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- “Shadow Work Is Important!” - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe last time I spoke to a friend of mine called, Errol Campbell, we touched upon the effect that the mother/father wound can have on someone , and this time we looked into another important area. But before I got into what this was, I want to talk about how this topic came up. This was ...
Views: 804 - “Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion” - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was looking through some of Carl Jung quotes, one that stood out was ‘“Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion”. When I saw this, it reminded me of something that I said about toxic shame a number of years ago. In at least two articles, I said that in the same way that acid destroys things, ...
Views: 573 - “She Was Emotionally Unavailable!” - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met the woman who I would go on to spend a number of months with in 2013, I remember seeing her from a certain angle and thinking about how much she looked like my mother. It wouldn’t be accurate for me to say that this was something that I consciously thought about, though, as this was ...
Views: 980 - “Stop Preaching!” - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe first book that I read on self development was a by Louise L Hay and, shortly after I had read one of her books, I end up reading another. I bought the first book in a spiritual shop in Australia and the second book at a book shop in England. After I had finished this book, I read a few ...
Views: 909 - “The Individual Has Always Had To Struggle To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By The Tribe” - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, I heard the following quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning ...
Views: 763 - “The Only Way Out Is Through” - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main ...
Views: 395 - “The World Is Designed To Depress Us!” - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I came across a post that had been shared on a social media site that went into how ‘the world is increasingly designed to depress us’. This was something that had been written in a book and the page that this had been written on had been shared. It went on to say that ...
Views: 657 - “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I thought that the reason we projected our inner world/issues onto others was due to a lack of awareness; therefore, this wouldn’t take place if someone was self-aware. This was something that I was fairly convinced of. I think I even wrote a number of articles where I ...
Views: 828 - “There Is No Reason To Feel Ashamed If You Have Mental And Emotional Problems!” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I was talking to someone who said that one of their friends had suffered from depression in the past and, along with this, another one of their friends had recently revealed that they were not in a good way. I don’t think it came as a surprise for them to hear about what their ...
Views: 736 - “This Guy Gets To The Root Of The Issue!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article, I mentioned someone who I met after I helped a friend move house. This was someone called Wain, and since our paths crossed in the middle of 2015, a number of thought-provoking conversations have been had. It doesn’t end there, though, as what I think about after we ...
Views: 812 - “This Guy Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an article that I wrote a few months ago, I spoke about someone who I met whilst I was at a spiritual shop a few years ago. His name was Ian Baillie, and this was someone who was into past lives. At the time, this was not something that I knew much about, but I was open-minded and keen to ...
Views: 1316 - “This Guy Knew How To Listen!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn November 2017, I had the opportunity to meet someone called, Geoff Hudson-Searle, who was an author and the managing director of a company that helps businesses to succeed. Our paths crossed after I sent him a message on a social media site and he suggested that we meet for a coffee. I ...
Views: 861 - “This Guy Was Great At Approaching Women!" - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2007, I started to look for information on how to improve my success with women. After I had been reading about self-development for quite some time, this seemed like the next step. During this time, I heard about a community that existed to help men improve with women. If ...
Views: 976 - “This Guy Was Masculine!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I started a new job in the beginning of 2010, it took me a while to settle down. One of reason for this was that before I started this job, I had gone on holiday to Bali and Australia and I had been on a healing course in Belgium just before I headed over there. In addition to this, I ...
Views: 1071 - “This Was Someone Who Was In Touch With Their Emotions!” - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I got back from Mexico in 2014, I started spending more time with a friend who I had met a few years before. This was someone who I had met whilst I was at a social club. I remember seeing someone who was friendly and outgoing, and I felt the need to go and talk to them. At ...
Views: 1087 - “This Woman Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was doing a bit of research online for an article that I was going to put together. I was going to write an article about how women are being conditioned to see themselves as victims. During this time, I came across an article titled: 'Victimhood narrative' taught in ...
Views: 785 - “Until You Make The Unconscious Conscious, It Will Direct Your Life And You Will Call It Fate” - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is typically as though someone begins and ends with their conscious mind. Not only this, it is as though what is taking place inside their inner world has very little if any effect on their outer world. When it comes to the self-development world, however, it is often ...
Views: 67 - “We Are Walking Trees” - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston, a therapist, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer, a number of months ago, he went into what someone had shared with him in the past. He said that this person had told him that human beings were basically walking trees. I spend a fair amount ...
