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- Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Inadequate Around People Who Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around the people in their life, they may find that they generally feel good about themselves. And through feeling this way when they are around them, it is likely to mean that they will feel good when their time together comes to an end. Another Outcome Yet, if this ...
Views: 1007 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Presidents/Prime Ministers Have Personality Disorders? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the recent presidential election, the mainstream media portrayed one candidate as being good and the other as being bad. And up until a new president was announced, there were a number of people who thought that America would have a female president for the first time. For some people, ...
Views: 1006 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Do Some People Disconnect From Their Emotions When They Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone will be in tune with how they feel when they are around others; the reason being that it will allow them to function as a whole human being. Through being aware of how they feel, they will be able to connect to how other people feel and to connect to their own emotional ...
Views: 1006 - Critical Thinking: Was George Orwell A Prophet? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, George Orwell or 1984 is often mentioned when it comes to what is taking place in the world. The reason for this is that today’s world is becoming more oppressive as time goes by. In the book, he goes into great detail to illustrate what it is like to live under a totalitarian ...
Views: 1004 - Critical Thinking: Will The Drug Industry Love Danny Rose For Talking About His Depression? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, an English professional footballer opened up about his battle with depression, and this ended up being big news in England. This was partly because he is a well-known footballer and partly because of what he spoke about. He said that there were three main reasons why he ended up in ...
Views: 1004 - Critical Thinking: Are Young Men Being Conditioned To Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, it has been said that there are plenty young men that are suffering from motivational problems. Unlike a lot of young women, these young men don’t have a lot of drive. But, as so much attention had been placed on young girls, this is an issue that has largely been ...
Views: 1003 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Expect Their Partner To Meet All Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a few hundred people were asked about what the purpose of an intimate relationship is, there is likely to be more than one answer. For some people, being in an intimate relationship could be a way for them to fulfil their basic needs, to have someone to share their life, and to grow. When ...
Views: 1001 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alternate Between ‘Bad Boys’ And ‘Nice Guys’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren’t. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different. The Norm Still, when it comes to what a woman’s ...
Views: 1001(1 vote) - “My Life Had No Meaning!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember lying in bed as a child feeling overwhelmed by my emotions and wanting my life to end. This wasn’t a one-off, though; as this was something I went through on numerous occasions. I had a father, mother, and a sister, but I felt as though I was all by myself; that’s not to say that ...
Views: 998 - “Don’t Just Be Another Brick In The Wall!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2003, I went to a number of different countries, and one of the countries that I visited was Australia. But while I was going to another country, it wouldn’t be completely accurate to say that I was going on holiday. The reason I was going away was to mark the first ...
Views: 998 - Critical Thinking: Can Religion Cause Someone To Have A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an elevated view of themselves, it can be normal for other people to see them as deluded. This person is simply going to be another human being, but they will create the impression that they are different. It can be as though they are from another planet, with this being ...
Views: 997 - Energy Vampires: Is Someone An Energy Vampire If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is offended about something, and this can take place in the real world and online. If someone was to come from a culture where this rarely takes place, they might be drawn in. But, if they live somewhere where this is has become the ...
Views: 997 - “The Individual Has Always Had To Struggle To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By The Tribe” - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, I heard the following quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning ...
Views: 997 - “This Guy Gets To The Root Of The Issue!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article, I mentioned someone who I met after I helped a friend move house. This was someone called Wain, and since our paths crossed in the middle of 2015, a number of thought-provoking conversations have been had. It doesn’t end there, though, as what I think about after we ...
Views: 997 - Free Speech: Has The Term 'Hate Speech' Been Created To Silence People? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to share their thoughts about ‘hate speech’, they might have a number of things to say. Firstly, they could say that it has no place in today’s world, which is why it is a good thing that it is banned. The Main Benefit On top of this, they could say that it will be a ...
Views: 995 - Relationships: What Is The Difference Between A Man Who Hates Women And A Man Who Hates Men? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might not surprise someone is that some men hate women, yet what might surprise them is that there are some men who hate men. It might be hard for them to accept this, especially as they are men themselves. A Different Response Then again, this might be something that they are only ...
Views: 995 - Suicidal Thoughts: Why Do Some People Have Suicidal Thoughts? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are committing suicide. This may show that it is more common than before or it may show that this is something that is receiving more exposure than before. It has also been said that more men commit suicide than women, but ...
