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- Belonging: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Feel As Though They Don't Belong? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to belong and when this need is not fulfilled, it can lead to all kinds of problems. Many years ago, if one wasn’t part of the tribe, their time on this earth would soon come to an end. In some parts of the world this is still going to be the case, however, ...
Views: 2679 - Black And White Thinking: Are Some People Conditioned To Believe That Everything Is Black Or White? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one learns about something, it can be a time where they are told to believe just about everything they hear. There is then no need for them to question anything and to think for themselves. The Education System It could be said that this is something that typically takes place when ...
Views: 1358 - Black Panther: Did ‘Black Panther’ Emphasize How Important It Is To Heal Ancestral Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ‘Black Panther’ came out earlier on in the year, I heard that it was a really good film. A few friends of mine said it was good and one of them said that they were willing to see it again if I wanted to go. I didn’t go to the cinema in the end and I ended up forgetting all about the ...
Views: 894 - Black Swan: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first heard about this film I was intrigued by the story line. And after Natalie Portman had won an Oscar for her role, I thought it must be worth watching. It is directed by Darren Aronofsky, who directed The Wrestler and numerous other films. After watching this film I was amazed and ...
Views: 3064 - Blame: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could have the tendency to take responsibility for what happens in their life, they could also have the tendency to blame others. Based on this, it could be said that one can either behave like an adult, or they can behave like a child. When one doesn’t take responsibility, it ...
Views: 1406 - Blame: If Someone Always Blames Others Does It Show That They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are people that take responsibility for just about everything, and on the other hand, there are others that avoid taking responsibility for just about everything. And while it could be said that the first option is better than the second option, they are both going to lead to ...
Views: 1534 - Blame: It Is Normal For Someone To Blame Others When They Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world, they may have heard about people who blame others for what is taking place in their life. Along with this, they may have heard about certain groups that blame other groups for the challenges in their life. The Norm When this ...
Views: 1284 - Blame: When Someone Blames Others Can It Make Them Blind To Their Own Faults? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can look into why it has gone wrong or they can find someone to blame. If one was to take the first option, it could be said that there is a greater chance of them being able to find a solution. Whereas if they were to find someone to blame for what has taken ...
Views: 2000 - Blame: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor change to take place and progress to be made, there needs to an element of responsibility. And this applies to all areas of one’s life; without it, something might stay as it is or simply get a lot worse. But while this is evident, it doesn’t mean that someone will take responsibility ...
Views: 4110 - Bleeding Gums: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bleeding Gums? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn todays world, ones image has become incredibly important. And there are all kinds of options for one to choose from when it comes to enhancing their image or even completely transforming it. The style of clothes that one wears can be changed, as can the style and colour of their hair. ...
Views: 4849 - Body Confidence: Is It A Good Idea For Women To Use A Celebrity's Body As Inspiration? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman wasn’t very happy with her body, there are number of things that she could do. And the approach that she takes can all depend on what kind of personality she has. One Option When she looks at her body she could end up feeling bad about herself, but that doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 1477 - Body Language: Can Trapped Emotions Define Someone’s Body Language? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the words that someone uses, there is the potential for one to cover up what is really going on. Here, one can say what they think they should be saying or what sounds right. And while another person can take this as the truth, it could be just a half truth or a complete ...
Views: 2691 - Body Shaming: Is It Naive For Someone To Expect Everyone To Accept Their Appearance Online? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone uses social media, they can share many different parts of their life, and along with this, they can share different parts of their body. However, while they can do this, it doesn’t mean that they will decide to share everything. Instead, one can choose to only share certain ...
Views: 1248 - Body-Shaming: Why Do Some People Who Exercise Shame People Who Don't? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, a gym membership was not something that many people had, and while this was partly because of the cost, it was also due to the fact that there wasn’t as much pressure on people to exercise. This is not to say that people have only recently been encouraged to exercise; what it comes ...
Views: 2203 - Book Reviews: How Should Someone Respond When Other People Leave Negative Book Reviews? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce someone has read a book, they can to leave a review on a popular website, and this can take place even if they have bought the book offline. In addition to this, they can also leave a review if they bought the book on another site. However, even though one has the opportunity to do ...
Views: 1184 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Overweight? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they are not as slim as they would like to be, it is not going to be hard for them to find other people who are having the same experience. And this is because this is something that a lot of people struggle with. The Media For one thing, the mainstream media ...
Views: 1720 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to lie down in a crowded place, there is a strong chance that they would end up being walked over. And it wouldn’t matter whether someone wanted to walk over them or not, as they wouldn’t have much choice. However, this is not to say that one needs to do this in order to be walked ...
Views: 1657 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a garden in front of their house that they wanted to protect, it might be a good idea for them to put a fence up. This is not to say that the fence would need to go all the way along, as it would be important for them to have a gate put it too. Through having a gate put in, it ...
Views: 1552 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Care What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one hadn’t learnt now to drive and they had to rely on someone else to drive them everywhere, their life is going to be a lot harder than it would be if they could drive. This is because they won’t be able to go out when they want; they will only be able to go out when the only person is ...
Views: 1647 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who get angry from time to time; there are others who are angry almost all the time. Yet this is not to say that there are only two categories, as there are going to be others who are rarely, if ever angry. When one experiences life in this way, they could believe ...
Views: 1664 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when someone has too much of something and times when they don’t have enough. It is often said that when one wants something it is never there and yet when they don’t want it, it ends up appearing. However, while this can relate to something physical, it is also something ...
Views: 1607 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Hide? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there are said to be people who like to spend a lot of time around others, and on the other side, there are said to be people who don’t. Another way of looking at this would be to say that there are introverts and extroverts. But while some people will see themselves in this ...
