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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Physically Abused As A Child?

If someone was physically abused as a child, there is the chance that this is not something that will ever cross their mind now that they are an adult. They may remember certain parts of their childhood, or it could be one big blur. It could seem strange as to how something so traumatic could be forgotten about. However, with an understanding of how the mind works, what has taken place will make perfect sense. Too Much To Handle

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Meditation Will Help You To Become More Aware

There is so much going on in today’s world that it can be easy for someone to lose touch with what is taking place within them. Regardless of whether they are around others or by themselves, there can be at least one thing that will consume their attention. One can then be drawn this way or that way, being nothing more than a slave to their own mind. So instead of being the driver of their own vehicle, they will be in the passenger’s seat. The Outcome

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Victim Mentality: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They See Themselves As A Victim?

For a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims - to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people have been conditioned to see themselves as victims. This is primarily the result of what is often described as ‘identity politics’, and this is where just about everyone is put into two groups. Someone is then either going to be an oppressed victim or they will be an oppressive perpetrator. The Death of the Individual

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Boundaries: Do Other People Walk Over You?

There are a number of elements that make up ones experience of reality, and these include what they see, hear and smell. What also play an important part are their feelings and thoughts. When it comes to what they see, hear and smell, these are going to be things that other people will also be able to relate to. So if one was to talk about what is going on around them to another person, they will be able connect to what they are saying. No Different

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Can Black And White Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Think Clearly?

When it comes to painting a picture of nature, the more colours that someone has the more detail there will be in what they create. If they only had two colours, they wouldn’t have the same freedom to express themselves. In the same way, if someone is able to see that life is made up of many different elements and isn’t limited to seeing it in one way or another, their life will be far richer. Their life will then be like a pallet that is made up of many different colours as opposed to one that only contains two colours. No Effort

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk On Eggshells Around Women?

While a man may typically feel comfortable enough to be himself when he is around another man, this might rarely be the case when he is around a woman. When he is around a woman, he could have the tendency to become someone else entirely. During this time, then, he is not going to behave how he usually does and he won’t speak his mind. Shortly after he has spent time with a woman, he could wonder what was going on and why he was unable to be himself. The Norm

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Slander To Control People?

Before the alte ative media came along, the mainstream media pretty much had complete control. What this meant was that it was normal for most people to believe just about everything this source came out with. Nowadays, thanks to the alte ative media, this source doesn’t have the same amount of control as it used to have in the past. But, while their influence over people has waned in recent years, it would be a mistake to believe that his source is on the way out. Old Habits Die Hard

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Therapy: Can Someone Look Towards A Therapist To Fulfil The Needs That Their Friends/Family Should Fulfil?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to reach out to a therapist if they have inner problems. This can be seen as a good thing as it is far better for someone to ask for help than it is for them to suffer in silence. If they have a relatively minor problem, they may find that they only need a few sessions. Then again, if this is not the case, they may need to have a number of month’s worth of sessions. A Few Examples

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Victim Mentality: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Have A Victim Mentality?

If someone is unable to see that they have an effect on their life, they can have what is often described as a ‘victim mentality’. Other people are then going to being in control of what does or doesn’t happen to them. Through experiencing life in this way, it is likely to mean that their life won’t be very fulfilling and they could be used to feeling powerless. Along with this, they could spend a fair amount of time feeling frustrated and angry. One Focus

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Fight Mode As An Adult?

Although someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive. As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no matter where they are or what time of the day that it is, it will be as if they are ready to go to war in one way or another. In The Eyes of Others

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Would Someone Feel Smothered Whenever Their Partner Expresses Their Needs?

If someone is in a relationship, there are going to be needs that they will want their partner to meet and there will be needs that their partner will want them to meet. And while some of their needs will be different, a number of their needs will most likely be the same. They will probably both have the need to be seen and heard, supported, encouraged, accepted, respected, appreciated, and to feel safe. There will then be there need for affection and the physical needs that they have, amongst other things. Other Moments

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Healing Journey: Do We Repeat The Past Until We Heal It?

