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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

We All Have Hidden Talents!

Earlier on I caught up with my friend, Wain Gordon, and we touched upon a number of topics. One thing that I spoke about was a how-to guide that I had put together to assist others in finding their purpose. He asked me a few questions about this and then he said that one of the ways that someone can get closer to their purpose is by looking into what comes naturally to them. After this, he went onto to say that some people are good listeners. A Natural Ability

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Frozen: Can Someone Become Emotionally Frozen If They Experienced Trauma As A Child?

Now, although someone will have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they will find it easy to connect to what is taking place in their body. This doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to connect to the sensations in their body; no, what it means is that it can be hard for them to connect to how they feel. In general, it could seem as though they are emotionally dead and simply don’t have emotions. As a result of this, they could typically feel numb and even ‘dead’ inside, with this being how they have been for as long as they can remember. Emotionally Flat

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“People Will Do Anything, No Matter How Absurd, To Avoid Facing Their Own Souls”

A number of weeks ago I watched “A Dangerous Method” and this was about a stage of Carl Jung’s life. Watching this film gave me the urge to find out more about him and since that time, a number of his quotes have caught my attention. One that has stood out is, “People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” My take on this is that he was saying that people will do everything that they can to avoid their own pain. The Same Purpose

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Develop An Adult Self In Order To Move On From Child Abuse?

If someone was abused during their early years, they may find that it is not possible for them to put the past behind them. A number of decades may have passed since that time in their life, but it could be as if very little time has passed. And although their caregivers didn’t treat them well, they may still look towards these people to love them. This is not to say that this will happen directly, as it is likely to be something that takes place indirectly. For Example

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Oppressed?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about how oppressed certain people are, with this being something that is often spoken about on social media and in the mainstream media. This is often seen as something that primarily affects minorities and women. Therefore, white men are in a very privileged position, as there is absolutely nothing holding them back in life. In fact, white men are often portrayed as the ones who are holding everyone else back. A Way of life

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Being Controlled?

Naturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves. When this takes place, these people will probably realise that one, along with every other human being on the planet, is not an extension of them. It is then not going to be right for them to tell one how they should live their life or what they should be doing in each moment of it. Freedom

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Image: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Exist?

Although some people feel safe in their body and as though they deserve to exist, there are others that don’t experience life in this way. However, regardless of whether someone fits into the first category or the second, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. Yet, even if someone is not consciously aware of this, it is still going to have a big influence on their life. How they experience life can just be seen as normal, and if this is a good thing or a bad thing will all depend on what their life is like. The First Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

How To Take Action And Live Without Regrets

What someone could find is that when they look back on their day or their week, there are a number of things that they wished they had done. They could spend hours wondering why they didn’t do something and beat themselves up in the process. The months are then going to go by and one is not only going to punish themselves for what they haven’t done and to feel bad, they are also going to miss out on a lot of things. For their life to change, they will need to do something about what is going on. An Important Question

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Ove ight

If one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when they didn’t get the love and guidance that they desperately needed. It won’t matter how many years have passed since this time in their life as coming to terms with the fact that these needs won’t be met can be similar to coming to terms with the fact that a loved one won’t ever be coming back.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can Someone Be Emotionally Unavailable Even Though They’re In A Relationship?

It would be easy to believe that the people who are emotionally unavailable are single and the ones who aren’t are in a relationship. Or, if someone is emotionally available and single, it could just show that they are taking a break after going through a breakup, for instance. This is then typically going to be something that is very black and white. However, while it may seem as though this is the case, this outlook would have very little to do with how things actually are. An Illusion

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Let Your Feelings Guide You

When I was reading ‘The Integrity Of Personality’ by Anthony Storr, there were a lot of things that stood out. This is a book that came out a few decades ago, but it is full of great information. And one of the things that stood out was when he basically said that a therapist can’t make a client do anything. He said that when someone is ready to behave in a certain way, they will, and that this is not something that can be forced. The Only Reason

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Knowledge: Can Someone End Up Being Addicted To 'Negative’ Feelings If They Experienced Childhood Trauma?

If someone was asked if they would rather feel good or bad, they would probably choose the former. This would make complete sense as it is far better to feel good than it is to feel bad. Nonetheless, although this is what they are likely to say, it doesn’t mean that this is what typically takes place. If they were to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they spend a lot of time experiencing ‘negative’ feelings. A Frustrating Existence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Raise Her Son To Be A Surrogate Spouse?

