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- Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the more in control someone feels, the better their mental and emotional health will be. This is not to say that someone needs to be a total control freak and to control everyone and everything in order to be in a good place. What it comes down to is that when one has a ...
Views: 665 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Become More Integrated? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone first starts to spend time with another person, they may find that they only experience good feelings. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may soon pass. The same could also apply when they are not in the other persons company, with this being a time when they ...
Views: 665(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone End Up Being Dependent On Others If Their Adult Self Is Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up feeling upset, they may find that another part of them is there to soothe this part of them. Or, if they were to feel a bit deflated and low on motivation, another part of them may offer them support and encouragement. It might then sound as though they have multiple ...
Views: 665(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 663 - Trauma: Can Mind-Based Trauma Approaches Do More Harm Than Good? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has experienced trauma, either as an adult or as a child, they may end up suffering in silence. This is not to say that they will consciously choose to suffer as this is something that can just take place. What took place will have had a big effect on them and it will be a ...
Views: 662 - Emotional Problems: Would You Know What To Do If You Had Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what they would do if their car started playing up, it is unlikely that it would take long for their mind to come up with an answer. In this case, it would be pretty obvious what they would need to do. It would be clear that they would need to take their car to a ...
Views: 661 - Therapy: Do You Need Therapy Or Do You Need To Change Your Environment? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone came to see that their mood has dropped, are experiencing heightened levels of anxiety and/or that they are not as confident as they usually are, they might think about reaching out for external support. Fortunately, they will have had the ability to detach from their ...
Views: 661 - Being Triggered Can Allow You To Become More Integrated - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, the word ‘triggered’ is routinely used in the real world and online. When someone has been triggered, it is likely to mean that something or someone has reminded them of something that took place in their past. It doesn’t stop there, though, as they will have been reminded of ...
Views: 660 - Self-Development: Can Someone Look Outside For Answers If They Are Out Of Touch With Their Body? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for people to buy self-help books, with the hope that they will provide them with the answers that they are looking for. Perhaps they lack direction and/or they may not know how to behave in a relationship. But while this will be as far as it will go for some ...
Views: 660 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Health? - by Submitted on May 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what is currently taking place in the world, it has meant that a lot of people have paid more attention to the mainstream media than usual. Additionally, there are those that have started to pay attention to this source again after having ignored it for so long. As far as this source ...
Views: 660 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Expect Their Parent/s To Give Them What They Couldn't Give Them As A Child? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone may have received the kind of care that they needed during their early years in order to develop in the right way; there is also the chance that this didn’t take place. As a result of this, their early years may have been a time in their life when they experienced a hell of a lot ...
Views: 659 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf the word ‘aggression’ is mentioned, it is usually an indication that someone has behaved in an aggressive manner. It could also show that someone is an aggressive person, with them having the tendency to behave in a destructive way. But, although it would be easy to see aggression as ...
Views: 659 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who ...
Views: 657(1 vote) - Healing Journey: What Can Stop Someone From Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants answers and ends up reaching out for support, it will show that they want to find a way to move past the challenges in their life. This could show that they have mental and emotional challenges, along with relationships that are not going as they would like them to ...
Views: 656 - Therapy: Why Don’t Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been ...
Views: 656 - You Are More Than Your Circumstances - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has had a certain challenge for a long time, they can believe that there is nothing that they can do. Therefore, due to how long something has been in their life, it can be seen as something that is permanent. As a result of this, they are just going to have to tolerate what is ...
Views: 656 - “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent. I would say that even if someone doesn’t have a borderline personality or even know ...
Views: 656 - Inner Feminine: What Can Happen If A Man Is In Conflict With His Own Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him. He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only ...
Views: 655 - Critical Thinking: Is The Purpose Of The Coronavirus To Terrorise People? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that Covid-19 first started to have an impact at the start of December 2019, hence why there is a 19 in the name. This was in China and, for a number of weeks after this, most countries around the world carried on as normal. However, as the weeks went by and it became clear ...
Views: 654 - Retirement: Will Someone Need To Create A New Identity If They Have Retired? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a full time job, it is likely to mean that it is a big part of their life. In fact, what they do for a living could be their whole life, meaning that it will be more than just something they do for a certain amount of hours each week. What they could find is that what they ...
Views: 654 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 653 - Repressed Emotions: Can Someone Experience A Lot Of Pain If Their Repressed Emotions Are Triggered? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone is born, they can end pushing their emotions out of their awareness. After a little while, they can have very little, if any, connection with this part of their being. However, even though they will have lost touch with a big part of who they are, it ...
Views: 652 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone End Up Being Victimised By Their Own Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to day-to-day life, if someone’s inner world is mentioned it is likely to relate to what is going on in their conscious mind. Also, if one was to reach out for external support and ended up working with a counsellor/therapist, the same thing could take place. It can seem as ...
Views: 651 - Critical Thinking: Does The Western World Have Borderline Personality Disorder? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to spend a certain amount of time in the company of people who have a borderline personality disorder, they are likely to end up with a fairly good understanding of what this disorder is all about. But, while this is likely to be a time in their life that is extremely informative, it ...
Views: 650 - Psychic Protection Is A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst I was reading a book about psychic protection, someone basically turned their nose up when they saw the cover. It was clear that this person believed that what I wasn’t reading anything worthwhile. I didn’t think much of what they said and carried on reading the book. After a while, ...
Views: 650 - Sense Of Safety: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an inner sense of safety, it will be possible for them to be in their body and to express themselves. What this comes down to is that in order for someone to inhabit their body, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. As this component is in place, they will comfortable ...
