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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Pull Away? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a woman could wonder why the man that she is with has pulled away. She might not have been with him for very long or she may have been with him for quite some time. Either way, she is going to have the desire to find out what is going on and perhaps to do what she can ...
Views: 628 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Want To Save His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA man could have a mother who is unwell or he might not but he could still spend a lot of time doing things for her. From the outside, it can be as though she is his daughter and it is his responsibility to take care of her. So, when he is not taking care of his basic needs or at work, for ...
Views: 201 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Sabotage His Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNot only can a man’s mother expect him to be there for her, but she can also do what she can to make sure that he doesn’t separate from her and have his own life. One of the ways that this can take place is by doing what she can to push away any woman that he dates or has a relationship ...
Views: 150 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Get Back With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a man who was entangled with his mother, for however long, a woman could be greatly relieved that she has now cut her ties with him. One of the reasons for this is that she could be exhausted and no longer have the desire or energy to experience life in this way. So, ...
Views: 200 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman See A Mother-Enmeshed Man As The Problem? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is out of reach emotionally, she is likely to wonder why she is even with him. Ultimately, he won’t have much time for her and even when he is around, he is unlikely to be very present. Based on how he behaves, it will be clear ...
Views: 251 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Struggle To Make A Mother-Enmeshed Man Available? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, he is not going to have much time for her. And, when she is with him, he could generally be mentally somewhere else and emotionally out of reach. She is then not going to feel seen and heard, valued and loved, and that she is with ...
Views: 201 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may see that he is being used by his mother. This is because he could spend a lot of time doing things for her and she could act as though he is responsible for her. To make matters worse, he might not realise that he is overly focused on his ...
Views: 254 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Who Has It All Together End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on May 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a good position in life and she has been with a number of men who are overly focused on their mother, she can be well and truly fed up. But, as she will be a woman who has continually ended up with men that are more like boys, this is to be expected. This area of her life is ...
Views: 233 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That His Mother Lacks Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and he is fed up with behaving in this way, he could talk to a friend or his girlfriend about what is going on. This can be a time when he will talk about how frustrated and drained he feels. After this, the person he talks to can be understanding and ...
Views: 156 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Able To Face Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be hard for someone to comprehend is why a man wouldn’t be able to see that he is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself. Now, the impact that his behaviour has on them is likely to depend on the type of relationship that they have with him. Naturally, if this relates to a ...
Views: 244 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Woman Be Able To Accept That She Doesn’t Randomly End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperTo have been with one man who was overly focused on his mother would have been a lot to deal with, and, therefore, if a woman has been with a number of men who were like this, it is not going to be a surprise if she is well and truly fed up. For however long, she will have wanted to be with a ...
Views: 244 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Different If He Dates A Woman Who Belongs To A Different Racial Group? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, someone left a comment on a video that I had made about a mother-enmeshed man. They essentially asked me if a man in this position would be different if he dated a woman who was from a different racial group. This was not something that I had been asked before and I thought ...
Views: 207 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a man, who is entangled with his mother, can be like his mother's slave, it may seem as though he will only be free if she passes on. Based on this, once this has taken place, he will be free to live his own life. Now, there is the chance that a man in this position will also feel this ...
Views: 491 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A Lot Of Loss To Work Through? - by Submitted on May 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is acting like an extension of his mother and is ignoring himself, a man can look into what he can do to change his life. Still, he might see that this is not going to happen overnight. But, after he has looked into what he can do to start acting like an individual ...
Views: 258 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mothers Higher Self Be Pleased If He Broke Away From Her? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he is overly focused on his mother and is overlooking a number of his own needs is that he has turned his back on himself. It could go further than this, though, as he could see that she expects him to be there for her. Therefore, what could enter his mind is that ...
Views: 93 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Woman Be Happy If A Mother Enmeshed Man Changed? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she is naturally going to have a strong need for him to change. This is partly because he will spend a lot of time being there for his mother and very little, if any, time being there for his ...