Views: 995 - Forgive Them For They Know Not What They Do! - by Submitted on May 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring my early years when I was being hit, put down and neglected, I didn’t know what was going on. The people who had brought me into the world were not behaving in a way that showed me I could trust them; they were behaving in a way that showed me I couldn’t trust them. This was not ...
Views: 994 - Empathy Is No Better Than Anger! - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was at a bar the other night there was a scuffle; fortunately, no one was injured. I thought that this is what can happen when some people get drunk, they lose all self-control. Instead of being able to think about what they are doing and the consequences that may arise, they end ...
Views: 994 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Observe Their Mind If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s time at school, they are likely to have noticed that not everyone responded in the same way when it came to being told off by a teacher. There may have been people who just generally shrugged when this happened, while there may have been others who typically lost control. A Clear ...
Views: 991 - Communication: Is It Important To Have A Positive Energy? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a bad smell can cause someone to leave a room, a bad energy can also cause them to do the same thing. But, while a bad smell can be something that will typically register at a conscious level for someone, their conscious mind might not typically be aware of when they are ...
Views: 991 - “You Shouldn’t Have Asked!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn early 2000, I started to learn a martial art, and for a little while before this I had thought about doing something. What had a played part here was that I had been watching films with Jean-Claude Van Damme in. And while I ended up learning a different marital art to the one I had in ...
Views: 991 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Bad Idea For Someone To Check Their Smartphone When They Wake Up? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have a very strong attachment to their Smartphone; so close in fact, that it can be practically another part of them. It won’t be physically connected to their body, but it can be as though it is. A Number of Benefits Yet, as there is so much ...
Views: 990 - Image-Obsessed: Can Someone Try To Look Perfect When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman wanted to change her appearance in the past, she may have had a boob job. Nowadays, this is just one of a number of procedures that a woman can have to change how she looks. Plenty of Options If she isn’t happy with her weight, she could have fat removed, and this will mean ...
Views: 990 - “Neurosis Is Always A Substitute For Legitimate Suffering” - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term ‘legitimate suffering’, it might not make any sense to them. But, if they were to hear the word ‘neurosis’, they might have a rough idea about what it means. This could be seen as a normal part of living in a society that encourages the avoidance of pain and ...
Views: 990 - Critical Thinking: Is The Establishment Only Interested In Silencing Dissenters? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, three public figures tried to enter the UK, only to end up behind bars for a few days. These people were seen as a threat due to the views that they had, and this meant that they had to go somewhere else once they were released. An Odd Scenario If this is taken at ...
Views: 989 - Femininity: Why Do Some Women Criticise Women Who Act Feminine? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are men who are more feminine than masculine, there are also women who are more masculine than feminine. Now, if someone believes that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine, it can be hard for them to understand why this is ...
Views: 989 - Free Speech: Does The Attack On Free Speech Show How Feminized The Western World Has Become? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men are a physical expression of the masculine and women are a physical expression of the feminine, it doesn’t mean that each sex only has masculine or feminine traits within them. Now, this is not to say that each person on this planet is made up of half of one side and half of the ...
Views: 989 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Try To Create The Perfect Body When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their life, they may find that they have the need to be perfect in every area of it, or this might only apply to one area. When this is something that applies to all areas of their life, they are likely to experience a lot of pressure. But when it doesn’t, they ...
Views: 989 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Injustice Collectors? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear about people who have experiences each day where they feel taken advantage of or harmed in some way. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to feel oppressed and/or victimised, along with feeling offended. And, it might not matter if they are ...
Views: 987 - Makeup And The False-Self - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I saw a picture of a woman’s face on social media and this picture had received a fair amount ‘likes’. That wasn’t it though, as she had received a number of positive comments. One of these comments went into how good she looked and there were others that went even further, ...
Views: 987 - Critical Thinking: Was Everything Fine Before Trump Became President? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue to Trump’s visit to England, he has received more media coverage than usual, and this has also meant that certain people have spent more time talking about him than they usually would. It is as though some people can’t stop thinking about Trump; their whole life appears to revolve around ...
