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- Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to lie down in a crowded place, there is a strong chance that they would end up being walked over. And it wouldn’t matter whether someone wanted to walk over them or not, as they wouldn’t have much choice. However, this is not to say that one needs to do this in order to be walked ...
Views: 1537 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a garden in front of their house that they wanted to protect, it might be a good idea for them to put a fence up. This is not to say that the fence would need to go all the way along, as it would be important for them to have a gate put it too. Through having a gate put in, it ...
Views: 1438 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Care What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one hadn’t learnt now to drive and they had to rely on someone else to drive them everywhere, their life is going to be a lot harder than it would be if they could drive. This is because they won’t be able to go out when they want; they will only be able to go out when the only person is ...
Views: 1470 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who get angry from time to time; there are others who are angry almost all the time. Yet this is not to say that there are only two categories, as there are going to be others who are rarely, if ever angry. When one experiences life in this way, they could believe ...
Views: 1489 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when someone has too much of something and times when they don’t have enough. It is often said that when one wants something it is never there and yet when they don’t want it, it ends up appearing. However, while this can relate to something physical, it is also something ...
Views: 1494 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Hide? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there are said to be people who like to spend a lot of time around others, and on the other side, there are said to be people who don’t. Another way of looking at this would be to say that there are introverts and extroverts. But while some people will see themselves in this ...
Views: 1332 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to tell someone that they are leaving their job or a relationship, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would know what they are talking about. When they think about what one is doing, they might imagine them saying goodbye to their colleagues or walking away from the ...
Views: 1407 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can maintain their sense of self in a relationship, there are others who are unable to do this. As a result, their experiences are going to be radically different, and this could be how they have been for most of their life. A Big Difference When one is able to maintain ...
Views: 1652 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for one to hear about how they shouldn’t be a people pleaser. This may have been something one has come through reading books on self development, or they may have heard about it after reading articles online, for instance. But if this wasn’t the case, it ...
Views: 1428 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Other People? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile every human being has an inner world and an outer world, it doesn’t mean these two worlds are completely separate. What is taking place internally will have an effect on what is going on externally and vice versa. A Lens It is then not possible for someone to simply observe what is ...
Views: 1042 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can be in a position where they are able to express their true-self, and on the other side, they can be in a position where this isn’t the case. At the same time, one could also find that it is possible for them to do this from time to time. But if this is the case, it is ...
Views: 1449 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go out for a meal with a friend, it is likely to show that they both have the need to do so. This will not only allow them to fulfil their need to eat something, it will also allow them to fulfil a number of other needs. A Match Therefore, although they are both ...
Views: 1221 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to drive somewhere that wasn’t too far away, they wouldn’t need to have a lot of fuel in their car. However, if they wanted to go somewhere that was over an hour away, for instance, this wouldn’t be the case. But as long as they took the time to get the fuel they needed, this ...
Views: 1379 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given the opportunity to do something, it will be up to them to decide if they want to go along with it. This is not to say that they can’t talk to other people about it; what it means is that they are the only ones who know if it is right for them. One could be in a position ...
Views: 1449 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, experiencing intimacy will be a normal part of life, and it is then not going to be something that they will need to worry about. If this wasn’t the case and they were unable to experience intimacy, it could be something that ends up consuming their whole life. Their need to ...
Views: 1467 - Boundaries: Can Anxiety Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to have anxiety problems in today’s world, and while it may still be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life, there is also the chance that their whole life could end up being affected. In this case, it is going to be challenge for them to enjoy ...
Views: 1873 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Having Boundaries With Being Disconnected From Others? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way a fence protects a garden, boundaries protect a human being. Not only will they stop someone from taking on responsibilities that are not theirs but they will also stop them from being mistreated. Unlike walls, they will allow one to let the right people in and experience ...
Views: 136 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are boundaries and, on the other hand, there are walls. To gain an understanding of what the difference is, someone could think about these two things in a slightly different context. When it comes to a property, a boundary will let other people know where the property ...
Views: 533 - Boundaries: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could prefer to spend time by themselves and when they are around others, they could have the tendency to lose who they are. When they are in their own company, then, they could have a fairly strong connection with their inner world and feel free to do just about whatever ...
Views: 93 - Boundaries: Can Skin Problems Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one saw perfect skin in the past, it may have been because they were looking at images in a magazine; however, if one was to come across perfect skin in today’s world, it could be because they are using social media. And as one can use social media whenever they like, it also means that they ...
Views: 2041 - Boundaries: Can Someone Allow Other People To Walk Over Them When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come into contact with someone who tried to take advantage of them, they could end up letting the other person know that this is not acceptable. This might take place through telling them directly and/or they could walk away. It will then be clear that one is not willing to put ...
Views: 1167 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 111 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that it is hard for them to get close to others. In general, they may prefer to keep their distance and only have surface-level connections. Due to this, they could often feel lonely and yearn to have closer connections with ...
Views: 129 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Physically Harmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time, someone may have been able to see that they have been with a number of people that were not available. If so, this is likely to be something that has caused them to experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. But, as they are going to want to experience a deeper ...
Views: 9 - Boundaries: Can Someone End Up Being Walked Over If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground and to pay attention to their needs and feelings, they could come to believe that they need to become more assertive. As a result of this, they could end up taking part in some kind of assertiveness training. The Next ...