Views: 348 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Woman Be Happy If A Mother-Enmeshed Man Became Available? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Thanks to how caught up he is with her needs, he might seldom be physically, let alone emotionally, available. If so, a lot of his time and energy will be directed toward his mother, leaving him with ...
Views: 64 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Life? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one. Thanks to her inability ...
Views: 15 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Woman Abandoned Herself? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a position where she does a lot for her mother and ignores a number of her own needs, she will be out of balance. But, if living in this way is just what is normal, she might not be aware of what is going on. Due to this, she could often feel low and drained but believe that ...
Views: 70 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: What Is A Mother-Enmeshed Woman? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may find, if she were to step back and reflect on her life, is that even though she is a grown woman, she doesn’t act like one. Instead, she is more like a little girl who is dependent on her mother and incapable of living her own life. This could mean that she still lives with ...
Views: 96 - Motivation: Can Someone Lose Motivation When They Heal Their Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether or not someone is in a good place mentally and emotionally, how motivated they are is often taken into account. Therefore, if someone is highly motivated, they can be seen as being in a good way. Someone like this can relentlessly move towards their goals, finding it ...
Views: 563 - Motivation: Can Someone Lose Motivation When They No Longer Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the difference between someone who values who they are and someone who doesn’t, there are number of things that can come to mind. What one could think about is how the former is not going to put up with bad behaviour. Boundaries They are going to have the ability to say ...
Views: 1168 - Motivation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Be Extremely Motivated? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look into what is takes to be successful, they may hear that they need to be motivated. As if they don’t have this, it will be a challenge for them to consistently take action. Not only that, there is a strong chance that everything won’t go to plan, and this means that they ...
Views: 1072 - Motivation: Can Trapped Grief Cause A lack Of Motivation? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are always doing things, there are others who rarely do anything. Just as there are going to be people who are fairly active, but not the degree that they fall on either side of the spectrum. However, even though there will be people who can relate to this, it ...
Views: 2327 - Moving Forward: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stopping You From Moving Forward? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that human beings have an inherent need to grow and to move forward in life. And what one person sees as being a sign of growth is not necessarily what another person sees as a sign of growth. But while there are going to be differences, what most people are going to agree ...
Views: 1486 - Moving On: Is It Possible To Forget The Past And To Move On? - by Submitted on May 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has an experience that has a positive effect on them, they are likely to play it through their mind after it has taken place. This could be something that goes on for days, weeks and even months; in fact, it could go on for years. However, as the experience causes them to experience ...
Views: 1204 - Muscle: Why Are some People Obsessed With Gaining Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe popularity of muscle building has grown significantly in recent years. Gym memberships have soared and this is not only for men. Women are just as likely to be a member of a gym as men are. And then there is a whole range of supplements to assist with building muscle for men and this has ...
Views: 5747 - Music Can Help You To Grieve Your Unmet Childhood Needs - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is well known that it is important to grieve after a loved one has passed on, but what is not as well known is that it is also important for someone to grieve their unmet childhood needs. However, in the same way that someone can lose touch with the pain that is within them after another ...
Views: 674 - Music: Can Music Allow Someone To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to listen to music, they could listen to the same style that they listened to last time. Then again, they could listen to a style that is totally different to what they last listened to. Either way, when it comes to what they do listen to, it is likely to be a style that has ...
Views: 96 - Music: Can Music Trigger Grief? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn some shape or form, music has been around for thousands of years and while there are styles around today that weren’t around in the past, it still has the same effect. When it comes to making music today, electrical equipment is often used and this has allowed people to create sounds that ...
Views: 1856 - Music: Can The Music We Listen To Stop Us From Being Able To Let Go? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where one is from on this planet, what colour their skin is or their social standing, they’re likely to listen to music. Very few things have the power to bring people together and this is one of the reasons why music is so powerful. The fact that there are different styles can ...
