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- Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alternate Between ‘Bad Boys’ And ‘Nice Guys’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren’t. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different. The Norm Still, when it comes to what a woman’s ...
Views: 997(1 vote) - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Need To Be Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperBehind the desire to achieve and to have more can be the need for someone to fulfil their own wants and needs. And other people are also going to provide inspiration. No one is their own island and it is only natural that other people are going to play a part in what one does or doesn’t do ...
Views: 14345(1 vote) - Speaking Up: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Some People From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to share their views on something, they might not have a problem speaking out. Also, if another person was to do something that they disagreed with, they could also be happy to speak up. What this can illustrate is that this is someone who doesn’t have any trouble ...
Views: 571(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Control How Some People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone does something or not can all depend on how they feel, and this shows how powerful their feelings are. There are going to be people who are defined by how they feel, and then there are going to be others who are able to take a step back. A Slave When someone’s behaviour is ...
Views: 1029(1 vote) - The Media: Is It Important For Someone To Be Sceptical When It Comes To The Mainstream Media? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to read a newspaper or to watch a news station, they might keep a mental distance (psychological distance) from what they are exposed to. Said another way, they won’t let what they hear to go straight into their mind. Through being this way, they will be able to take a deeper ...
Views: 556(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the mainstream media has spoken a lot about mental health. What this has done is created greater awareness around this important topic; something that might not have occurred otherwise. There are at least two ways that this source has played a part. Firstly, it has spoken ...
Views: 819(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Behaving Like A Petulant Child When It Comes To The Presidential Election Result? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNow that the presidential election has ended, it has given people the opportunity to focus on something else. Therefore, if someone was caught up with what was taking place; their life may have gone back to how it was. Alternatively, the whole experience may have had a big effect on them, ...
Views: 1274(1 vote) - True-Self: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Expressing Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about a time when they were able to be themselves, they could say that it was possible for them to express their true-self. Whereas as if they were to think about a time in their life when they were unable to be themselves, they could say that this was a time when their ...
Views: 1058(1 vote) - Ungrounded: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Feel Ungrounded? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a ...
Views: 2611(1 vote) - Victim Mentality: Is There A Benefit To Being A Victim? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life. However, if they were to ...
Views: 2243(1 vote) - Abusive Parents: Why Do Some Parents Abuse Their Children? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of ...
Views: 2887(3 votes) - Relationships: What Does A Relationship Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is no doubting the importance that relationships have in life. They have the power to create incredible happiness, meaning and fulfilment. And they also have the power to create extreme unhappiness, pain and emptiness. For some people, the good that a relationship brings, outweighs the ...
Views: 1776(3 votes) - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 2053(2 votes) - Boundaries: How Can People React When Someone Starts To Say 'No'? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is relatively easy to say ‘yes’, the same can’t be said when it comes to saying ‘no’. In fact, there are going to be plenty of people who are unable to say ‘no’, and it could then be said that it doesn’t mean much when they say ‘yes’. What this emphasises is how important it is for ...
Views: 1495(2 votes) - Communication: How Do You Make People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this ...
Views: 1980(2 votes) - Intimacy: What Does Intimacy Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be general meanings to words, there can also be personal meanings to words and intimacy is no different in this respect. Intimacy is generally described as what occurs when one person is close to another. And although one can be close to friend's, family or colleagues for ...
Views: 2316(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away When Things Get Serious? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman first get together it can be going along nicely and as soon as things start to become a little more serious, a man can begin to pull away. This is naturally going to be confusing for the woman and may make no sense whatsoever. And it can depend on how connected the ...
Views: 7996(2 votes) - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Find The True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. ...
Views: 2031(2 votes) - Abandonment: Why Do Some People Fear Abandonment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe fear of abandonment can affect someone's life in many different ways. There is the internal experience and the external experience. And this doesn't mean that abandonment actually has to occur, in order for one to feel abandoned. As a result of the power and the imagination that the mind ...
Views: 2597(3 votes) - Being Selfish: Is It Bad Thing? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word selfish has all kind of associations, however I’m sure one of the images that comes to mind for most of us, is of the person who only thinks about themselves and is extremely self centred. This person only seems to think about what is in it for them and how it will benefit their own ...
Views: 7867(1 vote) - Defence Mechanism: Reaction Formation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe ego mind uses defence mechanism for protection and to ensure its own survival. There are many of these available and this will often depend on two factors. This can be: the type of experience that one has and how one interprets the experience. Reaction formation is a way for the mind to ...
Views: 2696(1 vote) - Emotional Collapse: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be In An Emotionally Collapsed State? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s emotional self should support them, giving them the strength that they need to handle life, this might not take place. Instead, this part of them could do the complete opposite. Therefore, if they were able to take a step back and to reflect, they may find that, in general, ...
Views: 533(1 vote) - Friends: My Interpretation Of What They Are - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life. While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes ...
Views: 2249(2 votes) - Happiness: Are Some People Happy Being Unhappy? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently reflected on my own tendency to have felt happy only when I felt unhappy. And I sensed that, even when everything was going fine and I could see that I was achieving my goals, there was often a sense of unhappiness within me. By observing my own emotional and cognitive ...
Views: 2471(1 vote) - How Can You Tell If A Tarot Reader Is Psychic? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had had a number of readings, I started to think about how it was possible for someone to predict what would happen to me as time went by. I wondered if certain things would only happen because I had ended up believing that they would happen. If this was the case, it was as though a ...