Views: 1292 - Boundaries: Can Someone End Up Being Walked Over When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around the people who they are close to, they may find that they are able to be themselves. What this is going to show is that they won’t have to put on an act. Not only is one going to be in touch with their needs and feeelings, they are also going to feel safe enough ...
Views: 1087 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to do what they don’t want to do. They may see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Thus, instead of asserting themselves and saying no when they don’t want to do ...
Views: 110 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one doesn’t want to do something, they might listen to what is taking place with them and speak up. However, there is also the chance that they will ignore what is taking place within them and simply go along with what someone else wants. A Different Experience When it relates to the ...
Views: 1196 - Boundaries: Can Someone Let Other People Walk Over Them When They Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier for one to live a fulfilling life, and having boundaries is one them. It will then be possible for one to be able to stand up for themselves and to be around the right people. Protection One is then not just going to be able to spend ...
Views: 1039 - Boundaries: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to feel safe and when they don’t feel safe, they can end up building walls around themselves. But while one might feel safe though having them, what they won’t be able to do is to embrace life. On the other hand, if one has boundaries they will be able to ...
Views: 1647 - Boundaries: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in the world today and some these are big and some of them are small. And a lack of boundaries can create all kinds of relationship problems. This is also something that can be seen on a global scale; with certain countries going into other countries. This often ...
Views: 1654 - Boundaries: Do Other People Walk Over You? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that make up ones experience of reality, and these include what they see, hear and smell. What also play an important part are their feelings and thoughts. When it comes to what they see, hear and smell, these are going to be things that other people will also ...
Views: 545 - Boundaries: Do Some Countries Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, there are going to be a number of factors that will play a part. One of these things is the state of their health, and this is something that most people are aware of. Physical Health For example, it is not uncommon to hear about how important it ...
Views: 1180 - Boundaries: Do Some People Only Say Yes To Please Others? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked if they would like to do something by a friend or a family member, for instance, they could give them their answer more or less straight away. But if this doesn’t take place, it could mean that one will need to think about it first. How they behave is going to depend on a ...
Views: 1120 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile boundaries are essential, it doesn’t mean that they are going to be the same for everyone. One person could feel infringed upon when another person does something, and if this was to happen to someone else, it might not cause any problems. But although there will be differences in what ...
Views: 1559 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels safe in their own body it is going to make their life a lot easier. But while this is the ideal, this is not something that everyone on this planet can relate to. If one doesn’t feel safe in their own body it will be normal for them to be walked over and/or for them to ...
Views: 1615 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Say Yes All The Time? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to do something, they can say yes, and, if they don’t, they can say no. Both of these words are going to be important; one word won’t be more important than the other. When someone can use both of these words, there will be no reason for them to have the tendency to ignore ...
Views: 737 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk Over Others? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen an area of land has been fenced off, it is likely to show that it is private property. As a result of this, someone is going to need permission in order to walk on the land; that is, of course, unless they own it or know the person who does. If someone was to ignore this and used the ...
Views: 1059 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Condition Them Up To Be Caught Up In Other People’s Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that when someone is in balance, they will be there for themselves and they will be there for others. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they will neglect their own life when they are there for others, though. In general, they could find time to be there for others without ...
Views: 436 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able to Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough every human being on the planet has a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that each and everyone one of them feel connected to both of these parts of themselves. It may be hard for some people to understand how someone can be out of touch with a part of themselves, but, this is how some ...
Views: 1035 - Boundaries: Does America Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has boundaries, they will be able to say yes and no, and this is because they will safe in their own body. And through being this way, it will allow them to express their true-self. Protection What this comes down to is that one is inherently vulnerable, and this is why it is ...
Views: 1138 - Boundaries: Does Someone Lack Boundaries When They Don't Let Other People Speak? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to have a conversion with a friend or a family member, for instance, there will be what they say and what the other person says. What this comes down to is that one will talk and they will listen. Two Parts This doesn’t mean that they will speak for a certain amount of time ...
Views: 976 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Avoid People Who Lack Boundaries When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to express their true-self, they will need to feel comfortable doing so. If they only feel safe when they are putting on an act, it will still stop this part of them from seeing the light of day. How they generally behave around others is then going to be the ...
Views: 1311 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Find It Hard To Say Yes? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has boundary problems, they may end up hearing about how important it is to be able to say no. This could be a time when one will come across information that will talk about how they need to be assertive and to draw the line. Through being able to behave in this way, it will allow ...
Views: 1079 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Unable To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is asked if they would like to do something, they could end up saying yes. This could show that they actually want to do what the person has suggested, and there will then have been no reason for them to say anything else. A Wonderful Experience This could then be a time when one ...
Views: 1076 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Used To Being Walked Over? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to stand their ground, they are not going to have to worry about being walked over. Now, this doesn’t mean that they will never be walked over by others; what it means is that is that it won’t be something that happens on a regular basis. As if it was something they ...
Views: 1263 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that when someone has boundaries, their life is going to be a lot better than it would be if they didn’t have them. The reason for this is that one has their own needs and feelings. So, while one is an interdependent human being who needs other people, that doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1183 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop You From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is used to being walked over by others, they can feel like a victim, or they can have a different outlook. When one can relate to the former, it will be normal for them to feel as though they have no control over their life. Alternatively, when one doesn’t see themselves in this ...
Views: 1285 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Saying No? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable standing their ground, there are others who don’t feel this way. As a result of this, it is going to mean that their experiences on this planet are going to be extremely different. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that the former are going to be ...
Views: 1235 - Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life. Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others ...
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