Views: 1642 - Music: Can We Use Music To Improve Our Mood? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels good, they may be drawn to things they wouldn’t be drawn to if they felt bad. What this shows is how much of an impact one’s mood has on their life and that this is not something one can simply overlook. However, if one is committed to something, they might be able to ...
Views: 1464 - Music: Is Music Important? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, music is a vital part of life. It is there when they are feeling up and during those moments when they are feeling down. It is then not just a nice addition and something they simply enjoy, it as much a part of their life as breathing is. And while one can feel let down by ...
Views: 1867 - My Journey From Self-Hate To Self-Love - by Submitted on May 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I was thinking about how I felt about myself at the beginning of my journey and how I feel about myself now. What this made me think about are the different stages that I have gone through. Earlier on, I didn’t have much love for myself and, as the years passed, this ...
Views: 782 - Naive: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Naive? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to start something new, they might try to find out everything they can about it. In this case, they are not just going to start something and learn as they go along; they are going to do some serious research. Through taking this approach, they are going to be prepared, and ...
Views: 1813 - Narcissistic Mothers: Can A Man Be Attracted To Narcissistic Women If He Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may find is that he has been with a number of women who were very caught up with themselves. These would then have been women who were consumed by their own needs and had very little if any time for him. They would then have expected him ...
Views: 71 - Narcissistic Mothers: Can A Man Feel Worthless If Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels low and depressed. He could find that this is because he doesn’t feel good about himself and doesn’t believe this will ever change. If he were to think about why he feels this way, he could think ...
Views: 71 - Narcissists: Do These Types Of People Deserve As Much Attention As Narcissists Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to talk about how they are with or were with someone who is a narcissist. Conversely, they could say that social media is full of people that are like this. Furthermore, are also numerous videos and books that go into how to handle someone who is like ...
Views: 817 - Neediness: Is Your Neediness Pushing People Away? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having needs is part of being human, there is a big difference between having needs and being ‘needy’. When it comes to ones needs, one is going to be aware of what they are and then go about getting them met. And at times they will be met and at times they won’t be. So in this case, ...
Views: 4483 - Needless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Needless? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone is interdependent and therefore needs others, it doesn’t mean that they realise this. If they were told this, they could say that they don’t need others and are happy being by themselves. So, by being this way, they are going to see themselves as being independent and ...
Views: 334 - Needs: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they have the inclination to hide their own needs. They may see that, in general, this is something that just happens. It is then not going to be something that they always think about doing; it will ...
Views: 518 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Ashamed Of Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is simply part of the human experience and is not something that is bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, it doesn't mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. When someone doesn't feel comfortable with them, their life is going to be a lot ...
Views: 341 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been out of touch with their needs for as long as they can remember, one could now be in a position where they have decided that enough is enough. Perhaps the pain of living in this way has got too much for them to handle. Now, this doesn’t mean that they will be out of touch ...
Views: 560 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that are part of the human experience and having needs is one of them. This comes down to the fact that human beings are interdependent; they need others to survive and thrive. When it comes to these needs, it could be said that there are at least three areas. The ...
Views: 424 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Their Needs Won’t Be Met? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of all of them. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to meet all their needs. By living in this way, they are going to be depriving themselves of a lot of what they need. They can ...
Views: 250 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they are often out of touch with their needs. Or, perhaps, to be more specific, they are often out of touch with certain needs. This can mean that they will typically be aware of their survival needs ...
Views: 302 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will have a good connection with them. In general, they could be out of touch with a number of their needs and therefore it will be normal for them to neglect themselves. But, as this is taking place without them being aware of what ...
Views: 311 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Suppress Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to ignore their own needs. In fact, they could find that, in general, they are not even aware of their needs. Apart from their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 267 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to ignore a number of their needs and to focus on others. But, if this is just what is normal, it might not be something that they are consciously aware of. Consequently, they will be neglecting themselves but this is not going to be something that will stand ...
Views: 195 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To See Their Needs As A Burden? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too ...
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