Views: 1293(1 vote) - I Can’t Live Without You! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago, I heard someone say that they couldn’t live without their partner. Now, this wasn’t because this person was disabled and therefore, needed this person in order to be able to handle life. No, this was someone who was perfectly capable of handling life by themselves. ...
Views: 768(1 vote) - Intimacy: Can Emotional Repression Sabotage Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the need to experience intimacy is one of the strongest needs that someone can have, it doesn’t mean that this is a need that will always be fulfilled. For some people in the world, intimacy will be part of life and something that is simply taken for granted. And as long as they can ...
Views: 2002(2 votes) - Letting Go: What Does Letting Go Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living life in the present moment and being free from attachments to the past and to specific outcomes in the future; letting go is often spoken about as the ideal. And through letting go, one can then allow life to flow. Also, as a result of this, a lot of the stress that can ...
Views: 2040(1 vote) - Reality: Are We The Victims Of Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I mean by this, is are we actually having an effect on our reality or environment or are we just bystanders in life, watching as situations and circumstances just ‘randomly’ happen, without us having any influence or control. Without even looking at whether this perception is right or ...
Views: 3061(2 votes) - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Defining Who You Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between. And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn’t ...
Views: 1522(2 votes) - Relationships: Is Your Emotional State Controlled By Other People's Moods? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs to whether or not it is a good idea for someone to go along with another person’s emotional state can all depend on what state they are in. If this person is happy, embracing the same state is likely to have a positive effect on ones wellbeing. On the other hand, if this person is angry ...
Views: 605(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has just gone through a break up, they may find that it is hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. Due to how much pain they are in, everything else could fade into the background. Perhaps they were with someone for a long time and they may have even had a strong ...
Views: 756(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unattractive When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of ...
Views: 2324(2 votes) - Social Media: Are Some People More Concerned With Looking Good Than Doing Good? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, if someone wanted to be seen as a good person, they would have had to behave in a certain way. This is down to the fact that their behaviour would have been what defined them. As a result of this, it wouldn’t have been enough for them to say the right things; they wouldn’t have ...
Views: 1096(1 vote) - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop People From Having The Ability To Delay Gratification? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there is instant gratification and, on the other hand, there is delayed gratification. When it comes to the former, one way of looking at it would be to say that this is something that comes from the child part of them. The reason for this is what when one was younger, they ...
Views: 1094(1 vote) - Social Media: Is Social Media Creating Your View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLong before the internet was available; people could watch TV, listen to the radio or read a paper in order to find out what was taking place around them. As a result of this, people were able to find out about things that they wouldn’t have known about before these options were available. ...
Views: 1740(1 vote) - Trust: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperBeing able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ...
Views: 5252(1 vote) - Verbally Abusive Mothers: What Can Happen When Someone Is Verbally Abused By Their Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete ...
Views: 1967(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people think of a relationship, they often think about not only receiving, but also giving. These two parts come together to form a relationship and while it is not always possible to give and receive in each moment, this doesn’t mean that one of these aspects will then be ignored ...
Views: 6056(3 votes) - Relationships: Is Looking Good Enough To Attract The Perfect Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about having a relationship, it is often their priority to find the perfect partner. And this can be someone who has qualities and features that are relatively easy to find and go on to include what could be seen by some as, impossible to find. It could be that one has ...
Views: 1485(2 votes) - Letting Go Of The Fear Of Being Seen Won’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, after being on the path of self-discovery for a little while, is that they have a fear of being seen. This is not to say that they will isolate themselves from others and never leave their home. No, what it is likely to mean is that they will spend time around others ...
Views: 880(1 vote) - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Be Controlling? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts to spend time with another person, they might not even think about trying to control what they can or can’t do. In fact, this could be the last thing that is on their mind. What could primarily interest them is getting to know the other person and enjoying the time that ...
Views: 778(1 vote) - Relationships: Do You Always Blame Other People For Your Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed. Conflict Conflict is then ...
Views: 1520(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 2086(2 votes) - Relationships: Can We Ever Truly Know Anyone? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThroughout one’s life, they are naturally going to meet people they feel close to and people they don’t. And the people who they don’t feel close to are going to be in the majority. Special connections are going to be rare and this is because one won’t meet people like this all of the time. ...
Views: 1905(1 vote) - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Abandon Yourself? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs one is a human being, it will mean that they have their own needs to fulfil. If this wasn’t the case, they could go along with what other people are doing and it wouldn’t be a problem. One wouldn’t end up feeling frustrated and as though they were on the wrong track; as it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 1466(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Give Unsolicited Advice? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to learn about something, they could read a book or search the internet. Along with this, they could also end up signing up for some kind of course online or in the real world. It could be said that this is something that will all depend on what it is that they want to learn ...
Views: 1503(1 vote) - Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay In The Background If They Had A Verbally Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch a film, they might soon find that there is the main actor and then there are a number of supporting actors. Once the film has come to an end, what may stand out, if they were to reflect on their own life, is that they have a lot in common with a supporting actor. The ...
Views: 238 - Child Abuse: Would An Abusive Parent Fall Apart If They Acknowledged How Abusive They Were? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will ...
Views: 254 - Child Abuse: Would An Abusive Parent Fall Apart If They Acknowledged How Abusive They Were? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will ...
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