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- Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother Have Hated Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his early years, he might see that his mother often treated him like he was nothing. So, he might have frequently been criticised, humiliated, hit, rejected, and even left by her. Now, if he were to imagine that he has a child, assuming that he ...
Views: 174 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Try To Rescue His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could do a lot for his mother, and he may have been this way for many years. He is then going to be more like her parent than her son, which will mean that he is out of balance. However, no matter what he does for her, he could end up doing even more if she becomes ill and ...
Views: 64 - Mother Wounds: Why Would An Abusive Mother Have Had A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could wonder, if they had a mother who was typically not very nurturing, is why she even had a child or perhaps children. But, based on how she generally behaved, this is to be expected. If she had generally been nurturing and supportive, there would be no reason for ...
Views: 207 - Mother Wounds: Will A Man Unconsciously Project The Mother That He Had Into Women? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man meets a woman, it might not be long until he develops a view of her. After this, he can believe that the view that he has formed of her is a reflection of what she is like. However, although this can be the case, what if what is going on for him has had an effect on how he ...
Views: 206 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Be Abandoning His Mother If He Broke Away? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will just be able to change his life. The reason for this is that part of him can have the need to behave in the same way. This part of him can be far stronger than the part of him that wants to experience ...
Views: 11 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Please His Father? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself in the process, it could be said that this illustrates that he has a strong need to please her. After all, she is going to be the person who he is doing so much for. Based on this, if he ...
Views: 254 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, he may need to start putting himself first. Along with this, he may need to talk to his mother about what is going on. Nonetheless, if he were to talk to her about how he is neglecting himself and no longer wants to do ...
Views: 156 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Die If He separated From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that a man can only have one life; he can’t have two or more lives. Therefore, if he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, it is naturally going to have a negative impact on his ability to have a life that is fulfilling. In fact, due to how caught up he is in his ...
Views: 211 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Healthy Sense of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a mother-enmeshed man will probably need to do is to get back in touch with all of his needs. The other part of this is that he will need to realise that his needs are not bad and that they are important. Currently, he can be in a position where he is not even aware of most of ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Relationship With Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a relationship with his mother, if this could be called a relationship, he won’t have much of a relationship with himself. This means that he won’t be aware of most of his needs and is unlikely to value who he is. He will spend a lot of time in his head and being ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Drop His Nice Guy Mask? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he focuses on his mother’s needs and neglects most of his own, he is unlikely to have a strong connection with his own feelings. What this comes down to is that he will probably be out of touch with his own body, which is where most of his needs and feelings will ...
Views: 308 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Neglecting Himself? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could find strange, if they were to spend a fair amount of time around a mother-enmeshed man, is that he is not aware that he is neglecting himself. So, they might have asked him why he is not taking care of a number of his needs and he might have dismissed what they ...
Views: 291 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Castrated? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, what could soon stand out is that he neglects himself and doesn’t stand his ground. So, it will be as though he doesn’t have needs or have the ability to protect himself. But, although ignoring his own needs and ...
Views: 302 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unconsciously Trying To Fulfil His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTo the outside observer, it can make no sense whatsoever as to why a man would neglect his own life and focus on his mother’s life. Clearly, by behaving in this way, he won’t be able to meet most of his needs. For him to do this, he will need to take a step back from his mother and spend ...
Views: 350 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is It A Positive Sign If A Mother-Enmeshed Man Starts To Get Angry About His Life? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for a woman to understand, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, why her partner is so focused on his mother. This might not have stood out in the beginning, but as time passed, it will have become crystal clear. There will ...
Views: 287 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Facing Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he is neglecting himself but he is unable to accept this, it is not going to be possible for him to change his life. His life will continue to go in the same direction and he will suffer as a result. Now, while he could ...
Views: 193 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: What Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have In Common With A Spartan Warrior? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOver two thousand years ago, in a place called Sparta, males were trained from a young age to fight. As part of their training, they went through numerous challenges in order for them to be moulded into warriors. It then didn’t matter what any of these males wanted to do with their life as ...
