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- Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been out of touch with their needs for as long as they can remember, one could now be in a position where they have decided that enough is enough. Perhaps the pain of living in this way has got too much for them to handle. Now, this doesn’t mean that they will be out of touch ...
Views: 400 - Father Wounds: What Can A Man Believe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about his early years, he might end up thinking about some of the good moments that he shared with his father. Then again, this could be a time when he will remember moments that were far from good. What this may illustrate is that, during this phase of his life, he had ...
Views: 399 - Repetition Compulsion: Why Do We Repeat The Past? - by Submitted on May 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may realise that they are experiencing the same scenarios over and over again, there is also the chance that they won’t. If they are, it could seem strange as to why this keeps happening. What they may conclude, after reflecting on what is taking place, is that they have no ...
Views: 398 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Their Childhood Wounds? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that once someone is an adult, their childhood years will be well and truly behind them. It could be said that this is to be expected, considering that they will look like an adult. That phase of their life will be over and it simply won’t be possible for them to ...
Views: 397 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Projecting Their Darkness Onto The World? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at the world would be to say that there are ‘good’ people and then there are ‘bad’ people. The former generally do good things and want to make the world a better place, while the latter generally do bad things and want to make the world worse (or better in their ...
Views: 396 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, even though someone can want to achieve something or to improve their life in general, it doesn’t mean that they won’t hold themselves back. But, while they can hold themselves back, this can be something that they are not even aware of. Consequently, what is going on externally will be ...
Views: 394 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Who Is Against Hate Become Hateful? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, a lot has been said in the mainstream media about ‘hate’ and what needs to be done about it. There have also been a number of different things that have taken place to try to deal with it. Along with what is said by this source and the government, there is what ...
Views: 393 - "You Should Know What My Needs Are!" - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when it is possible for someone to know what another person’s needs are and times when it won’t be. That is, of course, unless someone has the ability to read minds; if they do, they will always know. But, if this ability is put to one side, another person will need to ...
Views: 392 - Needs: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Reveal Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. If someone does, their life is likely to be far more fulfilling than it would be otherwise. Through being this way, it will be possible for all of them to show ...
Views: 392 - Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity Stuck In The Drama Triangle? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media routinely gives exposure to stories where one person, or a group of people, is the victim and another person, or a group of people, is the perpetrator. One person will then have been randomly harmed in some way by another person. The former will have been powerless to do ...
Views: 391 - False-Self: Can ‘Spirituality’ Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is spiritual, it can mean that they are ‘in this world but not of this world’ and have a deeper connection to themselves and nature. They will know that there is more to life than what their five senses would have them believe. So, while their mind, along with their eyes, will ...
Views: 391 - “I Have To Become Someone Else. I Have To Become Something Else” - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround five years ago, whilst I was visiting a friend, I ended up watching a series called ‘Arrow’. I hadn’t heard of it before but I was happy to give it a go and after watching the first episode, there was one thing that was on my mind – to watch the next one. I thought that it was very ...
Views: 391 - Powerless: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a pretty miserable existence for many, many years, someone may come to see that feeling powerless is a normal part of their life. This means that they are unlikely to feel this way from time to time, they can more or less always feel this way. If they don’t feel this way, based ...
Views: 390 - Individuation: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Individuating? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be physically separate from others, it doesn’t mean that they will be emotionally separate from them. What this means is that they may find that their emotional state is typically defined by what is going on around them. Therefore, if they are in a relationship and their ...
Views: 389 - Why Is Fear A Powerful Manifestor? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to experience/attain something, it won’t just be a case of them having the right thoughts; they will also need to have the right feelings and to behave in a certain way. What this comes down to is that their thoughts are just one part of the equation. This might be hard ...
Views: 389 - Child Abuse: Does Low Self-Worth Get Past From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether or not someone has a felt sense of their own worth, it can all depend on what their early years were like. Now, this is not to say that if someone’s early years were not very nurturing, it won’t be possible for them to develop it as an adult. The truth is that this is ...