Although some men are able to form healthy relationships with women, there are others that are unable to do so. There are, of course, a numbers of reasons as to why this is. For those that are unable to do so, it can be because they lack confidence or are emotionally disconnected. Then again, it can be because they have a fear of intimacy and don’t feel comfortable getting close to a woman. Another Reason

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Meditation Can Help You To Develop Self-Control

One way of looking at the current age would be to describe it as the age of impulsivity. Unlike the past, there is less pressure on people to keep things in and to control their thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, people are often encouraged to express how they feel and to allow their inner world to control them. In a way, it is as though society has gone from one extreme to the other. One Extreme

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Humour: Do Some People Use Humour As A Defence Mechanism?

There are a number of things that make life easier to handle on this planet, and being able to laugh is one of them. This ability serves a similar purpose to oil; it allows life to flow that little bit easier. Without oil, a machine would soon end up seizing up, but while the world probably wouldn’t come to a standstill without laughter, it certainly wouldn’t be the same. Instead, it would be like living a life that is in black and white. A Gloss

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Needs: Can Someone Disconnect From Their Needs If They Experienced Trauma As A Child?

When it comes to someone’s needs, these are one of the things that allow them to have their own experience on this earth. This is not to say that they, unlike others, are the only ones with needs; it is that in each moment they will have their own set of needs. At times, what they need will be the same thing as what another person needs; while at others, what they need will be totally different to what another person needs. Having this connection to their needs, and being able to fulfil them on a regular basis, is going to have a positive effect on their life. Integrated

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

You Don't Come Through The World, The World Comes Through You

When I was speaking to Ben Ralston a number of weeks ago, he mentioned something that really made me think. Ben is a therapist and trainer of therapists, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer. We were talking about the self-image and he ended up touching upon a book that he had been reading. I can’t remember what this book was called, but I can remember why he mentioned it. A Powerful Sentence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Hide Themselves?

As a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to fully show up in life. What could be normal is for them to hide when they are around others or to hide away from others. Still, regardless of what takes place, the outcome will be the same. If they do hide around others, other people won’t know who they really are and, if they hide away from others, other people certainly won’t get the chance to know them. Two Ways

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“I’m Being Ignored!”

Earlier on I was waiting in line for something and the person in front of me asked the cashier a question. They didn’t receive an answer, though, and this made them turn to me and say that they were being ignored. A few seconds later, this person asked the cashier the same question and once again, they didn’t get a response. And just like before, they looked at me and said that they were being ignored. Black and white

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Aggression?

It could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground. Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not only to others but to themselves. Nevertheless, when this takes place, it is likely to show that something isn’t right. A Metaphor

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Dissociate As An Adult?

In recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this. This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for this to be given so much attention. When someone is present and in the moment, they are going to be firmly rooted in their body. Here, Now

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Why Would Someone Believe That Another Person Has All The Answers?

If one was to come across someone that had a deeper understanding of something, it doesn’t mean that they would end up putting this person on a pedestal. As a result of this, the other person will be seen as knowledgeable but one won’t perceive them as being better than they themselves are. Ultimately, one is still going to see this person as a fallible human being; not someone who is more-than-human. One is then going to have a balanced outlook and they will continue to think for themselves. Playing Their Part

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Be Controlling?

When someone starts to spend time with another person, they might not even think about trying to control what they can or can’t do. In fact, this could be the last thing that is on their mind. What could primarily interest them is getting to know the other person and enjoying the time that they spend with them. At this stage, it might be clear to them that they are two separate people. The Next Phase

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Intellectually Developed People End Up With People Who Are Emotionally Undeveloped?

In a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out. By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate team. Perhaps one of them has a job where they primarily use their left brain, while the other has a job where they primarily use their right brain. Two Parts

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Better If It Was Run By Women?

Over the years, numerous people have said that the world would be a far better place if it was no longer run men. In their eyes, a world run by women would lead to a world that is far better for everyone. When someone has this view, they can see men as being one way and women as being another way. It can be as though men are aggressive, violent, competitive and destructive, whilst women are empathetic, harmonious, cooperative and constructive. The Obvious Solution

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Victimization: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimized By Others?

Nowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination. It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also plenty of websites, articles, and comments on social media sites where people talk about their own experiences of being taken advantage of. Through observing this trend, a number of people have postulated that we now live in a ‘vicitmocracy’. One Area

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Trust: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Trust?

If someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step. Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do anything, which could stop this area of their life from changing, and this could be how they are when it comes to other areas of their life. Faith

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Conflict: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Avoid Conflict?

It could be said that it is not possible for someone to always agree with another person or to go along with the ideas that they put forward, for instance. With this in mind, it is going to be essential for them to be able to speak up when they disagree with something and to stand their ground when they don’t want to do something. Through being this way, they won’t have the tendency to please others and to overlook their own needs. Naturally, this is going to have a positive effect on just about every part of their life. Career

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Do We Need To Stop Using The Term ‘Mental Illness’?

If someone is in a position where their inner world is generally out of control, for instance, they may believe that they have mental health problems. This could have taken place after they did some research online, or it could be the result of what their doctor has said to them. Then again, their friends and/or family may have played a big part in what they believe. Before they came to this conclusion they might have had no idea about what was going on, meaning that labelling themselves in this way may have been reassuring. A Closer Look

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Is The Term 'Manspreading' An Example Of The Misandry That Exists In The World?

If a woman came across a man who is taking up two seats on a bus or a train, for instance, she could end up saying to herself that this is an example of ‘manspreading’. What this is likely to show is that she is a feminist, or she may just have been conditioned by feminism to see the world through a certain lens. Having said this, a man could also respond in the same if he came across this type of behaviour. Once again, he could describe himself as a feminist or he may have just been conditioned by feminism to see the world through a certain lens. The Meaning

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Affect Someone’s Life Even If They Can’t Remember What Happened?

Even if someone was abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. What happened during their early years could be a mystery to them or they could make out that their childhood wasn’t that bad. Still, while they won’t remember much of what actually took place at this stage of their life, it doesn’t mean that what took place won’t affect them. They could have a number of different issues that more or less prove that they were abused as a child. Unable To Join the Dots

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse A Form Of Indirect Revenge?

If someone was abused by one or both of their caregivers during their early years, it can be hard for them to understand why this was. One question that can enter their mind is: why would the people who were supposed to love and care for me treat me so badly? This can be a question that they can end up thinking about for many, many years, with it being something that will completely consuming their mind. It might not end there, though, as there could be another question that will take a lot of their attention. A Strange Scenario

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Verbally Abused As A Child?

If someone was abused as a child, it could be something that they are only too aware of. Many years will have passed since they were a small child, but it could seem as though very little has actually changed. They would have gone through hell during this part of their life and they could still be going through hell now. Each day of their life could be a struggle, with them wondering if there is any point in them staying alive. Another Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Depression: Why Do Some People Get Depressed When They Give Up Extreme Sports?

In recent years, a lot has been said about mental and emotional health and how so many people are not in a good way. Largely, the focus has been on the inner challenges that the average person is trying to deal with. Along with this, there have been times when different celebrities have come out and spoken about their own challenges. In general, these have been actors, singers and reality TV stars. Another Area

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

There Is Nothing Wrong With You!

There are a number of reasons as to why someone would get into self-development or try to change themselves. One reason that this can take place is because they believe that there is something wrong with them. Now, this is not to say that one will be aware of this belief, as is it can be a belief that is running in their unconscious mind. What this then means is that even though they will have this belief, they won’t realise it. A Massive Impact

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Receiving: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty When They Receive?

On one side, there is receiving, and, on the other, there is giving. Now, although it would be easy to say that each of these elements is as important as each other, this is not the case. One of these things is more important than the other and this is because if one of them doesn’t take place, it won’t be possible for the other thing to take place. The most important thing is that one has the ability to receive. For Example

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves?

When someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid their own life. However, even though one is going to be neglecting their own life, the people around them might not notice what is taking place. This is partly because they could end up being seen as ‘selfless’. Model Behaviour

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Is Dubai A Physical Representation Of The Conscious And Unconscious Mind?

Recently, I have come across a number of people who will be moving to Dubai, and this has made me think about the place. I have never been there, but I have seen pictures, videos and heard stories about it. On the surface, it seems as though it is paradise on earth; everything looks perfect and it is tax free. It is then a case of who wouldn’t want to live there, not who would want to live there. The Other Side

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Should Germans Feel Guilty For What Happened In The Past?