Views: 273 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are All Mother-Enmeshed Men The Same? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a certain term is used to describe someone, then it can mean that they fit a certain criterion. In this case, the term that has been used will be appropriate and it won’t be a sign that they have been mislabelled. When it comes to a man who has been described as a mother-enmeshed man, ...
Views: 322 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are The Real Needs Of A Mother-Enmeshed Being Covered Up By His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be hard to understand why a man would be overly focused on his mother’s life and overlook his own life in the process. This will mean that he will do what he can to take care of her needs and spend very little time taking care of his own needs. Now, this is not to say ...
Views: 314 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Man Still Be Enmeshed With His Mother If He Doesn’t Speak To Her? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about a mother-enmeshed man, what is likely to come to mind is a man who is overly focused on his mother. This will make complete sense as if he is entangled with her, his life is surely going to revolve around her. Based on this, if a man doesn’t speak to his mother ...
Views: 195 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother Enmeshed-Man’s Mother ‘Play The Victim’? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is not living his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can have the need to speak to her about what he is going through. He can hope that if he talks to her, she will be understanding and supportive. Naturally, her responding in this way will ...
Views: 131 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Avoid Relationships After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to take care of her needs, it will mean that his life revolves around her. It won't matter that he will have his own needs and life to lead. Nevertheless, although this is what will be going on, the man might not even be aware of the fact ...
Views: 419 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Addicted To Porn? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where practically his whole life revolves around his mother, it is likely to show that he doesn’t feel comfortable with his own needs. Along with this, he is unlikely to even be in touch with his own needs. Therefore, he will be out of balance but he won’t realise ...
Views: 202 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Depressed? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the mask that a mother-enmeshed man is likely to wear, he can create the impression that he is happy and is pleased with his life. Behind the facade that he presents to the world, though, will be what is actually going on for him. If he was to be with himself and embraced how he really ...
Views: 333 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Become His Mothers Enabler? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the love that he needed to grow and develop in the right way during his formative years, it is not going to be a surprise if he behaves like an extension of his mother now that he is an adult. He will no longer be a powerless and dependent child, but, as he was deprived, ...
Views: 232 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Let His Ex Down? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks, months or even years ago, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother might have been in a relationship. He might seldom if ever think about his ex, or he could often think about her. When he does think about her, he could feel angry and let down, and he could wonder why ...
Views: 167 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Will Be Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be free to live his own life, it doesn’t mean that he will feel this way. Instead, he can feel as though his mother owns him and is then in control of what he does or doesn’t do. From this, it will be clear that he doesn’t feel loved and supported by his mother. She is ...
Views: 169 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Blame His Father For What Happened? - by Submitted on May 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter starting a relationship with a woman, a man could come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. This is because the woman that he is with might have shared her observations with him and made it clear that he is not responsible for his mother. As he is open-minded and able to hear ...
Views: 183 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Disgust? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much time for another woman. If he was to get into a relationship, then, he is unlikely to have much time for her. His mother will come first and his partner will come second. In the beginning, his partner might not have much ...
Views: 248 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Rage Towards His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOnce a man gets to the stage where he realises that he is emotionally entangled with his mother, he could end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage. He could see that not only was he used during his younger years but he has continued to be used. For so long, this won’t have stood out and ...
Views: 324 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Embody A Sense Of Helplessness? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is out of balance, after focusing on his mother and not having much of a life for however long, he can look into what he can do to change his life. He can then be angry and fed up with how his life is but he can be relieved that he can now do something about ...
Views: 209 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience A Conflict Between His Thoughts And Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man, who is entangled with his mother, is not aware of the fact that he is this way, he is likely to be out of touch with most of his needs and feelings. By being this way, he will have no trouble being there for his mother and focusing on her needs. This is likely to just be ...