Views: 388 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Idealise One Parent And To Demonise The Other? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Due to how much time has passed and the defences that they have in place, they might not be able to remember what took place at this stage of their life. Then again, they might ...
Views: 388 - Critical Thinking: Are The People In Power A Reflection Of Humanity? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of whether it relates to the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom or the president of America, there is no shortage of people who don’t like the person who is the leader of their country. Of course, there are people that do or these individuals wouldn’t be where they are. But, ...
Views: 388 - Critical Thinking: Is Everything “Fake News”? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, the mainstream media spent a lot of time talking about “fake news”. This was seen as something that was “undermining democracy” and had led to a “post-truth world.” As time passed, different social media platforms cracked down on the “fake news” and fact-checking sites ...
Views: 387 - Healing Journey: Is It Important For Someone To Accept Where They Are? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the point where they can no longer carry on living in the same way, one can end up looking for answers. Perhaps something significant has recently taken place, pushing them over the point of no return in the process. Or maybe, what has been going on hasn’t really changed; ...
Views: 386 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Puppet Master Of The Masses? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked if they could remember a time when the mainstream media has lied, it might not take them long to think of something. In fact, a number of examples of when this has taken place could enter their mind. As a result of this, they might not simply accept what this source comes ...
Views: 385 - Critical Thinking: Is The World A Manifestation Of Our Unresolved Fears? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to something that someone fears, there are at least two things that they can do. One option is for them to face what they fear and resolve it; another option is for them to avoid what they fear and to try to make sure that what they fear doesn’t take place. Not only can someone ...
Views: 385 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Disconnect From His Masculinity If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he may see that he has been passive, easy-going, and found it hard to assert himself. Consequently, he will have most likely spent a lot of time around people who are the complete opposite. He may find that he has spent a lot of time around both men and ...
Views: 385 - Personal Power: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing Personal Power? - by Submitted on May 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of personal power, they are likely to experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will feel powerful and know that they have an effect on their life. As a result of this, they are not going to have a problem with saying no and asserting themselves. If they ...
Views: 385 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Deserve To Suffer If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, what took place will be over but it doesn’t mean that they will have put what took place firmly behind them. So, in the same way that a soldier who has left a warzone can carry the effects of what they experienced, one can also be in the same ...
Views: 383 - Negative Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take the time to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel good. Along with how they feel, there is going to be what takes place. At this point in time, they could believe that what takes place causes them to feel as they do. ...
Views: 383 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear People? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be consciously aware of the fact that they fear their fellow human beings, they can still be aware of the consequences of having this fear. So, if someone in this position was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, what could instantly stand out is how ...
Views: 382 - Critical Thinking: How Can Someone Change The World By 'Healing Their Inner Wounds'? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperCritical Thinking: How Can Someone Change The World By 'Healing Their Inner Wounds'? 29/8/20200 Comments According to Robert Johnson, a Jungian analyst and author, Carl Jung was often asked if humanity would survive. This is what Robert said in relation to this question, "People often ...
Views: 382 - Critical Thinking: Will It Be A Time Of "Healing" When The President Leaves The White House? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, numerous mainstream media sources have said that it will be a time of “healing” when the current president of America leaves the White House. This is also something that has been said by the person who is seen as being the next president of America. Or to be more ...
Views: 382 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperBy taking a step back and thinking about how some of the people in their life behave, one could come to the conclusion that they are very different. The reason for this is that one could see these people as being very emotional. If they were to describe themselves, they could say that they ...
Views: 381 - Individuation: Can Someone Be Reactive When They Haven’t Individuated? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperUndoubtedly, if someone has the ability to not be caught up in what is going on around them, their life will be far better than it would be otherwise. They will be able to stay centred and to be the ‘calm in the storm’ so to speak. This will allow them to stay focused on what matters and to ...
Views: 381 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Only Have As Much Power As We Give Them? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, the mainstream media, along with other sources, came out and said that ‘fake news’ was a problem. One way of looking at this would be to say that this was something that was said after certain things didn’t go as this source, and those behind the scenes, wanted. Thus, ...
