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- Healing Journey: Can Someone Sabotage Their Own Healing? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone has just started to work on their wounds or has been doing so for a little while, they are going to want their life to change. As to why they are engaging in this work, it could show that they were deeply deprived during their early years. If so, this may have been a time when ...
Views: 454 - Shamed-Based Identity: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Shame-Based? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, shame is something that they experience every now and then and, when they do, it typically doesn’t hang around for very long. For others, shame is something that they experience on a regular basis and, when they do, it can typically hang around for a very long time. When it ...
Views: 454 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Life? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that they will see their life as a gift. Thanks to how they generally experience life, it could be seen as a curse and as something that they have to endure. What this can show is that they have the tendency to experience ...
Views: 453 - Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause A Big Part Of Someone To Be Split Off? - by Submitted on May 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will look whole and complete on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they will feel whole and complete on the inside. When it comes to their inner experience, they can feel cut off and as though they lack substance. Then again, how they experience life can just be what is ...
Views: 453 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See His Needs As A Burden If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that, in general, he is out of touch with a number of his needs. As a result of this, he could typically be aware of his physical needs but that could be about as far as it will go. Therefore, his emotional needs are going to largely be overlooked and he might rarely ...
Views: 453 - Adult Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Outsource Their Adult Self? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. The reason for this is that, in general, they could look towards others to make decisions for them, to stand up for them and for guidance about how to live their life. Based on this, when it comes to how they ...
Views: 452 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother See Her Son As Her Possession? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will look like an individual but that will probably be about as far as it will go. In general, he can act as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother. This can mean that a large part of his life will revolve around taking ...
Views: 452 - Negative Feelings: Why Would Someone Have ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of whether someone is into self-development, they will probably be familiar with the term ‘negative’ feelings. In fact, they may even describe some of their own feelings in this way. If this is the case, it will mean that some of their feelings will be seen as ‘positive’ and ...
Views: 452 - Do You Need To Forgive Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA lot is said about how important it is to forgive another but, in comparison, very little is said about how important it is to forgive oneself. It could be said that one reason for this is that if someone blames another, it will be easy to spot; whereas if they blame themselves, this won’t be ...
Views: 451 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone’s Childhood Trauma Be Triggered During Their Adult Life? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt one point in time, someone could be able to handle life, and, at another, they could be in a very bad way. This could show that they have just experienced a breakup or a loss, or perhaps they have just lost their job. Irrespective of what has taken place, they are not going to be the ...
Views: 450 - Critical Thinking: Does The Ego-Mind Make It Hard For Humanity To Change The World? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is going on around them and what they have been exposed to via the mainstream media and even social media, someone might not be happy with what is taking place. So, if they are not already doing things to change what is going on ‘out there’, they can look into what they can ...
Views: 450 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Is Betraying His Ex If He Moves On? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is no longer in a relationship, he will be free to meet other women and take things further. However, although this will be so, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to do this. In general, he could keep his distance from women and not go anywhere where he is likely to ...
Views: 450 - Approval Seeking: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Be An Approval Seeker? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that are at least two types of people; those who rarely seek approval and those who seek a lot of approval. When someone fits into the first category, it is going to be possible for them to live their own life. The reason for this is that they won’t need the all-clear or to ...
Views: 448 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media A Manifestation Of Victim Consciousness? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a lot of people who look towards the mainstream media to keep them informed about what is taking place in the world. And, thanks to modern-day technology, it is easier than ever before for this source to do this. As long as someone has a Smartphone, then, this source can keep them ...
Views: 445 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 445 - Observer Ego: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Develop A Strong Observer Ego? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are those who lack the ability to observe themselves and need to take the time to develop this ability, there are those that don’t. When someone has this ability, it could show that they have spent a fair amount of time meditating. Then again, this could be something that they ...
Views: 445 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Traumatised Into Outsourcing Their Own Health? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the western world, a large part of the population looks towards health professionals to take care of their health. This is something that has taken place for many, many generations and is likely to continue for many generations to come. When someone has this approach, there is a chance ...