Views: 1179 - “We Were Together In A Past Life!” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been on the path for a number of years, I ended up doing a fair amount of healing work around my own path lives. At the time, this appeared to be something that would allow me to make progress. Once I stopped doing this, I rarely thought about past lives. This all changed many ...
Views: 756 - “We've Had A Complaint!” - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I was working somewhere where I had the opportunity to speak to a lot of people. When I first started working there, there were a number of things that I enjoyed. There were a number of people who I got on well with, and then there ...
Views: 919 - “We’re In Some Sort Of Shared Hallucination” – Part One - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had watched what I would describe as a normal Arrow episode, the next episode ended up being another crossover episode titled “Invasion!” I thought this was well-made and shook things up a bit. Since that time, I have thought about what happened in this episode, and I think it is ...
Views: 367 - “We’re In Some Sort Of Shared Hallucination” – Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote about the Arrow crossover episode titled “Invasion!” Shortly after this, it occurred to me that there was something that I had missed that I had to write about it. So, if you haven’t read the first part, it will be a good idea for you to read this article first, and ...
Views: 346 - “What Is Legitimate Suffering?” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, it must have been around 2013, I came across a term that fascinated me. I can’t remember how I came across this term, but what I do remember is that I was part of a quote by Carl Jung. I even ended up writing an article about it around the same time. This was the ...
Views: 2793 - “What Qualifications Do You Have?” - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year I had a few videos made, and one of those videos was about what qualifications I had. What inspired me to make this video was an email that I had received around that time. In this email someone said that they liked my work or that they liked an article, but ...
Views: 1025 - “What You Resist, Persists” - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I heard the saying, ‘what you resist, persists’. When I first heard it stood out but it didn’t really mean much, but as time has gone by and my understanding of it has changed, it has gradually come to mean a lot. Anyway, a few days ago I came across this quote whilst I ...
Views: 562 - “What’s Wrong With You?!” - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I ended up hearing a child scream whilst I was reading a book. The child, along with both of their parents, was right behind me so I couldn’t help but hear. At first, I started to wonder when the noise would stop as I was finding it hard to concentrate. Sooner or ...
Views: 63 - “You Are Always Happy!” - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the time when my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I did my best to carry on as normal. This would typically mean that I would act as though I was happy and that everything was fine. But as I had been this way for most of my life, it wasn’t as if I was doing anything ...
Views: 831 - “You Don’t Have The Luxury Of Giving Up” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘The Power of Others’ whilst I was in London towards the end of 2014, and there were a few things that I made a note of. In the chapter that I was reading at this time, the author touched upon how it is easier for someone to be curious when they are not caught up in trying to ...
Views: 889 - “You Need Therapy!” - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I left where I was working in 2012, I felt overwhelmed with stress and emotional pain. Due to this, I head back to the spiritual shop where I had had a reading a little while before, and I spoke to the owner. Her name was Sheila, and she was down to earth, genuine and ...
Views: 781 - “You Only Like Me Because I’m Famous!” - by Submitted on May 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I had the chance to meet a DJ and producer, and I ended up seeing them perform afterwards. This was an incredible night and a time in my life that I will never forget. At the time it was surreal, I couldn’t quite get my head around how this was taking place; I didn’t ...
Views: 712 - “You Shouldn’t Have Asked!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn early 2000, I started to learn a martial art, and for a little while before this I had thought about doing something. What had a played part here was that I had been watching films with Jean-Claude Van Damme in. And while I ended up learning a different marital art to the one I had in ...
Views: 828 - “You Suffer From Survivors Guilt” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the final episode of season five of Arrow, Slade says to Oliver that he “suffers from survivor’s guilt”. After this, Slade says that he can’t get over the death of his father and that he needs to forgive himself. Confused, Oliver asks what he needs to forgive himself for, to which Slade ...
Views: 531 - “You Were Abandoned!” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the relationship that I was in at the beginning of 2013 came to an end, I ended up coming into contact with a lot of emotional pain. Although a certain amount of pain had been coming up for a little while, the end of the relationship brought it all up the surface. Fortunately, I was ...
