level and further out, to include what is happening in the ...
Views: 1591 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a house or owns a piece of land, they’re going to know how important it is to have a fence or some kind of sign to mark where their property begins and where it ends. So not only will this let other people know where they shouldn’t go without permission, there will also be a ...
Views: 1590 - Social Media: Are Real Relationships Being Replaced By Online Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to use social media, not only could they see what their ‘friends’ have been doing; they could also see what certain celebrities have been doing. What this comes down to is that their news feed is going to be filled with updates from people they now and from people they don’t know. ...
Views: 1590 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That People Can't Be Trusted? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ...
Views: 1588 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for one to hear about how they shouldn’t be a people pleaser. This may have been something one has come through reading books on self development, or they may have heard about it after reading articles online, for instance. But if this wasn’t the case, it ...
Views: 1587 - Communication: Is It A Good Idea To Have Positive Expectations? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to order their favourite meal, and this was at a restaurant that they have been to before, there is a storing chance that they will be looking forward to the moment when this food arrives and eating it. In this example, it could be said that their expectations won’t have much of an ...
Views: 1586 - “I Knew That Everything Would Be OK!" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter my father had been moved to a closer hospital, towards the end of 2011, we were pleased that it would be a lot easier to visit him. Even so, this was a time when he was on a life support machine, so it wasn’t as if we could have a conversation with him. There were times when I would ...
Views: 1586 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Only Have Casual Sex? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men, casual sex is something that they will engage in from time to time, while there are others who only have casual sex. When it comes to the former, this could be something that takes place after a man has just been in a relationship. Going with another woman, more or less ...
Views: 1585 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Listen As Important As Being Able To Talk? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen. However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 1583 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1582 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that even though someone will change physically as time passes, it doesn’t mean they will change emotionally. As a result of this, their emotional age might not match up with their physical age. Expectation If one believes that they will feel different as time passes, it ...
Views: 1581 - Self Talk: How Do You Talk To Yourself? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night. But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ...
Views: 1580 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many ways to communicate with each other and one way for them to do this is to use their voice. But while some people are happy to speak up no matter what is going on, there are others who are unable to do this. This is going to mean that they don’t expedience life in the ...
Views: 1579 - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1577 - Relationships: Do You Push People Away When They Trigger Your Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings. The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ...
Views: 1577 - Pranks: Do Pranks Violate People's Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the help of the internet, it doesn’t take long for things to spread rapidly in today’s day and age. When this happens, a video or an article will have gone ‘viral', and what started out being known by only a few people, will soon end up being known by millions of people from all over the ...
Views: 1576 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Hide? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there are said to be people who like to spend a lot of time around others, and on the other side, there are said to be people who don’t. Another way of looking at this would be to say that there are introverts and extroverts. But while some people will see themselves in this ...
Views: 1575 - Coaching: Can Someone Use Social Media To Connect With Coaching Clients? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNot only has the internet changed how people communicate with their friends and family, it has also changed how they connect with their clients. In the past, someone may have promoted their business through advertising in a paper and/or a magazine, by giving out business cards and even attending ...
Views: 1575 - Success: Are You Doing The Same Thing And Expecting A Different Result? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile ones behaviour is not who they are, it is ultimately what defines them in the eyes of others. For people are not judged by what is going on inside their heads, they are judged by what they do. For example, when one wants to find out what another person is like they observe their ...
Views: 1575 - Relationships: Can Someone Make Other People Feel Worthless To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be people who one enjoys spending time with, there can be others who they don’t. What this will come down to is that they won’t feel the same around everyone, and this will be the result of how these people behave around them. A Drain When it comes to the people who they ...
Views: 1574 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive To Another Person’s Self-Disclosure An Important Part Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels close to someone, there are likely to be a number of reasons why. One may know what these reasons are, or it may take them a while to realise why they feel the way they do. The connection they feel with the other person is likely to have built up over time. This is not to say ...
Views: 1574 - Confidence: Why Do Some People Go From Having No Confidence To Being Arrogant? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who appear to always be confident, there are also people who appear to always lack confidence. In this case, it would be easy to come to the conclusion that some people are more resourceful than others. However, although this is how they come across, it is unlikely ...
Views: 1573 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Think That They Always Know Best? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments when one is in a position where they do know what is best, there are also going to be moments when this is not the case. It could be said that this is simply part of being human. If, on the other hand, one was perfect, then there would be no reason for them to have ...
Views: 1573 - True Self: Is Pain Part Of Realising The True Self? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the true self is mentioned, pain if often not too far behind. There are also many other terms that are mentioned in regards to finding the true self and two of these are: the dark night of the soul and an existential crises. Here ones goes through an experience or a number experiences ...
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