Views: 380 - “The Only Way Out Is Through” - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main ...
Views: 380 - Critical Thinking: Does Politics Allow Some People To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it can seem as though everyone and their dog is into politics, and this is vastly different from how it was in the past. This is something that interests a large part of the younger generation in particular. It could be said that as a result of more people going to university and ...
Views: 377 - Child Abuse: Are Some Parents Too Emotionally Immature To Show Remorse? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parents about what took place. There could be a number of things that they want from them. For one thing, they might want to know why their parents treated them in the way ...
Views: 376 - Individuation: Is It Hard For Someone To Individuate If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to look at their life, they may see that they have the tendency to please others. Therefore, instead of paying attention to their own needs and acting as an individual, they will act as though they are merely an extension of others. After having behaved ...
Views: 372 - Critical Thinking: Is A Lack Of Self-Awareness One Of The Biggest Problems In Today's World? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about some of the biggest global challenges, they could mention the things that most people are aware of. For example, they could talk about climate change, poverty, inequality, and terrorism. These are the challenges that are often highlighted by the mainstream ...
Views: 371 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man’s Relationships With Women Improve If He Heals His Mother Wounds? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about what his relationships have been like with women over the years, he may find that they have generally been good. On the other hand, he may find that this has been a challenging area of his life. This could be an area of his life that been full of conflict for as ...
Views: 371 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Emotionally Shut Down Around Others? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their emotional self around others, it will allow them to feel connected to them and to fully embrace the moment. Being this way will also allow them to develop deeper relationships with others. So, whether it relates to a friend or an intimate partner, one will ...
Views: 371 - Critical Thinking: Is There A Lot Of Rage Held In The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what has been taking place in America and other parts of the world, it is clear to see that a lot of people are enraged. To use an analogy; it is as though a number of small volcanoes have erupted and have continued to erupt as the weeks and months have gone by. Still, in the ...
Views: 370 - Negative Mindset: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop A Negative Mindset? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they see themselves and their life, they may come to the conclusion that they have a ‘negative mindset’. If they were to open about to someone else, this person could also say the same thing. If they were to make a note of how they ...
Views: 370 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve After His Father Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has just lost his father, he could be experiencing life in one of two ways. He could be in a very bad way emotionally, or he could be emotionally shut down. Then again, there could be moments when he feels overwhelmed with grief and moments when he is out ...
Views: 369 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be A Divided Being? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is not connected to themselves and rooted in their body, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, there will be no reason for them to do anything about their life; they can just carry on living in the same way. Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 368 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they are able to mentally detach from how they experience life, is that they don’t feel good about themselves. If they were to take an even closer look, they may see that they feel like a bad person. Even so, this doesn’t mean that they have the ...
Views: 368 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Change The World By Healing Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to changing what is taking place in the world, the general approach is for someone to take action. This will give them the chance to do something about what is going on. And, as far as they are concerned, this could be seen as the only way for them to make a difference. If they ...
Views: 367 - Rejection: Can Someone Feel Rejected Before They Are Even Born? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons ...
Views: 367 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, the ideal will be for them to be in touch with who they are and to express their true-self. By being this way, being close to another person will have changed them, but it won’t have caused them to abandon themselves. Therefore, when they are around the ...
Views: 366 - Motivation: Can Someone Lose Motivation When They Heal Their Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether or not someone is in a good place mentally and emotionally, how motivated they are is often taken into account. Therefore, if someone is highly motivated, they can be seen as being in a good way. Someone like this can relentlessly move towards their goals, finding it ...
Views: 365 - Father Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Physically Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father who did what he could to protect them and to provide them with a sense of safety and security, there are others who had a radically different father. As a result, this would have been someone who they didn’t feel safe around and perhaps did ...
Views: 364 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough To Exist? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and secure, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of how they behave and live their life, it will be as though they are living in a very dangerous environment. But, even though this is ...
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