In the world of self-development, it has been said that there is no such thing as a new problem; it is just an old problem that is being played out again. Upon hearing this, someone could find it hard to understand how this is so. One could have a number of challenges in their life and these challenges may appear to have absolutely no connection to what happened in their past. Additionally, they could just have the need to deal with what is going on, not to look back on their past. A Distraction

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Masculinity: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Masculine Aspect?

It is not uncommon for someone to be in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground. Therefore, instead of assertive themselves when it is necessary, they just allow other people to walk over them. Along with this, they may have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say no, causing them to do things that they don’t really want to do. There may be times when behaving in this way won’t have much of an effect on them, while there will be other times when it does. A Build-Up

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Pull Away?

At this point in time, a woman could wonder why the man that she is with has pulled away. She might not have been with him for very long or she may have been with him for quite some time. Either way, she is going to have the desire to find out what is going on and perhaps to do what she can to make things go back to how they were before. However, although this is likely to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this will be possible. Out of reach

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Sabotage: Can Someone’s Fear Of Overshadowing Their Parents Cause Them To Sabotage Their Life?

Even though someone can have the desire to move forward in their life, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to get very far. Now, this could be because they simply haven’t taken action. Thus, their desire to change their life will be there, but they won’t have taken the time to do anything else. This could illustrate that one doesn’t feel comfortable taking the next step. Another Element

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Separate From Their Body?

Even though someone will have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both parts of their being. Instead, they could be connected to what is taking place in their head and very rarely be connected to what is taking place in their body. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this, as experiencing life in this way could be what is normal. Therefore, primarily living in their head will be what they are accustomed to, thereby preventing them from having the need to do anything about it. From The Outside

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Who They Are?

What allows one to have their own life on this planet is not just their physical body; it is also the fact that they have their own needs and feelings. If they didn’t have their own needs and feelings, it wouldn’t matter if they had their own body – or vehicle. The reason for this is that although they would be physically separate, their life would be an expression of someone else’s needs and feelings. It would then be a complete waste of time for them to have their own body as their life wouldn’t be an expression of who they are. Important Elements

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Worth If They Were Abused As A Child?

One of the effects of early abuse and/or neglect is that one can have no sense of their own value as an adult. Deep down, they can feel as though they have absolutely no value whatsoever. As a result of this, it will probably be hard for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and they might not realise that they deserve to receive anything. Naturally, experiencing life in this way is not going to be very fulfilling. How Life Is

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Are Your Possessions Holding You Back?

It can be easy for someone to ignore the effect that their belongings are having on their life. Instead, they can spend a lot of time thinking about the effect that their beliefs and the people in their life are having on them. Consequently, the stuff that they own can end up owning them, and they might not even realise it. As they have had this stuff in their life for a certain period of time, it will have faded into the background. One Part

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need To Protect Their Parents Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse?

If someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what happened. Nevertheless, although what happened will have taken place many, many years ago, it doesn’t mean that it will actually be in the past. What happened during their formative years could still be affecting them. The Best Option

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Do You Find It Hard to Handle Setbacks?

If you were to look back on your life, you may find that it hasn’t been easy for you to handle setbacks. It might not matter if it has related to a big or a small setback, as you could have a very similar experience. At the same time, perhaps you have just experienced a setback and don’t need to reflect on what you have been through in the past. Consequently, you could be in a very low place at this point in time. Confusion

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child?

If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years will then have passed since that stage of their life, but in a lot of ways, it could be as though they are still there. To make matters worse, what they are going through could just be what is normal. A Disconnection

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Are Someone’s Adult Relationships A Replay Of Their Early Relationships?

There is the chance that someone has been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. Thanks to this, they could question if they want to be in another relationship or if they just want to stay single forever. Then again, they could currently be in yet another relationship that is greatly undermining them and be thinking about cutting their ties. If they were to take this step, they might end up staying single for quite some time. A Mismatch

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Is Social Media Making You Do Things That You Wouldn't Usually Do?

Earlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down otherwise. This person had uploaded pictures of themselves and this caused them to receive a lot of feedback from the opposite gender. Some of these messages involved positive comments about their looks, while there were others that were far more direct. A New Life

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Reach Out For Support If You Need It

There are many books and films that talk about how important it is for someone to keep going and to keep getting back up, no matter what happens. This is something that is often mentioned when it comes to being successful and being able to overcome challenges. Another ability that is often seen in the same light is the ability to take the first step, or to simply show up. Without this ability, with this being the step that is often the hardest, it won’t be possible for anything else to take place. Throwing In the Towel

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Put Up With Abusive Behaviour?

If one is used to spending time around people who are abusive, they can come to the conclusion that they are a victim. It is then not that one is playing a part in what is taking place; it is that this is just how their life is. So, while these people will have control over their own life, there is going to be absolutely nothing that they can do to change their life. Consequently, it is likely to be normal for them to feel totally powerless. One Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Disconnected: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotions?

There are a number of reasons as to why someone would end up getting into self-development. One reason that this can take place is because their emotions are rarely under control. Having an emotional self that is often out of control is going to make it hard for them to experience a sense of control and to behave however they want to behave. Additionally, they could find that the emotions they often experience make it hard for them to feel good about themselves - to experience self-love. And Old Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Trauma: Can Mind-Based Trauma Approaches Do More Harm Than Good?

If someone has experienced trauma, either as an adult or as a child, they may end up suffering in silence. This is not to say that they will consciously choose to suffer as this is something that can just take place. What took place will have had a big effect on them and it will be a challenge for them to handle life. There will then have been what took place and there will be how it continues to impact their life. The Norm

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves?

On the one hand, there are boundaries and, on the other hand, there are walls. To gain an understanding of what the difference is, someone could think about these two things in a slightly different context. When it comes to a property, a boundary will let other people know where the property begins and end, but it will still let the owner/s out and other people in. A wall, however, won’t let the owner/s out and it won’t let other people in. A Big Difference

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Drama: Are Some People Addicted To Drama?

There are people in the world that almost always have something taking place that prevents them from living a peaceful and harmonious existence. For these people, their life can have a lot in common with a soap opera. Now, unlike soap operas, these people might not have people in their life who are murdered but they could experience just about everything else. For someone like this, their life is rarely going be boring or lack stimulation. It’s Always There

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Intimacy: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Have A Fear Of Intimacy?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for the term ‘fear of intimacy’ to be thrown around. In general, it is more likely that someone will use this term to describe another person than to describe themselves. One reason for this is that it is usually easier for someone to spot this in other than it is for them to spot it in themselves. This comes down to the fact that they will have a mind that causes them to see themselves as merely an observer of their life, as opposed to a co-creator of it. A Hurdle

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Stuck: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck?

If a being from another planet was to look at a human being, it might seem as though they are only made up of one part: a physical body. However, if they were able to look through their physical body, they would soon see that they also have what could be described as a mental and emotional body. What they might also see is that not all of these ‘body’s’ are at the same level of development. So while someone’s physical body could be very developed, their mental and emotional body could be undeveloped. Another Experience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Intelligence: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Stupid?

In the same way that someone can be good at something but not realise it; they can also be intelligent but not realise it. As a result of this, the view that they have of themselves is not going to match up with reality. One of the ways that this can affect their life is that they might not bother going after their goals. Due to how they see themselves, they are not going to believe that they will have what it takes. Confusion

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That The World Is Going To End?

Unless someone lives in a cave and has very little connection with the outside world, there is a strong chance that they will have heard a lot of people talk about the environment recently. In addition to this, they may have also heard about what needs to happen in order for the planet to be saved. If they live or work in London, they may have even found it hard to get to work on time or just found it hard to carry on with their usual plans. The reason for this is that a number of activists held up traffic, glued their hands to things and laid on shop floors. Chaos

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Support: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Emotional Support?