Views: 650 - Stomach Problems: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Stomach Problems? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences pain in an area of their body, it can make it hard for them to be in the present moment. Their attention can end up being consumed by this area of their body. If they are able to bring their attention away from this part of their body, they may find that it is ...
Views: 650 - Trauma: Can Trauma Cause Someone To See Themselves As Just An Observer Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wakes up in the morning, it can be as though they are simply observing what is going on around them. Once they have left their bedroom or wherever they were sleeping, their experience can be the same. Therefore, if something takes place that annoys them, it won’t have anything to ...
Views: 650 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 650 - Emptiness: Why Do Some People Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone looks whole on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they feel whole on the inside. How they look is then going to have very little to do with how they actually experience life. Based on how they experience life, it will be as though they are missing something. As a result ...
Views: 649 - Healing Journey: Can Someone End Up Feeling Worse When They Start To Heal Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to get to the point in their life where they can no longer carry on living in the same way, they could end up buying a book on self-development or they could find a therapist to work with. What this could show is that their inner world is not as they would like it to be. As a ...
Views: 649 - Trying To Change Others Is A Waste Of Time - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in an intimate relationship that is not going well or they could have a friend who is having a destructive affect on their life. Then again, one of their family members could be living in a way that is not healthy or they could be toxic. Irrespective of who it relates to, one ...
Views: 649 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Take Away Their Desire To Be Alive? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are those that are full of life and embrace the life that they have been given, there are that aren’t and are unable to so. However, this is not to say that the former will always be on the top of the world or the latter will always be down in the dumps. What it does mean is ...
Views: 648 - Reiki Healing Can Ease Your Pain - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperI was looking through a newspaper the other day and one thing that caught my eye was an article about the opioid crises. In this article, addiction specialist Dr Robert Lefever, spoke about how so many people are hooked on drugs that are designed to take pain away. When this happens, someone ...
Views: 647 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough? - by Submitted on May 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes that they are not enough, it can end up having a big affect on just about every area of their life. One area in particular that this can impact is their romantic relationships. However, just because someone has this view of themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are aware ...
Views: 647 - Siblings: Why Don't Some Siblings Get On? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are people in the world who think about what it must be like to have a sibling, there are others who know exactly what it is like. However, even if someone does have at least one sibling, it doesn’t mean that they are best friends. They may talk to their sibling from time to ...
Views: 646 - You Need To Learn How To Receive! - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given a gift, it might be hard for them to accept what has been given to them. Instead of feeling happy about what they have received, they could end up feeling guilty. Consequently, they may tell the other person that they can’t accept what has been given to them and offer it ...
Views: 645 - Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If Their Lower Body Is Shut Down? - by Submitted on May 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of personal power, they will most likely feel as though they have control over their life. This doesn’t mean that everything will go how they want it to go, though; far from it. But, even when something doesn’t go to plan, it doesn’t mean that this will cause them to ...
Views: 644 - Relationships: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Abusive Situations From Their Childhood In Order To Try To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been in a number of relationships that were somewhat or extremely abusive, they might have decided to stay single for a little while. Then again, they might not want to be in another relationship. But, taking into account what they have been through, this could be seen as a ...
Views: 644 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Being Emotionally Disconnected If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they are typically out of touch with how they feel. During the moments when this isn’t the case, that’s if they have these moments, it could be because something dramatic has taken ...
Views: 643 - Emotionally Unstable: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Easily Triggered? - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf an ornament was put outside, it might be able to handle the elements. This doesn’t mean that its appearance won’t change as time goes by; what it means is that it won’t end up falling apart. However, there is also the chance that it won’t be long until it does start to fall apart. It will ...
Views: 641(1 vote) - Relationships: Are There Four People In Every Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people out there that are in an open relationship and then there are people out there that aren’t. When it comes to a relationship that is monogamous, it could be said that there will only be two people involved. Unlike the other type of relationship, each person will only need to ...
Views: 641 - Self-Awareness: Is Self-Awareness The Antidote To A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR Cooperf someone has a victim mentality, they are unlikely to see themselves as playing a part in how they experience life. Whether something does or doesn’t happen to them is going to be out of their hands. One will be nothing more than an observer of their life, with life being something that ...
Views: 640 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a strong need to please others, it is going to be difficult for them to express themselves. Their main priority will be to do what they can to do what other people want and what they think they want. Therefore, instead of being aware of what their needs are and doing what ...
Views: 640 - Why Do We Behave In Ways That Harm Us? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that you often behave in ways that don’t benefit you and even harm you. Further, you may find that you there are people in your life who behave in the same way, holding themselves back in the process. After you have behaved in a way that doesn’t benefit you, you may ...
Views: 640 - Death: Can Someone Have An Irrational Fear Of Death If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they experience a fair amount of anxiety. Along with this, they could often experience panic and even have panic attacks from time to time. At other times, they could be overwhelmed with fear and ...
Views: 638 - Is Your Environment Having A Negative Effect On Your Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to mental and emotional health, what is taking place internally can often be the point of focus. This will include: the thoughts that someone has, what their beliefs are, and their brain chemistry. So if someone is not operating at their best, and they were to get into ...
Views: 637 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 637 - Controlling: Can Someone Become Controlling If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have no interest in controlling anyone or anything, while there are those that want to control everyone and everything. Thus, some people will be at one end of the spectrum and some will be at the other end. At the same time, it is likely that just about ...
Views: 635 - Jealousy: Why Do Dome People Have The Tendency To Feel Jealous Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they feel bitter about what someone else has or what they have achieved, there can be others that have a very different experience. For someone like this, this can be something that they experience on a regular basis. It might not ...
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