Views: 298 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience Extreme Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he might have had the need to be there for his mother. He may find that this is generally something that he doesn’t have to think about doing as being there for her is something that just happens. But, as time has passed, he might have started to experience ...
Views: 262 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fall Into Self-Pity? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, is that he has the tendency to feel down. But, as he will spend a lot of time ignoring himself, this is to be expected. If he were to take a closer look at what takes place when he feels down, he can find that he ...
Views: 78 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear Leaving His Mothers World? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, it is likely to stop him from living his own life. Instead of being aware of his own needs and doing what he can to meet them, he is likely to be focused on his mother's needs and do what he can to meet them. As a ...
Views: 357 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear That He Would Lose Himself If He Left His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his ...
Views: 175 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Abandoned After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother and has been this way since he was a boy, it is naturally going to be difficult for him when she passes on. However, he might rarely if ever think about her passing on. This can be because he is so caught up in her world that he doesn’t have time to ...
Views: 174 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Ashamed Of Not Being Able To Act Like A Man? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can take a while for a man to realise that he is emotionally entangled with his mother; this could be something that will take place after he has been on this planet for many decades. It could seem strange as to why it would take him so long to find that he is overly focused on ...
Views: 327 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Betrayed By His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and he was to become aware of this, it will be a big achievement. The reason for this is that being this way will have just been what was normal for most of his life. As a result of this, he won’t have been able to see what was going on. So, ...
Views: 313 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like His Partners Possession? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of a relationship, a man can look forward to spending time with his partner. So, when he is not with her, he can spend a fair amount of time thinking about her and the moments that they have shared and will share in the future. This will be a time when he experiences ...
Views: 265 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Responsible If His Mother Becomes Ill? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man does a lot for his mother and neglects a number of his own needs in the process, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up in a position where he de does even more for her. This is something that can take place if his mother was to become unwell and less capable of looking after ...
Views: 184 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel That He Is Betraying His Mother If He Ends Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to end up in a relationship with a woman who he is very fond of and is starting to love, it doesn’t mean that every part of him will be on board with this relationship. Along with the part of him that feels that he is doing the right thing, can be another part that feels as though ...
Views: 287 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Stay Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is likely to stand out, if a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, is that he has a strong need to please her. Due to how strong this need is, a number of his needs will end up being overlooked. From this, it will be clear that he needs to spend less time being there ...
Views: 217 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Get Lost Trying To Understand Why He Is Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother and doesn’t have much of a life himself, there are a number of things that could take place. He could feel deeply frustrated and helpless and believe that his life will always be this way. Alternatively, he could feel deeply ...
Views: 171 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Idealised View Of His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he could see that he is too focused on his mother's needs and is ignoring a number of his own. He might soon find that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember. For whatever reason, he will have started to see clearly ...
Views: 185 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Identity Crisis When He Breaks Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is behaving as if he is an extension of his mother and is ignoring a number of his own needs, he can feel a strong need to do less for her and do more for himself. Then again, it might go further than this, as he might not want to do a great deal for ...
Views: 8 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Look Towards A Woman To Rescue Him? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, he can act as if he is merely an extension of his mother. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his life won’t be very fulfilling. However, this can just be what is normal, which means that he might not be aware of ...
Views: 234 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Only Change His Behaviour To Please His Girlfriend? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship but is overly focused on his mother, his girlfriend is likely to be frustrated with what is going on. This is because he will spend a lot of time doing things for his mother, having very little time for himself, let alone her. She might have kept her true ...
Views: 66 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Emotional State Be Controlled By His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will act like it. This is also likely to mean that he won’t feel emotionally separate from her either. He will then often be doing things for her and his emotional state will largely be defined by her. Now, ...
Views: 65 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Him From Being Able To Break Away? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a man who is unable to live his own life, due to being emotionally entangled with his mother, it can seem as though it is due to what took place in relation to his mother very early on. So, at this stage of his life, most likely, his mother would have used him to meet some of ...
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