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- Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise That They Are Co-Creators Of Their Reality? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, it can seem as though the world is in a mess and that it will only get worse. As a result of what appears to be taking place, it can be normal for someone to feel helpless and hopeless. When it comes to how they currently perceive the world, what can play a big part is ...
Views: 476 - False Needs: Can Someone Have A Lot Of False Needs If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are true needs and then there are false needs. When it comes to the former, it will relate to needs that other people can meet, and, when it comes to the latter, it will relate to needs that other people can’t meet. Nonetheless, even though there are two different ...
Views: 476 - Boundaries: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could prefer to spend time by themselves and when they are around others, they could have the tendency to lose who they are. When they are in their own company, then, they could have a fairly strong connection with their inner world and feel free to do just about whatever ...
Views: 475 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See His Needs As A Burden If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that, in general, he is out of touch with a number of his needs. As a result of this, he could typically be aware of his physical needs but that could be about as far as it will go. Therefore, his emotional needs are going to largely be overlooked and he might rarely ...
Views: 475 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Bad? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can believe that they are bad, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The trouble is that even if they are not aware of this, it is still likely to have a massive effect on their life. This belief is going to be running at a deeper level and it won’t be ...
Views: 473 - Critical Thinking: Does A Large Part Of Humanity See The Government As A Parental Figure? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be the needs that a child has and then there will be the needs that an adult has. Now, some of these will be the same whilst there will be others that are different. With this in mind, once someone is no longer a child, they are going to have a very different set of needs. However, ...
Views: 473 - Survival: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that although they want to experience life in a certain way, it is not possible for them to do so. If they were to think about how long their life has been this way for, they may find that it has been this way for as long as they can remember. Consequently, they may ...
Views: 473 - Critical Thinking: Can A Political Party/Movement Allow Someone To Avoid Their Own Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if someone has an issue with a certain gender/race/religion, it won’t be difficult for them to find others who are the same. Not only are there websites and groups that will support their position, there are also political parties and movements. Irrespective of what their position ...
Views: 472 - Inner Security: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a house doesn’t have strong foundations, it probably won’t stay in place for very long. Or, if it does, it will be in for a rough ride as will the people who live in the house. Another example would be the difference between someone being on a rubber dinghy and being ...
Views: 472 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother See Her Son As Her Possession? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will look like an individual but that will probably be about as far as it will go. In general, he can act as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother. This can mean that a large part of his life will revolve around taking ...
Views: 472 - Negative Feelings: Why Would Someone Have ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of whether someone is into self-development, they will probably be familiar with the term ‘negative’ feelings. In fact, they may even describe some of their own feelings in this way. If this is the case, it will mean that some of their feelings will be seen as ‘positive’ and ...
Views: 472 - Presence Is Essential When It Comes To Healing Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAssuming you have just heard of ‘inner child work’, you may want to find out more. Perhaps your inner world is not in a good way and you would like to know if this kind of work can assist you. When it comes to your inner child, one way of looking at this part of you would be to say that it ...
Views: 472 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone’s Childhood Trauma Be Triggered During Their Adult Life? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt one point in time, someone could be able to handle life, and, at another, they could be in a very bad way. This could show that they have just experienced a breakup or a loss, or perhaps they have just lost their job. Irrespective of what has taken place, they are not going to be the ...
Views: 471 - Being Seen: Can Developmental Trauma Give Someone A Strong Need To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the need to be seen is a normal part of life; this is part of being an independent human being. Nonetheless, someone can have such a strong need to be seen that it consumes them. As a result of this, if they are not doing what they can to receive attention, they can be thinking of ...
Views: 470 - Therapy: Can Someone Unconsciously Try To Fulfil Their Unmet Developmental Needs When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone ends up having therapy, it could be due to a number of reasons. For example, they could find that they suffer from anxiety, often feel depressed and/or find it hard to experience intimacy. Now, regardless of what is going on for them, this could be something that has troubled them ...
Views: 469 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Violation If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is often walked over and treated badly by others. There may have been moments when he thinks that the world is against him. Now, this could be something that he only experiences when he is in the company of other ...
Views: 468 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Traumatised Into Looking Outside Of Themselves For Safety? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, if someone is not connected to their true-self, they won’t be able to express who they are. Nonetheless, if they don’t feel safe enough to express who they are, it won’t matter if they are connected to their true-self. Considering this, it shows how imperative it is for someone to ...
Views: 467 - Critical Thinking: Is There A War On Consciousness? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, most people live in countries that provide around the clock news coverage. Thanks to this, there is no reason why any of the citizenries who live in a country like this need to miss out on what is going on. When someone pays attention to the mainstream news source, or even an ...
Views: 467 - Human Contact: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place in recent years, it has meant that a lot of people have been starved of human contact. However, there are those who were in this position before all this was going on. For someone like this, spending time alone and away from others will just be what is ...
Views: 467 - Child Abuse: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Accept That They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their development years, it could take many, many years before they actually realise this. This could seem strange; especially as these early experiences will have had an effect on them. How much of an impact this stage will have had on them is likely to depend on ...
Views: 462 - Critical Thinking: Does The Ego-Mind Make It Hard For Humanity To Change The World? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is going on around them and what they have been exposed to via the mainstream media and even social media, someone might not be happy with what is taking place. So, if they are not already doing things to change what is going on ‘out there’, they can look into what they can ...
Views: 462 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that it is often a case of one step forward, two steps back. In other words, it will be difficult for them to make much progress. This could be the case when it comes to all areas of their life, or this might ...
