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- The Value Of Your Work Is Not Defined By How Many ‘Likes’ You Get! - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was speaking to a friend of mine the other day called, Wain, and he was talking about the work that he had been sharing on social media. He had recently created another page and had put in a fair amount of work to build it up. From what he was saying, it made me think about how it is easy ...
Views: 845 - The Will To Live: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Having The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had their eye on a new car and they were to take it for a drive, they are likely to find out that it drives well. Along with how it drives, it is also likely to be a comfortable experience. So if they are currently driving a car that is on its way out, this experience is going to be ...
Views: 1417 - The World Needs More Love! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day I saw a paper bag that said something like, ‘the world needs more love.’ This is something that is hard to deny, considering how much suffering and destruction there is. One only needs to watch the news or to pick up a paper to hear about something negative that ...
Views: 737 - Their Arm Was Covered In Cuts! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I saw someone who had all these cuts on their forearm and I thought that this person must self-harm. Over the years, I have seen a number of people with arms that have received a lot of harm. But, whenever I see something like this, I usually feel pain through ...
Views: 1034 - Therapy: Can Being Loyal To A Technique Hold Someone Back? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they have just learned to drive, it doesn’t mean that they will know what car they want to buy. This can come down to the fact that there are so many car manufactures out there. What they can do here is to ask their friends and family for their advice when it ...
Views: 1156 - Therapy: Can Being Loyal To A Therapist Hold Someone Back? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has mental and emotional problems and/or their relationships are not going as they would like them to go, they can decide to see a therapist. At the same time, they could just as easily do nothing about what is going on going on for them. It might be hard to understand why something ...
Views: 909 - Therapy: Can Having Therapy Make Someone Feel Even More Helpless? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one’s life is not as they want it to be, it could be said that it will be a good idea for them to look onto why they are experiencing life in this way. One may have only just started to experience life in this way, or it might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to the ...
Views: 935 - Therapy: Can Someone Become Dependent On Their Therapist If They Are Emotionally Unstable? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a position where they find it hard to feel at peace within, it can be a challenge for them to be able to handle life. This is down to the fact that this could be something that affects every part of it. And if they were to think about how long their life has been this way ...
Views: 1085 - Therapy: Can Someone Become More Attached To Their Story If They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not how they want it to be, they could end up reaching out for external support. Naturally, this is going to be far better than simply tolerating what is going on and suffering in silence. This could be a time when they reach out for the support of a therapist or healer. ...
Views: 600 - Therapy: Can Someone End Up Being Re-Traumatized Through Having Therapy? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not going right in life, it can be normal for one to look into what they can do about it. Naturally, this is going to be the only way that their life will change; if they don’t do this, their life could end up getting even worse. But while one could take action if there ...
Views: 968 - Therapy: Can Someone End Up Working On The Wrong Area When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are unable to handle life, it could be said that it will be a good idea for them to reach out support. What this could show is that one feels depressed, or they might suffer from fear and anxiety, for instance. A Number of Things Or, there is the ...
Views: 1076 - Therapy: Can Someone Look Towards A Therapist To Fulfil The Needs That Their Friends/Family Should Fulfil? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to reach out to a therapist if they have inner problems. This can be seen as a good thing as it is far better for someone to ask for help than it is for them to suffer in silence. If they have a relatively minor problem, they may find that they only ...
Views: 524 - Therapy: Can Someone Unconsciously Try To Fulfil Their Unmet Developmental Needs When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone ends up having therapy, it could be due to a number of reasons. For example, they could find that they suffer from anxiety, often feel depressed and/or find it hard to experience intimacy. Now, regardless of what is going on for them, this could be something that has troubled them ...
Views: 105 - Therapy: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To Change Their Life? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one’s life is not going as they would like it to go, they can do something about it or they can act like a victim. If they were to do something about it, it will naturally give them the chance to change their circumstances. Yet, if they were to act like a victim, there is a strong ...
Views: 966 - Therapy: Can Therapists Form Inaccurate Beliefs About Men/Women? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to become a therapist, they may have the desire to work with people who have certain issues. This could relate to what they have had to deal with, or it might involve what they have seen other people suffer from. When it comes to the former, this could show that one has ...
Views: 1002 - Therapy: Can Therapy Allow Someone To Temporarily Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having worked with a therapist for a number of weeks or months, someone could find that they start to feel better. Thanks to this, a few areas of their life could also start to improve. For example, they might have found it hard to take action before but now it is a lot easier for them ...