After the first and second world war, Germany had to pay back a lot of money in reparations. According to some accounts, this money has now been paid off, but there are other voices out there who claim that more money still needs to be paid. Along with the price that Germany has had to pay financially, there is also the price that individual Germans have paid emotionally. And, even though most of the Germans alive today played absolutely no part in what took place all those years ago, it doesn’t mean that their conscience is clear. A Mixed Response

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Shame: Can Someone Hide Themselves When They Are Carrying Shame?

It could be said that the only way that someone can hide from others is if they isolate themselves. Therefore, if they are around other people, it won’t be possible for this to take place. Nevertheless, while this might sound accurate, it is something that has very little basis in reality. In the same way that someone can hide by isolating themselves from others, they can also hide when they are around others. Disconnected

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

‘Men have a Strong Aversion To Shame’

In the book ‘Manhood’ by Steve Biddulph, there is a section where he says that “a deep aversion to shame has become wired in to male biology.” The reason that is put forward for is that “throughout history, women are most sexually attracted to high-status males”. What this means is that if a man experiences shame, it will be interpreted to mean that his status is lower than other men’s. The outcome of this is that he won’t be seen as sexually attractive to women, which will stop him from being able to attract a mate and pass his genes on. An Unconscious Process

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

I Can’t Live Without You!

A number of months ago, I heard someone say that they couldn’t live without their partner. Now, this wasn’t because this person was disabled and therefore, needed this person in order to be able to handle life. No, this was someone who was perfectly capable of handling life by themselves. However, although this was the case, this person created the impression that they needed their partner. A Deeper Look

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Believe In Conspiracy Theories?

Thanks to the internet, it is easier than ever before for people to not only get hold of information, but to also disseminate it. What this has meant is that no matter what someone wants to know, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find out about it online. And, someone is free to share their views online; that is of course, unless their views go against the official narrative. There may be certain sites where they can share their thoughts, but due to the amount of control that is now in place, there is so much information that is now seen as being off limits.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Emotionally Unstable?

For some people, being in a relationship with someone who is unreliable, unpredictable and who has the need to keep them on edge and in a place of uncertainty is not going to interest them. If they were in this position, it might only be a matter of time before they walk away. Being with someone like this is then going to be like offering dark chocolate to someone who can’t stand the stuff; it will repel them. A quick decision will be made, allowing them to walk away. Been There, Done That

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Righteousness: Can Someone Become Self-Righteous If They Feel Worthless?

Just as there are many ways in which someone can respond when they get to another country, there are also a number of ways in which someone can respond when they feel worthless. In the same way that going to a new country can have a big effect on someone, feeling worthless can have an even bigger effect on them. It would be more accurate to say that it not just a feeling, as it will most likely be something that has permeated their whole being. To see it as just a feeling would create the impression that it is something that can simply be ignored and have no effect whosever.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Themselves?

Just because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down below.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Belonging: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Don’t Belong?

It has been said that when someone feels as though they belong to something else, it will have a positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical health. When it comes to what they belong to, this could involve being part of a family, a group of friends or to a religious group. This undoubtedly comes down to the fact that one is in interdependent human being. Due to this, they are not supposed to operate as though they are their own island. Positive Feedback

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In A Struggle For Love If She Is Trying To Change A Mother-Enmeshed Man?

After a number of months have passed, a woman may see that her partner is overly focused on his mother. Regardless of if this stood out in the beginning, then, it will now be something that is only too clear. The next step can be for her to talk to him about what is going on, to see if she can make some headway. Most likely, she will hope that by pointing out what is going on, he will gradually change. Out of balance

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Do Your Emotions Control You Or Are You Emotionally Disconnected?

For some people, it is a challenge for them to handle how they feel. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to be overwhelmed by their emotional self and to lose their ability to think clearly. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. If this is so, they may believe that this is just how their life is and there is absolutely nothing that they can do about it. Another Scenario

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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True-Self: Is Your Life Being Controlled By Your Split-Off Parts?

There are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life. Their life will change as the years go by - stopping them from feeling as though they are stuck in Groundhog Day. Being able to fulfil their needs is naturally going to have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Patience and Persistence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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