Views: 986 - Relationships: Can Someone's Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause a relationship to come to an end, and some of these things receive more exposure in the public eye than others. For example, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who had an abusive partner and how this caused their relationship to come to an end. ...
Views: 985 - Self-Development: Can Someone Get Into Self-Development To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be aware of why they are doing something, they can also be completely out of touch with this reason. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Two Levels One can have a clear idea as to why they want to do something, and this ...
Views: 985 - The World Needs More Love! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day I saw a paper bag that said something like, ‘the world needs more love.’ This is something that is hard to deny, considering how much suffering and destruction there is. One only needs to watch the news or to pick up a paper to hear about something negative that ...
Views: 985 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Feel Loved When They Act Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s self-image, there is the chance that it is having a positive effect on their life. How they see themselves is then going to allow them to feel good about themselves and to fulfil their needs. Two Parts What this shows is how much of an effect one’s view of ...
Views: 985 - Self-Worth: How Can People Who Are Attractive Act Confident Even Though They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their inherent value, it is going to be a lot easier for them to act in a confident manner. For one thing, they are not going to feel as though they have anything to hide. The Truth Deep down, they will realise that who they are is enough, and this will allow ...
Views: 984 - True-Self: Is It Harder For Someone To Express Their True-Self When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to fulfil their needs, they will need to be in touch with them. But that’s not to say that this is all there is to it, as one will also need to feel as though it is safe enough for them to fulfil them. The Two Levels It could be said that, as a human ...
Views: 983 - Putting People On A Pedestal Stops Us From Growing - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other day about how much of an obsession there is with celebrities in today’s world. Actors, sports stars, singers, and even people who have been on reality TV are often seen as gods/goddesses. On the surface, it can seem as though most people in the west are not very ...
Views: 981 - Self-Worth: Does Someone Need To Develop Self-Worth If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, there are a number of things that can play a part. And one thing that will have a big effect on how they behave is how they feel about themselves. Three Options There are going to be people who generally feel good, others who don’t, and those who ...
Views: 981 - People Pleasing: Is Someone More Likely To Please Others If They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, there are going to be at last two things that will need to be in place. On the one hand, they will need to be aware of their needs, and on the other; they will need to feel safe enough to fulfil them. From here, one will have the ability to ...
Views: 980 - Positive Thinking: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Being Positive? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was given the option of experiencing extreme joy or extreme sadness, there is the chance that they would go for the former. It feels good to feel good; whereas it feels bad to feel bad. Based on this, it could be said that it is easy to see why someone would want to feel good all ...
Views: 980 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can see the opposite sex as being one way, or they can see them as being another way. A very black and white way of looking at this would be to say that they can see them in a positive light or they can see them in a negative light. However, regardless of what view they ...
Views: 980 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place. Instead, what will happen is that one of them ...
Views: 980 - Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Is Popular To Be Lonely? - by Submitted on May 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I watched a short video about someone who lived a very lonely existence even though they were extremely popular. On the outside, they looked happy and as though they were connected to life, but when they were by themselves, they felt unhappy and disconnected. The image that ...
Views: 979 - Don't Do Anything For Recognition! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a month ago, I had a call from a publisher that was trying to sell me some kind of publishing package. This was a publisher that had contacted me a number of times in the past and, each time this took place, I made it clear that I was not willing to go down this route. After I spoke ...
Views: 978 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Adult Relationships Reflect What Took Place During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the inclination to end up in relationships that are not very fulfilling or are even abusive, it can be normal for them to experience pain. Also, as a result of what keeps taking place, they can come to see themselves as unlucky. This area of their life is then going to be ...
Views: 978 - “I Don’t Care If Your Father Is In Hospital!” - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I have said in a previous article, my father had to go into hospital in the middle of 2011, and this was a time when I was under a lot of stress. My mother had had a stroke the previous year and soon my life would change once again. During the time that my father was in hospital, I would ...
Views: 978 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are going to be moments in someone’s life when they will need to be serious, they won’t need to behave in this way all the time. Along with this, one will need to be easy going at times, and at other times, they will need to be firm. Multifaceted Ultimately, how one will ...
Views: 976 - We Are All On Our Own Path! - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was talking to someone the other day who was finding it hard to get through to another person in their life. They could see that this person was unable to make progress in an area of their life and this caused them to offer their advice. But while it was their intention to assist them, ...
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