Views: 151 - Therapy: Do You Need Therapy Or Do You Need To Change Your Environment? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone came to see that their mood has dropped, are experiencing heightened levels of anxiety and/or that they are not as confident as they usually are, they might think about reaching out for external support. Fortunately, they will have had the ability to detach from their ...
Views: 493 - Therapy: Does Feeling Different Prove That Therapy Is Working? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has therapy, it might not take very long until they begin to feel different. Now, the reason they are having therapy could just be to change how they feel, or there could be more to it. If this is the only reason they are having it, it can cause them to believe that they are ...
Views: 905 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Be Perfect In Order To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to assist others, they can end up taking the next step. At the same time, they can also experience inner conflict, and this can then stop them from taking action. In this case, one could believe that every area of their life needs to be going in the right ...
Views: 1058 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Work With A Therapist If They Have Good Friends? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has mental and emotional and/or relationship challenges, they can feel the need to reach out for external support. This could be seen as the best approach for them to take in order to change their circumstances. Through having this outlook, the next step will be for them to find ...
Views: 992 - Therapy: Is Exercise A Replacement For Therapy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for exercise to be seen as something that is not only far more effective than therapy but as something that is far cheaper too. Like mindfulness, then, it is often seen as a panacea. Based on this outlook, no matter what someone is dealing with or what is ...
Views: 212 - Therapy: Is It Only The People Who Have Problems That Have Therapy? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they have something wrong with their phone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would get the right assistance. This could be a time where they will ask a friend what they should do, or they could simply take it to a phone shop. However, even if ...
Views: 1301 - Therapy: Is It Someone's Fault If Therapy Doesn't Work? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it could be said that someone is far more likely to see a therapist than in the past, and this is partly because it is seen as being more acceptable than it once was. This has meant that people are less likely to suffer in silence. And as mental and emotional problems are just as ...
Views: 995 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Invalidating Your Experiences? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is suffering from mental and emotional problems and/or has relationship problems, they can end up looking for a therapist to assist them. This could be because they have taken this approach in the past, or it may be due to other reasons. If it relates to other reasons, it could be a ...
Views: 1666 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Keeping You Stuck? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is experiencing some kind of challenge, and this could be an inner challenge and/ or an outer challenge, it could cause them to reach out for support. This may mean that they go and buy a book or they might even go on a course. Another approach would be for them to find a coach, ...
Views: 1340 - Therapy: What Does It Say About Today’s Relationships When Some People Have To Pay Others To Listen To Them? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to work with a therapist or a counsellor; in fact, it could be said that it is a fairly common occurrence. Even so, this doesn’t mean that someone won’t feel ashamed for needing to be assisted in this way. Yet even if they did feel ashamed at this ...
Views: 872 - Therapy: Why Do Some Therapists Think That Their Technique Is The Best? - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their life is not going as they would like it to go, they could end up looking for a therapist to work with. This could mean that they will go and see their doctor or they may do an internet search, for instance. At the same time, one might ask a friend or a ...
Views: 945 - Therapy: Why Do Some Therapists Want To Save Others? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are so many things that one can do, and this can cause them to be overwhelmed. This is why it is not always a ‘good’ thing for one to have more things to choose from. Having more choice can make it even harder for one to know what they want to do; whereas if they ...
Views: 1135 - Therapy: Why Don’t Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been ...
Views: 494 - Therapy: Why Would Someone Say That The Type Of Therapy That They Are Having Is The Best? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has worked with a therapist for a little while, they may find that their life has started to change. As to what caused them to have therapy in the first place, there can be a number of reasons. For example, their mind may have been out of control and their emotions may have ...
Views: 452 - There Is A Difference Between Needing Help And Being Ready For Help - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was l watching one of the live video calls that I did with Errol Campbell, there was something that he said at the end that stood out. He basically said that the people who were watching the video were free to share it with those who were ready, not those who simply needed it. Hearing ...
Views: 592 - There Is A Reason Why We Look To One Person To Meet All Of Our Needs! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I wrote about when my father worked with a healer called, Errol Campbell, and after I wrote this article, I ended up sharing it with him. Yet, before I wrote this article, I wasn’t sure if I would have enough content within me to write an article about this moment. Just Do ...