Views: 995 - ”You Have To Be Careful What You Focus On!” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was with a friend last year, I remember touching upon what was going on with the presidential election in America. I had been paying attention to this, but this friend hadn’t been doing the same thing. I said that it was hard to work out what was going on and he said that there was no ...
Views: 766 - Being Present: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is not living in the present it is going to be a challenge for them to focus on what they are doing. As a result, they could be more concerned about what is taking place within them than what is taking place without. If they were working, it could cause them to overlook what they ...
Views: 1258 - Depression: Can An Emotional Build-Up Cause Someone To Feel Depressed When They Wake Up? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who like to wake up early, there are other people who don’t. If one does like to wake up early, they could describe themselves as a ‘morning person’, and this is likely to mean that they generally find it easy to wake up. And when they do, they could feel as ...
Views: 1212 - Emotional Problems: Why Do Some Men Suffer In Silence When They Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile anyone can suffer from mental and emotional problems, there is a stronger chance that someone will reach out for support if they are woman. What this comes down to is that this is something that affects each sex differently. Times Have Changed As although certain parts of the world ...
Views: 1615 - Free Speech: Why Do Some People Try To Stop Others From Expressing Their Views? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the people that one is closest to, they are likely to find that they have similar views. They may disagree about certain things from time to time, but in general they will be on the same page, so to speak. Whereas if one was to think about the people they that they are not ...
Views: 1649 - Guilt: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Guilty? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be moments where one’s emotional experience reflects reality, there can also be moments when it doesn’t. In this case, it could be said that there is no reason for one to feel the way that they do. However, even though there will be moments where it isn’t necessary for one ...
Views: 1519 - History: Can You Control People By Controlling History? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what most people know about history, there is a chance that the majority of what they know was picked up whilst they were at school. Along with this, there can be what they have learned through watching films. On the other hand, there are the people who have taken matters ...
Views: 1498 - Relationships: Are Relationship Problems Caused By Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to fixing something, it is not uncommon for some kind of diagnosis to take place. Once this has taken place, the appropriate action can then be taken, and before long, it could be back to normal. Alternatively, someone could find that something doesn’t work and instead of ...
Views: 1357 - Relationships: Can A Bad Relationship Cause Someone To Believe That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are in relationships that could be described as ‘functional’; there are others who are in relationships that could be described as ’dysfunctional’. And as a result of this, their experience on this planet is going to be radically different. One Experience ...
Views: 1297 - Relationships: Do You Push People Away When They Trigger Your Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings. The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ...
Views: 1396 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Treat Others How They Would Like To Be Treated? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to treat someone with respect, there is the chance that they will get a certain response. Whereas if they were to treat someone with disrespect, there is the chance they will get a completely different response. When it comes to the first example, one might expect another person ...
Views: 1359 - Relationships: When Someone Believes That All Men/Women Are The Same Is It Because They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are able to see that not all men/women are the same, there are also people who are unable to do so. In their eyes, every member of the opposite gender is going to be the same. The First Side If someone was to ask a person in the first group to prove to them that ...
Views: 1213 - Relationships: Why Do People Who Fear Being Abandoned End Up With People Who Fear Being Smothered? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be times when someone will want to be around others, there will also be times when they want to be by themselves. And as to how long someone will spend in the company of others or in their own company can depend on a number of factors. Human beings are not all the same and ...
Views: 1685 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can either look into what took place, or they can simply find someone to blame. If they were to look into what happened, it would give them the chance to make a difference. For example, they could see if they have played a part in what took place and if so, ...
Views: 1574 - Relationships: Will The People That Someone Attracts Online Be Different To The People They Attract Offline? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to run out of food in the past, they would need to go shopping; however, in today’s world, this is no longer the case. The only thing that they need to do is to go online and to order what it is that they need. And depending on when they order what they need, it could be delivered ...
Views: 1492 - Star Wars: Does Star Wars Provide The Ultimate Escape? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask someone if they had heard of ‘star wars’, there is a strong chance that they will say yes. Now, this could be because they watch a lot of films, but at the same time, this might not be the case. What this comes down to is how popular this franchise is and as a result of ...
Views: 1398 - Therapy: Should Someone Work With A Therapist For A Long Period Of Time? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one wants to work with a therapist, they can have a number of different questions, and one thing they can want to know is how long it will last. This could come down to the fact that they want to move on with their life, or it could be a sign that they just want to feel better. ...
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