Views: 444 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Are Some Men Unable To Live Their Own Life? - by Submitted on May 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the fact that a man is an individual, it will mean that he will be on this planet to live his own life. For this to take place, he will need to be in touch with his true self – his feelings, needs, and preferences – and feel comfortable enough to express these parts of ...
Views: 444 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Deserve To Be Treated Badly? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to reflect on their life, is that they are rarely treated well by others. Just thinking about this could make them angry and then they could feel down. To make matters worse, this could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember, ...
Views: 443 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Giving His Mother His Energy? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is often doing things for his mother, it will mean that a lot of his time and attention will be spent on her. As a result of this, she is going to receive a lot of his life force or energy. Naturally, the energy that he directs towards his mother is going to be energy that he won’t ...
Views: 441 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Violation If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is often walked over and treated badly by others. There may have been moments when he thinks that the world is against him. Now, this could be something that he only experiences when he is in the company of other ...
Views: 436 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That It Is Not Safe To Exist If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man doesn’t feel safe enough to exist, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. However, being this way is going to have a massive impact on his life. Through being this way, he can typically be out of touch with his body and/or he can isolate himself from others. ...
Views: 435 - Being Seen: Can Developmental Trauma Give Someone A Strong Need To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the need to be seen is a normal part of life; this is part of being an independent human being. Nonetheless, someone can have such a strong need to be seen that it consumes them. As a result of this, if they are not doing what they can to receive attention, they can be thinking of ...
Views: 434 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is practically always on the go, it is not going to be difficult for them to find people who believe that they are living in the right way. One can be seen as someone who is taking life by the horns, as opposed to waiting around for things to happen. If one was ...
Views: 433 - OnlyFans: Why Would A Man Be Drawn To OnlyFans? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to a platform that offers a ‘virtual girlfriend experience’, a man can receive far more than he did in the past. Before this platform was available, he would have been able to view pictures and videos of a woman but that would have been about it. Now, by paying a certain fee to a ...
Views: 433 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they are able to step back and to reflect on their life, is that they rarely feel emotionally strong and secure. In general, they could feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, fearful and scared. On the outside, then, they will look like an adult but they feel like one ...
Views: 432 - Human Contact: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place in recent years, it has meant that a lot of people have been starved of human contact. However, there are those who were in this position before all this was going on. For someone like this, spending time alone and away from others will just be what is ...
Views: 432 - Self-Control: Can Childhood Trauma Make Someone Feel Like A Puppet On Strings? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as someone can remember, they may have found it hard to behave how they have wanted to. In general, then, it will be a challenge for them to express themselves and thus, for their true-self to see the light of day. So, if they are able to fully show up, it will be the exception as ...
Views: 432 - Disembodied: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It’s ‘All About The Mind’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was traumatised on a weekly, if not daily, basis during their early years, there is a strong chance that they will be in a bad way now that they are an adult. Still, although what took place at this stage of their life will have had a big effect on them, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 431 - Child Abuse: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Accept That They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their development years, it could take many, many years before they actually realise this. This could seem strange; especially as these early experiences will have had an effect on them. How much of an impact this stage will have had on them is likely to depend on ...
Views: 430 - Therapy: Can Someone Unconsciously Try To Fulfil Their Unmet Developmental Needs When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone ends up having therapy, it could be due to a number of reasons. For example, they could find that they suffer from anxiety, often feel depressed and/or find it hard to experience intimacy. Now, regardless of what is going on for them, this could be something that has troubled them ...
Views: 430 - Unlovable: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it. For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ...
Views: 430 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, the ideal will be for them to receive what they need so that they can live their own life as an adult. This will then be a time, then, when they will grow on the outside and grow on the inside. Therefore, the first birth will have taken place, the physical birth, ...