Views: 936 - There Is More To Trauma Than Just Painful Memories - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2012, I came to the conclusion that if I could change what was going on in my mind my life would change. The outcome of this was that I ended up having hypnotherapy. I was in a lot of emotional pain at this time and I had no idea what inner peace was like. A little while ...
Views: 791 - There Is Nothing Wrong With You! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would get into self-development or try to change themselves. One reason that this can take place is because they believe that there is something wrong with them. Now, this is not to say that one will be aware of this belief, as is it can be a ...
Views: 595 - They Were Slowly Killing Themselves! - by Submitted on May 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently heard about someone whose health was not in a good way, yet this was not something that had taken place overnight. What hadn’t helped was that they had been consuming things that had harmed their body and mind. This was something that had been going on for a number of years. So, ...
Views: 1022 - Thinking Differently: Does Our Environment Shape Our Thinking? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperSome people might believe that their thoughts are their own and that their environment has no effect on them whatsoever. And there are going to be other people who will see how their environment does affect them; but this may only relate to certain factors that are relatively easy to notice. ...
Views: 2056 - This Technique Actually Heals Trauma! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend. I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ...
Views: 1695 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent times, people have become more aware of how powerful their thoughts are and while the power of one’s thoughts is nothing new, it was not something that was as well known in the past. And the reason more people are aware of the power of their thoughts is partly down to the internet. ...
Views: 1985 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the self help industry, thoughts are often described as having the power to create one’s life and therefore to define what one attracts into their life. And there are numerous authors and experts that espouse this perspective. One can learn about this through all kinds of ...
Views: 1664 - Throwaway Society: What Created The Throwaway Society? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is new or different it is often seen as better than what one has and as something that one can look forward to owning or experiencing. Once something has become ‘old’ and one is familiar with it, its effects usually lessen. So what was engaging and interesting at one point in ...
Views: 5776 - To All Those Working Through Their Inner Wounds, I Salute You! - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I heard from someone who had had a childhood that was anything but nurturing. This was someone who I hadn’t seen for a number of years. Although I didn’t know much about them, I was still surprised when they told me this. What surprised me even more, though, was that ...
Views: 485 - Toxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperToxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? 19/7/20200 Comments If someone was to incarnate as a bird, there would be certain things that would be part of their experience. The only way that they would change this is by denying ...
Views: 605 - Toxic Shame: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one has inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they’re able to realise this. And when this is the case, it is likely to be due to the toxic shame that they’re carrying within them. As all the time one is carrying this within them, it is going to make it more or less impossible for them to ...
Views: 1297 - Toxic Shame: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that can be passed on from one generation to another that are beneficial and life affirming. This could relate manners, values and etiquette. These aspects will not only affect how one lives their life, the lives of others are also going to be affected. Through being ...
Views: 1508 - Toxic Shame: What Are The Different Levels Of Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame. What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the ...
Views: 447 - Toxic Shame: What Can Happen If Someone Disconnects From Their Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are feelings that can be seen as being ‘positive’ and then there are feelings that can be seen as being ‘negative’. When it comes to how a feeling is perceived, it is likely to depend on the impact that it has on someone’s mood. If a feeling causes one to feel good, it can be seen in a ...
Views: 456 - Transference: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To See Other People As Their Parents? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFirst off, regardless of whether or not someone experienced a lot of trauma during their early years, they are going to engage in transference. It could be said that this is just something that human beings do. The difference is that if someone has experienced a lot of trauma, this is likely ...
Views: 335 - Trapped Emotions: What Happens When We Have Trapped Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions need to flow and to be expressed during moments when it is appropriate; they are often inhibited and denied the chance to be expressed. Now, there will always be times in ones life when it is not appropriate to express them and yet when one is in a different environment, it ...
Views: 1504 - Trauma Separates Us From Our True Essence! - by Submitted on May 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI mediated a few weeks ago and this was something that I hadn’t done for a little while. But even though I hadn’t done this for a little while, I soon remembered how beneficial it was to mediate. I felt more at peace afterwards and it brought to my attention how different the mind is ...
Views: 790 - Trauma: Are Some People Trying To Heal Trauma By Changing Their Thoughts? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone ends up getting into self-development, it can be a sign that their mind is their own worst enemy. So, instead of this part of them giving them the support and encouragement that they need, it will be doing the complete opposite. This part of them could have the tendency to produce ...
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