Views: 462 - Approval Seeking: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Be An Approval Seeker? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that are at least two types of people; those who rarely seek approval and those who seek a lot of approval. When someone fits into the first category, it is going to be possible for them to live their own life. The reason for this is that they won’t need the all-clear or to ...
Views: 461 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media A Manifestation Of Victim Consciousness? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a lot of people who look towards the mainstream media to keep them informed about what is taking place in the world. And, thanks to modern-day technology, it is easier than ever before for this source to do this. As long as someone has a Smartphone, then, this source can keep them ...
Views: 461 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Have To Hide Their True Self In Order To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go for a drive, they would be able to go wherever they wanted. So, if they wanted to go left, they could go left, and, if they wanted to go right, they could go right. Quite simply, they would have the ability to go wherever suited them and to adapt if it wasn’t possible for ...
Views: 461 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Traumatised Into Outsourcing Their Own Health? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the western world, a large part of the population looks towards health professionals to take care of their health. This is something that has taken place for many, many generations and is likely to continue for many generations to come. When someone has this approach, there is a chance ...
Views: 459 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That It Is Not Safe To Exist If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man doesn’t feel safe enough to exist, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. However, being this way is going to have a massive impact on his life. Through being this way, he can typically be out of touch with his body and/or he can isolate himself from others. ...
Views: 459 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Are Some Men Unable To Live Their Own Life? - by Submitted on May 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the fact that a man is an individual, it will mean that he will be on this planet to live his own life. For this to take place, he will need to be in touch with his true self – his feelings, needs, and preferences – and feel comfortable enough to express these parts of ...
Views: 459 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Deserve To Be Treated Badly? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to reflect on their life, is that they are rarely treated well by others. Just thinking about this could make them angry and then they could feel down. To make matters worse, this could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember, ...
Views: 459 - False Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone will look like a whole human being; however, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to act like one. What this comes down to is that they could live on the surface of themselves. Therefore, instead of being connected to their body and in tune with their needs and ...
Views: 458 - Disgust: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Disgust If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might end up standing out is that they often experience a sense of disgust. When this takes place, they will be around something or someone that causes them to be repulsed and they could even feel sick. This will then be a ...
Views: 455 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 455 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Realise That She Lives In A Mirror If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman to have been with one man who was caught up in his mother’s world would have been tough, but, to have been with a number of men who were like this will have been even worse. Assuming that she has been in this position more than once, she might have decided to turn her back on this ...
Views: 451 - Unlovable: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it. For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ...
Views: 451 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is practically always on the go, it is not going to be difficult for them to find people who believe that they are living in the right way. One can be seen as someone who is taking life by the horns, as opposed to waiting around for things to happen. If one was ...
Views: 449 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Comfortable Being There For His Mother? - by Submitted on May 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal for a man is for practically his whole life to revolve around his mother. This means that a number of his needs, along with his feelings, will be overlooked, with him putting a number of his mother’s needs first. This will then just be what happens and he won’t need to ...
Views: 449 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they are able to step back and to reflect on their life, is that they rarely feel emotionally strong and secure. In general, they could feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, fearful and scared. On the outside, then, they will look like an adult but they feel like one ...
Views: 448 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, the ideal will be for them to receive what they need so that they can live their own life as an adult. This will then be a time, then, when they will grow on the outside and grow on the inside. Therefore, the first birth will have taken place, the physical birth, ...
Views: 448 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Become Who His Mother Wanted Him To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is going to be like her servant. As opposed to being a separate being who has his own needs and feelings, he will be nothing more than an extension of her. This is likely to mean that he will typically come across as ...
Views: 447 - Self-Control: Can Childhood Trauma Make Someone Feel Like A Puppet On Strings? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as someone can remember, they may have found it hard to behave how they have wanted to. In general, then, it will be a challenge for them to express themselves and thus, for their true-self to see the light of day. So, if they are able to fully show up, it will be the exception as ...
Views: 446 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Deprive Themselves As An Adult? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may soon find is that a number of their needs are rarely if ever met. So, while their basic needs might typically be met, this won’t be the case when it comes to their other needs. In general, then, they are not going to have ...
Views: 444 - Consciousness: Do The “Elites” Have All the Power? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to explain why the world is the way that it is, they could say that it is because of the people at the top. So, when it comes to the reason why so many people are struggling to survive and so many resources are in the hands of the few, for example, this will be ...
Views: 442 - Disembodied: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It’s ‘All About The Mind’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was traumatised on a weekly, if not daily, basis during their early years, there is a strong chance that they will be in a bad way now that they are an adult. Still, although what took place at this stage of their life will have had a big effect on them, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 442 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Guilty For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he might soon see that he is overly focused on his mother. This could be something that he has been forced to do after having experienced a breakup. As a result of being in a relationship, then, what had not stood out before would have ended ...
Views: 440 - Repressed Pain: Can Repressed Pain Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn many countries around the world, the mind is often the focus when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional problems. If, then, someone is not in a good way internally, they are likely to end up trying to change what is going on up top. This can be due to what they have learned online ...
Views: 438 - Inner Feminine: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Reject Their Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ...
Views: 437 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that are part of the human experience and having needs is one of them. This comes down to the fact that human beings are interdependent; they need others to survive and thrive. When it comes to these needs, it could be said that there are at least three areas. The ...
Views: 437 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 436 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear Being Abandoned If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is in a good position financially, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel settled. They can often feel anxious and as though something bad is about to happen. Now, irrespective if they are in a good position financially, if they were to take a closer look at why they ...
Views: 434 - Fear: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on May 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and reflect on what they fear, they may find that a number of things enter their mind. They could find that they have a fear of being abandoned and rejected. Alternatively, they could see that they have a fear of being harmed and their life coming to an ...
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