Views: 429 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that it is often a case of one step forward, two steps back. In other words, it will be difficult for them to make much progress. This could be the case when it comes to all areas of their life, or this might ...
Views: 429 - Boundaries: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could prefer to spend time by themselves and when they are around others, they could have the tendency to lose who they are. When they are in their own company, then, they could have a fairly strong connection with their inner world and feel free to do just about whatever ...
Views: 428 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Have To Hide Their True Self In Order To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go for a drive, they would be able to go wherever they wanted. So, if they wanted to go left, they could go left, and, if they wanted to go right, they could go right. Quite simply, they would have the ability to go wherever suited them and to adapt if it wasn’t possible for ...
Views: 428 - Inner Feminine: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Reject Their Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ...
Views: 423 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that are part of the human experience and having needs is one of them. This comes down to the fact that human beings are interdependent; they need others to survive and thrive. When it comes to these needs, it could be said that there are at least three areas. The ...
Views: 423 - Repressed Pain: Can Repressed Pain Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn many countries around the world, the mind is often the focus when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional problems. If, then, someone is not in a good way internally, they are likely to end up trying to change what is going on up top. This can be due to what they have learned online ...
Views: 423 - Consciousness: Do The “Elites” Have All the Power? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to explain why the world is the way that it is, they could say that it is because of the people at the top. So, when it comes to the reason why so many people are struggling to survive and so many resources are in the hands of the few, for example, this will be ...
Views: 420 - False Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone will look like a whole human being; however, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to act like one. What this comes down to is that they could live on the surface of themselves. Therefore, instead of being connected to their body and in tune with their needs and ...
Views: 420 - Critical Thinking: Will The World Only Change If People Become Aware Of What ‘The Elites’ Are Doing? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, it has been said that the world is ruled by a small group of people. Some of the people who have been talking about this for decades have even become household names. This can be seen as largely the result of the platforms that are now available online and how easy ...
Views: 418 - Grief: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Grief If They Experienced Development Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel down and depressed. If they are not in this shut down state and they are in touch with how they feel, they could typically feel very sad. So, being out of touch with how they feel is not going ...
Views: 418 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Avoid Relationships After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to take care of her needs, it will mean that his life revolves around her. It won't matter that he will have his own needs and life to lead. Nevertheless, although this is what will be going on, the man might not even be aware of the fact ...
Views: 418 - Repressed Pain: Can The Mind Cause Problems When Someone Is Carrying Repressed Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a lot is said about physical and mental problems, and this is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, a lot used to be said about the former whilst very little was said about the latter. Taking this into account, it could be said that this shows how far society ...
Views: 417 - Personality: Can Developmental Trauma Define What Someone’s Personality Is Like? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what they are like, a number of things could come to mind. For example, they could say that they are often anxious and fearful, easy-going, a follower and do what they can to please others. This could be how they have been this way for as long as they can ...
Views: 414 - Irrational Beliefs: Why Would Someone Have ‘Irrational Beliefs’? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a life that is anything but fulfilling for a number of years, someone could come to the conclusion that they need to do something about it. Perhaps something that they have seen on TV or read online has played a part in this. For quite some time, they might have got a sense that ...
Views: 413 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hate His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for someone to understand why a man would be happy to focus on his mother’s needs and ignore his own. This could be something that his partner could find confusing, that’s if he has one. Along with this, his mother could treat him badly and feel entitled to his attention and ...
Views: 413 - Coronavirus: Is It Harder For Someone Handle What Is Going On If They Are Carrying Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is currently taking place in the world, it has meant that a large part of the population hasn’t been able to carry on as normal. Right now, a lot of people are in isolation and are only allowed to leave their home to do certain things. When it comes to those who are not ...
Views: 412 - Critical Thinking: Is The External World Showing Humanity What They Need To Heal? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWith what appears to be going on in the world, it can be normal for someone to feel helpless and deflated. It can seem as though everything is getting worse and that there is nothing that can be done. This can be what will take place is someone routinely consumes the mainstream media and even ...
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