In the same way that a rocket won’t go anywhere without fuel, the same could be said when it comes to a human being. Without energy, they won’t be able to even lift a finger, let alone take action. Howerver, while a rocket will just need one type of fuel to get moving, a human being will need more than one. The first type of energy that they will need is physical energy; this is what will allow them to move. Just Part One Part

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can A Past Life Connection Cause Someone To Stay In A Dysfunctional Relationship?

If someone was to come to the conclusion that they are in a relationship that is not very healthy, they could look into what they could do to change it. Through taking this approach, it will give them the chance to see if anything can be done. There will most likely be what they will need to do and then, there will be the part that their partner needs to play. So, if they are both willing to do what needs to be done, it might only be a matter of time before this area of their life changes. A Dead End

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Become More Integrated?

When someone first starts to spend time with another person, they may find that they only experience good feelings. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may soon pass. The same could also apply when they are not in the other persons company, with this being a time when they will experience good feelings whenever they think about them. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may also pass before long. A Gradual Change

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Your Body Is Not A Dustbin!

It has been said that the body is a temple, but while this is the case, it could be said that there are plenty of people that don’t view their body in this way. For some people, their body is basically a dustbin. Now, this can mean that someone will put just about anything into their body - not caring about if it is actually good for them. Furthermore, someone can even eat when they are not hungry. Outer Focus

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child?

One thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them to do things that they would rather not do. They are then rarely going to put themselves forward and to go for things that are in alignment with who they are. No Way to Live

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Coronavirus: Will It Be Harder For Someone To Handle What Is Going On If Their Emotions Are Out Of Control?

Due to the contagion, there is what is taking place exte ally and then, there is what is taking place internally. Also, in the same way that there will be people that are more affected by what is taking place exte ally than others; there will also be people that are more affected by what is taking place internally than others. When it comes to the former, there will be those that can work from home and those that can’t. Additionally, there will be those that are able to see family members and those that are unable to do so. Different Experiences

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Drawn To Conspiracy Theories?

There are those that more or less believe everything they hear from the mainstream media and the authority figures that are in the public eye, and then there are those that are the complete opposite. The former can view the latter as being ‘conspiracy theorists’, while the latter can view the former as being ‘sheep’. To say that there is conflict between people like this would be an understatement. Over time, there appears to be more and more people who could be put into the second category. One Outlook

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Therapy: Why Don’t Some People Heal?

There are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been able to get so far in life. No matter what is going on for them, they would have done the right thing by reaching out for support. Simply tolerating what they are going through and suffering in silence wouldn’t have served them. The First Step

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Inner Feminine: What Can Happen If A Man Is In Conflict With His Own Feminine Aspect?

If the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him. He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only those who have their head in the clouds would believe it. If this was to take place, it would probably show that he believes that the word ‘feminine’ means female. Two Parts

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If They Experienced Childhood Trauma?

It has been said that the more in control someone feels, the better their mental and emotional health will be. This is not to say that someone needs to be a total control freak and to control everyone and everything in order to be in a good place. What it comes down to is that when one has a sense of control and can see that they have an effect on their life, it will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. It is not exactly hard to comprehend why this would be so. One Experience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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“I Hate You, Don't Leave Me”

A number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child?

One thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more like a child. They can then play the role of an adult, having a number of adult responsibilities, yet their life can be one big struggle. On The Inside

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Can The Mainstream Media Teach Someone A Lot About Defence Mechanisms?

When it comes to explaining something it can be hard to explain it directly, which is why analogies can be so effective. Using an analogy can allow someone to get their point over a lot faster than they would otherwise. Through thinking about something that is not related to the topic at hand, one can understand the topic that is being spoken about. Once this has taken place, there can be no need for them to think about the thing that is not related to the topic. An Interesting Area

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Needs If They Were Abused As A Child?

One outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for others but very little time being there for themselves. Not only this, other people might rarely be there for them either. Suffering in Silence

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour?

If one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who are hot one minute and cold the next. Being with someone like this is likely to take a lot out of them and it could be hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. After having thought about how destructive it is, one may wonder what they can do to change this area of their life.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body?

If someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have deep and meaningful relationships. Ultimately, these two elements will be a big part of what allows them to act like an individual. True-Self

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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