Views: 1569 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to tell someone that they are leaving their job or a relationship, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would know what they are talking about. When they think about what one is doing, they might imagine them saying goodbye to their colleagues or walking away from the ...
Views: 1548 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can maintain their sense of self in a relationship, there are others who are unable to do this. As a result, their experiences are going to be radically different, and this could be how they have been for most of their life. A Big Difference When one is able to maintain ...
Views: 1820 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for one to hear about how they shouldn’t be a people pleaser. This may have been something one has come through reading books on self development, or they may have heard about it after reading articles online, for instance. But if this wasn’t the case, it ...
Views: 1580 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Other People? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile every human being has an inner world and an outer world, it doesn’t mean these two worlds are completely separate. What is taking place internally will have an effect on what is going on externally and vice versa. A Lens It is then not possible for someone to simply observe what is ...
Views: 1157 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can be in a position where they are able to express their true-self, and on the other side, they can be in a position where this isn’t the case. At the same time, one could also find that it is possible for them to do this from time to time. But if this is the case, it is ...
Views: 1566 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go out for a meal with a friend, it is likely to show that they both have the need to do so. This will not only allow them to fulfil their need to eat something, it will also allow them to fulfil a number of other needs. A Match Therefore, although they are both ...
Views: 1321 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to drive somewhere that wasn’t too far away, they wouldn’t need to have a lot of fuel in their car. However, if they wanted to go somewhere that was over an hour away, for instance, this wouldn’t be the case. But as long as they took the time to get the fuel they needed, this ...
Views: 1501 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given the opportunity to do something, it will be up to them to decide if they want to go along with it. This is not to say that they can’t talk to other people about it; what it means is that they are the only ones who know if it is right for them. One could be in a position ...
Views: 1592 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, experiencing intimacy will be a normal part of life, and it is then not going to be something that they will need to worry about. If this wasn’t the case and they were unable to experience intimacy, it could be something that ends up consuming their whole life. Their need to ...
Views: 1620 - Boundaries: Can Anxiety Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to have anxiety problems in today’s world, and while it may still be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life, there is also the chance that their whole life could end up being affected. In this case, it is going to be challenge for them to enjoy ...
Views: 2029 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Having Boundaries With Being Disconnected From Others? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way a fence protects a garden, boundaries protect a human being. Not only will they stop someone from taking on responsibilities that are not theirs but they will also stop them from being mistreated. Unlike walls, they will allow one to let the right people in and experience ...
Views: 278 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are boundaries and, on the other hand, there are walls. To gain an understanding of what the difference is, someone could think about these two things in a slightly different context. When it comes to a property, a boundary will let other people know where the property ...
Views: 687 - Boundaries: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could prefer to spend time by themselves and when they are around others, they could have the tendency to lose who they are. When they are in their own company, then, they could have a fairly strong connection with their inner world and feel free to do just about whatever ...
Views: 414 - Boundaries: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that they have trouble letting people get close to them. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time by themselves. Then again, they could spend a fair amount of time around others but typically hide themselves when ...
Views: 170 - Boundaries: Can Skin Problems Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one saw perfect skin in the past, it may have been because they were looking at images in a magazine; however, if one was to come across perfect skin in today’s world, it could be because they are using social media. And as one can use social media whenever they like, it also means that they ...
Views: 2246 - Boundaries: Can Someone Allow Other People To Walk Over Them When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come into contact with someone who tried to take advantage of them, they could end up letting the other person know that this is not acceptable. This might take place through telling them directly and/or they could walk away. It will then be clear that one is not willing to put ...
Views: 1277 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 394 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do. During these moments, they will need to make this clear. If this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for them to say no to another person. ...
Views: 190 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that it is hard for them to get close to others. In general, they may prefer to keep their distance and only have surface-level connections. Due to this, they could often feel lonely and yearn to have closer connections with ...
Views: 444 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Physically Harmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time, someone may have been able to see that they have been with a number of people that were not available. If so, this is likely to be something that has caused them to experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. But, as they are going to want to experience a deeper ...
Views: 373 - Boundaries: Can Someone End Up Being Walked Over If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground and to pay attention to their needs and feelings, they could come to believe that they need to become more assertive. As a result of this, they could end up taking part in some kind of assertiveness training. The Next ...
Views: 1417 - Boundaries: Can Someone End Up Being Walked Over When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around the people who they are close to, they may find that they are able to be themselves. What this is going to show is that they won’t have to put on an act. Not only is one going to be in touch with their needs and feeelings, they are also going to feel safe enough ...
Views: 1190 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to do what they don’t want to do. They may see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Thus, instead of asserting themselves and saying no when they don’t want to do ...
Views: 281 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one doesn’t want to do something, they might listen to what is taking place with them and speak up. However, there is also the chance that they will ignore what is taking place within them and simply go along with what someone else wants. A Different Experience When it relates to the ...
Views: 1321 - Boundaries: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Feel Exhausted If They Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could act as though they are merely an extension of others. The reason for this is that they could tend to say yes if another person asks them if they will do something for them. And, even if they are not asked to do something, they could still be doing things for others. ...
Views: 162 - Boundaries: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual, with their own needs and feelings, it is not going to be possible for them to always say yes and to do what another person wants or suggests. If they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. However, while they will need to say no at ...
Views: 212 - Boundaries: Can Someone Let Other People Walk Over Them When They Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier for one to live a fulfilling life, and having boundaries is one them. It will then be possible for one to be able to stand up for themselves and to be around the right people. Protection One is then not just going to be able to spend ...
Views: 1155 - Boundaries: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to feel safe and when they don’t feel safe, they can end up building walls around themselves. But while one might feel safe though having them, what they won’t be able to do is to embrace life. On the other hand, if one has boundaries they will be able to ...
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